Nawawi 1 Family Orphans and Neighbors

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Authentic Hadith pertaining toMARRIAGE, FAMILY, ORPHANS

& NEIGHBOR ISSUESExtracted from Imam Nawawi! Refere"ce

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56789:;REA$ION OF ANGELS, ?INN AN.HUMANSANGELS, JINN AND HUMANS

|H 1898Angels were created from light, jinn from blazing fire, and Adamwas created from that which you have already been informed!

"uslim with a chain u# to $ady Ayesha, wife of the %ro#het, "other of &elievers,may Allah be #leased with her, who related that the "essenger of Allah, #raise and#eace be u#on him, said this

PROPOSAL OF MARRIAGE

QUALITIES TO SEEK IN A WIFE|H '()A woman is sought in marriage on account of four things* herwealth, her influence, her beauty or her religion %ros#er with theone of religion, otherwise you will own nothing but dust!

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to Abu Hurairah who related that the %ro#het,#raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

PENDING PROPOSAL

|H 188-one of you should ma+e an offer to #urchase when the offer of

another is #ending, nor should you ma+e a #ro#osal of marriagewhen a #ro#osal of a brother is #ending, e.ce#t with the #ermissionof the latter!

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to ibn /mar who related that the "essenger ofAllah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

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|H 189A believer is the brother of a believer and it is not #ermissible for abeliever to ma+e an offer of #urchase while an offer of a brother is#ending -or is it #ermissible that one should ma+e a #ro#osal ofmarriage while a #ro#osal of his brother is #ending unless the lattergives u#!

"uslim with a chain u# to 0+bah son of Amir who related that the "essenger ofAllah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

AN UNACCEPTABLE CONDITION

|H 1823he %ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him, forbade a city dwellerfrom being a commission agent for an unaware stranger from out oftown and artificial bids He also forbade a #erson from ma+ing anoffer while the offer of his brother is #ending or that he should ma+ea #ro#osal of marriage while the #ro#osal of his brother is #endingHe also forbade a woman to attem#t to let her sister 4in 5slam6

become divorced in order that she might ta+e her #lace

3he "essenger of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, forbademeeting 4trade6 caravans in advance or that a city dweller should actas a commission agent for &edouin Arab He also forbade that awoman should ma+e it a condition of marriage that her sister 4in5slam6 should be divorced or that a #erson should ma+e an artificialbid without intending to #urchase in order to raise the #rice He alsoforbade the accumulation of mil+ in the udder of an animal toattem#t misre#resentation!

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to Abu Hurairah who related that the"essenger of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

RIGH$S OF A @IFEAllah, the Exalted says:Believers,it is unlawful for you to inherit women forcefully,neither bar them in order that you go offwith part of what you have given them,except when they commit a clear indecency.Live with them honorably.... !:"# $oran

%ou will not be able to be &ust between your women,even though you are eager.

'o not be altogether partial so that you leave heras if she were suspended.(f you reform and are cautious,

Allah is the )orgiver, the *erciful. !:"+# $oran

TREATMENT OF WOMEN

|H 273reat women +indly oman was created from a rib and the most


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bent #art of the rib is the u##ermost 5f you try to straighten it you willbrea+ it, but if you leave it alone it will remain bent o treat women+indly

A woman is li+e a rib: if you try to straighten it you will brea+ it 5f youwish to benefit from her you can do so regardless of its bending

oman has been created from a rib and you cannot straighten her5f you wish to benefit from her do so regardless of the bend 5f youtry to straighten her you will brea+ her, and brea+ing her meansdivorce!


WIFE ABUSE

|H 2)5 4Abdullah son of ;ama6 heard the %ro#het, #raise and #eace beu#on him, deliver a sermon in which he mentioned the she?

3hen someone #assed wind and he admonished the #eo#le forlaughing saying* =hy do you laugh at someone when you do thesame@?

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to Abdullah son of ;ama who related this

LOOK FOR THE BEST IN YOUR SPOUSE

|H 2(-o believing husband should bear hatred to his believing wife 5f hedisli+es one uality in her, he should loo+ for another uality which is#leasing!

"uslim with a chain u# to Abu Hurairah who related that the %ro#het, #raise and#eace be u#on him, said this

HUSBAND AND WIFE RELATIONSHIP|H 223reat women +indly, they are li+e ca#tives in your hands Bou arenot owed anything by them e.ce#t that 4she #rotects her husbandsrights in herself and in his wealth6 5f they are guilty of clearindecency you may leave them alone in their beds and sla# themgently 3hen if they obey you, you do not have recourse to anythingelse against them Bou have your rights concerning your wives andthey have their rights concerning you Bour right is that they shall

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not #ermit anyone you disli+e to enter your home nor sit on your softfurnishings 3heir right is that you should be generous to them intheir clothing and food!

3irmidhi with a chain u# to Amr son of Ahwas Cashmi who related that after the%ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him, had #raised Allah and e.alted Him during

his Darewell %ilgrimage sermon he heard him say this

STRIKING ONES WIFE ON THE FACE

|H 28"uawiah as+ed the %ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him, =hatare the rights of a wife from her husband@? He re#lied* =Deed herwhen you feed yourself: clothe her when you clothe yourself, do notstri+e her on the face, do not abuse her and do not abandon here.ce#t inside the house?!

Abu Eaud with a chain u# to "uawiah son of Haidah who related this

PERFECT BELIEVER

|H 295n belief, the most #erfect believer is the one who behaves best,and the best among you are those who behave best towards theirwives!

