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In SitesFor those who have or are considering adoption

http://www.nrcadoption.org/

Stress management and other topics for resource families

http://www.wifostercareandadoption.org

Numbers to Know

Foster Parent Hotline Here to Help

To assist you with problems regarding payments, policy clarification, grievance or other foster care issues.

1-800-376-9729Foster and

Adoptive ParentRecruitment Hotline

1-866-612-2565

Child Care Warmline

1-888-574-5437To listen to recorded

messages on a wide variety of child care topics, or to talk with a child development

specialist.

ADOPTION ANDPOST-ADOPTION

SERVICES

Deborah Goodman (918) 794-7544Programs Administrator

Jacquelyn Hill-Anderson (405) 522-2467Post Adoption ServicesPrograms Manager

FOSTER CARE

Joani Webster (405) 521-4360Programs Administrator

Margaret Linnemann (405) 521-3438Programs Manager

Nellie Caldwell (405) 521-2881Program Field Representative

Beverly Smith (918) 684-5362Program Field Representative

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OKDHS Resource Family Winter 2010/11

Oklahoma Department of Human Services

NEW!

Quilts of Caring Page 2

OKDHS Names Adoptive Families

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Top 10 Tips for Managing Stress

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Developing a StressManagement Plan

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Barbara Wells, Editor The University of OklahomaOutreach National Resource Center for Youth Services

Connections is publishedquarterly by the Oklahoma Department of Human Services, Children and FamilyServices Division.

Celebrating Success in AdoptionNovember was National Adoption Month, and in Oklahoma, that’s something to celebrate. Oklahoma’s SWIFT Adoptions Program was created in 1999 as a response to the passage of the Adoption and Safe Families Act of 1997. SWIFT Adoptions is a specialized unit designed to focus on removing barriers to adoption and permanency for children in Oklahoma’s child welfare system who are in need of permanent placements. By recruiting, training and maintaining a group of approved potential adoptive families, Oklahoma has been able to shift from a program of “waiting children” to one of “waiting families.” Adoption specialists are assigned to every area of the state and serve as consultants to each permanency planning group. Once the court has determined that reunification is not in the child’s best interest, adoption specialists assist the permanency staff with the process of moving children quickly toward the goal of adoption. An adoption specialist is responsible for adoptive family recruitment, assessment of the families for placement potential, and supervision of newly created families who are

moving toward finalization.Under the direction of Deborah Goodman, programs administratorfor adoptions, SWIFT Adoptions has been instrumental in changingthe face of adoption in Oklahoma.Families are recruited for children with the understanding that few willemerge unscathed from a history ofabuse, neglect and loss. Families areprepared for the special needs theirchildren will bring into the family andare offered a variety of post-adoptive services to help them successfullytransition into a stable family unit.One of the many changes inthe adoptive program is the focuson adoption by kinship providers,both relative and non-relative. The implementation of Bridge and inclusionof kinship families in planning for

permanencyhas been an important shiftin Oklahoma’s adoptionsuccess. Duringthe 2009 fiscal year, 87 percent of the1,177 children authorized into adoptive placementwere in kinship

families. For many of these children,this was a non-relative home that theyfirst entered as a foster placement.Because of that placement, a kinshipbond was formed. Although reunification is always

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The approach of the busy holiday season can be especially stressful for resource families of every type. Along with the pressures that all families deal with during the holidays, resource parents have the added stress of parenting children separated from their family of origin. For children in care, emotional and behavioral crisis is often a partner to the excitement and fun of the holiday season. Family visits or the absence of family contact can be equally challenging for children, placing an added burden upon caregivers. Whether your family is providing temporary care for a kinship child, is involved in a traditional foster care relationship or is a permanent adoptive family, the ghosts of holidays past will likely be a factor in your holiday celebrations. Recognizingthe underlying issue and preparing for the emotional and physical challenge of the season are the first steps in managing your stress. Reducing and managing stress is more effective when a plan is put into place. In the article “Stress Management: Develop a Stress Management Plan,” Ann Logsdon suggests nine statements to get started on developing a stress management plan. The worksheet to the right will help you get started.

Adapted from http://learningdisabilities.about.com/od/emotionalhealth/a/ stressmgtplan.htm

Developing a Stress Management Plan

1. Reducing stress is important to me because

2. Making a commitment to myself to create and follow my stress management plan will help me in the following ways

3. A major source of stress in my life is

4. Some things I can do that would help me feel better are

5. Two things I can do today to help my stress level are

6. Taking care of myself is important and will help me in the following ways

7. Some ways I could take care of myself are

8. Of these things listed above, the thing I could most like to try and will stick with is

9. I expect that now everyone will support my efforts to reduce stress in my life, and when this happens, some things I can do to stay with my plan are

To develop your stress management plan, you may want to answer all the questions at one time or just one statement a day and write the questions and answers in a journal. You can then use your responses as a guide for creating your stress management plan and increasing your emotional well-being for holidays and every day.

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Quilts of Caring Area I Foster Care SupervisorJamie Beck has a dream. She wants to provide Oklahoma’sfoster children with somethingsoft, warm and comforting…something with durability, flexibility and reliability;something that, figurativelyspeaking, would wrap them upand protect them from life’sharsher elements. Somethinglike a big quilt…or a dedicatedresource family.

Jamie Beck with a selection of Area I’s recruitment quilts.

OKDHS staff members were routinely taking part inrecruitment events by settingup booths at local events suchas fairs, carnivals and festivals. People attending the eventswere, just as routinely, turning their heads as they walked by, looking away toward somethingmore fun, more emotionallycomfortable than abused and neglected children. “We needed a draw,” Beck said, “something to grab theirattention and bring them into ourbooth. Something that wouldgenerate their interest so theywould stop and talk to us.”

Falling back onher love for quilting,Beck, (who supervisesresource staff in Kay, Noble, Pawnee, Payneand Logan counties) hadthe idea to create a quiltaround artwork created by children in fostercare. The plan was for the quilt to travel tovarious counties in Area I, where it would

be displayed for recruitmentevents. Knowing how few peoplecan resist the bright colors andbeautiful stitching of fine quiltwork, Jamie was hoping thequilt, with its unique artwork,would catch the eye of thosepassing by, drawing them in to find out more about the quilt andthe children who had helpedcreate it. Jamie took the idea to her staff in May 2010. Since the project was started, an explosionof interest and communityinvolvement has taken place inArea I around the production ofthese quilts. Through the hard

work and ingenuity of resourcespecialists and others across Area I, what started with one quilt quicklybecame a plan to produce 13 to beshared by Area I counties. Understanding that the sharedinterest of quilters forms acommunity of its own, Beck andher staff went to quilt shops, quilt guilds and fabric shops all over Area I, explaining their purpose. Manyshops and individuals donated fabricand supplies. They also provided a venue to circulate news about the project. The OKDHS workers of Area I asked that quilters pledge to makea quilt for them. Each quilter makingthe pledge would receive a packagecontaining 26 quilt pieces of originalartwork created by children in fostercare, four OKDHS logo squares, and

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Use Goals that are RealKeep daily goals well-focused, task-oriented

and realistic. It increases the likelihood that the goals will be achieved.

