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Training

QUIZFind out how you measure up by taking your first quiz. No studying involved. It should reveal a predominant leadership style you possess naturally.

TYPES OF LEADERSOnce you figure out the type you are most like, read some more information on that style. You may find something new about yourself.

YOUR ASSIGNMENTIncorporate what you’ve learned in a real environment among younger youth. Your youth leader or other adult should be able to notice these traits in action.JR

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Capturing their attentionIt takes knowing your strong points and your weaknesses in leadership. Sometimes youth will spot it before you do.

LEADERWhat kind of leader are you?

Leadership:“process of social influence in which one person is able to enlist the aid and support of others in the accomplishment of a common task”

LEADER ASSESSMENT: WHAT KIND OF LEADER ARE YOU?Find out what style of leadership you most often use by answering what you would do in various hypothetical situations.

Before you get started, a couple reminders.

Number one, be honest with yourself. Don’t

answer the questions with what you think is the

right answer or what we would want you to do.

You are the only one who will see this.

Also, it is important for you to know that

any answer (and any combination) is an

acceptable response to the hypothetical

(possible) situation that you may face. So, in the

future, refer to these answers for the best way to

handle a problem.

We can’t think of every problem that may

arise, but from this you should be able to tell

what kind of leader you are. Yes, there are

variables-- who the kids are, the type of

seriousness of the activity at hand, and where

you are. But once again, just go with your first

gut reaction to the situations in the following

examples:

Leader Assessment Quiz1. You notice that a 10-year old boy will not

sit still during a devotional. What do you do?a. Without making much of a ruckus,

you whisper into his ear that we should listen and see what God has for us to learn this morning.

b. You stand up and make an announcement to the whole group that we need to get up and shake out all our wiggles!

c. You leave him alone for the moment until devotions are over, and talk to him about how maybe he can stand in the back, sit next to you, or even draw pictures of some good points during the lesson.

d. Call out to him, “Hey man, I know it’s hard to sit for long, but this stuff is really good! Sit tight for a little bit longer, alright?”

“A man’s gift makes room for

him, And brings him before great men.”

Proverbs 18:16

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...Continued2. As mealtime is coming to a close, the

tables are a mess! What do you do?a. Go round up some of the other kids

that made the mess and ask that they help pitch in to clean up.

b.Go ahead and clean up the mess yourself with a positive attitude setting a good example of servitude.

c. Clean it up for now, but come up with a clever way to get them to remember next time that they should help clean up after themselves.

d.Clap and sing loudly a clean up song encouraging everyone to join.

3. Before you know it, two girls are starting to fight. What do you do?

a. Separate the two girls and talk to each of them by themselves, then try to get them to find a way to get along.

b.Have someone go and get the youth leader in charge and try your best to calm everyone down.

c. Try to distract everyone’s attention to something else and light comment, “Yoo hoo... What’s a leader gotta do to get some listeners around here?”

d.Call a time out for everyone to gather and let them know that this really isn’t the time or place for that.

4. It’s time to get ready for the next activity. But it’s chaos with everyone (including fellow leaders) and no one is on the same page. What do you do?

a. Stand up on a chair, whistle loudly, and remind everyone of what’s going on.

b.Call an emergency meeting with all counselors to get everyone back on track.

c. Go to the director or main leader and ask them to make an announcement.

d.Reorganize the group by calling everyone together to refocus their attention, and re-explain what we are doing and why but in a different way than before.

5. A 15-year old girl comes up to you and wants to know more about Christ. Unfortunately, it’s time to leave. What do you do?

a. Thank her for asking, letting her know that that question is very important, but have a leader talk to her.

b.Have her accompany you out (or to the next location) and talk a little bit about her questions. Try to find time later to talk to her (or get her number).

c. Have a leader know you are going to stay and talk with someone for a few minutes, and if it continues for too long, make time to get with her again.

d.Tell her how excited you are that she wants to more and give her some great scriptures, websites, and some more quick goodies.