3irmidhi with a chain u# to Abu Hurairah who related that the %ro#het, #raise and#eace be u#on him, said this

SPOUSAL COMPLAINTS

|H 8FEo not beat the female worshi#ers of Allah ome time later /marcame to him saying* =/ur women have become very audacious

towards their husbands? o he #ermitted them to be smac+ed3hereafter a large number of women came to the wives of the%ro#het, may Allah be #leased with them, and com#lained againsttheir husbands 3he %ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him,announced* ="any women have come to my wives com#lainingagainst their husbands uch men are not the best among of you>?!

Abu Eaud with a chain u# to 5yas son of Abdullah who related that the %ro#het,#raise and #eace be u#on him, warned this

REWARD FOR PLEASING ONE'S HUSBAND

|H 8(5f a woman dies and her husband is #leased with her she will enter%aradise!

3irmidhi with a chain u# to $ady 0mm alamah, wife of the %ro#het, "other of&elievers, may Allah be #leased with her, who related that the "essenger of Allah,#raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

AROUSING THE ANGER OF ONES HUSBAND

|H 82henever a woman angers her husband, his Gom#anion from

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among the houris of %aradise says to her* ="ay Allah ruin you, donot anger him because he is only your guest and will soon leave youto come to us?

3irmidhi with a chain u# to "uaz son of Cabal who related that the %ro#het, #raiseand #eace be u#on him, said this

VALUE OF A GOOD WOMAN

|H 813he world is but an enjoyment and the best enjoyment of the worldis a good woman!

"uslim with a chain u# to Abdullah son of Amr son of Al As who related that the"essenger of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

RIGH$S OF A HUSBAN.Allah, the Exalted, says:*en are the maintainers of womenfor that Allah has preferred in bounty

one of them over another,and for that they have spent of their wealth.1ighteous women are obedient,guarding in secret that which Allah has guarded.... !:2! $oran

CURSE OF THE ANGELS

|H 8hen a husband calls his wife to his bed and she does not comeand he s#ends the night angry with her, the angels curse herthroughout the night!

e are informed* hen a wife s#ends the night away from her

husbands bed, the angels curse her throughout the night!

&y Him in whose Hands is my life, when a husband calls his wife tohis bed and she refuses him, He who is in heaven is angry with hertill her husband is #leased with her!


PERMISSION REQUIRED FOR A WIFE TO FAST VOLUNTARILY

|H 8'5t is not #ermissible for a woman to fast voluntarily when her

husband is at home, unless he gives her #ermission -or should she#ermit anyone to enter his house without his #ermission!


ACCOUNTABILITY

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Ivery one of you is a guardian and is held accountable for thatwhich he is entrusted A ruler is a guardian and is held accountablefor that which is in his care A man is a guardian in res#ect of hishousehold, a woman is a guardian in res#ect of her husbandshouse and children 3herefore each one of you is a guardianaccountable for whatever is in your care!

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to 5bn /mar who related* the "essenger ofAllah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

NEEDS OF ONE'S HUSBAND

|H 8)hen a man calls his wife to satisfy his desire, she should go tohim even if she is ma+ing bread 5f 5 were to order a #erson to#rostrate to another, 5 would order the woman to #rostrate to herhusband!

3irmidhi with a chain u# to Abu Hurairah who related that the "essenger of Allah,#raise and #eace be u#on him, said this and -isai with a chain u# to Abu Ali 3al

son of Ali who related the "essenger of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, saidthis

SPOUSAL ARGUMENTS

|H (9A man is not to be as+ed 4by others6 why he fought with his wife!

Abu Eaud with a chain u# to /mar who related that the Holy %ro#het, #raise and#eace be u#on him, said this

TRIAL

|H 885 am not leaving a more harmful trial for men than women!

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to /sama son of ;aid who related that the%ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

DESCRIPTION OF A WOMAN TO ONE'S HUSBAND

|H 1291Eo not let a woman feel another woman and then describe her toher husband in such detail as if he was loo+ing at her!

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to ibn "asud who related that the "essengerof Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

.IOR>EAllah, the Exalted says:-hen you have divorced womenand they have reached the end of their waiting period,either eep them in indness or let them go with indness.But you shall not eep them, being harmful, in order to transgress.-hoever does that wrongs himself.

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'o not tae the verses of Allah in mocery.1emember the favor of Allah upon you,and what 3e sent down to you fromthe Boo and -isdom to exhort you.)ear Allah and now that 3e has nowledge of everything. +:+2" $oran

RECONCILIATION|H )Fhosoever brings about the reconciliation between #eo#le andattains good or says that which is good is not a liar

5 40mm Julthum, daughter of the %ro#het, may Allah be #leasedwith her6, did not hear him a##rove of what most #eo#le say 4whenthey lie6 e.ce#t in three situations* war, reforming between #eo#le,and tal+ between a husband and wife!&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to 0mm Julthum, daughter of the %ro#het, may

Allah be #leased with her, related that she heard the %ro#het, #raise and #eace beu#on him, say this

HUSBAND AND WIFE SUCKLED BY THE SAME SUCKLING

MOTHER

|H )9(0+bah married a daughter of Abu 5hab, son of Abdul Aziz $ater awoman came to him and said that she had suc+led both of them0+bah told her, =5 had no +nowledge that you suc+led me, neitherdid you tell me? o he rode to the %ro#het, #raise and #eace beu#on him, in "edina and #ut the matter before him 3he %ro#het,#raise and #eace be u#on him, said, =-ow that you +now this, howcan you continue@? o 0+bah divorced her and she marriedsomeone else!

&u+hari with a chain u# to 0+bah the son of Harith who related this hadith

CHOICE

|H 78Goncerning &urairah and her husband the %ro#het, #raise and#eace be u#on him, said to her* =5t is #referable that you go bac+ tohim? he re#lied* =/ "essenger of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#onhim, do you order me@? He re#lied* =5 only intercede? he said* =5 donot need him?!