NapStudies have shown that 15-20 minute nap

breaks can improve mood, outlook and stress-handling ability.

Picture ItKeep life interesting. Take pictures

throughout the day with a phone camera while participating in everyday tasks and hobbies. They can make great discussions around the dinner table.

Eat ColorfullyThink rainbow when planning meals. Select

fruits and vegetables of different colors to ensure a well-balanced diet and energy throughout the day.

Plan to PlaySpend time each day in activities that are

fun and enjoyable. Make sure laughter is included when possible.

ConnectStay connected by making time to get

together with friends and family.

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Simple StrategiesLife can sometimes be repeatable.

Use past experiences to make plans to deal with unexpected situations, such as back-up rides for children from school or an event or having quick-to-fix meals available.

Take a Time Out and BreatheTaking a quick five-

minute break just to gather your thoughts can make a world of difference during a stressful time. Build segments of time in the day to catch your breath and detach for a moment.

Stress is an everyday occurrence that either motivates or overwhelms. The following 10 tips may help you manage stress and decrease the stress blues.

Choose to Make Organization a PriorityDust off the family

calendar and determine the house schedule. Set clear timelines and priorities for the tasks that need to be done. Remember that what is prioritized does occur. This can create a sense of empowerment and control.

Work Out the StressDecide to exercise away the stress

mentally and physically. The intention is to divert your mind and body from that which is stressful and connect to what brings balance.

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SWIFTAdoptions Hosts Adoption Month Events

The Oklahoma SWIFT Adoptions Program hosted three special events in November in recognition of adoption month. In Tulsa, events included an adoptive parent training day Nov. 6 and a recruitment event on Nov. 20. A statewide adoption celebration took place at the Moore-Norman Technology Center in Moore on Nov. 17

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a list of fabrics and other donated supplies. Word of mouth caused the idea to spread. Soon, challenges werespringing up between quilt groupsand individuals. More successful than they ever dreamed, Beck andher staff now have pledges for 22 quilts and the finishedquilts are beginning to trickle intothe Area I offices. Some of the quilts will come in as tops onlyand will be finished by Beck on her“long arm” – a large, specializedsewing machine used for quilting.The machine sits proudly whereBeck’s dining room table oncestood. The artwork used in the quilts was gathered by Area I permanency, intake and resource workers. Fabric squares andfabric crayons and markerswere donated, in large part, byBeck. Creating the artwork wasregarded as a way to enhanceand build relationships with thechildren involved. It became partof parent/child visitation, worker/child visits and even an activity tokeep children entertained duringmeetings and visits with placementproviders. Completion of the 22pledged quilts will require a totalof 572 pieces of children’s originalartwork and 88 logo squares,which then have to be pressed andpackaged into quilting kits.“This has definitely not beensomething I did on my own,”Beck laughed, recalling one Area I Resource Unit meeting where“everyone brought ironing boardsand we pressed squares while weheld our staff meeting.” Not surprisingly, the quilts become very personal andmeaningful to their creators. Somenamed their quilts and stitchedthe names onto the quilt itself.Others, like Beck and Area I Child Welfare Field Liaison Terri Leeper, developed an attachment to theartwork because of the children who create it. Beck’s original

quilt was donated to the FosterCare and Adoptive Association of Oklahoma for sale in the silent auction fundraiser at this year’sOklahoma Pathways to Adulthood Together We Can! Conference. Once the donation had been made, Beck and Leeper foundthemselves unwilling to let thequilt go. Instead they pooled theirmoney and bought it back forArea I. Beck shared a wonderful storyabout a sibling set who hadexperienced multiple placementsand for whom “it seemed we couldn’t do anything right.” After yet another placement, this onewith a single foster mother, the worker returned from a visit to the home with quilt squarescolored brightly to represent ahappy, smiling family unit… with messages of thanks for “my newhome.” Those squares went to court, just as the children’sunhappy artwork had in the past.This allowed the judge and othersto see the change in the children’saffect and attitude in their new placement.And just how well are the quiltsworking as recruitment tools?“Well,” Beck said, “since most people think about foster care foraround seven years before theyapply, it’s probably too soon to tell. But they have created a lot ofinterest. People are stopping at ourbooths to ask questions about thequilts, and they’ve generated a lotof opportunities for us to give miniin-services on how many childrenare in care, how long they stay andwhy we need homes. Being able toraise public awareness of the needis enough for us.”By choosing to make and usequilts as a recruitment tool, Area I staff just may have discovered the perfect metaphor for a resourcehome. Both are designed toprovide comfort, care, warmth,safety and protection from theharsher elements in life. Beck

and the Area I staff would like to challenge other areas to “wrap upthe state” in quilts of caring. She’llbe glad to provide advice andencouragement, but not artwork.“They’re on their own there,”she laughs.

Foster Family Computers

The Foster Care Association of Oklahoma, in partnershipwith OKDHS, will awardcomputers to selectedOklahoma resource families throughout the year. County OKDHS staff and local foster care associations will identifyand nominate a family orfamilies in each county theybelieve will benefit from a computer. Following the award, each family chosenwill provide a six-monthreport on how they haveused their computer. Other stipulations and agreementswill be explained to recipientsupon their selection. If youhave an interest in this program, please contact yourlocal resource specialist andlog on to www.fcao.org for additional information and the award application form.For more information, contactLana Freeman at 405-387-5052 or lanaf73@gmail.com.

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the home after experiencing great difficulty and can be very challenging. After finding permanency with this family, each has been transformed into a happy, healthy, emotionally secure and responsible child. The Boardmans allow the children to develop their own interests and support them. They have a degree of commitment that simply doesn’t allow them to give up on a child. The commitment Dale and Elena make is echoed by the children in the home. Before a new child is adopted, the issue is first weighed and discussed until all family members are in agreement. Following the placement there are no signs of jealousy or resentment among the children. Adoption by Dale and Elena means being adopted by the whole family.

Advocate of the Year – Jennifer McBee

Jennifer McBee has been appointed as the child’s attorney on numerous deprived cases in Leflore County. She takes a personal interest in each child and makes immediate contact with the child and placement provider. McBee develops more than a professional relationship with each of her children. She often visits the child in the foster home, and on one case she made several trips to Ponca City to visit with a child who resided in the American Legion Home – more than a six-hour trip roundtrip from Poteau. McBee is a resource to child welfare staff in interpreting legal issues. She attends permanency planning reviews and offers thoughtful and informed comments regarding the juvenile cases being reviewed. She often agrees with OKDHS’ position or recommendation on a particular

case, and she remains mindful that she represents the child. McBee’s knowledge of her clients, preparation and articulate cross-examination of witnesses has made her a pivotal force in many juvenile cases. Because of her dedication and willingness to go an extra step, McBee greatly increases her clients’ chances to secure permanency through the legal system.Area VIAdoptive Family of the Year – Lawrence and Bernita Norwood

Lawrence and Bernita Norwood began fostering in the summer of 2009. The day they signed their contract, the resource specialist told them about a sibling group of four boys, ages 10, 14, 15 and 17 who were currently in the shelter. These four young men needed a safe and stable two-parent family. The Norwoods are co-pastors and have provided the children with a great deal of love, structure, compassion and understanding.They have maintained the children’s connection to their kin, culture, race and community by allowing their biological mother to join the family at church and at Sunday dinners. This was extremely important for these boys.

