Love Systems Insider: Holiday Parties, Part 2

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Love Systems InsiderDate: December 2009

Holiday Parties? Pick up beautiful women...

The holidays are a GREAT time to meet women. Work and school slow down, no one wants to

be alone, and barriers are down. Plus, there are parties everywhere.

So, Im going to reveal three of my personal secrets for meeting women at holiday parties:

How to dress.

How to start the conversation.

How to build attraction.

1. How to dress.

A party is not a nightclub.

If youre used to dressing to stand out (peacocking), tone it down for holiday parties. Think

one interesting item something that represents you that women can ask you about.

For example I wear a neck chain with an emblem that represents the city Im from. Its

distinctive enough that it (and thus I) gets attention, but fashionable enough that it doesnt look

like Im trying too hard.

Theres a reason for this. When a woman asks me about it (and she will, eventually, either as an

excuse to start talking to me or at some point during the conversation), it gives me a chance to

tell her about me. This invites her to do the same. Were building attraction and comfort.
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Quick Tip: Wear something unusual or distinct and have a story about it that tells her

something good about you.

This doesnt mean you can wear khakis-and-a-button-down-tucked-in-shirt to holiday parties

along with your One Interesting Item. Dress fashionably.

And by fashionably I do NOT mean like a fashion magazine. Dress to pick up beautiful

women. Check out the fashion and style section of the Attraction Forumsand the chapter on

Fashion (with photos) in the downloadable eBookMagic Bullets to get the inside information:

>>http://www.lovesystems.com/magic-bullets

2. Starting a conversation.

Continuing on the parties are not nightclubs theme...

At a nightclub, bar, coffee shop, or mall, you usually have only one chance to meet someone.

You have to approach her and seize her attention.

Two of the best-known ways to do this are Indirect and Direct.

Indirectcan be an opinion opener, like Hey... do you think it can ever be okay to break up with

someone by text message? It starts a conversation and should lead into a story about why

youre asking, and then a Transition, and into a conversation where you can get to know each

other and build attraction.

In contrast, aDirectopener could be as simple as: Youre got a very compelling look... I had to

come over and see what you were like. Im Savoy.

Now heres one of the secrets that experienced guys know:
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Quick Tip: The FIRST thing you say doesnt really matter. Its all about the SECOND thing.

The first thing you say is called the Opener. The second thing you say is called the

Transition. The transition is key to getting past the awkward first few seconds and into a

normal conversation where you can start building attraction.

** IMPORTANT **

If Direct and Indirect Openers and Transitions to normal conversations arent things youve

mastered, youre doing a disservice to yourself. This information is in Chapters 5 and 6 of my

book, Magic Bullets, and you can download them without any charge:

>>http://www.lovesystems.com/media/pdf/MB2008Preview.pdf

Now, heres where a holiday party is different:

DONT go direct. DONT go indirect. Unless the party is so big or so few people know each

other that its basically like a nightclub anyway.

It sounds like something youd do when youre a kid, but dont be afraid to involve your friends.

If I see someone Im interested in, I might find someone who knows her to introduce us. If thats

not an option, remember that at parties people are SUPPOSED to meet people. Hi, Im Savoy,

works just fine.

Just remember what I said before... the first thing doesnt really matter, but the second thing

does. So, make sure you know what youre going to say once she answers with Hi, Im Julie.

A big Ummmm... so what do you do? isnt going to cut it.

[Update: Reading this over one last time before I mail it out, I just want to make sure its clear...

the second thing what you say to her after hi is the Transition. Thefree chapters from
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Magic Bullets explain this more and give you examples you can use tonight.]

3. How to build attraction.

In any situation, there are two ways to build attraction. The most important way is through your

conversation with her. The other way is through your interaction with your environment.

(Were not going to cover how to attract a woman from scratch here. At theend of this email,Ill point you to the right resources.)

At a party, your conversation with her is still the most important thing. But, how you interact

with your environment is even more important than at a nightclub.

