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Overcoming Stronghold’s Associated with Anger
Bro. Albert 5-2-12
Course Outline
• Define Anger?
• Consider the motivation and impact of Anger
• Understand root causes & explore the Strongholds behind Anger
• Identify solutions to mitigate undesirable results manifested by Anger
Mindset of Strongholds
Strongholds
What is Anger?
Easton's Bible Definition: The emotion of instant displeasure on account of something evil that
presents itself to our view. In itself it is an original susceptibility of our nature, just as love is, and is not necessarily sinful. It may, however, become sinful when causeless, or excessive, or protracted (Matt 5:22, Col 3:8, Eph 4:26)
When Anger Goes Too Far…
DeathDisrespectRapeVerbal AssaultDivorceSeparationSinFamily fallout
War
Division amongst Church
Judgment
Physical Assault
Abandonment
Imprisonment
Unemployment
• Proverbs 29-22: An Angry man stirreth up strife, and a furious man aboundeth in transgression.
• James 1:19–20: Let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
What is Anger?
• Orge: 1) anger, the natural disposition, temper, character 2) movement or agitation of the soul, impulse, desire, any violent emotion, but esp. anger;
• Thymos: An outburst of wrath. Expresses more the inward feeling, orge the more active emotion.
• DikaiosAganakteō: Righteous Indignation-Just or Godly displeasure/irritation/vexation
Ephesians 4:26-5:226Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: 27Neither give place to the devil. 28Let him that stole steal no more: but rather let him labour, working with
his hands the thing which is good, that he may have to give to him that needeth.
29Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
30And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption.
31Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamor, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:
32And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.
51Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children;
2And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet smelling savour.
Biblical Examples of Anger
Righteous Anger• God towards Pharaoh- Exodus
11:4-6• Moses towards Israel- Exodus
32 19-24• Samuel towards Saul- 1 Sam
15:10-12• Jesus toward the Pharisees-
Mark 3-5• Jesus cleanses the temple- John
2: 13-5
Unrighteous Anger• Cain towards Abel- Gen 4:5-8
• Moses Stuck the Rock- Num 20: 7-12
• Saul towards David – 1 Sam 18:6-8
• Pharisees towards Jesus-- Matt 21:15
• Herod against children of Bethlehem- Matt 2:16
• Brother of the Lost Son- Luke 15:21-29
Today’s Examples of Righteous Anger?
• In Groups of 4, share examples of Righteous Anger you have displayed or observed?
• How can you be sure the Anger was Righteous, not Unrighteous?
Righteous Anger vs. Unrighteous AngerWhat’s your Motivation?
God’s Anger• Natural• Righteous Indignation▫ Angry with Sin
• Slow• Pre-meditated• Manifested in Love• Swift• Severe
Man’s Anger• Natural
• Self-centered
• Can be sinful
• Vengeful
• Quick Tempered
• Malicious
• Foolish
• Psalms 103:8: The LORD is merciful and gracious, slow to anger, and plenteous in mercy.
Homework-Anger Journal
• Record at least one Angry experience over the next week
• What caused your anger?
• How did you handled the situation?
Overcoming Stronghold’s Associated with Anger
Bro. Albert 5-9-12
Course Outline
• Define Anger?
• Consider the motivation and impact of Anger
• Understand some root causes behind our Anger
• Identify solutions to mitigate undesirable results manifested by Anger
What makes you Angry?Here’s some Common Reasons why we get Angry?
▫ Frustration of our goals▫ Hurt▫ Harassment▫ Personal attack (mental or physical) on ourselves▫ Threat to people, things or ideas that we hold dear▫ Others?
Pro 14:29: He that is slow to wrath is of great understanding: but he that is hasty of spirit exalteth folly.
Homework-Anger Journal• Record at least one Angry experience over the next
week
• What caused your anger?
• How did you handled the situation?
1 Cor 10:13: There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man:but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.
Romans 12:19: Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
Three Quick Techniques1. Pause & Pray:
2. Take deep breaths
3. Stop the negative thoughts:
2 Corinthians 12:1010 Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in
persecutions, in distresses for Christ's sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong.
Ephesians 3:13-1913 Wherefore I desire that ye faint not at my tribulations for you, which is your glory. 14 For this cause I bow my knees unto the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, 15 Of whom the whole family in heaven and earth is named, 16 That he would grant you, according to the riches of his glory, to be strengthened with might by his Spirit in the inner man; 17 That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in love, 18 May be able to comprehend with all saints what is the breadth, and length, and depth, and height; 19 And to know the love of Christ, which passeth knowledge, that ye might be filled with all the fulness of God.