The Norwoods provided temporary care until the children were legally free for adoption, and in August 2010 finalized the adoption on all four siblings. The Norwoods remain an open traditional foster care resource, providing temporary care for teen boys. Following reunification, the Norwoods maintain their connection to their former foster children by making them and their families welcome in the church andat Sunday dinners. They remain willing to open their home and hearts to OKDHS custody children.

Advocate of the Year – Leanne Williams, Reasor’s LLC

Reasor’s LLC, Tahlequah, has been a strong supporter of the Area VI adoption party. It has donated gift cards, goods from the store, and checks totaling $1,500 to assist in offsetting the party supply costs. The company’s involvement has been invaluable and consistent for the past four years. Donations have helped with the purchase of drinks, ice, desserts, paper goods, candy and many other items. This has enabled Area VI adoption staff to give children and adoptive families a very memorable party. Area VI would like to recognize Reasor’s and its representative, Leanne Williams, for its continued support and partnership in finding

permanency for children. Area VI deeply appreciates the contributions to creating a relaxed and enjoyable atmosphere for children and potential families to meet and begin to form lifelong connections.

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the ideal outcome for children in out-of-home placement,there are times when it cannot be accomplished. When thishappens, Bridge resource parentsare encouraged to consideradoption of the children placedwith them. This practice can allow a smoother transition for children because they areremaining with a family theyknow and with whom they haveformed a bond. Goodman and the SWIFT Adoptions Program have been instrumental in the design and support of Oklahoma’sBridge model, a philosophicsystem that raises awarenessof the importance of maintainingchildren’s connections throughouttheir lifetime. Since the creation of the SWIFT Adoptions Program, Oklahomahas more than quadrupled thenumber of children authorized for placement in permanent homeseach year. Prior to 1999, the agency placed approximately300 children per year in adoptivehomes. Since that time, SWIFT has averaged approximately 1,300placements per year. During the 10 years since its inception, theprogram has received numerousawards and accolades. The true measure of its success, however, is the more than 11,700 children who have found a new chance at safe and happy lives withadoptive families. Now that’ssomething to celebrate!

Sources: Adapted in part from the article,Goodman, Deborah. “OklahomaSwift Adoptions Program Excels in Moving Children to Permanency,” The Roundtable, Vol. 24, No. 1, 2010, National ResourceCenter for Adoption, pgs. 1 & 4, from http://www.nrcadoption.org/roundtable/v24/Volume%2024%20-%20No%201%20-%202010.pdf.

OKDHS Prepares to Rollout Phase One of the Children’s Health Passport

House Bill 1734, signed into lawlast year, mandated the creation of a Health and Education Passport for children in OKDHScare. The initial phase of the passport should be ready forrollout to OKDHS resource families by early 2011. This passport will provide the child’scaregiver password protected,web-based internet access to the child’s medical history. The information used to create the passport will be collected from theOklahoma Health Care Authority and OKDHS data. By collecting informationon a weekly basis through aninterface with the OHCA system, information about services provided to the child throughthe state’s Medicaid system willbecome available to placementproviders much quicker. This will support consistent andcomplete medical care for custodychildren. According to Amy White, OKDHS programs administrator, the medical information available will also include services the child received prior to entering careif those services were providedthrough the Medicaid program.In the future, OKDHS placementproviders will receive a letter withinformation on how to create a user ID and password for inter-net access.

Save the Date! National Foster Parent

Association 2011 Conference June 24-27, 2011Mobile Alabama

For more information, go to www.nfpaonline.org.

Smith Named OKDHS Children and Family Services Director

Deborah Smith was recentlynamed director of the Children and Family Services Division ofthe Oklahoma Department ofHuman Services, overseeing thestate’s child welfare and familyservices programs.Smith has demonstrated valuable leadership skills inmultiple roles within the agencyand has expertise in Child andProtective Services, PermanencyPlanning and Foster Care. Shehelped develop and implementOklahoma’s child welfare practicestandards and enhanced practicemodel. Smith’s combination of direct practice experience in ruraland metro Oklahoma counties and her working knowledge of allsix geographic areas of the stateprovides her with the experienceneeded to lead OKDHS in achieving better outcomes forOklahomas children and families. Smith holds a master of social work degree with an emphasisin administration, as well as a bachelor’s degree fromthe University of Oklahoma.From 1999 to 2010, she was apracticum supervisor for socialwork undergraduate and graduatestudents for three universities - University of Oklahoma,Northeastern State University andEast Central University.Reference: Adapted from OKDHS News Release, August 5, 2010http://www.okdhs.org/library/news/rel/2010/08/hsc08052010.htm

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and honors the families she serves.Area IVFamily of the Year – Ronny and Kelly Gould

Ronny and Kelly Gould became foster parents in 2008 and accepted their first adoptive placement in 2009. Since that time, they have adopted four children, including three teenagers…and they aren’t finished yet. The Goulds continue to foster and plan to adopt again. They have great patience and a lot of staying power. They seldom complain or ask for help. They mix love with their discipline and are willing to give children the time they need to work through problems. This technique has been very successful with children, as evidenced by the fact that four children have become permanent members of the family. This is an active family, with children included in all activities, but they still make sure that each child gets one-on-one time with both parents. There is an open invitation to children who have passed through the Gould home to come by or call. The Goulds are committed to the children and families they serve, whether foster or adoptive, and the children are better for having known this family.

Advocate of the Year – Regina Meyer

Regina Meyer, an Okemah attorney, is a special friend and advocate for children and families in Okfuskee and Lincoln counties. Regina is willing to handle adoption cases on very short notice and with very limited compensation.She even completedone private adoption pro bono because the family couldn’t afford to pay. Meyer always puts adoptivefamilies firstand is willing to drive paperwork to them for signatures so they won’t have to take off work to come to her. At finalization hearings, Meyer tells each child what a wonderful day it is and how excited she is to be part of putting the new family together. She also tells the judge something special about each child being adopted. Adoptive parents love her positive attitude about adoption. Meyer is dedicated to adoptions. She keeps a large display board in the waiting area of her office that is decorated with pictures of children she has worked with over the years. She refers to adoptions as her “happy law.” She goes

above and beyond for children and families, easing the legal process and making finalization day a happy memory for them.Area VAdoptive Family of the Year – Dale and Elena Boardman

Dale and Elena Boardman completed their first adoption in 2007 when they adopted a brother and sister they had known for over a year. The Boardmans, who became therapeutic foster parents in 2005, became acquainted with the children when they were placed in the home of friends who were a therapeutic foster family. They have since adopted two of their own foster sons and are currently in trial adoption with an eight-year-old girl. The Boardmans have two birth children in the home as well as one adult son. The family now has eight children (seven living in the home). The Boardmans continue to provide a supportive, nurturing and structured atmosphere. They are not afraid of the hard work connected with a child’s adjustment to their family, or the emotional and behavioral challenges the child comes to them with. Children from a therapeutic placement background come into

Kelly and Ronny Gould

Regina Meyer, center, and friends

Dale and Elena Boardman and family

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University of Phoenix Offers Scholarships

The University of Phoenix is offering 50 scholarships to youth who have exited foster care and to resource parents. The university’s First Chance Scholarship program offers resource parents and graduates of the foster care system an opportunity to earn either a bachelor’s or master’s degree. The National Foster Parent Association has partnered with the Foster Care Alumni of America to offer these scholarships nationwide. A complete list of eligibility criteria may be found at www.nfpalonline.org.

