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Why a Healthy Sex Makes You a Better Leader

While youve probably read books about sex and maybe even taken a few quizzes, have you ever

correlated sex with your leadership skills? Although having a healthy sex life may not turn youinto a superhuman leader, here are five ways a healthy sex life can improve your leadership

skills

1. A healthy sex life removes temptations.

!he temptations we face as leaders arent "ust sexual, but temptation takes many different forms#

$irst %orinthians &' encourages married believers to engage in sex, preventing a potentialfoothold for (atan# Whether its the allure of power or money or worldly success, if you are

satisfied at home, you will feel less of a drive toward temptation elsewhere#

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Why the 3ules of 4mprov Will )ake .ou a *etter %reative +eader

!. Leaders en"a"in" in a healthy sexual relationship #ith their spouse #ill naturally

develop stron"er $ommuni$ation skills alon" #ith "ra$e% humility% and "entleness.

!hese skills are transferable, allowing you to be more effective when interacting with other

people# (elfless love is the key to a healthy sex life5 if leaders can selflessly love their spouse

inside the home, they can selflessly love others outside the home#

&. Sex releases the hormone oxyto$in% #hi$h tri""ers endorphins to lessen pain and

en$oura"es 'etter sleep.

6nergized leaders who have a healthy sex life are more likely to make smarter decisions,increase productivity, and are more enthusiastic about their work# 7ot to mention, happier people

tend to be kinder and more gracious people#

(. Leaders #ith a healthy sex life have lo#er 'lood pressure% less stress% and hi"her

immunity levels.

(tudies have shown males who engage in regular sex reduce their chance of prostate cancer andcut the risk of heart attack in half# !his means fewer sick days, better overall health, and more

work accomplished#

). *n"a"in" in a healthy sex life "ives you a voi$e to speak on a prevalent topi$ in today+s

#orld.
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-ur culture has distorted a healthy view of sex and marriage# *y choosing to develop a healthy

sex life for you and your spouse, you have the opportunity to share with others a %hrist8centered

perspective on these issues# A healthy sex life is indicative of a healthy marriage, and we needevery leader celebrating and upholding the gift of marriage in our world#

(exual intimacy might not be your first thought when thinking of leadership skills, but its agreat way to test your faithfulness in the small things# $or those who struggle with health issues,

remember that sexual intimacy is not confined to mere intercourse# !ry playing with differentforms of intimacy to find a creative solution for your needs# 4f your sex life with your spouse is

not healthy, theres a good chance your leadership could be compromised, but if its active and

alive9theres a good chance youre a better, more confident leader for it#

) Se$ret ,raits to Make a Better Leader

by 3on 6dmondson

6mail (hare -n $acebook !witter

When 4 first became a leader, 4 had no clue what 4 was doing#

4 was a high school student and had "ust been elected student body president# 4 had served as

class president and in a few other positions, but there didnt seem to be a lot of responsibility that

stretched me at that point# As president of the study body, now a senior, 4 quickly realized lots ofstudents and teachers were looking to me for leadership#

We were in the second year of a new school, and most of the students were forced to leave theirprevious school to attend this one# (ome went willingly, but many were reluctantly bused to aschool absent of many of their friends# 4n my first year at the school, as a "unior, 4 was one of the

reluctant students#

4n my new position, 4 knew firsthand the need, as well as the challenge, to encourage the morale

and build momentum in this new school#

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Why the 3ules of 4mprov Will )ake .ou a *etter %reative +eader

Why elping -thers (ucceed )akes .ou a *etter +eader

!hankfully, 4 had a seasoned leader for a principal# )r# uggins was a retired Army colonel who

loved seeing students succeed# e became my mentor and my biggest supporter#

!hrough his leadership of me, 4 learned a few secrets, which helped me as 4 entered the business

world, led in the corporate world, and later as 4 led my own businesses#
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6ven today in ministry, these same


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the team# 2reat leaders know that without the input and investment of others, they would never

accomplish their goals# !hey remain appreciative of others and consistently share the spotlight#

What secret traits have you learned that make one a better leader?

