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Nikah Form Instructions
General instructions:
Both parties (Bride & the Bridegroom), witnesses, and Jama’at President should read all
instructions. Nikah form is a legal document; don’t alter, white-out or write over on this
form.
Minimum processing time for headquarters’ verification is one week from the date of
receipt of a completed form. Allow at least another week for mailing. If you plan to bring
the form for verification by hand, please call 301-879-0110 and make an appointment
before coming.
A completed Nikah form must be submitted with the following documents:
a. Marriage certificate issued by the government authority.
b. Binding Arbitration Agreement issued by U.S. Jama’at.
c. Pre-marital counseling certificate issued by U.S. or other Jama’at.
Jama’at President is responsible for ensuring that the name, member code (in sections IV
and/or IV) and all other relevant information is accurate before signing a Nikah form. Do
not sign a Nikah form if the person does not belong to your Jamaat.
Either party (bride or bridegroom) can initiate the process of Nikah form completion. Four
copies of Nikah forms are to be completed with original signatures.
The bride, bridegroom, or guardian should sign a Nikah form in the presence of witnesses
and the date of the witness signatures must be same as the date of the signatures of the
bride, bridegroom, and guardian.
Jama’at President should put the official stamp in addition to his signature. If the stamp is
not available, the President should print his name and the name of the Jama’at.
If both the bride and bridegroom are in US, and the Nikah is to be performed in the U.S.,
signatures of National Amir are not required.
In case of new converts, a waiting period of one year should be observed before a request
for permission of Nikah can be made to Hadhrat Khalifatul Masih.
The amount of dowry money (Haq Mehr) must be clearly stated in US dollars. Otherwise,
please specify the currency (Pak rupees, Canadian dollars etc.).
Dated April 4, 2018Page 1 of 3
According to the system of Jamaat, minimum dowry money for brides in Pakistan/India is
US $10,000. Prior permission from Hadhrat Khalifatul Masih is required if the dowry money
has to be less than US $10,000 in such cases.
When writing dates on the Nikah form, please spell out the month. For example, instead
of writing 4/8/2018, write April 8th 2018 to avoid confusion.
A Nikah must be announced by the Missionary/Murabbi. If this is not possible, a written
permission is required from National Amir.
After the Nikah announcement, all 4 copies the Nikah forms must be submitted to the
National headquarters for registration. Once registered, the headquarters retains two
copies for records and one copy each is returned via USPS to the bride and the bridegroom,
respectively.
FAQs pertaining to unique situations:
Who can be the bride’s guardian (Wali)? Bride’s father serves as the guardian. If for any
reason the father cannot serve as the guardian, then one of the bride’s relatives in the
following order will have to serve as the guardian (according to Fiqah Ahmadiyya):
Bride’s grandfather
Bride’s real brother
Bride’s step brother
Bride’s uncle (the brother of bride’s father)
If none of the above is available, a request is made to Hadhrat Khalifatul Masih to appoint
a guardian.
What if the bride or bridegroom was previously divorced? In case of previous divorce, a copy
of the divorce decree/certificate must be attached with the Nikah form. If the previous
divorce included a decision by the Qadha Board, a verification by the Department of Umur’
Amma regarding implementation of the decision is required before the Nikah can be
announced.
I need my Nikah forms quickly. Do you do expedited mailing? We use USPS first class mailing
which can take 5-7 business days for you to receive your completed Nikah forms within the
50-contiguous states of America. Please include a prepaid label for FedEx overnight
delivery if you need to receive your completed Nikah form urgently.
Are there any special requirements if the bride or bridegroom reside overseas? Signature of
National Amir is required if either the bride or the bridegroom reside outside the US or if
the Nikah will be performed overseas. It is important that one party should complete their
Dated April 4, 2018Page 2 of 3
part of Nikah forms before sending it to the other party. This includes all original signatures,
dates, local President’s attestation and verification from National Amir.