Citizens Caring for Children

Citizens Caring for Children is a not-for-profit organization dedicated to helping meet the needs of OKDHS custody children living in Canadian, Cleveland, Grady, Lincoln, Logan, Pottawatomie and Oklahoma Counties. Designated for the exclusive use of custody children from birth to 21, CCC is a supplemental resource to help placement providers meet the need for clothing and other items for children in OKDHS custody. Distribution of clothing, shoes, socks, underwear, pajamas, coats, books and other items is accomplished by appointment only. School supplies and other

seasonal items are also available through CCC. As an additional service, CCC sponsors a mentoring program for OKDHS custody children between the ages of 6 and 18 living in the specified counties. Trained mentors are matched with children to provide extra time, attention and emotional support. The efforts of CCC on behalf of OKDHS custody children are made possible by cash donations and foundation grants. Donationsof new clothing, toys and seasonal items are also accepted for distribution. For information on our programs, new location, eligibility guidelines and appointments please call 405-753-4099.

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in OKDHS custody. Schaefer is a true advocate for OKDHS children and families in helping them achieve permanency through adoption.Area IIAdoptive Family of the Year – Richard and Rachael Shirley

Richard and Rachael Shirley wanted to adopt children to provide a good home and keep a sibling group together. Rachael, who has three biological children, and Richard felt that they could provide a safe, stable home for children who were in need. The Shirleys accepted placement of a sibling set of eight children in 2009. During an extended trial placement period, it became evident that the mental health needs of the two oldest siblings were so severe that it impacted the safety of the younger six siblings. The Shirleys were great advocates for all the children, but eventually the two older children had to be removed from their home. Rachael continued to attend therapy sessions with these children and to advocate for the mental health treatment they needed even after they were separated from the sibling set for adoption. The Shirleys were able to keep a sibling group of six together for adoption. These children will grow up together as brothers and sisters and will have loving, nurturing parents to support them throughout their lives. They have a stable routine and two devoted parents who are willing to do anything for them. The children are very happy and relieved to be out of OKDHS custody and in a forever family.

Advocate of the Year – Linque Gillette

Linque Gillette, a former OKDHS adoption specialist and current

Oklahoma City attorney, has contributed his professional services to represent families pursuing adoption in OKDHS Areas II and III. Gillette’s experience as an adoption specialist gives him a unique perspective into the process and importance of achieving permanency for children in OKDHS care. Gillette has repeatedly demonstrated a willingness to assist families in overcoming the barriers to adoption, even when they are financially unable to compensate him for his work. Because of his dedication and generosity, Gillette has helped OKDHS staff make permanency a reality for hundreds of OKDHS children and adoptive parents. He represents the true spirit of the practice standards adopted by our agency.Area III Adoptive Family of the Year – Gertrude Cooper

Gertrude Cooper became a kinship foster parent when her grandchildren came into OKDHS custody. A single person, Cooper lived on a very small income. Despite her lack of financial resources, Cooper wanted her grandchildren to stay together and remain with their own family. In 2007, she adopted her granddaughter, the oldest of the sibling set of

three. Two years later, the child was diagnosed with leukemia and in May 2010, succumbed to the disease. Throughout this ordeal, Cooper provided care and comfort to all three children. She remained steadfast in her pursuit of adoption for the younger children, completing their adoption disclosure just one week after the death of her older granddaughter. Cooper also lost her sister to cancer during the same period. Cooper is the maternal grandmother of the children as well as the adoptive mother. Their adoption was finalized this year. She understands the importance of them growing up together and remaining connected to family. Cooper is very passionate about education and encourages and supports their efforts to excel. She loves these children unconditionally. Despite the tragedy of losing their sister, the children are happy and well-cared-for in their adoptive home. Cooper exemplifies the value of keeping children connected to their culture, kin and community.

Advocate of the Year – Lee A. Dickens

Lee Dickens is an assistant public defender working out of the Juvenile Justice Center in Oklahoma County. She is very active with the cases of the children she represents in juvenile court. She is always willing to attend family group conferencing meetings and arrives prepared to actively participate. Dickens is prompt in replying to workers’ questions and concerns. She enjoys visiting with the children when they attend hearings and is always aware that her task is representing what her clients want as well as what is in their best interests. She truly listens to the voices of children and respects

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Katrina Hasty, OKDHS, Linque Gillette, Rachel Williamson, OKDHS

OKDHS Names 2010 Outstanding Adoptive Familiesand Advocates

The SWIFT Adoptions Unit is pleased to announce the 2010 Adoptive Families and Advocates of the Year for 2010. Nominated by OKDHS workers in each area of the state, these families and child advocates were honored at the 2010 SWIFT Adoptions statewide Adoption Celebration on Nov. 17. Adoptive families were selected because of their dedication and perseverance in overcoming the challenges to providing permanency to children within their homes and families and for their efforts in maintaining connections to their adoptive child’s culture and kin. Advocates of the Year are professionals and volunteers whose work has demonstrated exceptional determination, creativity and caring through their efforts to help children and families achieve permanency through adoption during 2010. Area I Adoptive Family of the Year – Travis and Tonya Ratcliff

The Ratcliffs became a foster family in 2007 in order to provide

emergency care for a child hospitalized in the infant care unit where Tonya Ratcliff worked. In 2009, Tonya and Travis adopted two of the children placed in their home. In 2010, they became adoptive parents for two additional children. The Ratcliffs, who have one birth child and are expecting another, quickly went from a family of three to a family of six. Their adoptive children include one sibling set, which was adopted separately.

Travis and Tonya Ratcliff and family

The Ratcliffs exemplify the OKDHS Bridge program in many ways. They understand the importance of maintaining connections to family members and actively work with extended biological family to maintain their children’s important connections.This includes siblings in other placements and even one biological mother, whom they included in their adoption. The Ratcliffs provide a loving and safe environment for their family, playing active roles in their daily lives and advocating for them in every way. Advocate of the Year –

James Schaefer

James Schaefer, a Ponca City attorney, was approached by a prospective adoptivemother to complete her adoption of the five children that she had in her home through foster care. Schaefer worked diligently to overcome barriers to the adoption and help these children achieve permanency. Schaefer knew the biological mother had

consented to the adoption by the foster mother because the children were doing well in the placement and eager to make this their permanent home. The potential adoptive mother and the children’s biological mother had even reached an agreement for open adoption with ongoing visitation for the biological mother and the children. Despite the obvious advantages to this placement, the case judge was reluctant to finalize the adoption of five children by a single mother.