Why Helpin" thers Su$$eed Makes You a Better Leader

by (cott odge

6mail (hare -n $acebook !witter

4m gaining a ton of personal fulfillment and energy these days from coaching, developing, and

leading my team# )y desire is to do whatever 4 can to help them succeed and win#

What drives me to do this? Well, several things# $or one/ love my team and $are a'out

their development as leaders0or 'etter yet as humans! And secondly, / kno# that if theysu$$eed% so #ill ,he r$hard+s mission.

-ne practical way 4 try to help set them up for success is by giving each of my direct reports an

opportunity to give meB their leader B direct feedback on how they feel 4 could do a better "ob of

leading them# (o once a month, right alongside my input and development of theirleadership, 4ask them to answer a very simple, three8part question

What $an / 2as your leader30.S,A4,% S,5% 6 78,/89* D/8:0..that #ould help

set you up for "reater su$$ess;

!his is an important question because it cuts out any assumptions 4 may have about how well 4mleading my team#

)ore specifically, heres what 4m asking

S,A4,B What am / not$urrently doin" that $ould potentially set you up for "reatersu$$ess;

S,5B What am / $urrently doin" that is frustratin" you or that you feel $ould 'e

hinderin" your su$$ess as a leader;

78,/89*B What am / $urrently doin" that is helpin" you to su$$eed;

4m convinced that building a strong team isnt "ust about the leader developing, growing, and

stretching their teamits alsoabout providing that team with regular and consistent

opportunities to develop, grow, and stretch their leader#

What are some of your 'est pra$ti$es for doin" this;
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Why the 4ules of /mprov Will Make You a Better 7reative Leader

When 4 was growing up, 4 wanted to be a comedian# While my other friends dreamt of ma"or

league baseball careers, 4 was up in my room writing "okes#

When 4 was eight years old, 4 remember tearing out the map in the back of our EncyclopediaBrittanicaand tracing the route of my comedy tour with a red ballpoint pen# 4 would travel from

the 6ast to the West %oast9ending at the Tonight Showin +os Angeles# )y only problem was

material# All 4 had were a few knock8knock "okes and scribbled one8liners from the Cosby Show#4ve long since left my desire to be in comedy Calthough 4 can kill it with a group of @ and ' year

oldsD, and today 4m more focused on being a good leader9in my church, family, and ministry#

And even though 4;ve left that dream behind Cstill available for dinner partiesD, 4 believe there aresome great take8aways from the rules of comedy9specifically improv9that will make you a

better leader#

.ou might not think of leadership when you watch the latest sketch on Saturday Night Live, The

!!ice" #arks and $ecreation, or the classic, Whose Line %s %t &nyway?, but theres a lot to begleaned from the quirky rules that guide comics through a successful run# !hese universal rules

provide the right atmosphere for comedic flow, collaboration, and creativity# 6very improv comic

knows these rules by heart and to break them would be nothing less than amateur#

2ood leadership, "ust like comedy, requires intentionality, discipline, and a good bit of risk#eres how 4 think good leaders should leverage the rules of improv to be more effective#

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youre wearing# Where did you get it?= .ouve got something to work with9the comedy gets a

kick start#

We are more effective leaders, by far, when we give specific directions to those we lead# When 4give my team precise details and tasks, 4m setting them up for a win#

When 4 give them vague assignments that carry on endlessly, 4m wasting their talent, and 4m

not working to move our church or organization forward#

(pecificity is an underrated leadership quality, but its also a revolutionary tool to create

momentum#

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,he = D+s of :ood Leadership

4n school, you may not have been too happy with the grade of :# !here was that one time in a

college marketing class when 4 was proud of an earned : Cthats a long storyD, but most of the

time, we want to do better#

)aybe weve given : a bad name sometimesespecially when it comes to leadership#

Here are = D+s of "ood leadership-

DemandB !here should be some non8negotiables when we talk in terms of good leadership#

