Looking Toward the Future Slide 2 Thinking Positively About Your
Life and Your Future Slide 3 Powerful Tools for Success n Optimism
n Hope n Future-Mindedness Slide 4 Beliefs: Personal opinions about
yourself, your life and the world around you Slide 5 The
Self-Fulfilling Prophecy n Our expectations influence our behaviors
n The behavior causes our expectations to come true Slide 6 For
Example n If I believe I am not good in math, I may not do the
assignment or may even avoid taking math n If I believe I can be
good in math, I can take the steps needed to be successful Slide 7
Robert Rosenthal n Did experiments on the self-fulfilling prophecy
n Animals n School children n Positive expectations led to positive
outcomes Slide 8 Positive Self-Talk n The thoughts or silent inner
voice in our heads Slide 9 Negative Thoughts n Can be toxic to the
body n Can cause biochemical changes that lead to depression Slide
10 Positive Thoughts n Build good self-esteem n Help us to become
confident in our abilities n Help us to achieve our life goals
Slide 11 Pretend you had 3 wishes. What would they be? Slide 12
Using your wishes, write 3 affirmation statements. Slide 13
Affirmation Statements n Start with I n Include your name n Are
written in the present tense Slide 14 For example: I, Marsha, am
relaxed. I, Marsha, am healthy. Slide 15 Share one of your
affirmation statements with the class. Slide 16 Guidelines for
Increasing Positive Thoughts n Monitor your thoughts. Are they
positive or negative? n When you notice a negative thought, imagine
rewinding a tape and recording a new positive message. Slide 17
Guidelines for Increasing Positive Thoughts n Start the positive
message with I and use the present tense n Make your affirmation
stronger by visualizing what you want to achieve n Repeat positive
thoughts to yourself until they become a habit Slide 18 Visualize
Your Success Slide 19 Athletes Use Visualization n A good way to
practice n Helps you to pre-experience events in your mind n For
example, pole vaulters imagine the perfect jump before they make it
Slide 20 Visualization n We create all things twice n Make a mental
picture n Create the physical reality by taking action Slide 21 For
example: n In building a house we n Create a blueprint or plan n
Then we build the house Slide 22 As a college student: n Visualize
yourself in your cap and gown walking across the stage to receive
your diploma Slide 23 Exercise: Visualize Your Success Draw a
picture, make a list or write some sentences. Share with the class
Slide 24 Hope for the Best n Believing that you can be successful
helps you to be successful n Hopeful students are more successful
Slide 25 Words are powerful Slide 26 Ladder of Powerful Speaking
Slide 27 For example, if I loan you the money, will you pay it
back? Slide 28 I should pay it back. Slide 29 I might pay it back.
Slide 30 I want to pay it back. Slide 31 I intend to pay it back.
Slide 32 I promise to pay it back. Slide 33 Will you marry me and
be true to me? Slide 34 I should. Slide 35 I might. Slide 36 You
know, I really want to. Slide 37 I intend to. Slide 38 Yes, I do. I
promise. Slide 39 Will you finish your career paper on time? Be
careful about the language you use. Slide 40 Life is a Dangerous
Opportunity Slide 41 The Chinese Word for Crisis Has Two
Characters: n Danger n Opportunity Slide 42 What is the danger?
What is the opportunity? Slide 43 Every adversity has the seed of a
greater benefit or possibility. Slide 44 What Are Your Values?