James Schaefer and Lydia Connelly, OKDHS

Under his direction, the children were the subjects of a statewide adoption staffing. Still, no two-parent families expressed an interest in adopting this sibling set. Despite the lack of an alternative placement, the judge remained unwilling to finalize with a single mother. After waiting a few weeks, Schaefer, with paperwork in order, moved forward, filing the adoption petition and setting an adoption hearing date. After consideration, the judge recused himself from the case and the adoption was finalized on Sept. 2, 2010. Without Schaefer’s determination, the adoption would not have happened and this sibling group of five would still be

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The SWIFT Adoptions Unit is pleased to announce the 2010 Adoptive Families and Advocates of the Year for 2010. Nominated by OKDHS workers in each area of the state, these families and child advocates were honored at the 2010 SWIFT Adoptions statewide Adoption Celebration on Nov. 17. Adoptive families were selected because of their dedication and perseverance in overcoming the challenges to providing permanency to children within their homes and families and for their efforts in maintaining connections to their adoptive child’s culture and kin. Advocates of the Year are professionals and volunteers whose work has demonstrated exceptional determination, creativity and caring through their efforts to help children and families achieve permanency through adoption during 2010. Area IAdoptive Family of the Year – Travis and Tonya Ratcliff

The Ratcliffs became a foster family in 2007 in order to provide

emergency care for a child hospitalized in the infant care unit where Tonya Ratcliff worked. In 2009, Tonya and Travis adopted two of the children placed in their home. In 2010, they became adoptive parents for two additional children. The Ratcliffs, who have one birth child and are expecting another, quickly went from a family of three to a family of six. Their adoptive children include one sibling set, which was adopted separately. The Ratcliffs exemplify the OKDHS Bridge program in many ways. They understand the importance of maintaining connections to family members and actively work with extended biological family to maintain their children’s important connections.This includes siblings in other placements and even one biological mother, whom they included in their adoption. The Ratcliffs provide a loving and safe environment for their family, playing active roles in their daily lives and advocating for them in every way.Advocate of the Year –

James Schaefer

James Schaefer, a Ponca City attorney, was approached by a prospective adoptivemother to complete her adoption of the five children that she had in her home through foster care. Schaefer worked diligently to overcome barriers to the adoption and help these children achieve permanency. Schaefer knew the biological mother had

consented to the adoption by the foster mother because the children were doing well in the placement and eager to make this their permanent home. The potential adoptive mother and the children’s biological mother had even reached an agreement for open adoption with ongoing visitation for the biological mother and the children. Despite the obvious advantages to this placement, the case judge was reluctant to finalize the adoption of five children by a single mother. Under his direction, the children were the subjects of a statewide adoption staffing. Still, no two-parent families expressed an interest in adopting this sibling set. Despite the lack of an alternative placement, the judge remained unwilling to finalize with a single mother. After waiting a few weeks, Schaefer, with paperwork in order, moved forward, filing the adoption petition and setting an adoption hearing date. After consideration, the judge recused himself from the case and the adoption was finalized on Sept. 2, 2010. Without Schaefer’s determination, the adoption would not have happened and this sibling group of five would still be

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Travis and Tonya Ratcliff and family

James Schaefer and Lydia Connelly, OKDHS

in OKDHS custody. Schaefer is a true advocate for OKDHS children and families in helping them achieve permanency through adoption.Area II Adoptive Family of the Year – Richard and Rachael Shirley

Richard and Rachael Shirley wanted to adopt children to provide a good home and keep a sibling group together. Rachael, who has three biological children, and Richard felt that they could provide a safe, stable home for children who were in need. The Shirleys accepted placement of a sibling set of eight children in 2009. During an extended trial placement period, it became evident that the mental health needs of the two oldest siblings were so severe that it impacted the safety of the younger six siblings. The Shirleys were great advocates for all the children, but eventually the two older children had to be removed from their home. Rachael continued to attend therapy sessions with these children and to advocate for the mental health treatment they needed even after they were separated from the sibling set for adoption. The Shirleys were able to keep a sibling group of six together for adoption. These children will grow up together as brothers and sisters and will have loving, nurturing parents to support them throughout their lives. They have a stable routine and two devoted parents who are willing to do anything for them. The children are very happy and relieved to be out of OKDHS custody and in a forever family.

Advocate of the Year – Linque Gillette

Linque Gillette, a former OKDHS adoption specialist and current

Oklahoma City attorney, has contributed his professional services to represent families pursuing adoption in OKDHS Areas II and III. Gillette’s experience as an adoption specialist gives him a unique perspective into the process and importance of achieving permanency for children in OKDHS care.

Katrina Hasty, OKDHS, Linque Gillette, Rachel Williamson, OKDHS

Gillette has repeatedly demonstrated a willingness to assist families in overcoming the barriers to adoption, even when they are financially unable to compensate him for his work. Because of his dedication and generosity, Gillette has helped OKDHS staff make permanency a reality for hundreds of OKDHS children and adoptive parents. He represents the true spirit of the practice standards adopted by our agency.Area III Adoptive Family of the Year – Gertrude Cooper

Gertrude Cooper became a kinship foster parent when her grandchildren came into OKDHS custody. A single person, Cooper lived on a very small income. Despite her lack of financial resources, Cooper wanted her grandchildren to stay together and remain with their own family. In 2007, she adopted her granddaughter, the oldest of the sibling set of

three. Two years later, the child was diagnosed with leukemia and in May 2010, succumbed to the disease. Throughout this ordeal, Cooper provided care and comfort to all three children. She remained steadfast in her pursuit of adoption for the younger children, completing their adoption disclosure just one week after the death of her older granddaughter. Cooper also lost her sister to cancer during the same period. Cooper is the maternal grandmother of the children as well as the adoptive mother. Their adoption was finalized this year. She understands the importance of them growing up together and remaining connected to family. Cooper is very passionate about education and encourages and supports their efforts to excel. She loves these children unconditionally. Despite the tragedy of losing their sister, the children are happy and well-cared-for in their adoptive home. Cooper exemplifies the value of keeping children connected to their culture, kin and community.

Advocate of the Year – Lee A. Dickens

Lee Dickens is an assistant public defender working out of the Juvenile Justice Center in Oklahoma County. She is very active with the cases of the children she represents in juvenile court. She is always willing to attend family group conferencing meetings and arrives prepared to actively participate. Dickens is prompt in replying to workers’ questions and concerns. She enjoys visiting with the children when they attend hearings and is always aware that her task is representing what her clients want as well as what is in their best interests. She truly listens to the voices of children and respects

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University of Phoenix Offers Scholarships

The University of Phoenix is offering 50 scholarships to youth who have exited foster care and to resource parents. The university’s First Chance Scholarship program offers resource parents and graduates of the foster care system an opportunity to earn either a bachelor’s or master’s degree. The National Foster Parent Association has partnered with the Foster Care Alumni of America to offer these scholarships nationwide. A complete list of eligibility criteria may be found at www.nfpalonline.org.

Citizens Caring for Children

Citizens Caring for Children is a not-for-profit organization dedicated to helping meet the needs of OKDHS custody children living in Canadian, Cleveland, Grady, Lincoln, Logan, Pottawatomie and OklahomaCounties. Designated for the exclusive use of custody children from birth to 21, CCC is a supplemental resource to help placement providers meet the need for clothing and other items for children in OKDHS custody. Distribution of clothing, shoes, socks, underwear, pajamas, coats, books and other items is accomplished by appointment only. School supplies and other

seasonal items are also available through CCC. As an additional service, CCC sponsors a mentoring program for OKDHS custody children between the ages of 6 and 18 living in the specified counties. Trained mentors are matched with children to provide extra time, attention and emotional support. The efforts of CCC on behalf of OKDHS custody children are made possible by cash donations and foundation grants. Donationsof new clothing, toys and seasonal items are also accepted for distribution. For information on our programs, new location, eligibility guidelines and appointments please call 405-753-4099.