6. Three older boys decide they’d rather not participate. They think what the group is doing is stupid (and they are too cool to do it). What do you do?

a. Not too much at the moment, but encourage them to hang around a good influence for them. Less words, more action.

b.Go up to them, throw your arm around them, and say, “Hey, how about a game of horse?”

c. Ask them nicely to stay a bit after the activity is over and have a discussion with them about what we could do to get them to participate more.

d.Have them lead the next game or activity, giving them some responsibility.

7. The youngest participant is sitting down in a corner by themselves. They tell you that no one will hang out with them. What do you do?

a. Tell them nicely that sometimes when you want a good friend, you have to be a good friend. Go with them to help try this out on some other kids.

b.Go ask a popular, kind, and accepting older youth to get together with the shy one on a special task, having them work together.

c. Have her/she be your special helper by giving them a small task to do. And mention to some other kids some common interests they may have with the shy one.

d.Sit with them for a bit, sparking up some conversation. Then ask if they’d like to play with you.

8. When working together on an activity with the younger kids, you and another Junior Counselor each want to take it in another direction causing tension. What do you do?

a. Say, “Whoops! You go ahead, we’ll do what I was going to suggest another time.”

b.Don’t say anything for now, telling them to go ahead. But later see if you both can come up with a solution for when that happens again and try to be more organized next time.

c. Say, “Wait a minute. We both have different ideas of what we should do next. Maybe we could take turns? You go first.”

d.Don’t say anything for now, but ask them later if you could suggest something the next time.

9. Some youth (the same gender as you) walk in wearing clothes that are inappropriate. What do you do?

a. As you pass by them, very discretely mention that we probably shouldn’t wear that here, as accepting as we are.

b.Discretely go up to them and ask if what they are wearing is appropriate. Have them fix whatever the problem may be.

c. Go up to them and discretely make a joke concerning whatever the problem

is. (For example, if a guy’s pants are too low, “We reeeallly don’t want to see your underwear. C’mon, pull ‘em up.”)

d.Pull them aside and see if you can find them some alternative clothing, then help find a good reference point for other outfits. (For example, if a girl’s shirt is too short, give her the shirt around your waist and tell her, if you bend over and you can see skin, it’s too short!”)

10.A bunch of kids are having a great time during free time playing basketball. The youth leader asked if you could clean up the conference room, but you really want to shoot some hoops with everyone else. What do you do?

a. See if the group wouldn’t mind helping you out to make the cleaning go faster, then everyone can play together.

b.Ask the leader if you can play for 5 minutes, then you will make the room spotless after that.

c. Yell out as you run towards the conference room, “Duty calls! Score one for me!”

d.Go ahead and clean up and just catch everyone later.

11.You caught one of the kids smoking a cigarette by him/herself behind the building. What do you do?

a. Go up to them and ask them to put it out. After talking with them for awhile about not smoking, see if you two can figure out some plans to quit smoking and find a good influence for them.

b.Go up to them and ask them to put it out. Take some time to talk with them, inquiring how long they have been smoking and why. Gain their trust and resect, hoping to help them.

c. Go find the leader and tell them of your concern. Later, tell the kid that you felt it necessary to tell someone who was capable of dealing with that situation because you only want what’s best for them.

d.Go up to them and ask them to put it out. Tell them, “I know exactly what works for this! How about we pray about it? Whatever got you smoking in the first place, God can take it out and replace it. He can fill the void!”

12. Within just a few minutes, you can already tell that you and one of the younger kids are not going to get along. What do you do?

a. Confront them about it. Let them know that you really want to get along with everyone, including them.

b.Say, “Girl, you are trouble, I can tell. What are we going to do with you?” and just laugh it off.

c. Being reminded of what the Bible says, you put that behind you and try your best to be a good leader to them.

d.To try to avoid any arguments, get a different counselor/leader to work with them (without making it a big ordeal).

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Time to check your score...Hopefully it was the hardest quiz you’ve ever taken. And hopefully

you were able to answer each situation honestly. Now that you are

finished let’s look back at your answers. In the table below, you’ll

notice there are 4 types of leaders and their answers. Go

through each type and circle every number you answered the

same. For example, if you search through Passive, Loving

and discover that you answered question 2 by choosing

“b”, circle number 2 in Passive, Loving’s column.