+eaders need to excel in issues of such as moral excellence, responsiveness and character# C3ead

& 7on87egotiable !raits to Work on )y !eamD

DeliverB .ou need to show up as a leader# 2ood leaders follow through on their commitments

and can be depended upon to do what they say they will do# +eaders lead so others can follow by

example# C3ead !he +eader (ets the *arD

Dire$tB 2ood leaders guide and shape the path of the organization# +eaders need to clearly

communicate expectations and continually follow up to ensure the organization stays on track#

C3ead @ !asks of the (enior astorG%6-D

DivertB 2ood leaders arent in a position to seek all the admiration for themselves# 2ood

leaders consistently point to the successes of others on the team, and ultimately give all therecognition for any success to 2od# C3ead(ign of a 2reat +eader, !he umility to (ay


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Here are the top > non ne"otia'le traits to #ork on my team-

4esponsiveness 8 4t may be a pet peeve, but 4 believe it is imperative to respond to people in a

timely manner#

HonestyB 4f we cant be honest, we cant be a team#

4espe$t 8 4 plan to respect my team# 4 think its only fair they respect me#

pennessB 4 dont like hidden issues# 4f its important to you or the team, lets talk about it#

?ollo# ,hrou"hB :o what you say you will do when you said you will do it#

Limited need for oversi"ht8 4 cant stand micro8management# 4 believe in setting some goals,

assigning tasks, and celebrating at the finish line# 4ll even come back and hold your hand acrossthe line if needed, but if you dont ask, 4 assume youre still running on your own#

5arti$ipationB 7o one sits on the bench on my team# !his plenty of innings aheadlets play

ball#

ere are four things the senior pastor or, in a business sense, the


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position# Whether or not the senior leader consciously recognizes his or her role in

accomplishing these tasks, by sheer position he or she is determining the way the organization

performs in these four areas#

Are you a senior leader in your organization? :o you feel the weight of these responsibilities?

:o you understand your important role in setting these four principles of the organization?

astors and leaders are usually under a great pressure to have all the answers and to be good at

everything we do# !he fact is, however, that most of us only do a few things really well#

Inderstanding that and being willing to admit it is an indication one is becoming a matureleader#

4 was encouraged recently reading the story of 1ing :avid/ %hronicles 0J# !he preceding

chapters outline how :avid had diligently organized the kingdom, but then :avid humbly hands

over reins to his son# -f course, he did this at the command of 2od, but his speech to the peopleis not filled with bitterness and anger, but with encouragement and challenge to keep the vision

moving forward#

2reat leaders are willing to admit when they dont know the answer, dont have a plan, or arent

the right one for the "ob# 6ven greater leaders are willing to allow and even promote andencourage others who are more capable of leading at the time#

ealthy organizations maintain an unchanging vision long8term by being willing to change theirorganizational structure as needed# When it comes to organizational structure not everything

needs changing# 4f the structure works# 1eep it# 4ts comfortable# eople understand it# rogress

is happening#

But pro"ress is happenin" is key.

!here are times to change# 4ts important that leaders realize those times#

Ho# do you kno# #hen or"aniational stru$tural $han"e is needed;

Here are 7 considerations to discern it is time:

When you $ontinually en$ounter o'sta$les tryin" to move for#ard.4f every decision you aretrying to make hits roadblocks or dead ends, it may be time to build a new road#

When the steps to make the $han"e is more exhaustin" than the value the $han"e provides.%hange should be exhilarating once you get to it# %hange brings momentum# When the process

to get there is so long or difficult that it wears you out and youve got no excitement left 9 itmay be time for some structure change#