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and honors the families she serves. Area IV Family of the Year – Ronny and Kelly Gould

Ronny and Kelly Gould became foster parents in 2008 and accepted their first adoptive placement in 2009. Since that time, they have adopted four children, including three teenagers…and they aren’t finished yet. The Goulds continue to foster and plan to adopt again. They have great patience and a lot of staying power. They seldom complain or ask for help. They mix love with their discipline and are willing to give children the time they need to work through problems. This technique has been very successful with children, as evidenced by the fact that four children have become permanent members of the family. This is an active family, with children included in all activities, but they still make sure that each child gets one-on-one time with both parents. There is an open invitation to children who have passed through the Gould home to come by or call. The Goulds are committed to the children and families they serve, whether foster or adoptive, and the children are better for having known this family.

Kelly and Ronny Gould

Advocate of the Year – Regina Meyer

Regina Meyer, an Okemah attorney, is a special friend and advocate for children and families in Okfuskee and Lincoln counties. Regina is willing to handle adoption cases on very short notice and with very limited compensation.She even completedone private adoption pro bono because the family couldn’t afford to pay. Meyer always puts adoptivefamilies first and is willing to drive paperwork to them for signatures so they won’t have to take off work to come to her. At finalization hearings, Meyer tells each child what a wonderful day it is and how excited she is to be part of putting the new family together. She also tells the judge something special about each child being adopted. Adoptive parents love her positive attitude about adoption. Meyer is dedicated to adoptions. She keeps a large display board in the waiting area of her office that is decorated with pictures of children she has worked with over the years. She refers to adoptions as her “happy law.” She goes

above and beyond for children and families, easing the legal process and making finalization day a happy memory for them.

Regina Meyer, center, and friends

Area V Adoptive Family of the Year – Dale and Elena Boardman

Dale and Elena Boardman and family

Dale and Elena Boardman completed their first adoption in 2007 when they adopted a brother and sister they had known for over a year. The Boardmans, who became therapeutic foster parents in 2005, became acquainted with the children when they were placed in the home of friends who were a therapeutic foster family. They have since adopted two of their own foster sons and are currently in trial adoption with an eight-year-old girl. The Boardmans have two birth children in the home as well as one adult son. The family now has eight children (seven living in the home). The Boardmans continue to provide a supportive, nurturing and structured atmosphere. They are not afraid of the hard work connected with a child’s adjustment to their family, or the emotional and behavioral challenges the child comes to them with. Children from a therapeutic placement background come into

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the ideal outcome for children in out-of-home placement, there are times when it cannot be accomplished. When this happens, Bridge resource parents are encouraged to consider adoption of the children placed with them. This practice can allow a smoother transition for children because they are remaining with a family they know and with whom they have formed a bond. Goodman and the SWIFT Adoptions Program have been instrumental in the design and support of Oklahoma’s Bridge model, a philosophic system that raises awareness of the importance of maintaining children’s connections throughout their lifetime. Since the creation of the SWIFTAdoptions Program, Oklahoma has more than quadrupled the number of children authorized for placement in permanent homes each year. Prior to 1999, the agency placed approximately 300 children per year in adoptive homes. Since that time, SWIFThas averaged approximately 1,300 placements per year. During the 10 years since its inception, the program has received numerous awards and accolades. The true measure of its success, however, is the more than 11,700 children who have found a new chance at safe and happy lives with adoptive families. Now that’s something to celebrate!

Sources:Adapted in part from the article, Goodman, Deborah. “Oklahoma Swift Adoptions Program Excels in Moving Children to Permanency,” The Roundtable, Vol. 24, No. 1, 2010, National Resource Center for Adoption, pgs. 1 & 4, from http://www.nrcadoption.org/roundtable/v24/Volume%2024%20-%20No%201%20-%202010.pdf.

Cont. from page 1 Smith Named OKDHS Children and Family Services Director

Deborah Smith was recently named director of the Children and Family Services Division of the Oklahoma Department of Human Services, overseeing the state’s child welfare and family services programs. Smith has demonstrated valuable leadership skills in multiple roles within the agency and has expertise in Child and Protective Services, Permanency Planning and Foster Care. She helped develop and implement Oklahoma’s child welfare practice standards and enhanced practice model. Smith’s combination of direct practice experience in rural and metro Oklahoma counties and her working knowledge of all six geographic areas of the state provides her with the experience needed to lead OKDHS in achieving better outcomes for Oklahomas children and families. Smith holds a master of social work degree with an emphasis in administration, as well as a bachelor’s degree from the University of Oklahoma. From 1999 to 2010, she was a practicum supervisor for social work undergraduate and graduate students for three universities - University of Oklahoma, Northeastern State University and East Central University.Reference: Adapted from OKDHS News Release, August 5, 2010http://www.okdhs.org/library/news/rel/2010/08/hsc08052010.htm

OKDHS Prepares to Rollout Phase One of the Children’s Health Passport

House Bill 1734, signed into law last year, mandated the creation of a Health and Education Passport for children in OKDHS care. The initial phase of the passport should be ready for rollout to OKDHS resource families by early 2011. This passport will provide the child’s caregiver password protected, web-based internet access to the child’s medical history. The information used to create the passport will be collected from the Oklahoma Health Care Authority and OKDHS data. By collecting information on a weekly basis through an interface with the OHCA system, information about services provided to the child through the state’s Medicaid system will become available to placement providers much quicker. This will support consistent and complete medical care for custody children. According to Amy White, OKDHS programs administrator, the medical information available will also include services the child received prior to entering care if those services were provided through the Medicaid program. In the future, OKDHS placement providers will receive a letter with information on how to create a user ID and password for inter-net access.

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the home after experiencing great difficulty and can be very challenging. After finding permanency with this family, each has been transformed into a happy, healthy, emotionally secure and responsible child. The Boardmans allow the children to develop their own interests and support them. They have a degree of commitment that simply doesn’t allow them to give up on a child. The commitment Dale and Elena make is echoed by the children in the home. Before a new child is adopted, the issue is first weighed and discussed until all family members are in agreement. Following the placement there are no signs of jealousy or resentment among the children. Adoption by Dale and Elena means being adopted by the whole family.

