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Love Systems InsiderDate: March 2009
Final Thoughts Before You Go Out
Some final thoughts before you go out:
Be Louder Err on the side of being too loud rather than too
quiet, especially in noisy
venues. In any approach you make, every member of the group
should be able to hearyou comfortably. Vocal muscles are like any
other muscles. You need to work them out.They will tire and become
sore. And then your body will repair them to be stronger andmore
effective.
Improvise Canned material is fine, but don't make it a crutch.
You should never leavea conversation because you "ran out of things
to say." Improvise. Try something anything! Even "so, uhhh, where
are you from?" is better than wandering off. You maynot come up
with the next spectacular line right away, but your subconscious
will bethinking about it. Stay in enough conversations without a
safety net of canned material,and you'll start to get really,
really good.
Smile on the approach You don't have to keep your smile
plastered on, but smile inthe first 1-3 seconds when you first
approach. This will make people, especially women,more open to
you.
Stand up straight If she can't hear you, don't lean in, be
louder. If you can't hear her who cares. At least for the first
minute or two. Just continue with what you are talkingabout or
start a new conversational thread. After a few minutes, or when you
need towork in qualification, then you can move her (or the group)
somewhere quieter.
Be 'normal' and social not a pickup shark Don't circle around
the venue lookingfor your prey. Those guys are "losers" and women
don't want any part of them. Don'tstand side by side with your guy
friend, intently watching everyone else, and then
finallyapproaching a girl. Trust me, the girl saw you staring
earlier. Instead, relax, be social,and have fun! Talk to guys,
mixed groups, women you're not attracted to, whoever isthere. Apply
the Love Systems teachings from within that framework. Oh, by the
way, ifyou don't find yourself successfully doing this, then make
sure you go out a few times to
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the very same venues that you would use to meet women, but
instead practice just being
social and part of the larger group. When you do this, don't
bother with the structure ofthe Emotional Progression Model (part
of the Love Systems Triad Model). Don't pick upany women. Just
talk, have fun, get comfortable with your surroundings, and
meetpeople. Then go back and use your new social skills as a
jumping off point for the 9phases and your routines.
Approach immediately to prevent any form of anxiety building up.
There are someexceptions to this, but use it as a guideline.
With a trained instructor, bypassing these and about a dozen
more typical "new guy" mistakescan be accomplished quickly. By
yourself, it may take a while, so be persistent and don't
losefaith. Remember we were all in your shoes once. Every Love
Systems instructor was once astudent. So we understand the road
you're on, and we want you to succeed.
Speaking of success, learning to be good with women has often
been compared to climbing amountain. At first, you're on the bottom
and can only see the first crest. It looks like the top ofthe
mountain, but you know it's not. Kind of like you see your first
challenge, or sticking point,might be delivering good attraction
material. Then you get that down, and you notice that
yourinteractions with women are falling apart because of bad body
language. You didn't know youhad improvement opportunities with
your body language before, because you were gettingblown out before
that problem could surface. So that's the next crest, and so on.
Learning theseskills can be thought of in some ways as being a
process of sequentially solving increasinglyadvanced sticking
points.
Savoy
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