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Benjamin Radford <bradford@centerforinquiry.net>

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Karen Stollznow <kstollznow@berkeley.edu> Wed, Jan 13, 2010 at 6:15 PMTo: Benjamin Radford <bradford@centerforinquiry.net>

Ben,

I received your letter in the post yesterday. To be honest, it surprised me that you're still churning over this.

I move between thinking 'let's just bury the hatchet', and feeling pissed off that your perception of everything is soskewered and blinkered.

I'll be frank. For me, things were over between us in any relationship sense by this time last year, when I emailed youbefore leaving for Aus. Admittedly, I did tinker with the idea of having casual flings with you last year, but I soonbecame turned off the more I learnt about you, your unorthodox relationships, and peculiar perceptions of these.You're either very dishonest about your situation, or you have entirely idiosyncratic and unhealthy notions ofrelationships, sex, flirting and love.

You're a fucking episode of Jerry Springer.

Perhaps it would be positive to leave all of this acrimony behind and rebuild a friendship. But you need to know thatI'm in a serious relationship that's moving forward steadily, and that I am immovable in that I don't want to resume anykind of relationship with you, ever again.

I also realise that you penned this letter around the time that one of your girlfriends was visiting...you're a cunt.

I'm sorry you spent your Christmas alone, as I did back in 2008. Happily, I spent the recent holidays with new friendsand loved ones. I hope you'll enjoy a similar happiness this year, if you're honest with yours.

This is the absolute last I can comment on this subject.

Karen.

Benjamin Radford <bradford@centerforinquiry.net> Wed, Jan 13, 2010 at 11:18 PMTo: Karen Stollznow <kstollznow@berkeley.edu>

Karen

I see. So you admit you were leading me on, and despite what you told me about wanting to see me and go away anddo investigations with me, you had no intention of it going anywhere. For you it was already over between us--- orpossibly just one of those casual flings you always said you weren't interested in (with me at least). You fooled me intothinking you wanted something more.

Well, I appreciate you finally being honest with me, albeit only partially and belatedly. That's all I have been asking for.No need to respond; you've said enough. We've both moved on.

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Karen Stollznow <kstollznow@berkeley.edu> Thu, Jan 14, 2010 at 1:15 PMTo: Benjamin Radford <bradford@centerforinquiry.net>

I wanted to do that, at the time I offered, and you had made the first moves there anyway. I simply reconsidered mydecision, in light of your behaviour, and then I also met someone else.

You have no right to feel slighted, given your own behaviour. You told me outright that you weren't interested inanything more than a fling, a holiday. You have difficulty in making decisions in life. I don't, for t he things that matter.

Don't play the victim in this.

If you want friendship, that's fine, but I think we're both still feeling ill about this.

Karen.

Benjamin Radford wrote:Karen

I see. So you admit you were leading me on, and despite what you told me about wanting to see me and go awayand do investigations with me, you had no intention of it going anywhere. For you it was already over between us---or possibly just one of those casual flings you always said you weren't interested in (with me at least). You fooledme into thinking you wanted something more. Well, I appreciate you finally being honest with me, albeit only partially and belatedly. That's all I have been askingfor. No need to respond; you've said enough. We've both moved on.

Ben

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