When you $an no lon"er attra$t leaders.When people are controlled more than empowered

you will attract doers but you wont attract visionary leaders# %reative leadership will die,

because genuine leaders rebel against controlling environments#
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When you spend more time dis$ussin" than doin".2ranted we need to meet about some

things# We need to plan, strategize and organize# 4 suggest we have better meetings, but more

than that we need action# -ur visions are hungry for progress towards them# )eetings shouldcreate action# !he best structures help you get busy doing not attending yet another meeting#

When the stru$ture you have no# isn+t sustaina'le lon" term.(tructure based upon people,for example, rather than progress, will eventually need changing as people change# Ask yourself

will this structure work /K years from now? 4f not, the time to change is now#

When all $reativity is stru$tured out of the system.(ometimes the process can become so

clearly defined that nothing new is needed# !here is no room for different ideas or opinions# 7o

one needs them anymore# 6very question is answered# When people fall into routines, they getbored, and complacency becomes the norm# :evelopment stops# !ime for some structural

change#

When there is no lon"er any $onfusion.4f everything is so carefully scripted you may need

some organizational structure change# (ome of the best discoveries are found amidst chaos# 4love what Andy (tanley says about # 4t increases the productivity of the organization#

@# 4t keeps from frustrating customersGclients like me#

DONT RUN

Whatever happens, as bad as it gets, dont disappear from your leadership post# When things are

going wrong you will be tempted to skip out of the office early, hide with your door closed, ormake excuses for why you arent on the "ob# !hat is never the right response# When you

disappear

Your employees have less motivation to work hard; some will disappear too. Your worries dont leave you just because you arent at the ofce.

You will never solve the problems as an absentee leader.

You most likely wont be there to see the turnaround i and when it begins.

As much as you want the pain to be over, hang in there and fight your way to the end of the

battle# .ou may need to slip away long enough to regain your composure, write a new plan or re8


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energize for the battle, but that should never last long enough where those trying to follow think

they have lost their leader# 4f that end is that you sell out, you leave the organization, things

turnaround, or even if the worse case scenario comes true and the organization ends, lead theorganization as long as you are at the helm#

> Ways to Hear / have a pro'lem #ith you

leaderC

4t was a hard years as a leader in some ways# (o much for having an


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Ask for itB %onsistently, throughout the year, 4 ask people to tell me what they think# 4ts a risky

move, because many will, but its invaluable insight# C4ll help your team do it too# :etails

636#D

Admit mistakesB 4ts important that 4 recognize when decisions made are my fault#

,ake personal responsi'ilityB 4n addition to admitting fault, 4 must own my share of pro"ects

and responsibility# !he team needs to know that 4m on their side and in their corner#

Model itB 4ts one thing to say 4 welcome correction, but when correction comes, 4 must model

receiving it well# 4f 4 overreact when correction comes, 4ll limit the times 4 receive it#

,rade itB !he best way to get your team to offer healthy correction of the leader is to create a

relationship with your team where there is mutual correction# !he goal is not for the leader to

receive all the correction# !he goal is for correction to be applied where correction is needed#

3eceiving correction is difficult for anyone, perhaps seemingly unnatural for most leaders# 4believe, however, that when leader is open to correction, his or her team will be more willing to

follow the leader wherever he or she goes#

/0 1illers of 2ood +eadership

4 know numerous leaders with great potential# !hey have all the appearance of being a good

leader# *ut they lack one thingor two

!here are a few killers of good leadership# Any one of these can squelch good leadership# 4ts

like a wrecking ball of potential

4ts not that they cant lead, but to continue to grow as a leaderto be successful at a higher level

or for the long8termthey must address these issues#

ere are /0 killers of good leadership

DefensivenessB 2ood leaders dont wear their feelings on their shoulders# !hey know others

opinions matter and arent afraid to be challenged#

ealousyB A good leader en"oys watching others on the team excel#

4even"eB !he leader that succeeds for the long8term must be forgiving and knows that


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A leader may struggle with one or more of these, but the goal should be to lead

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