Name __________________________________________________________________________ Period ________

Unit 4: Personal Development

# Assignments Pts. Possible

Pts. Received

1 Values and Values Survey 10 2 Once Upon a Time and Goals 15 3 Friends 10 4 How Good of a Friend Are You?

And Peer Pressure 10

5 Similarities/Differences Bingo 5 6 Shake Out Your Future, Decision

Making 10

7 The Game of Life 5 8 Emotions-Inside Out 10 TOTAL 75

Unit Calendar Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday

A-Day 28 Values and Goals

SPRING BREAK-NO SCHOOl!

A-Day April 8 Decision Making and the Game of LIFE

A-Day 10 Communication LAB: Brownies

A-Day 12 Social/Table Etqiuette

LAB: Spaghetti Luncheon

A-Day 16 Emotions-Inside Out

A-Day 18 Friends and Peer

Pressure

A-Day 22 Unit 4 Test

PACKET DUE

Values What are Values?

• Anything that is ______________ _______________, and __________________ • Influenced by ______________________________________________________, etc • Each person has ____________________ values which guide his/her daily decisions

Personal Values Survey

Directions: Think about each item or activity and determine on a scale from 1 to 10 how highly you value each item. (1=the lowest, 10=the highest) Place an “X” in the

square for each value. Item/Activity 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

1. Being a good friend to others

2. Be famous

3. Be a leader

4. Have a sense of humor

5. Serve my community

6. Make a lot of money

7. Be intelligent

8. Get married

9. Be healthy

10. Be in good shape

11. Have a pet

12. Have close relationship

13. Have nice clothes

14. Have a nice car

15. Get a good job

16. Be independent

17. Be close to my family

18. Have a lot of friends

19. Have a strong religious faith

20. Do what is morally right

21. Have children

22. Work with children or youth

23. Be a good athlete

24. Have enough money to be secure

25. Communicate well

Goals What is a goal?

• Goal: something a person intends to ____________________. • Goals are based on our __________________.

Setting Goals are like a road map:

A. They provide _________________________ B. They help you focus on the _________________________ things C. They help you keep the ________________________ in mind

Types of Goals

• __________________: can be accomplished within one year (days, weeks, months) • __________________: Can be accomplished in more than one year

SMART Goals

In order to set goals effectively, they need to be well written, or SMART! S=__________________: State exactly what is to be done M.=__________________: Include how the goal can be measured A=__________________: Determine steps to reach the goal R=__________________: Do not set goals for something unrealistic T= __________________: State when the goal will be met

What is Your Roadmap?

What are 5 different goals you have that you want to accomplish in the next 10 years?

Shake Out Your Future What would your future be if you left it to chance?

Directions: For each category, roll the dice to determine what your final outcome would be. Roll the dice and cross out the number that is rolled. For example: In the housing category, if you roll a 2, you would cross out the word “Mansion.. Continue in the same category until you have rolled the dice enough times to have only one option remaining. This will be your final outcome for each category. Make sure you circle your final outcome! When you are finished, answer the reflection question at the bottom.

Decision Making

IBRAIN STEPS What each step means

I: Identify the Problem

B: Brainstorm Options

R: Research

A: Analyze

I: Implement Plan

N: Now Evaluate

I. PRE-GAME: Before starting to play “Life” set goals for what you would like to accomplish by the end of the game in the following areas. 1. Career:

-(circle one) College or Directly to Your Career -What career do you want? ___________________________

2. Family/lifestyle: -Will you get Married? Y or N -Will you have children? Y or N __ Boys __ Girls -Will you buy a house? Y or N What house do you want? _______ 3. Finances: (Stock, insurance, etc.) -Will you make a long-term investment? Y or N -Circle the number for your investment: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 -How much money DO YOU WANT TO HAVE at the end of the game? $_________

II. Game Time: Keep track of EVERYTHING that happens to you during the game.

Career Finances Lifestyle

Final Career:

Family

Totals: _____ Boys ____ Girls Total $$: _________________

Communication

Why is communication important to have in a good relationship? Types of Communication

• Non-Verbal: This is our facial ________________ gestures, eye contact, posture, and ___________ of voice.

o Examples: Hugging, pushing, shaking hands, slouched, head down, etc. • ______________: Any form of spoken communication, both formal and informal.

o Examples: face to face conversation and phone conversation • Written: Any form of communication sent by ____________ means

(handwritten, _____________, email. Which type of communication is the most important type? Using communication to resolve conflicts. Resolving Conflict Strategy Description Thinking about how everyone in the situation can win.