&u+hari with a chain u# to ibn Abbas who related this

WIFE OF OMAR

|H '''3he son of /mar had a wife whom he loved but his father disli+edHis father as+ed him to divorce her but he refused /mar mentionedthe matter to the %ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him, and hetold him* Eivorce her

-e would lie to draw your attention to the notes of 'r. 4ubhi Al

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4alih notes followed by those of 4hayh Ahmad 'arwish

'r 4ubhi said, (t is nown that the *essenger, praise and peace beupon him, hated divorce and he said that 56he most hated lawfuldeed before Allah is divorce.5 3owever, in this case he wanted toguide the son of 7mar to be good to his father. 7n the other hand

7mar would not have ordered his son to divorce his wife had he notfeared that she would lead him to harm in his life and in his religion.

4hayh Ahmad 'arwish said: 7ne must not forget the spiritual ranand imamship of 7mar and how satan did not wal in same roadthat 7mar waled, and that the 8rophet, praise and peace be uponhim, ordered us to follow the guided 9aliphs and so forth. 6his3adith is in no way to be taen out of context as has been the

practice in some Asian families where the mother or other relatives,group together to cause a divorce for no valid (slamic reason.

Abu Eaud and 3irmidhi with a chain u# to 5bn /mar who related this

PROTECT OR DEMOLISH

|H ''7A man came to Abu Earda and said* =5 have a wife and my mothertells me to divorce her? Abu Earda told him that he had heard the%ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him, say* =A father is a mediandoor of %aradise 5f you wish you may demolish it, or if you wish youmay #rotect it?

3irmidhi with a chain u# to Abu Earda who related this

>HIL.RENCONCEPTION AND PREDESTINATION

|H '92Iach one of you: his creation is determined when he is in hismothers womb, forty days as a dro#, then it becomes a clot for thesame 4forty days6 then it becomes a chewed 4#iece of flesh6 for thesame 4forty days6, then the angel is sent who breathes into it thesoul then he is ordered with four words* His #rovision, his life s#an,his deeds, and whether he is unfortunate or ha##y 3hen by He whothere is no god e.ce#t Him, one of you 4e.am#le of the hy#ocrite6behaves li+e a dweller of %aradise until there is left between himand it the distance of only the length of an arm and then that whichis recorded overta+es him and he begins to behave li+e the

inhabitants of the Dire and eventually enters it 3hen there is the oneamongst you 4who is not a hy#ocrite6 who behaves li+e theinhabitants of the Dire until there is only left between him and it thelength of an arm: then what is recorded overta+es him and hebegins to behave li+e the dwellers of %aradise and eventually entersit!

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to ibn "asud who related that the "essengerof Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, the confirmed, the truthful, told us this

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FAVORITISM

H 185 4&ashir6 too+ my son 4-uman6 to the %ro#het, #raise and #eacebe u#on him, and told him, =5 have given one of my slaves to thisson? 3he "essenger of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him,

as+ed, =Eid you give a similar gift to each of your children@?hereu#on 5 re#lied, =-o? 3he "essenger of Allah, #raise and#eace be u#on him, said, =3hen ta+e this gift bac+?!

e are also informed*3he %ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him, as+ed, =Eid you do thesame for all your children@? 5 answered, =-o? 3he "essenger of

Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, then told me, =&e mindful ofyour obligation to Allah and be just among your children?hereu#on my father too+ bac+ his gift

e are also informed*

3he "essenger of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, as+ed,=&ashir, do you have other children than this one@? 3o this 5 re#lied,Bes? 3he "essenger of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, as+edme, =Eid you give them all a gift li+e this@? 5 re#lied, =-o?hereu#on the "essenger of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him,said, =3hen do not ma+e me a witness because 5 will not be awitness to a wrong? 3hen he as+ed, =ouldnt you li+e it if each oneof them behaved well towards you@? 5 re#lied, =5ndeed? 3he"essenger of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, advised, =3henwhy dont you@?

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to -uman, the son of &ashir who related that

the "essenger of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

AFFECTION

|H (3he %ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him, +issed his grandsonHasan, the son of Ali Ara the son of Habis was with them at thattime and said* =5 have ten sons and have never +issed any of them?3he %ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him, loo+ed at him andsaid* =He who has no com#assion will receive none?!

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to Abu Hurairah who related this

KISS YOUR CHILDREN

|H 2ome Arab &edouins came to the %ro#het, #raise and #eace beu#on him, and as+ed =Eo you +iss your children@? He answered*=Bes? 3hen they said* =e never +iss ours? He said* =Gan 5 hel# it if

Allah has ta+en com#assion from your hearts@?!

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to $ady Ayesha, "other of &elievers, wife ofthe %ro#het, may Allah be #leased with her, who related this

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COMPASSION

|H ')(hosoever neither has com#assion on our children nor honors ourelders is not of us!

Abu Eaud and 3irmidhi with a chain u# to Amr the son of huaib who related on theauthority of his father and grandfather that the "essenger of Allah, #raise and#eace be u#on him, said this

REWARD FOR SPENDING ON YOUR CHILDREN

|H 91he 4$ady 0mm alamah, may Allah be #leased with her6, as+edthe %ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him, =ill 5 receive a rewardif 5 s#end on my children from my first husband@ 5 cannot leave themrunning about here and there in search of a living? He answered*=Bes, you will receive a reward for whatever you s#end on them?

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to $ady 0mm alamah wife of the %ro#het,

"other of &elievers, may Allah be #leased with her related this

TREATMENT OF DAUGHTERS

|H (9A woman came with her two daughters to me 4$ady Ayesha6begging 5 had nothing to give e.ce#t a single date which 5 gave toher he divided it between her daughters but did not eat any of itherself 3hen she got u# and left hen the %ro#het, #raise and#eace be u#on him, came 5 told him about it He said* =/ne who istried raising daughters and treats them well will find that they willbecome the shield from the Dire?