Are there any special requirements if the Nikah is to be performed in India? Yes. US Nikah
forms are not valid if the Nikah is to be performed in India. Jamaat Ahmadiyya India
requires the following documents in such cases:
a. Nikah forms must be obtained Qadian, India as they have a unique serial number.
b. In addition to the above mentioned general instructions, a verification letter from
National Amir U.S.A is to be attached to a completed Nikah form. The National
headquarters will issue the said letter within two weeks of receiving a completed Nikah
form. It is the responsibility of the concerned party in the US to ensure that the verification
letter is kept along with the Nikah forms as the Nikah may not be announced without it.
Dated April 4, 2018Page 3 of 3
Physical Address: Baitul-Aafiyat Mosque, 9501 Satellite Blvd Ste 103, Orlando, FL 32837-8445 Correspondence Address: 3700 Windmeadows Blvd Apt Y252, Gainesville, FL 32608-0432 Phone: (321) 800-8844 / Fax: (919) 578-3714 E-mail: [email protected] Web: www.orljamaat.org
National Headquarters: 15000 Good Hope Rd, Silver Spring, MD 20905-4120
Phone: (301) 879-0110 / Fax: (301) 879-0115 / (800)-Why-Islam E-mail: [email protected] Web: www ahmadiyya.us
In the name of Allah, the Gracious, ever Merciful
Muslims who believe in the Messiah, Mirza Ghulam Ahmad Qādiāni (May peace be on him)
Guidelines and instructions for Nikah in the USA Jamā‘at1
Here is what needs to be done – some of these instructions are not given in the Nikah forms but it is very
important that all these steps are completed in the order given below:
1. Have the civil marriage done and obtain marriage certificate. If civil marriage cannot be
performed before the Nikah then written approval from Amir USA is required that the Nikah can be
performed without the civil marriage. This approval note should be submitted with the completed
Nikah Forms to the Headquarters.
2. Four copies of the Nikah form are needed – all signatures should be original on all four copies
(photocopies of signatures are not acceptable). Marriage certificate and divorce papers (if applicable)
should be attached to each form - therefore four copies of the all the supporting documents are
required.
3. Both bride and groom must complete the “Binding Arbitration Agreement” and have this form
notarized (first 4 pages of “Binding Arbitration Agreement” document) – Effective January 1,
2015.
4. Bride and her guardian/Wali should complete the bride portion of the Nikah forms and have
witnesses (two adults) sign the forms.
5. Haq Mahr (Dower): Haq Mahr should be equivalent to groom’s income of 6 to 12 months. For
groom from USA, Huzoor (ayyadahullāhu ta‘ālā binaṣrihil-‘azīz) has fixed Ḥaq Mahr to be
US$10,000. In exceptional case groom can write to Huzoor (ayyadahullāhu ta‘ālā binaṣrihil-‘azīz) to
seek permission for amount less that the fixed amount.
6. Jamā‘at President of the bride’s Jamā‘at should complete the bride part of the forms and
sign/stamp. If groom lives outside of the US then Amīr Jamā‘at USA should also sign the form.
7. Groom should complete the groom part of the Nikah forms and have witnesses (two adults) sign the
forms.
8. A divorced groom (khula or otherwise) must complete form “Divorce Form” and submit to the local
President along with the Nikah Forms.
9. Jamā‘at President of the groom’s Jamā‘at should complete the groom part of the forms and
sign/stamp. If bride lives outside of the US then Amīr Jamā‘at USA should also sign the form.
10. Provide these forms to the missionary/president who is authorized to perform the Nikah – this
should be done at least one week prior to the Nikah date. If missionary is not available to perform
the Nikah then written approval is needed from Amir USA for any Jama’at President or another
1 These instructions were developed for the members of Orlando Jama’at but are applicable to all Jamā‘at members in USA. (Dr.
Wajeeh Bajwa, President Orlando Jamā‘at)
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person to perform the Nikah. This approval note should be submitted with the completed Nikah Forms
to the Headquarters.
11. After the Nikah is announced two witnesses should provide required information on the witness
section on page 4 and sign all forms (four of them!).