The opposite of thinking win-win is only thinking of your self.

Learn HOW to listen! Listen for reasons they are upset, repeat and ask if you understood correctly, ask if anything remains unspoken, resist the temptation to interrupt or interject.

This is expressing how you really feel. 4 Ways to Say it: 1 feel, when you, what I need you to do, or because

Instead of fighting back, remain calm and express how you’re feeling. Take a break if needed!

Tips 1. Make the relationship the _____________ 2. Focus on the ___________________ (don’t use past arguments, disagreements, etc.) 3. Pick your battles 4. Be willing to ___________________ (EVERYBODY makes mistakes, especially when communicating!) 5. Know when to ___________________ (or agree to disagree.)

Table Setting

Draw and label the informal place setting below.

Etiquette Write down three facts you learned from the movie we watched in class. 1. 2. 3.

RULES OF ETQUETTE

1. Don’t talk with your mouth _________________.

2. No ___________________.. Keep _____________ off the table.

3. Place the napkin on your _________________.

4. Don’t belch or __________________ with your mouth open

5. Cover your mouth with your arm (not the napkin!) when you ______________ or

_____________.

6. Never talk about ______________, ________________, or _______________ at the table.

7. Turn off the _________________ or put it away at the table.

8. Pass the __________ and _____________ as a set.

9. Don’t _______________ across or in front of people.

10. Don’t share/steal ______________ from other people’s plates.

Emotions-Inside Out 1. When we meet Riley, Joy is usually in charge of her thoughts and personality. Which

emotion(s) do you feel most often? 2. Riley and her family go through a lot of changes when they move from Minnesota to

San Francisco. Have you ever gone through a big transition? 3. How are the glowing balls, or “core memories” made? What is one of your “core memories”. 4. What do the core memories have to do with Riley’s personality? 5. When Sadness touches one of the happy core memories, she colors it blue. What do think

is going on then? Is it possible that our current moods can color our past memories? 6. Do you think the core memories were changed forever or just had a temporary filter

on them? 7. When Riley’s mother tells her that she is helping her parents by being their “happy girl,”

Riley feels pressure to only show them her joy. Have you ever felt like this? 8. Do you think our society values certain emotions over others? Which ones? 9. At the end of the movie, Joy learns that other emotions, especially Sadness, are also

important. Why? 10. Do you think it is easier for different genders (male/female) or

different ages (younger/older) to express different emotions? Which ones and why?

FriendsFriends have the strongest influence between the ages of ______ and ________. Needs That Friends Meet: 1. Disclosure:

2. Feedback:

3. Empathy:

4. Trust:

5. Social Interest:

Which need has to be a part of every relationship?

What are three qualities or characteristics you think a good friend should have? 1. 2. 3.

Why is it important to associate with or choose friends that influence our choices and actions for the better? Explain your answer. Do you think that you could be a better friend than you are now? Explain your answer.

How Good of a Friend Are You? Directions: Check the answer that is the most descriptive of your reactions and then wait for

instructions on how to score your quiz. Almost Always

Sometimes Almost Never

I listen carefully when my friends talk to me. I am modest about my own accomplishments. I do not make fun of others. I give credit to other for their successes. I do what I promise. I am dependable. I can control my temper. I am interested in many different things. I am not rude. I can laugh at myself. I can admit when I’m wrong. I am honest regardless of the situation or consequences. I am happy for my friends when they win or excel. I offer to help or share when needed. I can keep secrets when asked. I can share the spotlight easily. I respect what belongs to others. I am patient and kind when others make mistakes. I seldom argue with others.

Count the numbers of “X’s” in each column. X 3 X 2 X 1 Then multiply by the number given.

Add the three scores together to see how your friendship skills are.

My total score ______________________Possible score = 54

Peer Pressure

Peer Pressure: the _________________ peers have on one another. Can be _________________ or ____________________. When does it become negative? How to Avoid the Influence

1. Make your own _________________________ 2. Know who your are and who you want to ______________ 3. Set realistic, positive ________________. 4. Weigh the consequences of your _______________. 5. Have friends with the same _____________ to rely on