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to $ady Ayesha, wife of the %ro#het, "other of&elievers, may Allah be #leased with her, who related this

FREEDOM FROM THE FIRE

|H 2FA #oor woman came to me with her two daughters 5 4$ady

Ayesha6 gave her three dates he gave one to each daughter andwas about to eat the third when her daughters as+ed for it o shebro+e it into two and gave half to each of her daughters 5 wastouched by her action and mentioned what she had done to the%ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him, he said* =Allah hasa##ointed %aradise for her because of this? /r he said* =Allah hasfreed her from the Dire because of this?!

$ady Ayesha, wife of the %ro#het, "other of &elievers, may Allah be #leased withher, who related this

BLESSINGS OF RAISING DAUGHTERS

|H (8hosoever raises two girls from childhood to maturity will a##earon the Eay of Cudgment joined to me li+e two fingers of a hand3hen he joined his two fingers!

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"uslim with a chain u# to Anas who related that the %ro#het, #raise and#eace be u#on him, said this

HOW TO BATHE A CHILD

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hen they were about to bathe little $ady ;ainab, may Allah be#leased with her, the %ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him,directed them to begin with her right side followed by the #arts thatare washed in the ablution!

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to 0mm Atiyyah who related this

CHILDREN AND PRAYER

|H 'F1As soon as your children reach the age of seven, order them to#ray, and #unish them if they do not hen they reach the age often #ut them in se#arate beds!

Abu Eaud with a chain u# to Amr son of huaib who related from his grandfatherthrough his father that the %ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him, directed this

A TEN YEAR OLD CHILD WHO DOES NOT PRAY

|H 'Fhen a boy reaches the age of seven teach him how to #ray, and#unish him if he reaches the age of ten and does not #ray!

/rder a boy to #ray when he reaches seven years of age!

Abu Eaud and 3irmidhi with a chain u# to abrah son of "aabad Cuhni who relatedthat the %ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

ORPHANS'o not oppress the orphan,nor drive away the one who ass. #2:#"; $oran

THE MERIT OF CARING FOR ORPHANS

|H ('hosoever ta+es care of an or#han, he and 5 will be li+e thistogether in %aradise 3o demonstrate the closeness, he raised hisfore and middle finger joined together!

&u+hari with a chain u# to ahl the son of aad who related that the %ro#het,#raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

ORPHANS AND PARADISE

|H (7hosoever ta+es care of an or#han, related or otherwise, he and 5will be li+e these two in %aradise 3o demonstrate, he raised his foreand middle fingers joined together!

"uslim with a chain u# to Abu Hurairah who related that the %ro#het, #raise and

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#eace be u#on him, said this

SEVEN DANGEROUS THINGS

|H 1()83here are seven very dangerous things which you must avoid 3he%ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him, was as+ed, =/ "essenger

of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, what are they@? Heanswered* Associating anything with Allah orcery 0njustly +illinga life declared sacred by Allah Gonsuming interest Gonsuming the#ro#erty of the or#han Gowardice in battle Galumniating chaste,innocent believing women?


FAMILY EPEN.I$UREAllah, the Exalted says:... it is for the father to provide for them

and clothe them with indness... +:+22 $oran

Let the rich spend according to his wealthand for he whose provision is little,let him spend from what Allah has given him.

Allah does not charge a soulexcept with that 3e has given him.4urely, Allah will bring ease after difficulty. $oran

..... -hatsoever you expend 3e will replace it..... 2!:2# $oran

HIGHEST REWARD FOR CHARITY

|H 89/f the dinar 4gold coin6 you s#end in the Gause of Allah: the dinaryou s#end to #rocure the freedom of a slave: the dinar you give incharity to the #oor and the dinar you s#end on your wife andchildren, the highest in reward is for the one you s#end on your wifeand children!


BEST FORMS OF CHARITY

|H 9F3he best dinars s#ent are those s#ent on ones wife and children,

the dinar s#ent on his horse in the Gause of Allah, and the dinars#ent on his Gom#anions in the Gause of Allah!

"uslim with a chain u# to 3hauban son of &uhdud who related that the %ro#het,#raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

REWARD FOR SEEKING THE PLEASURE OF ALLAH

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Euring a long conversation the %ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#onhim, told aad, =hatever you s#end see+ing thereby the #leasureof Allah will have its reward, even that which you #ut in the mouth ofyour wife?!

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to aad son of Abi aas who related that

the "essenger of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

CHARITY TO ONE'S FAMILY

|H 9'hen a #erson s#ends on his wife and children ho#ing for areward, it is a charitable act!

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to Abu "asud &adri who related that the"essenger of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

DENYING A DEPENDANT

|H 975t is a sin for a #erson to deny the right of a de#endent 5t is indeed

a sin for a #erson to withhold what is due from one whose livingde#ends u#on him!

Abu Eaud and "uslim with a chain u# to Abdullah the son of Amr, son of Al As whorelated that the "essenger of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

SPEND ON YOUR DEPENDENTS

|H )11/ son of Adam, if you were to s#end whatever is left over it will bebetter for you 5f you withhold it, it will be evil for you Bou will not beblamed for +ee#ing that which you need &egin by s#ending u#onyour de#endents!

3irmidhi with a chain u# to Abu 0mamah who related that the %ro#het, #raise and#eace be u#on him, said this

SUPPLICATION OF THE ANGELS

|H 9)Iveryday two angels descend /ne of them says* ="ay Allah,increase those who s#end? 3he other says* ="ay Allah, ruin themiser?!

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to Abu Hurairah who related that the%ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

CHARITY BEGINS AT HOME|H 9(3he u##er hand 4the donor6 is better than the lower 4the reci#ient6and begin with your de#endents: and the best charity is from yoursur#lus hosoever abstains from as+ing will be shielded by Allah:and he who does without will be made rich by Allah!