12. Missionary or the person performing the Nikah submits all four forms to the National
Headquarters (Attn: Saeed Malik, see address given below for the headquarters). The National
Headquarters registers the Nikah and sends two copies back to the person who submitted the forms.
This person then provides one copy each to the bride and groom for their records. Written
acknowledgement should be obtained from both parties that they have received the fully
executed forms.
________________________________________ _____________I have read and understand these instructions Date
Taken from: Lajna Ima'illah USA, Taleem & Tarbiyat Workbook 2015-2017 (Pages 90 and 91) Tarbiyat Program: Etiquettes and Guidelines
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GUIDELINES FOR MARRIAGE IN ISLĀM All marriages require vast stores of patience, kindness, humility, sacrifice, empathy, love, understanding, forgiveness, hard work, and endless prayers! Give it your best – it’s well worth the investment!
Pray together at every possible opportunity. Pray sincerely for one another; remind each other that the goal, individually and together, is to win Allāh’s pleasure.
Be ever mindful of the comfort, the health and the feelings of your spouse; smile often.
Safeguard the respect and honor of your spouse at all times; careless lapses in speech or action could affect your marriage adversely in the long run.
Maintain behavior that is conducive to household peace and tranquility; learn to compromise, show tolerance and how to express yourself – don’t expect mind reading skills from your spouse.
Act as guardians of one another’s property; be content and grateful for all Allāh’s bounties - as long as your spouse is providing for all reasonable needs according to his means, do not make excessive demands on him.
Whether both spouses are working outside the home or not, each should be fully aware of the household finances.
Make your spouse your main confidante, rather than your friends. Mutual trust is crucial in building a secure relationship. Be a good listener; give the most honest advice.
Consult one another in all important family matters and handle the outcome graciously, even if you have to agree to disagree. Whatever is best for your marriage and for the family unit is what is most important, not the need to be right.
No one likes to feel taken for granted or dismissed. Take time to show appreciation for what your spouse does for the family. Make time for each other, even with hectic schedules.
Try not to allow the luxury of familiarity over time make you lazy about your physical appearance in front of your spouse; the effort will not go unnoticed.
Always be inclined to overlook the minor shortcomings of your spouse and be generous in forgiving and forgetting- re-examine your own weaknesses first. Aim to resolve conflicts quickly; do not let negativity fester. Once resolved, do not regurgitate past problems.
Treat relatives of both sides equally, no matter how different their ways may be to yours; your efforts will strengthen mutual respect and affection.
Getting married should mean something, primarily that you are willing to do whatever it takes to ensure spending the rest of your lives together. Don’t start packing bags at the first sign of discord; view marriage as a lifelong sacred relationship & you’ll feel more committed to making it work. Don’t let trifles lead to situations where tempers are lost and threats of divorce are pronounced. Put issues
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into perspective realistically, and pray; if major conflict still exists, seek confidential professional / spiritual guidance from reliable sources.
In essence, dispense with selfishness, and always treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated. Follow this rule & your marriage will have a greater chance for success. Ignore this rule & turmoil or even, God Forbid, permanent failure, could be around the corner.
References / Sources for Marriage and Rishta Na’ata
www.alislam.org
www.askislam.org
www.rishtanata.us
Hazrat Amman Jan (ra) - An Inspiration for Us All-Munavara Ghauri
Power point of Rishtā Na’ata program, Detroit, MI, April 20, 2014
https://www.alislam.org/library/links/00000137.html - from Review of Religions, Nov. 1992
ETIQUETTE OF WEDDING CELEBRATIONS
Mehndi
Mehndi function can be held if desired but is not obligatory. It should be held in the bride’s home and be limited to bride’s female relatives and close friends. If the home is very small, permission may be requested to rent a space.
Mehndi function should be kept simple and money should not be wasted on:
Celebrations held on several days well before the wedding day.
Different decorations of stage and bride’s seating for each day.
A large variety of foods.
Printed invitation cards just for Mehndi party.
Expensive and excessive clothing for the bride, groom, and other family members.
Only female members of groom’s family may be invited.