Advocate of the Year – Jennifer McBee

Jennifer McBee has been appointed as the child’s attorney on numerous deprived cases in Leflore County. She takes a personal interest in each child and makes immediate contact with the child and placement provider. McBee develops more than a professional relationship with each of her children. She often visits the child in the foster home, and on one case she made several trips to Ponca City to visit with a child who resided in the American Legion Home – more than a six-hour trip roundtrip from Poteau. McBee is a resource to child welfare staff in interpreting legal issues. She attends permanency planning reviews and offers thoughtful and informed comments regarding the juvenile cases being reviewed. She often agrees with OKDHS’ position or recommendation on a particular

case, and she remains mindful that she represents the child. McBee’s knowledge of her clients, preparation and articulate cross-examination of witnesses has made her a pivotal force in many juvenile cases. Because of her dedication and willingness to go an extra step, McBee greatly increases her clients’ chances to secure permanency through the legal system.Area VI Adoptive Family of the Year – Lawrence and Bernita Norwood

Lawrence and Bernita Norwood began fostering in the summer of 2009. The day they signed their contract, the resource specialist told them about a sibling group of four boys, ages 10, 14, 15 and 17 who were currently in the shelter. These four young men needed a safe and stable two-parent family. The Norwoods are co-pastors and have provided the children with a great deal of love, structure, compassion and understanding.They have maintained the children’s connection to their kin, culture, race and community by allowing their biological mother to join the family at church and at Sunday dinners. This was extremely important for these boys.

The Norwoods provided temporary care until the children were legally free for adoption, and in August 2010 finalized the adoption on all four siblings. The Norwoods remain an open traditional foster care resource, providing temporary care for teen boys. Following reunification, the Norwoods maintain their connection to their former foster children by making them and their families welcome in the church and at Sunday dinners. They remain willing to open their home and hearts to OKDHS custody children.

Lawrence and Bernita Norwood and family

Advocate of the Year – Leanne Williams, Reasor’s LLC

Reasor’s LLC, Tahlequah, has been a strong supporter of the Area VI adoption party. It has donated gift cards, goods from the store, and checks totaling $1,500 to assist in offsetting the party supply costs. The company’s involvement has been invaluable and consistent for the past four years. Donations have helped with the purchase of drinks, ice, desserts, paper goods, candy and many other items. This has enabled Area VI adoption staff to give children and adoptive families a very memorable party. Area VI would like to recognize Reasor’s and its representative, Leanne Williams, for its continued support and partnership in finding

permanency for children. Area VI deeply appreciates the contributions to creating a relaxed and enjoyable atmosphere for children and potential families to meet and begin to form lifelong connections.

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a list of fabrics and other donated supplies. Word of mouth caused the idea to spread. Soon, challenges were springing up between quilt groups and individuals. More successful than they ever dreamed, Beck and her staff now have pledges for 22 quilts and the finished quilts are beginning to trickle into the Area I offices. Some of the quilts will come in as tops only and will be finished by Beck on her “long arm” – a large, specialized sewing machine used for quilting. The machine sits proudly where Beck’s dining room table once stood. The artwork used in the quilts was gathered by Area I permanency, intake and resource workers. Fabric squares and fabric crayons and markers were donated, in large part, by Beck. Creating the artwork was regarded as a way to enhance and build relationships with the children involved. It became part of parent/child visitation, worker/child visits and even an activity to keep children entertained during meetings and visits with placement providers. Completion of the 22 pledged quilts will require a total of 572 pieces of children’s original artwork and 88 logo squares, which then have to be pressed and packaged into quilting kits. “This has definitely not been something I did on my own,” Beck laughed, recalling one Area I Resource Unit meeting where “everyone brought ironing boards and we pressed squares while we held our staff meeting.” Not surprisingly, the quilts become very personal and meaningful to their creators. Some named their quilts and stitched the names onto the quilt itself. Others, like Beck and Area I Child Welfare Field Liaison Terri Leeper, developed an attachment to the artwork because of the children who create it. Beck’s original

quilt was donated to the Foster Care and Adoptive Association of Oklahoma for sale in the silent auction fundraiser at this year’s Oklahoma Pathways to Adulthood Together We Can! Conference. Once the donation had been made, Beck and Leeper found themselves unwilling to let the quilt go. Instead they pooled their money and bought it back for Area I. Beck shared a wonderful story about a sibling set who had experienced multiple placements and for whom “it seemed we couldn’t do anything right.” After yet another placement, this one with a single foster mother, the worker returned from a visit to the home with quilt squares colored brightly to represent a happy, smiling family unit… with messages of thanks for “my new home.” Those squares went to court, just as the children’s unhappy artwork had in the past. This allowed the judge and others to see the change in the children’s affect and attitude in their new placement. And just how well are the quilts working as recruitment tools? “Well,” Beck said, “since most people think about foster care for around seven years before they apply, it’s probably too soon to tell. But they have created a lot of interest. People are stopping at our booths to ask questions about the quilts, and they’ve generated a lot of opportunities for us to give mini in-services on how many children are in care, how long they stay and why we need homes. Being able to raise public awareness of the need is enough for us.” By choosing to make and use quilts as a recruitment tool, Area I staff just may have discovered the perfect metaphor for a resource home. Both are designed to provide comfort, care, warmth, safety and protection from the harsher elements in life. Beck

and the Area I staff would like to challenge other areas to “wrap up the state” in quilts of caring. She’ll be glad to provide advice and encouragement, but not artwork. “They’re on their own there,” she laughs.

Foster Family Computers

The Foster Care Association of Oklahoma, in partnership with OKDHS, will award computers to selected Oklahoma resource families throughout the year. County OKDHS staff and local foster care associations will identify and nominate a family or families in each county they believe will benefit from a computer. Following the award, each family chosen will provide a six-month report on how they have used their computer. Other stipulations and agreements will be explained to recipients upon their selection. If you have an interest in this program, please contact your local resource specialist and log on to www.fcao.org for additional information and the award application form. For more information, contact Lana Freeman at 405-387-5052 or lanaf73@gmail.com.

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Tips for Managing StressStress is an everyday occurrence that either motivates or overwhelms. The following 10 tips may help you manage stress and decrease the stress blues.

1 Choose to Make Organization a Priority Dust off the family

calendar and determine the house schedule. Set clear timelines and priorities for the tasks that need to be done. Remember that what is prioritized does occur. This can create a sense of empowerment and control.

2 Work Out the Stress Decide to exercise away the stress

mentally and physically. The intention is to divert your mind and body from that which is stressful and connect to what brings balance.

3 Simple StrategiesLife can sometimes be repeatable.

Use past experiences to make plans to deal with unexpected situations, such as back-up rides for children from school or an event or having quick-to-fix meals available.

4 Take a Time Out and Breathe Taking a quick five-

minute break just to gather your thoughts can make a world of difference during a stressful time. Build segments of time in the day to catch your breath and detach for a moment.

5 Use Goals that are Real Keep daily goals well-focused, task-oriented

and realistic. It increases the likelihood that the goals will be achieved.

6 Nap Studies have shown that 15-20 minute nap

breaks can improve mood, outlook and stress-handling ability.

7 Picture It Keep life interesting. Take pictures

throughout the day with a phone camera while participating in everyday tasks and hobbies. They can make great discussions around the dinner table.

8 Eat Colorfully Think rainbow when planning meals. Select

fruits and vegetables of different colors to ensure a well-balanced diet and energy throughout the day.

9 Plan to Play Spend time each day in activities that are

fun and enjoyable. Make sure laughter is included when possible.

10 Connect Stay connected by making time to get

together with friends and family.