Slide 45 Values are: n What we think is important n What we feel is
right and good Slide 46 Where do we get our values? Slide 47 Values
come from: n Parents n Friends n Culture n Church n Media n Society
Slide 48 Assignment: My Personal Coat of Arms n What your like
about yourself n Your greatest achievement n Your most prized
possession n What you value most in life n A symbol of your
personality n Three words to be remembered by Slide 49 Some samples
Slide 50 Slide 51 Slide 52 Slide 53 Slide 54 Steps to Happiness n
Express gratitude n Cultivate optimism n Avoid over thinking and
social comparison n Practice acts of kindness n Increase flow
activities Slide 55 Steps to Happiness n Savor lifes joys n Commit
to accomplishing your goals n Take care of your body Slide 56
Secrets to Happiness Martin Seligman n Identifying, cultivating,
and using your personal strengths in work, love, play, and
parenting Slide 57 Happiness = S + C + V n S is your set range (50%
of happiness is determined by heredity) n C is your circumstance
(8-15 % of happiness) n V is what is under your voluntary control
(40%) Slide 58 What are some examples of factors under your
voluntary control? Slide 59 Seven Habits of Highly Successful
People n Steven Covey Slide 60 Be Proactive n Accept responsibility
for your life Slide 61 Begin with the end in mind n Know what is
important n What do you want to accomplish in your life? Slide 62
Put first things first n Set priorities Slide 63 Think win-win n
Seek solutions that benefit everyone n Focus on cooperation rather
than competition Slide 64 First seek to understand. Then be
understood. n Listening is the first step in effective
communication Slide 65 Synergize n The whole is greater than the
sum of its parts n Working together as a team, you can accomplish
more than each member can accomplish separately Slide 66 Sharpen
the saw n Invest time in yourself to stay healthy: n Physically n
Mentally n Spiritually n Socially Slide 67 Find your voice and
inspire others to find theirs n Believe that you can make a
difference in the world and inspire others to do the same n From
The 8 th Habit, From Effectiveness to Greatness by Steven Covey
Slide 68 More Secrets to Happiness Slide 69 Secrets to Happiness n
Happiness cant be bought n Happiness is more internal than external
n Happiness is not determined by age, race, gender or income n
Happiness wont arrive in the Publishers Clearinghouse envelope
Slide 70 Secrets to Happiness n Happiness depends less on things
than on our attitude toward the things we have n Happiness is a
hookable habit Slide 71 Make a decision to choose happiness Slide
72 Find small things that make you happy and sprinkle your life
with them. Slide 73 Laugh more. Laughter produces a relaxation
response. Slide 74 A good joke beats a pill for a lot of ailments.
Slide 75 Learn to think like an optimist. Assume you will succeed.
Slide 76 Replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Slide 77 Do
things that use your skills. Slide 78 Fill your life with things
you like to do. Remember the 20 things you like to do? Slide 79 Get
enough rest. Slide 80 Exercise to feel good and to cope with
anxiety. Slide 81 There are no substitutes for fresh air, sunshine
and exercise. Slide 82 Reduce stress. Slide 83 Close relationships
are important. Slide 84 If you dont do anything else in life, love
someone and let someone love you. Slide 85 Keep things in
perspective. Will it matter 10 years from now? Slide 86 Exercise:
Happiness Is.... Share Your Ideas Slide 87 Learn to Laugh at Life
Slide 88 Have a laugh at life and look around for happiness instead
of sadness. -- Red Skelton Slide 89 The physical act of smiling
makes you feel happier. Slide 90 If you do not feel happy, smile
and pretend to be happy. n Smiling produces seratonin which is a
neurotransmitter linked with feelings of happiness Slide 91 So,
smile and be happy. Use your creativity to make some positive
changes in your life. Slide 92 Keys to Success: You Are What You
Think Slide 93 What we believe is true, comes true. What we believe
is possible, becomes possible. -- Henry Ford Slide 94 Watch your
thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions.
Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits; they
become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.
Frank Outlaw Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your
words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits.
Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it
becomes your destiny. Frank Outlaw Slide 95 Grand Essentials of
Life Slide 96 n Something to do (that you like) Slide 97 Grand
Essentials of Life n Something to do (that you like) n Someone to
love Slide 98 Grand Essentials of Life n Something to do (that you
like) n Someone to love n Something to hope for Slide 99 Use the
tools in this book to create your success. Slide 100 This is not
the end of the course but a new beginning. Slide 101 Slide 102
Review the Keys to Success in this book. What is your favorite one
and why? Slide 103 Measure Your Success n Complete the exercise. n
Pick up the one you did the first day of class. n Compare your
results. Is your score higher? n Staple the two exercises together
and hand them in. Slide 104 Place these in the envelope: Visualize
Your Success Happiness Is.... Intentions for the Future Put your
name and address on it. Slide 105 Turn In: Letter Course
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