&u+hari with a chain u# to Abu Hurairah who related that the %ro#het, #raise and#eace be u#on him, said this

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FALSE PA$ERNI$YPENALTY FOR CLAIMING FALSE PATERNITY

|H 18)'hosoever attributes his #aternity to someone other than his father+nowing that he is not his father will be e.cluded from %aradise!

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to aad the son of Abi a++as who relatedthat the "essenger of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

REJECTION OF YOUR FATHER

|H 18)7Eo not reject your fathers hosoever turns away from his father isguilty of disbelief!


CURSE OF ALLAH

|H 18))Euring a sermon delivered from a #ul#it, 5 4Bazeed, son of haree+6heard 5mam Ali say, =&y Allah, we have no other &oo+ e.ce#t theHoly Joran which we read and this record? 3hen he s#read it o#enand in it there were camel teeth 4used as writing media6, and someorders regarding regulations concerning injuries 5t also contained asaying of the "essenger of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him,that the Gity is forbidden between the mountain of Ayr u# to themountain of 3hawr 3herefore anyone who introduces an innovationin this area, or gives shelter to an innovator is subject to the curse of

Allah, His angels, and all humanity Allah will not acce#t anye.#iation or com#ensation from him on the Eay of Kesurrection

All "uslims have one covenant and the least among themre#resents it Anyone who violates a "uslims covenant will becursed by Allah, His angels and all humanity Allah will acce#tneither e.#iation nor com#ensation from him on the Eay ofKesurrection

hosoever attributes false #aternity to himself, or a slave who runsaway from his master to someone else, the curse of Allah, angelsand all humanity will rest u#on him and Allah will acce#t neithere.#iation nor com#ensation from him on the Eay of Kesurrection!

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to Bazeed, the son of haree+, the son of 3ariwho related this

FALSE CLAIMS

|H 18)(hosoever deliberately lets himself be +nown as the son of otherthan his father is guilty of disbelief, and whosoever claimssomething that does not belong to him is not one of us $et him#re#are his seat in Hell> 5f anyone calls another an unbeliever or an

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enemy of Allah and he is not, the charge will revert to the accuser?

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to Abu Eharr who related that the "essengerof Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

@I.O@S

LOOK AFTER WIDOWS AND THE NEEDY|H ((He who wor+s to su##ort widows and the needy is li+e one whostrives in the Gause of Allah! 43he narrator also said that he thoughtthat the %ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him, added*6 and li+ethe one who stands #raying all night, never sto##ing, and li+e theone who fasts and never brea+s it!

RESPE>$ AN. HONORING PAREN$SAllah, the Exalted says:-orship Allah and do not associate anything with 3im.Be ind to parents and near insmen,

to the orphans and to the needy,to your neighbor who is your indred,and to the neighbor at your far side,and the companion at your side,and to the destitute traveler,and to that which your right hand owns.

Allah does not love he who is proud and struts. !:2< $oran

)ear Allah, by whom you as one another,and /fear0 the wombs /lest you sever its relationship0. !:" $oran

... who &oin together what 3e has bidden to be united?

who fear their Lord and dread the evil reconing. "2:+" $oran

-e have charged the humanto be ind to his parents. +#:@ $oran

%our Lord has ordered youto worship none except 3im,and to be good to your parents.(f either or both of them attain old age with you,do not say, 5)ie on you5, nor rebue them,but spea to them with words of respect.

And lower to them the wing of humbleness

out of mercy and say:*y Lord, be merciful to them,as they raised me since ( was little. ">:+2+! $oran

And -e charged the human concerning his parents,for his mother bore him in weaness upon weaness,and his weaning was in two years.Be thanful to *eand to your parents,

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to *e is the arrival. 2":"! $oran

WHAT ALLAH LIKES MOST

|H '1He 4Abdullah the son of "asud6 as+ed* =hich action does Allahli+e most@? 3he %ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him, answered*

=3he establishing of the #rayer during its s#ecified time? 5 as+ed*=hich is ne.t@? He re#lied* =howing +indness to ones #arents? 5as+ed again* =3hen which is ne.t@? He re#lied* =Dighting in the Gauseof Allah?

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to Abdullah the son of "asud who related thathe as+ed the %ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him

HOW TO REPAY ONE'S FATHER

|H '1'-o son can re#ay his father unless he finds a slave, buys him andthen frees him!


IMPORTANCE OF FAMILY TIES

|H '1)Allah originated the creation After, the womb stood u# and said* =5sthis the #lace the human as+s Bour #rotection from being severed@?

Allah re#lied* =Bes, would you be satisfied if 5 bestow to whosoeverassociates with you, and 5 sever whosoever severs you@? 5t said* =5am satisfied? Allah said* =3his then is your #lace? 3he %ro#het,#raise and #eace be u#on him, said* =Kecite if you will the verse*

9ould it be, that if you turn away,you might mae corruption in the land andbrea the ties of inship4uch are those whom Allah has cursed maing themdeaf and blinding their eyes.5 !>:+++2 $oran

Allah, the High said 4to the wombs in a Eivine Luotation6*hosoever associates with you 5 will bestow u#on him, andwhosoever severs you 5 will sever him!


Allah, the Exalted says:As for those who brea the covenant of Allahafter accepting it,who part what 3e has commanded to be unitedand wored corruption in the land,a curse shall be laid on them,and they shall have an evil abode. "2:+= $oran

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%our Lord has ordered youto worship none except 3im,and to be good to your parents.(f either or both of them attain old age with you,do not say: 5)ie on you5, nor rebue them,but spea to them with words of respect.