When you’re finished you should be able to see which

type you answered the same the most often. Maybe you have

6 total in Silly, Cheerful; 3 in Problem Solver; 2 in Passive, Loving;

and 1 in Honest, Assertive. It may be safe to say that you are

predominantly a silly and cheerful leader. It is to be expected that you will

have answered responses in each type. We are complex creatures and

are rarely just one type of person. However, by answering one type

more than the others, you can get a sense of the type of leader

you are. Any one of these is an excellent type of leader.

Now that you have figured out what type of leader you

are (and even the other types you may possess), read on to

find out how this affects your leading, especially in the youth

ministry. Regardless of what you are, embrace it! God has

made all kinds of different leaders for a specific purpose. We

may need your honest assertiveness or your problem solving this

year!

Key PointIt’s not just about the rules...It’s why we have the rules. And when it comes down to it, we have them because we care!

TYPE OF LEADER PASSIVE, LOVING

SILLY, CHEERFUL PROBLEM SOLVER

HONEST, ASSERTIVE

Answers1)a, 2)b, 3)b, 4)c, 5)a, 6)a,7)c, 8)d, 9)a,10)d, 11)b, 12)c

Answers1)b, 2)d, 3)c, 4)a, 5)d, 6)b,7)d, 8)a, 9)c,10)c, 11)d, 12)b

Answers1)c, 2)c, 3)a, 4)d, 5)b, 6)c,7)b, 8)b, 9)d,10)a, 11)a, 12)d

Answers1)d, 2)a, 3)d, 4)b, 5)c, 6)d,7)a, 8)c, 9)b,10)b, 11)c, 12)a

Circle the letters you

chose for each number

WHAT KIND OF LEADER ARE YOU?

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Passive, LovingWhat’s Really Good About This: What’s

not to like about someone who is passive and

loving? The thing about this type of leader is

that they can lead with a sort of calm, peaceful

type of authority. They don’t have to yell or

make a big scene when it comes to laying down

the law. They want everyone to know that they

care and that they are loved in a gentle way.

And this message comes out loud and clear.

What to Be Careful For: Many times this

type of leader will be able to command

everyone’s attention and respect, but be careful

not to be too passive. In other words, your

gentleness should not be mistaken for

weakness. You mean business, too. There will

be some children (and maybe even adults) that

consider you unable to control the situation. But

just remember, the Bible speaks very highly of

both gentle and loving people.

What the Bible Says: Speaking of the

Bible, lets see what it says:

Perhaps the undertone in every scripture is

love. Not only do we have several acts of love

from God’s most trusted leaders, but from God

Himself. And it was Jesus who again and again

reminded the disciples, Pharisees, and the

public to love your neighbor, your enemy even.

More than, He never displayed any except love--

even the greatest love, dying on the cross for

our sins. And refer to 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, 13.

But Christ was also very often passive.

The world tells us that we must fight for

ourselves, be in someone’s face about an issue.

But Christ has more power and respect because

of the times he turned the other cheek or when

he spoke softly to the children and to the

sinners.

In the Ministry: Very often there are

sensitive souls out there that need a kind and

loving person such as you. Don’t be fooled;

sometimes it’s not just the “little guys” that cry

easily. Sometimes that 15-year old boy who

picks fights is really just a hurting, soft-hearted

guy. Both types need you. Not everyone can

take blunt criticism or the lightness of a joke.

They need your kind words and most

importantly, your love through Christ.

Your Passive, Loving Leaders Jesus Christ

Deaconess Lisa Wright

You?

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Silly, CheerfulWhat’s Really Good About This: Can you

imagine camp or a youth event without this type

of leader, or even life for that matter? Silly and

cheerful leaders are awesome at making any

situation fun and funny. Just when something

looks like it is going to get ugly, they can turn it

into a game, a joke, or just better. They make

you feel good because they always have a smile

on their face.

What to Be Careful For: Like anything,

you should be aware of appropriateness. It’s

OK to be silly and cheerful, but depending on

where you are, depends on the degree of

craziness. At a silly softball game, anything

goes. And at church, a simple wink may do.