SWIFT Adoptions Hosts Adoption Month Events

The Oklahoma SWIFT Adoptions Program hosted three special events in November in recognition of adoption month. In Tulsa, events included an adoptive parent training day Nov. 6 and a recruitment event on Nov. 20. A statewide adoption celebration took place at the Moore-Norman Technology Center in Moore on Nov. 17

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Area I Foster Care Supervisor Jamie Beck has a dream. She wants to provide Oklahoma’s foster children with something soft, warm and comforting…something with durability, flexibility and reliability; something that, figuratively speaking, would wrap them up and protect them from life’s harsher elements. Something like a big quilt…or a dedicated resource family.

OKDHS staff members were routinely taking part in recruitment events by setting up booths at local events such as fairs, carnivals and festivals. People attending the events were, just as routinely, turning their heads as they walked by, looking away toward something more fun, more emotionally comfortable than abused and neglected children. “We needed a draw,” Beck said, “something to grab their attention and bring them into our booth. Something that would generate their interest so they would stop and talk to us.”

Falling back on her love for quilting, Beck, (who supervises resource staff in Kay, Noble, Pawnee, Payne and Logan counties) had the idea to create a quilt around artwork created by children in foster care. The plan was for the quilt to travel to various counties in Area I, where it would

be displayed for recruitment events. Knowing how few people can resist the bright colors and beautiful stitching of fine quilt work, Jamie was hoping the quilt, with its unique artwork, would catch the eye of those passing by, drawing them in to find out more about the quilt and the children who had helped create it. Jamie took the idea to her staff in May 2010. Since the project was started, an explosion of interest and community involvement has taken place in Area I around the production of these quilts. Through the hard

work and ingenuity of resource specialists and others across Area I, what started with one quilt quickly became a plan to produce 13 to be shared by Area I counties. Understanding that the shared interest of quilters forms a community of its own, Beck and her staff went to quilt shops, quilt guilds and fabric shops all over Area I, explaining their purpose. Many shops and individuals donated fabric and supplies. They also provided a venue to circulate news about the project. The OKDHS workers of Area I asked that quilters pledge to make a quilt for them. Each quilter making the pledge would receive a package containing 26 quilt pieces of original artwork created by children in foster care, four OKDHS logo squares, and

Quilts of Caring

Jamie Beck with a selection of Area I’s recruitment quilts.

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Developing a Stress Management Plan

The approach of the busy holiday season can be especially stressful for resource families of every type. Along with the pressures that all families deal with during the holidays, resource parents have the added stress of parenting children separated from their family of origin. For children in care, emotional and behavioral crisis is often a partner to the excitement and fun of the holiday season. Family visits or the absence of family contact can be equally challenging for children, placing an added burden upon caregivers. Whether your family is providing temporary care for a kinship child, is involved in a traditional foster care relationship or is a permanent adoptive family, the ghosts of holidays past will likely be a factor in your holiday celebrations. Recognizingthe underlying issue and preparing for the emotional and physical challenge of the season are the first steps in managing your stress. Reducing and managing stress is more effective when a plan is put into place. In the article “Stress Management: Develop a Stress Management Plan,” Ann Logsdon suggests nine statements to get started on developing a stress management plan. The worksheet to the right will help you get started.

Adapted from http://learningdisabilities.about.com/od/emotionalhealth/a/ stressmgtplan.htm

1. Reducing stress is important to me because

2. Making a commitment to myself to create and follow my stress management plan will help me in the following ways

3. A major source of stress in my life is

4. Some things I can do that would help me feel better are

5. Two things I can do today to help my stress level are

6. Taking care of myself is important and will help me in the following ways

7. Some ways I could take care of myself are

8. Of these things listed above, the thing I could most like to try and will stick with is

9. I expect that now everyone will support my efforts to reduce stress in my life, and when this happens, some things I can do to stay with my plan are

To develop your stress management plan, you may want to answer all the questions at one time or just one statement a day and write the questions and answers in a journal. You can then use your responses as a guide for creating your stress management plan and increasing your emotional well-being for holidays and every day.

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Oklahoma Department of Human Services

Winter 2010/11

Connections is published quarterly by the Oklahoma Department of Human Services, Children and FamilyServices Division.

OKDHS Resource Family

Barbara Wells, EditorThe University of OklahomaOutreach National ResourceCenter for Youth Services

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November was National Adoption Month, and in Oklahoma, that’s something to celebrate. Oklahoma’s SWIFT Adoptions Program was created in 1999 as a response to the passage of the Adoption and Safe Families Act of 1997. SWIFTAdoptions is a specialized unit designed to focus on removing barriers to adoption and permanency for children in Oklahoma’s child welfare system who are in need of permanent placements. By recruiting, training and maintaining a group of approved potential adoptive families, Oklahoma has been able to shift from a program of “waiting children” to one of “waiting families.” Adoption specialists are assigned to every area of the state and serve as consultants to each permanency planning group. Once the court has determined that reunification is not in the child’s best interest, adoption specialists assist the permanency staff with the process of moving children quickly toward the goal of adoption. An adoption specialist is responsible for adoptive family recruitment, assessment of the families for placement potential, and supervision of newly created families who are

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moving toward finalization. Under the direction of Deborah Goodman, programs administrator for adoptions, SWIFT Adoptions has been instrumental in changing the face of adoption in Oklahoma. Families are recruited for children with the understanding that few will emerge unscathed from a history of abuse, neglect and loss. Families are prepared for the special needs their children will bring into the family and are offered a variety of post-adoptive services to help them successfully transition into a stable family unit. One of the many changes in the adoptive program is the focus on adoption by kinship providers, both relative and non-relative. The implementation of Bridge and inclusion of kinship families in planning for

permanency has been an important shift in Oklahoma’s adoption success. During the 2009 fiscal year, 87 percent of the 1,177 children authorized into adoptive placement were in kinship

families. For many of these children, this was a non-relative home that they first entered as a foster placement. Because of that placement, a kinship bond was formed. Although reunification is always

Celebrating Success in Adoption

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S10108 OKDHS Issued 12/2010This publication is authorized by the Oklahoma Commission for Human Services in accordance with state and federal regulations and printed by the Oklahoma Department of Human Services at a cost of $1,255.00 for 12,550 copies. Copies have been deposited with the Publications Clearinghouse of the Oklahoma Department of Libraries.

Numbers to Know

ADOPTION ANDPOST -ADOPTION

SERVICES

Deborah Goodman (918) 794-7544Programs Administrator

Jacquelyn Hill-Anderson(405) 522-2467Post Adoption ServicesPrograms Manager

FOSTER CARE

Joani Webster (405) 521-4360Programs Administrator

Margaret Linnemann (405) 521-3438Programs Manager

Nellie Caldwell (405) 521-2881Program Field Representative

Beverly Smith (918) 684-5362Program Field Representative

In Sites For those who have or are considering adoption

http://www.nrcadoption.org/

Stress management and other topics for resource families

http://www.wifostercareandadoption.org

Child Care Warmline

1-888-574-5437 To listen to recorded

messages on a wide varietyof child care topics, or to talkwith a child development

specialist.

Foster Parent Hotline Here to Help�

To assist you with problems regarding payments, policyclarification, grievance orother foster care issues.

1-800-376-9729 Foster and

Adoptive Parent�Recruitment Hotline

1-866-612-2565