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2. OutlineMarriage : A Crisis?Marriage in IslamBenefits of MarriageEssentials of Muslim MarriageSpouse SelectionEssential Tips 3. Marriage: A Crisis? 4. FamilyinCrisisWestern Society Married couple with children= 37.4% Married couple without children = 33.1% Family break down = 50%(Canadian census 2001)Marriage : A Crisis? 5. Divorcethe USAInRateEvery two marriages, there is one divorce2.04 million males are single parents.9.68 million females are single parents.28% parents live with one parent.(Divorce Magazine)Marriage : A Crisis? 6. Impact onMuslimSocieties Divorce rate on rise:California: 37%Georgia: 29%Turkey + Egypt:10% Lack of reference points for second generation and(Dr . Illyas Ba-Yunus, Professor younger families.Sociology, State University of New york)Marriage : A Crisis ? 7. Marriage In Islam A Life time Investment 8. NIKAAHA form of Ibadah in Islam 9. NIKAAHRasulullah(saw) hasreferred to it as halfof Deen.Staus of Marriage In Islam 10. SocialObligationIslam considers marriage a social obligation, an actwhich is greatly admired by Allah.Status of Marriage In Islam 11. NaturalRelationship Nikaah - is the(only) naturalrelationshipbetween man andwoman.Status of Marriage In Islam 12. In the Light of Quran: O mankind, fear your Lord, who created you from one soul and createdfrom it its mate and dispersed from both of them many men andwomen. And fear Allah , through whom you ask one another, and thewombs. Indeed Allah is ever, over you, an Observer. [An-Nisa: 1]Status of Marriage In Islam 13. In the Light of Quran:And We have already sent messengers before you and assigned to them wives and descendants. And it was not for a messenger to come with a sign except by permission of Allah . For every term is a decree. [Ar-Raad, 13:38]Status of Marriage In Islam 14. In the Light of Quran: Who will inherit me and inherit from the family ofJacob. And make him, my Lord, pleasing [toYou]. Verse 6: Surah maryamStatus of Marriage In Islam 15. Pre-Islamic Arabia Family status No age barrier Variations inNikaah: Badal: Exchanging wives Before birth Shighar: Exchangingsisters and daughters inmarriage so no dowry ormehr Maqaat: Marrying stepMarriage in Islam mother 16. Foundationof Marriage in Islam 17. SignsFor People who give thought And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placedbetween you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.Al-Rum: 21Foundation of Marriage in Islam 18. GarmentsFor Each otherThey are clothing for you and you are clothing for them.Al-Baqarah: 187Foundation of Marriage in Islam 19. AdvantagesOf Marriage 20. Preservation ofFaithWhen Allah grants one a righteous wife, He has helped him (by that) to preserve half ofhis religion. Let him then fear and revereAllah in regard to the other half. (At- Tabarani)Advantages of Marriage 21. Preservation of ChastityAbdullah bin Masud (RA) reported that Allahs Messenger (SAW) said to us: 0 young men, those among you who cansupport a wife should marry, for it restrains eyes (from casting evil glances) andpreserves one from immorality; but he whocannot afford It should observe fast for it is a means of controlling the sexual desire.(Muslim)Advantages of Marriage 22. EnjoyingLove Al-Baqarah: 187 MercySecurityAdvantages of Marriage 23. Benefits of Marriage for society 24. Preservation ofHumanRaceBenefits of Marriage for society 25. Preservation ofKinshipTiesBenefits of Marriage for society 26. Safeguarding Society fromMoral DegradationBenefits of Marriage for society 27. EstablishingFamilyEnvironmentBenefits of Marriage for society 28. Increasing number ofMUSLIMSBenefits of Marriage for society 29. EssentialsFor Muslim Marriage 30. CommitmentEssentials for Muslim Marriage 31. ContentmentEssentials for Muslim Marriage 32. CompromiseEssentials for Muslim Marriage 33. MutualCaringEssentials for Muslim Marriage 34. PracticeCommunication SkillsEssentials for Muslim Marriage 35. Excellent MannersEssentials for Muslim Marriage 36. Learning to EmpathizeEssentials for Muslim Marriage 37. BeingSINCEREEssentials for Muslim Marriage 38. LOVEEssentials for Muslim Marriage 39. ForgivenessEssentials for Muslim Marriage 40. SpouseSelection 41. Women are married for four qualities, some aremarried for wealth, some for the family(lineage)status, some for beauty and some for the Deen (piety). Marry a woman for her Deen and you shall be happy/successful. (Bukhari/ Muslim)Spouse selection 42. If a man comes to you seekingmarriage, and you are satisfied with his dinand character, marry him- lest a fitnah andgreat destruction become rampant on theearth. (Tirmadhi)Spouse selection 43. And how do you select?WhereSpouse Selection 44. Pre-WeddingIslamic Principles 45. To Dos 1. Let family check outfor you and priority ispiety. 2. Do Istikhara. 3. See each otherbefore marriage Steps to Islamic PrinciplesPre-Wedding Islamic Principles 46. To Dos4. Significance of Kuff5. To take members of one`s family to propose6. To keep making dua to Allah to guide one and to give one the correct partner7. The proposal should be submitted to the Steps to Islamic PrinciplesPre-Wedding Islamic Principles Wali (guardian) of 47. Womans Wali A Marriage Contract isnot valid without a Wali.(Abu Dawood) Father, grandfather, son,brother, Uncle etc. For, indeed, it is an adulteress who gives herself in marriage (without her walis consent).(Ibn Majah)Steps to Islamic Principles 48. What one isNOT ALLOWED To date and court the woman beforeNikaah. To phone each other. To send a proposal to a divorcee/widowduring her iddat. To submit a proposal when someone elsehas already proposed to the same woman.Rasulullah (saw) has stopped us from doingthis.Steps to Islamic Principles 49. CompulsoryComponents Of Nikah Presence of Wali Ejab O Qabool Khutba Nikaah MehrSteps to Islamic Principles 50. The ProphetsModel Hazrat Khadija and Hazrat Aaisha andProphet Mohammad Prophet MohammadSAWSAW She was 40, he was Got married at a young age 25 Examples of love and First Muslim to accept affection Islam Source of pleasure, joy and Devoted and loving comfort to her husband wife Vast treasure of Islamic Always stood by theknowledge and a teacherExamples of Some Marriages Prophet in moments ofof scholars and experts 51. Rituals In Marriage Which month? How to announce? How to enjoy? 52. Poisonous ElementsGREEDAvoiding Poisonous Elements 53. PoisonousElementsShowOffAvoiding Poisonous Elements 54. PoisonousElementsExcessiveSpendingAvoiding Poisonous Elements 55. Poisonous Elements AdoptingHaraamcustomsAvoiding Poisonous Elements 56. Some Tips 57. Tackleown Wedding On your Smart How to Simplify? How to avoid extravagance How to handle photo shootsession? How to handle unexpected freemixing at wedding? How to minimizeextravagance?Some Tips 58. Save Yourself Practicesimplicity Providesupport forHalal tobride andgroom Avoidextravagance Cut outHaraamritualsSome Tips 59. Make DuaSome Tips 60. Get Married, Not for yourself, butfor the future of your children, they are getting late for school and thefee is increasing day by day Think Economically