Assume that everyone at the party knows each other or knows people in common. The

impression you make on EVERYONE is important. So, the moment you walk into the party,

your interaction with EVERY woman at the party begins.

At a nightclub, you can get away with hanging out by yourself, doing some warm-up

approaches, waiting for your friends to arrive or the place to get busy, and so on.

Not at a party. The flip side of Youre Supposed to Meet People that I was just talking about

is, well, youre supposed to meet people.

In other words, when youre at a party, youre not doing 5 separate approaches of the 5 mostdesirable women there. Youre creating an image or impression of yourself so that she is already

predisposed to being intrigued by you when you start talking to her.

Lets get specific:
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Introduce people to each other even people you just met. That implies you have social

value one of the huge building blocks for attraction (more on this at the end).

Body language and positioning is huge. Its not enough to be comfortable. You must

APPEAR to be comfortable. Be the one leaning back against the wall, or sitting.

Always be talking to someone.

Always appear to be having a good time.

Always appear relaxed and centered. Youre not glancing around to find the hottest women;

they party where you are.

Dont be the guy who only talks to hot women. It looks weird at a party.

Its a bit of a mind shift for a lot of guys, so Ill repeat it again:

Quick Tip: When you go to a party, think of it as one big approach to build value in the

entire room. Let women notice you before you notice them.

The No Bull@)(~ Guide to Attraction

If you are consistently attracting women, you can skip this section. If youre not, then I have

good news and bad news for you.

The Good News: Attracting a desirable woman is actually fairly easy, can be done consistently

by virtually any man, and usually takes less than twenty minutes.

The Bad News: Women get attracted all the time. Attraction by itself without the Love

Systems techniques like Qualification (see ourinterview on the subject as well as the follow up

Issues in Qualification) to solidify the attraction doesnt usually get you very far.
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Still, before you solidify attraction, you have to have attraction, so lets start there:

The book Magic Bullets gives the secrets for attracting women. Attraction does NOT work the

way most men think. A man is attracted or not attracted to a woman. Its an on/off button.

We talk about building attraction with women because women do NOT work the same way.

Its more like filling a glass with water.

Chapter 7 ofMagic Bullets reveals the secrets:

>>http://www.lovesystems.com/magic-bullets

Finally, some guys have asked us for a deep, detailed, and specific look at the various tools you

can use to build attraction. Sort of half-way between the theory from Magic Bullets and the

scripts from the Routines Manual. In these downloadable audio volumes, we take one specific

way of creating attraction and go through explaining how and why it works and give tons of

examples so you can use these tonight. Each of these takes about an hour to listen to:

Takeaways and Boundaries(Braddock and Daxx)

>>http://www.lovesystems.com/audio/vol-42-takeaways-and-boundaries-daxx-braddock

Handling Tests (Soul)

>>http://www.lovesystems.com/audio/vol-38-handling-tests-soul-kisser

Humor(Cajun and Braddock)

>>http://www.lovesystems.com/audio/vol-35-humor-braddock-cajun

Role Plays (Tenmagnet and Cajun)

>>http://www.lovesystems.com/audio/vol-32-role-plays-cajun-tenmagnet

Teasing (Braddock and Dahunter)
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>>http://www.lovesystems.com/audio/vol-30-teasing-braddock-dahunter

Cold Reads (Savoy and The Don)

>>http://www.lovesystems.com/audio/vol-23-cold-reads-savoy-the-don

Storytelling (Sinn and Future)

>>http://www.lovesystems.com/audio/vol-3-storytelling-sinn-future

All of these have the usual full money-back guarantee so theres no risk to you. Listen to them,

and if you dont think each was worth every penny, just let me know and Ill make sure you get

a full refund.

Go into 2010 with all of the tools to attract beautiful women. It wont get you the girl every

time, but youre a heck of a lot closer if you can.

Take care,

Savoy

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