And lower to them the wing of humblenessout of mercy and say:*y Lord, be merciful to them,as they raised me since ( was little. ">:+2+! $oran

MAJOR SINS

|H ''(hall 5 tell you what are the major sins@ 4He re#eated this threetimes6 e said, =Gertainly, / "essenger of Allah, #raise and #eacebe u#on him, he said, Association of others with Allah Eisobeyingyour #arents: 4until that #oint he had been leaning on a #illow, thensuddenly he sat u#6, telling a lie, and giving false testimony He

re#eated this last 4sin6 so many times that we wished he wouldsto#!

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to Abu &a+arah -ufaithe son of Harith whorelated that the "essenger of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

MORE MAJOR SINS

|H ''2"ajor sins are* Association of anything with Allah Eisobeying ones#arents "urder &earing false witness!

&u+hari with a chain u# to Abdullah the son of Amr, son of Al As who related thatthe "essenger of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

ABUSING ONE'S PARENTS

|H ''8Abusing ones #arents is a major sin He was as+ed* =/ "essengerof Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, can a #erson abuse his#arents@? He answered* =Bes? if he abuses someone elses father,the latter will then abuse his father 5f he abuses someone elsesmother, the latter will then abuse his mother?

/ne of the most heinous sins is for someone to curse his #arentsHe was as+ed, / "essenger of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#onhim, how can someone curse his #arents@ He re#lied, =hen he

abuses someone elses father, the latter turns to be abusive to hisfather 5f he abuses someone elses mother, the latter turns to beabusive to his mother?

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to Abdullah the son of Amr, son of Al As whorelated that the %ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

FORBIDDING OF ALLAH

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Allah has forbidden you* Eisobedience to your #arents "iserlinessDalse witness &urying living baby girls And He disa##roves of idletal+ I.cessive uestioning and wastefulness!

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to "ughirah the son of hubah who relatedthat the %ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

IMPORTANCE OF YOUR MOTHER

|H '1(A man as+ed, =/ "essenger of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#onhim, of all #eo#le who is the most entitled to +indness and goodcom#any from me@? He re#lied, =Bour mother? 3he man as+edagain, =And after her@? He re#lied, =Bour mother? =And after her@? Here#lied, =Bour mother? =3hen after her@? He as+ed, =Bour father?!

e are also informed: A man as+ed* =/ "essenger of Allah, #raiseand #eace be u#on him, who is best entitled to good com#any fromme@? He answered, =Bour mother, and then your mother, and then

your mother, then your father, your near relations, and your nearrelations?!

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to Abu Hurairah who related that a man cameto the %ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him, and as+ed this

DISOBEDIENCE TO ONES MOTHER

|H 18'1"ughirah the son of hubah dictated a letter to me 4arrad6addressed to "uawiah in which it said that the %ro#het, #raise and#eace be u#on him, used to su##licate at the end of each obligatory#rayer, =3here is no god e.ce#t Allah, who is /ne and has noassociate His is the Jingdom and His is the #raise and He has

#ower to do all that He wills / Allah, none can #revent what Bougive and none can give what Bou withhold $ineage does not availagainst Bou?

His letter continued to tell that the %ro#het, #raise and #eace beu#on him, forbade idle tal+, waste of wealth and #ersistent as+ingHe also forbade disobedience to mothers, burying of live femalebabies, the #revention of giving, and #ersistent ta+ing!&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to arrad, the scribe of "ughirah, who relatedthis

LOOK AFTER YOUR AGING PARENTS|H '12"ay his nose be rubbed in the dust, may his nose be rubbed in thedust, may his nose be rubbed in the dust M those who find their#arents, one or both, reaching old age 4and do not serve them6 andbecause of this do not enter %aradise!


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KINDNESS TO ONE'S PARENTS EVEN IF THEY ARE HOSTILE

|H '18A man said, =/ "essenger of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him,my relatives are such that 5 have associated with them but theysever, 5 am +ind to them but they ill


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"uslim with a chain u# to Abdullah the son of Einar said this

KINDNESS TO ONE'S PARENT'S FRIENDS

|H '7'Abdullah the son of /mar was traveling to "ecca and became tired

riding his camel: so he wound a turban around his head and rodehis don+ey instead

As he was riding he met a &edouin Arab and as+ed him, =Arent youso and so, the son of so and so@? 3he man re#lied, =Bes, indeed?3hereu#on Abdullah gave him the don+ey and said, =Kide it? and hegave him his turban saying, =ind it around your head? ome of hiscom#anions said to him, ="ay Allah forgive you, you have given this&edouin your easy riding don+ey and the turban you wound roundyour head? He said, =5 heard the %ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#onhim, say, =/f the highest virtue is that a #erson should be +ind to themembers of a family who had been the friends of ones father before

his death?!"uslim with a chain u# to the son of Einar narrates the story of Abdullah the son of/mar

DESIRABLE ACTS FOR ONE'S DECEASED PARENTS

|H '77"ali+ and some Gom#anions were sitting with the %ro#het, #raiseand #eace be u#on him, when a man of the &ani alamah cameand as+ed, =/ "essenger of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, isthere any +indness 5 can do for my #arents after their death@?He answered, =Bes, #ray for them and as+ for their forgivenessDulfill their #romises, be +ind to their relatives and honor their

friends?

Abu Eaud with a chain u# to "ali+ the son of Kabia aidi who related this

FRIENDS OF LADY KHADIJAH

|H '7)5, 4$ady Ayesha6, did not feel as wishful to any of the %ro#het?swives as 5 did to $ady Jhadijah 4in serving Allah and His %ro#het6,may Allah be #leased with them, even though 5 had never seen her3he %ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him, mentioned her oftenhen a goat was slaughtered, he would cut it into #ieces and sendit to Jhadijahs friends ometimes 5 would say to him, =Bou s#ea+ of

her as if there never was any other woman in the world besideJhadijah? He would re#ly, =he was such and such, and 5 hadchildren from her?!

e are also informed*hen he slaughtered a goat he would send as many #ieces ofmeat as gifts that he could for her friends!