The selection of songs to be sung by the bride’s friends should be decent and avoid coarse language. The songs should not promote concept of “shirk” (association of someone with Allah) or concepts of other religions.
Similar functions in name of ‘ronaq’ from the groom’s side are very strongly discouraged.
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The bride’s family provides the mehndi. The bringing of mehndi by the groom’s family is a Hindu custom and should be avoided.
Absolutely no dancing is allowed in any function.
Rukhsati (Wedding reception)
Purdah must be strictly observed with separate seating areas for men and women.
Money should NOT be wasted on:
Expensive and fancy bridal dresses for the purpose of showing off or to impressothers.
Expensive wedding invitations, excessive decoration of the house, stage, thebride’s seating.
Large variety of foods.
Playing songs or music is not permitted.
Any ring given to groom should not be made of gold.
Giving milk to drink to the groom and hiding his shoes to demand money from him should be avoided; this is a Hindu custom.
Only a female photographer/videographer is permitted on the women’s side when purdah-observing women are present. Men should not come to the women’s side for this purpose if non-family women are present.
Non-family men are not allowed to videotape at family events.
The groom and his male friends/relatives should not be called to the women’s side when purdah-observing women are present. An announcement should be made so they can put on their purdah.
Women servers only should be used on women’s side. This arrangement can be done before hand when the caterer is being selected.
At the time of Rukhsati (the bride departs with the groom) prayers should be offered instead of songs.
The bride should observe purdah when she arrives on women’s side and when she leaves with her husband. A large chador can be used for coverage.
The Holy Qur’ān should never be held over bride’s head to have her walk under it at the time of Rukhsati.
Money should not be wasted on rental of expensive cars or limousines.
Showing off the Jahaiz (things given to the bride by her parents) should not be practiced.
Gifts, money, or any form of Jahaiz from bride’s family should not be expected or demanded by groom’s family.
Giving gifts to the groom’s family or relatives from bride’s family to follow a custom should not be practiced.
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Walimah
The same guidelines as for wedding reception should be followed.
Mixed gatherings are never allowed.
It is a Sunnah (practice) of the Holy Prophet (saw) to serve food at the Walimah, but it is not necessary that it should be a lavish feast or on a large scale.
The scale of the Walimah should be according to one’s own means.
The bride’s family should not be asked to contribute to the Walimah as it is responsibility of the groom’s family.
General Recommendations for Weddings
Wedding is a time of happiness thus appropriate celebration is recommended but no ostentation.
Prayers should be offered more than anything for the new couple.
Taqwa and simplicity should be the top priority. Wastage of money on any occasion for the purpose of showing off or to impress others should be avoided in every event.
Bid’at (innovations) from non-Islamic cultures must be avoided. These include:
Gift registry
Bridal showers
Requesting “no boxed” gifts, i.e. requesting monetary gifts only.
Father walking bride into women’s side or bridegroom receiving bride inwomen’s side when non-family women are present.
Bride and groom cutting cake together when non-family women are present.
Mixed gatherings are never permitted in any function. Purdah should always be observed.
Dancing in any event is not allowed.
[Guidelines taken from the Sermons of Hazrat Khalifatul Masih V (aba)]
Physical Address: Baitul-Aafiyat Mosque, 9501 Satellite Blvd Ste 103,
Orlando, FL 32837-8445
Correspondence Address:
10901 Burnt Mill Rd Apt 1604, Jacksonville, FL 32256-2863, USA
Phone: (321) 800-8844 / Fax: (919) 578-3714
E-mail: [email protected] Web: www.orljamaat.org
National Headquarters:
15000 Good Hope Rd, Silver Spring, MD 20905-4120
Phone: (301) 879-0110 / Fax: (301) 879-0115 / (800)-Why-Islam E-mail: [email protected] Web: www.ahmadiyya.us
In the name of Allah, the Gracious, ever Merciful
Muslims who believe in the Messiah
Mirza Ghulam Ahmad of Qadian (may peace be upon him)
Nikah Form Checklist
Nikah form:
Groom – Completed and signed by the President of the groom’s Jama’at
Bride – Completed and signed by the President of the bride’s Jama’at
If one party is outside of the USA then signatures of Amir of each country
are required.
