Psycho-Social Health

Definitions:

Not just the absence of diseasebut . . . . (you finish this definition)

Keys to Successful Change

Self-efficacy: believe you can obtain a goalReinforcement: positive or negativeSelf-talk: messages you send yourselfLocus of Control

Locus of Control

Internal: from within selfExternal: from others/environment

http://www.psychtests.com/lc.html

Healthy Self-Esteem

Grounded in the positive experiences of love received in childhood.

Originally built on characteristics adopted from parents.

Healthy self-esteem is integrated.

Healthy Family

Open communication Supportive and flexible Teaches (discipline) and respects Sense of play and humor Honor traditions and rituals Share responsibilities Seek help if needed Respect privacy

Unhealthy Family

Closed communication, secrets Strict and rigid, controlling Unpredictable Untrusting Unsafe to express feelings Unclear roles Constant conflict or no conflict

Healthy vs Unhealthy Families

Open Communication Supportive, Flexible Teaches Discipline Respectful Sense of Play, Humor Shared Responsibilities Seek Help if Needed Respect for

Differences/Privacy

Closed Communications, Secrets

Strict, Rigid, Controlling Demands, Punishes Disrespectful Unpredictable, Unclear

Rules Untrusting Unclear Rules,

Confusion Constant Conflict or No

Conflict

Impact of Healthy vs Healthy Families?

On society? On the individual?

Impact?: Healthy/Unhealthy

HEALTHY UNHEALTHYTRUST IS ESTABLISHED INABILITY TO TRUSTEXPRESSION OF LOVE IS ACCEPTED DON’T SHARE FEELINGSENVIRONMENT IS SAFE ENVIRONMENT IS UNSAFELEARN TO PLAY/HAVE FUN FEELINGS OF INADEQUACYENJOYS TIME AT HOME ESCAPES (FANTASY OR REAL)DEVELOPS PROBLEM-SOLVING FEELINGS OF INADEQUACY

ABILITIES EMOTIONAL PAINSHAME AND DOUBTGUILT, ANGER, FEARLONELINESS, CONFUSION

Maslow’s Hierarchy of Human Needs

SELF

ACTUALIZA TION

ESTEEM NEEDS

LOVE AND AFFECTION

SAFETY AND SECURITY

PHYSIOLOGICAL NEEDS

Psycho-Socially Healthy People

are realistic accept themselves are free and autonomous have capacity for intimacy live lives in creative ways

Challenges to Esteem Need

Can choose to:– acknowledge something went wrong and can

start again– deny anything went wrong and blame

someone else– develop a lasting negative self-esteem and

feel bad, unloved and ineffective

Road to Good Psycho-Social Health

Maintain honest communication Be assertive Be flexible deal with anger appropriately dump the GARBAGE

Dumping the GARBAGE

G guilt A anger R revenge B bitterness A aggression G greed E envy

Basic Rules by Which to Live

Accept yourself Respect yourself Trust yourself Love yourself Stretch yourself Look at challenges as opportunities for

personal growth Think not of where but who you want to be