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hen a goat was slaughtered he would say, =end some of it toJhadijahs friends? /n one occasion, Halah the daughter ofJhuwailad, sister of $ady Jhadijah as+ed the %ro#hets #ermissionto enter 3his 4#olite6 mannerism reminded him of $ady Jhadijahand he was dee#ly moved He e.claimed, =/ Allah, let it be Halahthe daughter of Jhuwailad?

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to $ady Ayesha, wife of the %ro#het, "other of&elievers who related this

IMITATING GOOD MANNERS

|H '7(Anas went on a journey with Carir the son of Abdullah &ujali Carirserved Anas even though he was older than himself Anas said tohim, =Eont do this? He re#lied, =5 saw the Ansar serve the %ro#het,#raise and #eace be u#on him, with such devotion that 5 made avow that whenever 5 am in the com#any of any of them 5 wouldserve them?

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to Anas the son of "ali+ who related this

RELA$IESAllah, the Exalted says:%ou shall not attain righteousnessuntil you spend of what you love...... 2:#+ $oran

Believers,spend of the good you have earnedand of that which -e have brought outof the earth for you.

And do not intend the bad of it for your spending?while you would never tae it yourselves,except you closed an eye on it...... +:+ $oran

THE GARDEN OF ABU TALHA

|H 92Abu 3alha was the wealthiest #erson from the tribe of Ansar in"edina He owned groves of date #alms but the #ro#erty he lovedbest was a garden called &airaha! which was o##osite the "osue5t was there that the %ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him, wouldgo to drin+ its #ure water hen this verse was sent down, %oushall not attain righteousness until you spend of what you love...C

2:#+Abu 3alha went to the %ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him,and said, =/ "essenger of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him,

Allah has sent down to you, %ou shall not attain righteousness untilyou spend of what you love...and the #ro#erty 5 love most is&airaha! 3herefore 5 offer it in charity for the sa+e of Allah, ho#ingfor its reward from Allah 4%lease6 dis#ose of it / "essenger of

Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, in the way Allah would directyou? 3he %ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him, re#lied, 5ndeed,

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this is a very good #ro#erty, a very good #ro#erty 5 have heard whatyou said, and 5 thin+ you should divide it among your relatives? Abu3alha said, =5 will do that, / "essenger of Allah, #raise and #eacebe u#on him? o he divided it among his cousins and relatives!

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to Anas who related that the "essenger of

Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

IMPORTANCE OF MATERNAL RELATIVES

|H '19hosoever desires an increase in his #rovision and for his days tobe lengthened let him connect with his maternal relatives!

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to Anas who related that the %ro#het, #raiseand #eace be u#on him, said this

STATUS OF YOUR MATERNAL AUNT

|H '')Bour mothers sister warrants the same status of your mother!

3irmidhi with a chain u# to &raa the son of Azib who related this

TIES OF KINSHIP

|H '/ne who reci#rocates by doing good is not the one who u#holdsthe ties of +inshi# Kather, it is the one who reconciles them whenthe other #arty brea+s away!

&u+hari with a chain u# to Abdullah son of Amr who related that the "essenger ofAllah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

IMPORTANCE OF KINSHIP

|H ''3he womb 4the ties of blood relationshi#6 is sus#ended from the3hrone of Allah and #roclaims, =Allah will connect with whosoeverconnects with me, and Allah will sever 4Himself6 from whosoeversevers themselves from me?!

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to $ady Ayesha, wife of the %ro#het, "other of&elievers, may Allah be #leased with her, who related that the %ro#het, #raise and#eace be u#on him, said this

MATERNAL UNCLES

|H '7

$ady "aimunah, may Allah be #leased with her, freed a bondedservant without as+ing the %ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him,hen if was time for him to visit her she said, =/ "essenger of

Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, do you +now that 5 have freedmy bonded servant@ He as+ed, =5ndeed@? he re#lied, =Bes? 3henhe told her, =Had you given her to your maternal uncles it wouldhave been better still?

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Allah be #leased with her, "other of &elievers, the daughter of Harith related this

KINDNESS TOWARDS ONE'S UNBELIEVING MOTHER

|H ')4hen6 $ady Ayeshas mother was an unbeliever she went to visither so $ady Ayesha, may Allah be #leased with her, and as+ed the

%ro#het, #raise and #eace be u#on him, ="y mother has come tosee me and wants me to give her something, shall 5 #lease her@? Here#lied, =Bes, be +ind to your mother?!

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to $ady Asmaa the daughter of Abu &a+r, mayAllah be #leased with them, who related this

QUESTION OF HERACLIUS, EMPEROR OF ROME

|H '24Heraclius, Im#eror of Kome as+ed6, =hat does he 4the %ro#het,6teach you@? Abu ufyan re#lied* =He teaches us to worshi# Allahalone and not to associate anything with Him 3o abandon what ourancestors said and he commands us to establish the #rayer, to tellthe truth, to be chaste and to strengthen the ties of +inshi#?

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to Abu ufyan who related that during thecourse of his meeting with Heraclius the latter as+ed him this

NEGLECT OF DISTANT RELATIVES

|H '8oon you will conuer a land 4Igy#t6 in which there is a irat 4acoin of little value6!

e are informed, oon you will conuer Igy#t, in some #arts aairat is used Gharge each other to treat its #eo#le +indly, because

they have rights and a blood relationshi# 4$ady Haggar, wife of%ro#het Abraham, the mother of 5shmael, also "ary, the mother of

Abraham, the son of %ro#het "uhammad, #raise and #eace beu#on him6!

