Managing Anger

Center for Development of Human Services

Buffalo State College

Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2009, through a training and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS

Outcomes

List behaviors that stimulate anger Accept own anger Identify underlying feelings Use appropriate methods to

express anger

Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2009, through a training and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS

Check Yourself Out…

Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2009, through a training and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS

Ticked Off!

Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2009, through a training and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS

Anger’s Job

Discharge strong emotions Protect oneself Correct a perceived wrong Let others know they’ve wronged us Mask hurt or disappointed feelings Not feel so vulnerable Feel whole or strong

Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2009, through a training and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS

CATCH 22…

Well managed anger is a constructive emotion

Displays of anger are disapproved of, especially by women and children

Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2009, through a training

and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS

Recognizing Anger’s Power

Anger is a challenging emotion We often deal with anger like our parents

did or in complete contrast to what they did We often react to children’s unacceptable

and problematic behavior with anger Poorly managed anger ERUPTS Anger should be guided by rules

Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2009, through a training and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS

I’M NOT ANGRY! Many deny their angry feelings Feelings and events contributing to

build-up are often ignored, creating frustration

Very controlling behavior often covers anger

Tension must be released Denial leads to displaced anger

Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2009, through a training and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS

In Summary…

How might this training help you? What will you do next time you’re

angry? What obstacles remain in your way? How are others likely to react to

your “new” ways of managing anger?

Approved by the New York State Office of Children and Family Services 2009, through a training and administrative agreement with the Research Foundation for SUNY/BSC/CDHS

Unregistered and want training credit?

Before class ends, enter the following into (private) text chat to Matthew Fildes (in his absence, to the instructor):

Full Legal nameMale or female

Home address (no P.O. boxes)Area code and phone number

Email address (2 on same computer must list 2 email addresses)

Foster care agency address (e.g., Harlem Dowling, Westside Center, 2090 7th Ave, NY, NY 10027)

Thank you.