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Love Systems InsiderDate: April 2007

If She's Sitting Down

Have you ever been in a situation where you see a beautiful woman or group of people sitting

down, but you have no idea how to approach? Just because you might not know how to handle

this situation, that doesn't mean you can't approach women or groups who are sitting down. You

can and should. In many ways, they are the easiest.

In any situation, you can always approach the table and use whatever conversation starter you

would normally use. If there are extra seats at the table (or nearby chairs you can easily drag

over), you can sit down while delivering a false time constraint. Sit in such a way that implies

that you are about to leave any second. A couple of ways to do this include turning the chair

around so it is "backwards" (i.e., you are looking over the back of the chair), and/or, about a

minute or two later, standing up from the chair as if you are about to leave, before they say

something that "catches your interest" again and entices you to sit back down.

If there are no obvious extra seats, you need to steal hers. Reach your arm out, palm up. Tell her

to stand up. Raise your arm directly up to "spin" her (she is doing all of the spinning; you justtouch her hand) and while doing this, move behind her and sit on her chair. Tease her for a

second that you stole her chair and deliver another false time constraint. You're implying that

you're about to leave and that you will give her the chair back. Within a couple of minutes, you

will either need to let her sit back down and go get another chair, move her somewhere else

where you can both be comfortable, or put her on your lap.

Here are two scenarios you might encounter, along with a solution on how to handle each of

them.

Scenario 1: She is sitting at a large table, there is space available, most nearby tables are full,

and there is a reason to be sitting down (e.g., a coffee shop).

This is the easiest scenario, but fairly rare. Just walk straight over to the table and say "do you

mind if I sit down?" in the same way you would if it was a man at the table. Then, not right away

but within the next 20 seconds, begin a conversation. You should use a very low-energy opener

in this situation. This is the easiest way to approach this situation, but you can also use the

strategies from earlier in this article if you prefer.

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Scenario 2: She is sitting at a table either without extra room or where nearby tables are empty.

Sit at a table close enough to hers so that you could comfortably have a conversation. Ignore her

for the first couple minutes, and then initiate conversation in the same way as in the previous

example. Again, this is just a shortcut. If you prefer, you can still use one of the strategies from

earlier in this article.

The general rule is, don't keep standing while everyone is seated. This will lower your social

value. Take a seat as soon as you can, use a false time constraint, and go from there like you talk

to any other group of people.

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