PRINCIPLES OF GOOD BEHAVIOR TOWARDS THE WIFE 1. Not to express disagreement through the sensorimotor self (head , face, hands, stance, voice, touch, speech acts). Wanting to learn from the wife what she sees and experiences about his sensorimotor expressions when he interacts with her under various situations or issues. 2. Not to express disagreement in verbal exchanges that are experienced by the wife as disjunctive. Wanting to learn from the wife what she experiences as disjunctive and unsexy conversational style. 3. Not to perform acts of disloyalty to her. Not to betray her to others by revealing things she does not want them to know. Not to discuss her with anyone in a way she would object if she heard a recording of the conversation. Not to lie to her in order to protect himself from her disapproval. Not to ignore what she says, but to think about it and remember it, and make it important to him. 4. To be supportive of her by encouraging her in what she wants to do or accomplish. To want to strengthen her self-confidence and thus, not to do or say anything that would weaken it or hurt it. To listen to her, to understand her, to learn from her, to admire her thinking, to appreciate her humor, to love her observations and perspective on various things. 5. To be protective of her sense of security and her vulnerabilities. To love her femininity. To be soft and sweet with her, always. To avoid giving her worries. To relieve her stress and anxieties. 6. To be useful to her in various ways that make her life more comfortable. To learn to offer to do things for her, then to learn to do them in a way she approves and likes. 7. To touch her every time he sees her. To keep himself clean, shaven, and attired in clean, attractive clothes. To learn how she likes to be touched and aroused. To pay attention to details. To learn how to make her laugh, and what puts her in a good mood. To be be dedicated to her happiness. 8. To learn how she wants him to make up when he precipitated a state of disjunction between them, by violating good principles of action. To learn how to perform procedures of (a) sufficient apology, (b) felt remorse, and (c) fun ideas about restitution or compensation (e.g., surprises that delight her).
1. Not to express disagreement through the sensorimotor self
(head , face, hands, stance, voice, touch, speech acts). Wanting to
learn from the wife what she sees and experiences about his
sensorimotor expressions when he interacts with her under various
situations or issues. 2. Not to express disagreement in verbal
exchanges that are experienced by the wife as disjunctive. Wanting
to learn from the wife what she experiences as disjunctive and
unsexy conversational style. 3. Not to perform acts of disloyalty
to her. Not to betray her to others by revealing things she does
not want them to know. Not to discuss her with anyone in a way she
would object if she heard a recording of the conversation. Not to
lie to her in order to protect himself from her disapproval. Not to
ignore what she says, but to think about it and remember it, and
make it important to him. 4. To be supportive of her by encouraging
her in what she wants to do or accomplish. To want to strengthen
her self-confidence and thus, not to do or say anything that would
weaken it or hurt it. To listen to her, to understand her, to learn
from her, to admire her thinking, to appreciate her humor, to love
her observations and perspective on various things. 5. To be
protective of her sense of security and her vulnerabilities. To
love her femininity. To be soft and sweet with her, always. To
avoid giving her worries. To relieve her stress and anxieties. 6.
To be useful to her in various ways that make her life more
comfortable. To learn to offer to do things for her, then to learn
to do them in a way she approves and likes. 7. To touch her every
time he sees her. To keep himself clean, shaven, and attired in
clean, attractive clothes. To learn how she likes to be touched and
aroused. To pay attention to details. To learn how to make her
laugh, and what puts her in a good mood. To be be dedicated to her
happiness. 8. To learn how she wants him to make up when he
precipitated a state of disjunction between them, by violating good
principles of action. To learn how to perform procedures of (a)
sufficient apology, (b) felt remorse, and (c) fun ideas about
restitution or compensation (e.g., surprises that delight her).
