Read Pages 175-197…….. 1. Relational brain skill #9 is “knowing when to stop. ” This involves obser ving when others are about to reach their limit, then pausing to allow both to rest. When we see this in others, we may say, “are you ok?” “do you need a break?” “you look upset.” This provides safety and prevents________________________(see page 1 80 bottom of the page). What might we observe that would indicate someone is reaching their limit? (page 181 top of page.) 2. In learning to return to joy from the unpleasant emotion of anger, a gentle protector will come close, understand, ___________ and __________the angry person (page 187 top of the page). Someone who has learned the return to joy skills will be able to maintain a keen interest in seeing the other person the way God sees him or her, reachin g shalom and experi encing God's presence during anger. 3. When we feel upset by others, the most helpful reactions are to quiet ourselves and invite God into the situation while asking God to help us see the other person as He sees them. If we remain focused on ouremoti on or the problem, what would we be sacrifici ng? (We can only focus on the problem OR the relationship). B onus p oi nt s: Notice people's facial expressions—if they look s tressed ask if you could help Ask God to reveal how He s ees someone you have had conflict with—pray for them Pray before you go to a public place. Ask God to reveal someone who needs encouragement and how you might bringthem joy If you observe joy starters- tell us! ……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… Joy Practices IX Our physical brains are emotional amplifiers and they will amplify whatever we focus on. Conflicts do not resolve as we remain stuck on who and what hurt us There is always more to the situation than what our senses tell us. Jesus is with us and cares about our relationships.
1. Relational brain skill #9 is knowing when to stop. This
involvesobserving when others are about to reach their limit, then
pausing toallow both to rest. When we see this in others, we may
say, are youok? do you need a break? you look upset. This provides
safetyand prevents __________ ______________ (see page 180 bottom
of the page).What might we observe that would indicate someone is
reaching their limit? (page 181 top of page.)
2. In learning to return to joy from the unpleasant emotion of
anger, a gentle protector will come close,understand, ___________
and __________the angry person (page 187 top of the page). Someone
who haslearned the return to joy skills will be able to maintain a
keen interest in seeing the other person the wayGod sees him or
her, reaching shalom and experiencing God's presence during
anger.
3. When we feel upset by others, the most helpful reactions are
to quiet ourselves and invite God into thesituation while asking
God to help us see the other person as He sees them. If we remain
focused on ouremotion or the problem, what would we be sacrificing?
(We can only focus on the problem OR the relationship).
Bonus points: Notice people's facial expressionsif they look
stressed ask if you could help Ask God to reveal how He sees
someone you have had conflict withpray for them Pray before you go
to a public place. Ask God to reveal someone who needs
encouragement and how you might bringthem joy If you observe joy
starters- tell us!
Joy Practices IX
Our physical brains are emotional amplifiers and they will
amplify whatever we focus on.
Conflicts do not resolve as we remain stuck on who and what hurt
us
There is always more to the situation than what our senses tell
us.
Jesus is with us and cares about our relationships.