Premarital Counseling Certificate
Binding Arbitration – signed by both parties and notarized.
Divorce Form: If it is not the first marriage of the Groom (in case of the
groom has divorced (including Khula) his wife).
Court Divorce Decree (If divorce took place through the country’s legal
system).
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including reasonable attorney's fees, incurred by one side in order to obtain the other party's
performance of the terms of this Agreement.
VI. The decision of the Qadha’a Board shall be made in accordance with Ahmadiyya Jurisprudence. The
parties waive their right to contest the jurisdiction or procedures of the Qadha’a Board or the validity
of this Agreement in any other forum other than the Qadha’a Board. The parties agree to abide by the
bylaws of the Qadha’a Board (which are available by calling the Qadha’a Board). The Qadha’a
Board shall follow its bylaws, which shall govern this arbitration to the fullest extent permitted by
law.
VII. The parties agree to cooperate with the adjudication of the Qadha’a Board in every way and manner.
In the event of the failure of either party to appear before the Qadha’a Board upon reasonable notice,
the Qadha’a Board may issue its decision despite the defaulting party's failure to appear, and may
impose costs and other penalties as legally permitted.
VIII. This Agreement may be signed in one or more duplicates, each one of which shall be considered an
original.
IX. This Agreement constitutes a fully enforceable arbitration agreement. Should any provision of this
Agreement be deemed unenforceable, all other surviving provisions shall still be deemed fully
enforceable; each and every provision of this Agreement shall be severable from the other.
X. Each of the parties acknowledges that he or she has been given the opportunity prior to signing this
Agreement to consult with his or her own attorney or advisor. If a party, after careful review, chooses
not to sign this Agreement, the Qadha’a Board shall have the responsibility to inform the other party
of such failure.
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In witness of all of the above, the Prospective Husband and Prospective Wife have entered into this
Agreement:
*Please sign again only in the presence of a Notary*
ACKNOWLEDGMENT FOR PROSPECTIVE HUSBAND
STATE OF ______________________ COUNTY OF ____________________
The foregoing instrument was acknowledged before me this _____________________ (date) by
_________________________________________ (name of person acknowledged).
______________________________
Notary Public
Printed Name: _________________ My Commission Expires: _____________________
ACKNOWLEDGMENT FOR PROSPECTIVE WIFE
STATE OF ______________________ COUNTY OF ____________________
The foregoing instrument was acknowledged before me this _____________________ (date) by
_________________________________________ (name of person acknowledged).
______________________________
Notary Public
Printed Name: _________________ My Commission Expires: _____________________
SIGNATURE OF PROSPECTIVE HUSBAND: ________________________
SIGNATURE OF PROSPECTIVE WIFE: ________________________
In the Name of Allah The Most Gracious, Ever MercifulNIKAH (MARRIAGE) FORMI TO BE COMPLETED BY THE GUARDIAN OF THE BRIDE:Marriage of Miss D/o date of birth Address
is proposed with Mr. S/odate of birth Addresswith a dower money of Agreement of the proposed bride has duly been obtained.She is: (1) Never Married. (2) Widowed, and the period of waiting has passed. (3) Divorced, and the period of waiting has passed.I am the legitimate guardian of the proposed bride and am related to her as It is requested that the NIKAH ceremony be performed.Of the total proposed dower money have been received in the form ofcash/jewellery, details of which are as follows:Name of Guardian S/oComplete addressSignature DateIn case there has been a TALAQ or divorce (separation by husband) or a KHULA (separation by wife) documentsof separation must be attached with the NIKAH form.
