Parenting Styles, Child Parenting Styles, Child Abuse, and Social Abuse, and Social

DevelopmentDevelopment

Parenting StylesParenting StylesIf I had my child to raise all over again,If I had my child to raise all over again,

I'd build self-esteem first, and the house later.I'd build self-esteem first, and the house later.I'd finger-paint more, and point the finger less.I'd finger-paint more, and point the finger less.

I would do less correcting and more connecting.I would do less correcting and more connecting.I'd take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my I'd take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my

eyes.eyes.I'd take more hikes and fly more kites.I'd take more hikes and fly more kites.

I'd stop playing serious, and seriously play.I'd stop playing serious, and seriously play.I would run through more fields and gaze at more I would run through more fields and gaze at more

stars.stars.I'd do more hugging and less tugging.I'd do more hugging and less tugging.

~Diane Loomans, from "If I Had My Child To Raise Over Again"~Diane Loomans, from "If I Had My Child To Raise Over Again"

AuthoritarianAuthoritarian

Parents are the “bossesParents are the “bosses May believe the child has no right to question May believe the child has no right to question

their decisions.their decisions.

Democratic or AuthoritativeDemocratic or Authoritative

Children participate in decisions affecting their Children participate in decisions affecting their lives.lives.

Are more confident of own values and goals.Are more confident of own values and goals. Establishment of limitsEstablishment of limits Responding to the child with warmth and support.Responding to the child with warmth and support.

Democratic or AuthoritativeDemocratic or Authoritative

Are more likely to make own decisions with or Are more likely to make own decisions with or without advice.without advice.

Why?Why? Assume responsibility gradually.Assume responsibility gradually. Identify with parents who love Identify with parents who love

and respect them.and respect them. Parents present a model of responsible, Parents present a model of responsible,

cooperative independence.cooperative independence.

Permissive or Laissez-FairePermissive or Laissez-Faire

Children have the final say.Children have the final say. Parents may try to guide, but give in when the Parents may try to guide, but give in when the

children insist on having their own way.children insist on having their own way.

UninvolvedUninvolved

EgocentricEgocentric Uncommitted to their rolesUncommitted to their roles DistantDistant

Effects of Parenting StylesEffects of Parenting Styles

DemocraticDemocratic: are more confident of their own : are more confident of their own values and goals.values and goals. More likely to make their own decisions with or More likely to make their own decisions with or

without advice.without advice. Has assumed responsibility gradually.Has assumed responsibility gradually. More likely to identify with parents who love and More likely to identify with parents who love and

respect them.respect them. Parents present a model of responsible, cooperative Parents present a model of responsible, cooperative

independence for them to imitate.independence for them to imitate.

Child AbuseChild Abuse

Physical or mentalPhysical or mental Sexual abuseSexual abuse Negligence/mistreatmentNegligence/mistreatment 3 million reports every year.3 million reports every year.

Causes of Child AbuseCauses of Child Abuse

Many abusive parents were themselves Many abusive parents were themselves abused. [1/3 according to abused. [1/3 according to childhelp.orgchildhelp.org]]

Many abusive parents have little patienceMany abusive parents have little patience Unrealistic expectations.Unrealistic expectations. Overburdened, stressed outOverburdened, stressed out UnemploymentUnemployment Lack of contact with family, friends, or social Lack of contact with family, friends, or social

groups.groups.

How to reduce child abuse?How to reduce child abuse?

Parent education.Parent education. Learn new ways of dealing with their children.Learn new ways of dealing with their children. Resources and supportResources and support