Next Week…
• More Techniques for managing Anger:
▫ Finding a support system…▫ Empathy…▫ Relaxation…▫ Listening…▫ Being assertive…▫ Forgiving…
Overcoming Stronghold’s Associated with Anger
Bro. Albert 5-16-12
Mindset of Strongholds
Strongholds
Course Outline
• Define Anger?
• Consider the motivation and impact of Anger
• Understand some root causes behind our Anger
• Identify solutions to mitigate undesirable results manifested by Anger
Three Quick Techniques
1. Pause & Pray:
2.Take deep breaths
3.Stop the negative thoughts:
Ecc 7:9 Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools.
Homework-Anger Journal• Record at least one Angry experience over the next
week?
• What caused your anger?
• How did you handled the situation?
1 Cor 10:13: There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man:but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.
Romans 12:19: Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
More Techniques for managing Anger
▫ Listening…▫Be assertive…▫Empathy…▫ Forgiveness…
Manage Conflict
Ephesians 4:26-2726Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: 27Neither give place to the devil.
ListeningAre you a good listener when Angry?
James 1:1919 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, 20 because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.
Proverbs 17:2727 He that hath knowledge spareth his words: and a man of understanding is of an excellent
spirit.
James 1:2626 Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless.
Stronghold Mitigation TechniquesBe Assertive
If someone (something) has the potential to make you angry, how can you address the situation early?
Matthew 18:15-1715 Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.16 But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.17 And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church: but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as an heathen man and a publican.
Nathan confronts David (2 Samuel 12)
Lower your expectations of the person…
Empathy/Forgiveness
What are some biblical examples of Empathy & Forgiveness expressed?
Ephesians 4:32• Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another,
as God in Christ forgave you.
Matt 7:12• 12 Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should
do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.
Overcoming Stronghold’s Associated with Anger
Bro. Albert
5-23-12
Course Outline
• Define Anger?
• Consider the motivation and impact of Anger
• Understand some root causes behind our Anger
• Identify solutions to mitigate undesirable results manifested by Anger
Mindset of Strongholds
Anger Strongholds
HungerFatigue
PainPhysical Limitations
DepressionUnresolved Conflict
Stress
Fear DisrespectedFrustration Threaten
AbuseInsecurityMental IllnessUnder-valuedDespair
Unmet expectationsPhobiasWork
DiscomfortIllness
Some Anger Mgmt Techniques
1. Pause & Pray
2.Relax--take deep breaths, meditation, etc.
3.Stop the negative thoughts
4.Listen
5.Practice Empathy & Forgiveness
6.Be Assertive
7.Leverage your support system
Ephesians 4:26-27, 4:29-5:226Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: 27Neither give place to the devil.
29Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but thatwhich is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
32And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.
51Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children; 2And walk in love, as
Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet smelling savour.
30And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption. 31Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamor, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:
Group 1
Group3
Group 2
Group 4
Group Exercise
Here are some of the techniques previously explored:
Pause & Pray
Relax--take deep breaths, meditate, etc.
Stop the negative thoughts
Listen
Practice Empathy & Forgiveness
Be Assertive
Investigate the selected scripture text…
1)What does the scripture(s) mean to you?
2)In terms of addressing strongholds related to Anger, what is the relevance (or irrelevance) of the scripture text study ?
Leverage Your Spiritual Support
1 Corinthians 12:24-2724 For our comely parts have no need: but God hath tempered the body together,
having given more abundant honour to that part which lacked.25 That there should be no schism in the body; but that the members should have
the same care one for another.26 And whether one member suffer, all the members suffer with it; or one
member be honoured, all the members rejoice with it.
27 Now ye are the body of Christ, and members in particular.
When angry, who do you turn to?
Ecclesiastes 4 9-10 9 Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.
10 For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.
Proverbs 13:20 NIV20 He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of
fools shall be destroyed.
Anger Strongholds
Long-sufferingKindness
Patience
MeditateListen
Grace EmpathyForgiveness Mercy
PausePauseBreathe
Leverage SupportBe Assertive
Some Anger Mgmt Techniques
Pause & Pray
Relax--take deep breaths, meditation, etc.
Stop the negative thoughts
Listen
Practice Empathy & Forgiveness
Be Assertive
Leverage your support system
Ephesians 4:26-2726Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: 27Neither give place to the devil.