Also, be careful that no one mistakes your

silliness for not listening or not caring. A silly,

cheerful leader doesn’t mean you won’t take

their problems seriously.

What the Bible Says: “A happy heart

makes a cheerful face.” The Bible makes it clear

that you are cheerful, because you have the joy

of the Lord in your heart. Don’t be afraid to

share it!

Ecclesiastes 3 also makes it clear that

there is a definite time in which we are to laugh

and dance. But likewise, there is a time to cry

and mourn. Be careful to clue in on the right

time to exhibit your enthusiasm.

And lastly, take a look a Romans 12:8 with

special attention to the last part. We are to

show mercy with cheerfulness. Now how could

a youth not benefit from cheerful mercy?

In the Ministry: It wouldn’t be youth

ministry if it didn’t involve some type of fun. We

need your spunk to keep things light and

comical. You’ll be surprised how quickly you

can change the outcome of someone’s day, just

because you cared enough to hug them or give

an enthusiastic high-five. Or how you can

change their habits by making even the

mundane an exciting thing to do. The youth

definitely need you.

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Your Silly, Cheerful Leaders Sister Jaclyn Grant

You?

It’s about

showing how relatable you

are

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Problem SolverWhat’s Really Good About This: Oh boy.

This type of leader really knows what being a

leader is really about-- well, leading. As a

leader, you can never forsake “leading” others

the correct way. Our problem-solvers have

incredible, creative mind power to think of the

best way to handle situations--for the present

moment and for the times in the future. They

don’t just try to make your day better, they really

try to make your life better...and more enjoyable.

What to Be Careful For: At first glance,

being a problem-solver seems to solve all

problems. But be careful you don’t become too

cerebral. In other words, there will be times you

need to think with your heart instead of your

brain. And don’t forget to have fun, too. You

won’t be able to solve all problems, so take time

to enjoy your day as well.

What the Bible Says: Firstly, it cannot go

without saying that God is the ultimate problem-

solver. We refer to Him first for all our matters.

But He can use you. David was just a young

boy when he shot a stone at Goliath. But the

brain power it took to think of such a clever way

to deal with such a big problem (literally), made

him a fantastic problem-solver and leader. But

David also realized He must always seek God

for life’s problems. God has already equipped

you with creative thinking skills and kindness,

but His solutions never fail.

And lastly, take time to read through the

book of Proverbs. Solomon talks on the

importance of wisdom (the ability to live life

skillfully) over and over again. And this is

coming from a man who received wisdom

straight from God Himself.

In the Ministry: What would we do

without you? The life of a kid is extremely

tough, problems arising every day. With all that

clogging their heads, it’s tough to worship God,

or learn about the Bible, or even play a game of

tag. We need your help to release some of their

burden with solutions. Someone forgot

something? You have an idea. Someone isn’t

listening? You know just the trick to not only get

them to listen this time, but to become a good

listener for life.

Your Problem-Solving Leaders Mother Iris Grant

Minister Ivan Grant, Jr.

Elder Sarah Brown

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It’s about working to enrich their

lives

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Honest, AssertiveWhat’s Really Good About This: When it

comes down to it, sometimes we just need

someone to tell it to us straight. And the honest,

assertive leader does just that. They don’t

sugar-coat or pretend-- they simply care and

want you to do what’s right. Sure sounds like an

attribute of God.

What to Be Careful For: This one can be

tricky. Although always meaning well, as an

honest, assertive leader, you can be mistaken

for many things: blunt, insensitive, aggressive,

offensive, or even scary. Never let it get there by

making sure the other person knows your good

intentions. Be careful not to be too rough along

the edges and always let love guide your

actions. Be sure to ease up on some children--

some just don’t mesh well with an overly

assertive leader.

What the Bible Says: Being honest is

highly regarded in the Bible. God has placed

“Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy

neighbor” (or do not lie) as one of the Ten

Commandments. Lies can definitely hurt--hurt

you, someone else, and even God. But it’s one

thing to not lie and another to be an honest

leader.