"uslim with a chain u# to Abu Eharr who related that the %ro#het, #raise and#eace be u#on him, said this

RESPONSIBILITY TO ONES SELF

|H '9hen this verse was revealed, -arn your tribe and your nearinsmen. +


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"uslim with a chain u# to Abu Hurairah who related this

YOUR OBLIGATIONS

|H ''F3he children of so and so are not my friends "y friends are Allah

and #ious "uslims &ut 5 am related to them so 5 will continue tofulfill my obligations!

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to Amr the son of Al As who related that heheard the "essenger of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him, say o#enly withoutany attem#t to conceal

CONDITIONS OF PARADISE

|H ''1A man said, =/ "essenger of Allah, #raise and #eace be u#on him,tell me something which will cause me to be admitted to %aradiseand rescue me from the Dire? He answered, =3he worshi# of Allahand do not associate anything with Him: establishment of the #rayer:

#ayment of the obligatory charity, and to associate with your bloodrelatives?

&u+hari and "uslim with a chain u# to Abu Ayub Jhalid, the son of ;aid Ansari whorelated this

CHARITY AND KINDNESS

|H ''hen you brea+ the fast, brea+ it with a date because there isblessing in it, but if you cannot find a date, then water because it is#ure! He continued, Niving alms to someone who is #oor is charity,but to a relative it is both charity and +indness!

3irmidhi with a chain u# to alman the son of Amir who related that the %ro#het,#raise and #eace be u#on him, said this

RELATIVES WHO ILL-TREAT ONE ANOTHER

|H ()A man said, =/ "essenger of Allah, my relatives are such that 5associate with them but they sever 5 am +ind to them but they illEKORAN

RECONCILIATION

HUSBAND AND WIFE SUCKLED BY SAME SUCKLING MOTHER

CHOICE

WIFE OF OMAR

PROTECT OR DEMOLISH

>HIL.RENCONCEPTION AND PREDESTINATION

FAVORITISM

AFFECTION

KISS YOUR CHILDREN

COMPASSION

REWARD FOR SPENDING ON YOUR CHILDREN

TREATMENT OF DAUGHTERS

FREEDOM FROM THE FIRE

BLESSINGS OF RAISING DAUGHTERS

HOW TO BATHE A CHILD

CHILDREN AND PRAYER

THE TEN YEAR OLD CHILD WHO DOES NOT PRAY

ORPHANSKORAN

THE MERIT OF CARING FOR ORPHANS

ORPHANS AND PARADISE

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SEVEN DANGEROUS THINGS

FAMILY EPEN.I$UREKORAN

HIGHEST REWARD FOR CHARITY

BEST FORMS OF CHARITY

REWARD FOR SEEKING THE PLEASURE OF ALLAH

CHARITY TO ONE'S FAMILY

DENYING A DEPENDANT

SPEND ON YOUR DEPENDENTS

SUPPLICATION OF THE ANGELS

CHARITY BEGINS AT HOME

FALSE PA$ERNI$YPENALTY FOR CLAIMING FALSE PATERNITY

REJECTION OF YOUR FATHER

CURSE OF ALLAH

FALSE CLAIMS

@I.O@SLOOK AFTER WIDOWS AND THE NEEDY

RESPE>$ & HONORING PAREN$SKORAN

WHAT ALLAH LIKES MOST

HOW TO REPAY ONE'S FATHER

IMPORTANCE OF FAMILY TIES

MAJOR SINSMORE MAJOR SINS

FORBIDING OF ALLAH

ABUSING ONE'S PARENTS

IMPORTANCE OF YOUR MOTHER

DISOBEDIENCE TO ONES MOTHER

LOOK AFTER YOUR AGING PARENTS

KINDNESS TO ONE'S PARENTS EVEN IF THEY ARE HOSTILE

PARENTAL CARE

FRIEN.S OF ONES PAREN$SFATHER'S FRIENDS

RESPECT FOR PARENT'S FRIENDSKINDNESS TO ONE'S PARENT'S FRIENDS

DESIRABLE ACTS FOR ONE'S DECEASED PARENTS

FRIENDS OF LADY KHADIJAH

IMITATING GOOD MANNERS

RELA$IESKORAN

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THE GARDEN OF ABU TALHA

IMPORTANCE OF MATERNAL RELATIVES

STATUS OF YOUR MATERNAL AUNT

TIES OF KINSHIP

IMPORTANCE OF KINSHIP

MATERNAL UNCLES

KINDNESS TOWARDS ONE'S UNBELIEVING MOTHERQUESTION OF HERACLIUS, EMPEROR OF ROME

NEGLECT OF DISTANT RELATIVES

RESPONSIBILITY TO ONES SELF

YOUR OBLIGATIONS

CONDITIONS OF PARADISE

CHARITY AND KINDNESS

RELATIVES WHO ILL-TREAT ONE ANOTHER

BREA0ING $HE $IES OF 0INSHIPSEVERING THE TIES OF KINSHIP

SEVERING KINSHIP

FAMILY OBLIGA$IONS & MANNERSKORAN

EAT IN THE NAME OF ALLAH WITH YOUR RIGHT HAND

DOUBLE REWARD FOR KINDNESS AND CHARITY

NEIGHBORSKORAN

NEIGHBORLY OBLIGATIONSLOOK AFTER YOUR NEIGHBOR

MISCHIEF AGAINST ONES NEIGHBOR

GIVE TO YOUR NEIGHBOR EVEN THOUGH IT IS A LITTLE

KINDNESS TO YOUR NEIGHBOR

INCOVENIENCING NEIGHBORS

KINDNESS TO ONES NEIGHBOR

NEAR NEIGHBORS

BEST NEIGHBOR

SPEAK WELL OR REMAIN SILENT

EXAMPLE OF THE WINNERS

.ERI.ING A PERSONS LINEAGEKORAN

SIGNS OF DISBELIEF

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