II TO BE COMPLETED IF THE GUARDIAN CANNOT PERSONALLY ATTEND THE NIKAH CEREMONY:Since I cannot attend the NIKAH ceremony in person I hereby appoint the following to execute the instrument of NIKAHon my behalf as my representative:Name S/oAddress Signature of the Guardian DateWITNESS I Name S/oAddressSignature Date
WITNESS II Name S/oAddressSignature DateI hereby agree to act as representative of Mr.S/o on the occasion of the NIKAH ofMiss D/oSignature of the representative Date
III TO BE COMPLETED BY THE BRIDE:A. In accordance with the terms agreed upon by my Guardian mentioned above, I hereby agree to my NIKAH withMr. S/owith a dower money ofB. Of the total proposed dower money havebeen received in the form of cash/jewellery.Signature of the Bride: DateWITNESSES: We hereby testify that the above form has been dully filled in, in our presence, by the legitimate guardian of the proposed bride and that she has expressed her agreement to this NIKAH in our presence and has also signed the form in our presence.WITNESS I Name S/oAddressSignature Date
WITNESS II Name S/oAddressSignature DateIV VERIFICATION BY AMIR/PRESIDENT OF THE JAMA’AT: Member Code ______________________A. Miss D/o (1) is a born Ahmadi (2) has been Ahmadi for years.B. Mr. S/o is the bonafide guardian according to Islamic law.C. The witnesses have testified in my presence that the proposed bride has signed this form of her own free will.D. In case there has been a TALAQ or KHULA documents of separation are attached with the NIKAH form.Signature of Local President Date
Signature of National AmirDate Official Stamp
Official StampV TO BE COMPLETED BY THE BRIDEGROOM:I S/odate of birth Address solemnly affirm that I agree to my NIKAH withMiss D/owith a dower money of of which:(A) have been paid to her in the form of cash/jewellery, details of which are as follows: (B) Nothing has been paid yet and I will pay it.This is my first NIKAHThis is my second NIKAHThe first wife is presentThe former wife is deadI have divorced (Pronounced TALAQ to)the former wifeThe former wife has obtained KHULA
Signature of the Bridegroom Date
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WITNESS I Name S/oAddressSignature Date
WITNESS II Name S/oAddressSignature DateIn case of second marriage the documents pertaining to the permission by the first wife / TALAQ / KHULA must beattached with the NIKAH form.VI VERIFICATION BY AMIR/PRESIDENT OF THE JAMA’AT: Member Code ______________________A. Mr. S/o (1) is a born Ahmadi (2) has been Ahmadi for years.B. This is his first marriage.C. This is his second marriage. The first wife: (1) has granted permission to the second marriage (2) is dead (3) has been divorced (TALAQ) (4) has obtained KHULA.In case of second marriage the documents pertaining to the permission by first wife/TALAQ/KHULA are attached withthe NIKAH form. Signature of Local President Date
Signature of National AmirDate VII TO BE COMPLETED WHEN THE BRIDEGROOM CANNOT ATTEND THE MARRIAGE AGREEMENTIN PERSON:Since I cannot attend NIKAH ceremony in person I hereby appoint the following to execute the instrument of marriageon my behalf as my representative:Name S/oAddress Signature of the Bridegroom DateWITNESS I Name S/oAddressSignature DateWITNESS II Name S/oAddressSignature DateI hereby agree to act as representative of Mr.S/o on the occasion of his NIKAH.Signature of the representative Date
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Official Stamp
Official Stamp
VIIICERTIFICATION BY CENTRAL/NATIONAL MARRIAGE DEPARTMENT:A. The witnesses have testified in my presence that the proposed bride has signed this form of her own free will.B. I have thoroughly examined the above form. It is complete and fully in accordance with the regulations. Signature: Incharge Marriage Department Date and Stamp Signature: Nazir Islah-o-Irshad Date and StampIX TO BE COMPLETED AT THE TIME OF THE ANNOUNCEMENT OF NIKAH:Place of Nikah CeremonyDate of Nikah Ceremony
Person performing NikahName S/oAddress Signature DateX WITNESSES OF NIKAH CEREMONY:WITNESS I Name S/oAddress
Signature DateWITNESS II Name S/oAddress
Signature DateRegistration No. _________________________________Date: __________________________________________
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