One fantastic example of honest,

assertiveness is God Himself. Because He

loves us so and because He is perfect, He

requires holiness very clearly. He does not

dodge around sinful behavior, but shows us our

wrong-doing and expects us to make a change.

In the Ministry: There are times that a soft

voice, a hyper voice, or even a thoughtful voice

won’t sink in to some youth. We need that

honest, assertive voice that speaks holiness to

our youth. Maybe no one has told it to them so

clearly as you can. Maybe others have been too

easy on them and they slip between the cracks.

We need you to bring them back to reality, back

into a state of respect, honor, and integrity.

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Your Honest, Assertive Leaders Minister Iris Simmons

You?It’s about

establishing trust and Holiness

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Why you need to know...We encourage each individual of Uth4Christ

to know themselves and know what role they play

in kingdom-building. There will be times in your

life and in ministry that knowing the type of leader

you are will save you from discouragement and

disappointment.

For example, if you are trying to reach others

by being silly and it isn’t truly what God has

designed for your life, you will find most often a lot

of resistance. And this resistance isn’t because

you are a bad person or because people don’t like

you or even because God doesn’t approve of

what you are doing. Instead, it’s simply not

working under the plan God has for your life.

By taking this assessment and really defining

the type of leader you are, you can use that

information to your advantage. You may progress

in one area throughout your life or morph into a

different type of leadership. However, to get the

most of who you are now, apply what you have

just learned or confirmed.

At CampThroughout your training, we

will zoom in to how each lesson

applies to camp. If you wish to

become a counselor at camp,

read here for some vital, specific

information.

Camp counseling requires

leadership. Period. Whether you are

passive, loving; honest, assertive; silly, cheerful; or

a problem solver, we need you at camp as well.

As many different types of leaders there are,

there are as many different types of campers.

Some campers will respond best to a certain type

of leader. Knowing who you are and what works

best for you, will only help when it comes to

counseling others.

If, for example, Jane cannot get through to

Betty, perhaps you can with you loving, soft

nature. Now Betty is all the better because you

realized in that situation what would work best.

Remember, for now you are a training for Junior

Counselor. Trust and listen to those placed in

higher leadership. Mistakes happen in all walks of

life, but the great thing about a christian

community (and specifically at a christian camp) is

that much praying and fasting and scripture

searching has gone forth in order to stay in with

God’s will.

We don’t just allow anyone to represent

Christ to our tweens and teens. Instead, we allow

God to use those who He sees fit for this

particular time. Trust God and the God that is in

you.

WHAT NOW?

All Done?Once you have completed both the quiz

and the challenge, you are now ready to cut

this page in have and send us the top

portion.

We need to see your pastor’s

signature and your youth leader’s signature

in order to accept your submission. This

will tell us that you are following course and

qualified to graduate.

The better your communication and

participation is with your leaders--pastor,

youth leader, parents, director--the greater

your likelihood to succeed. Each one cares

about you a great deal and wants you to be

a part of something so huge as this. To be

a world-changer.

Signatures and Dates• Pastor• Youth Leader

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We need a balance of all

four types.

YOUR CHALLENGEEvery lesson will come with its unique

challenge in which you are to go out and apply

what you have just learned. With this, our

prayer is that you are able to decide for yourself

truth, get out and practice being a leader, and

add to your growth as a junior counselor and as

an individual.

This Lesson’s ChallengeThe next time your youth

group gets together (or you are in

the midst of christian friends),

incorporate what you’ve learned

this lesson.

In other words, concentrate on

leading with your specific leading

style, whether it be passive and

loving, silly and cheerful, problem-

solving, or honest and assertive.

Concentrate on what you are best

at and try to use that with

perfection.

Also, learn to strengthen

those areas where you lack.

Previously in this lesson you

learned that all four types are

awesome skills that we should all have.

So if you lack in being silly and cheerful, try to

loosen up a bit. Step out a little bit, but not to

the point where you are no longer effective in

leading.

To Your Leaders:Please do not sign the opposite page unless you absolutely feel they have completed this challenge with excellence. That is not our requirement, but God’s.

Perfect where you

excel; improve where you

lack

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