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Disclaimer: This article is by no means a defence of domestic violence, but a
comprehensive elucidation on the Quranic passage 4:34, explaining the verse
in question, in great detail, using Muslim and nonMuslim !cholarly
evidences, so that readers understand the verse and its implications more
thoroughly"
Quran 4:34 #Men are the protectors and maintainers of $omen, because
%llah has made one of them to excel &strength' the other, and because they
spend &to support them' from their means" Therefore the righteous $omen
are devoutly obedient &to %llah and to their husbands', and guard in the
husband(s absence $hat %llah orders them to guard &e"g" their chastity, their
husband(s property, etc"'" %s to those $omen on $hose part you see ill
conduct, admonish them &first', &next', refuse to share their beds, &and last'
beat them &lightly', but if they return to obedience, see) not against them
means &of annoyance'" !urely, %llah is *ver Most +igh, Most reat"-
The claim by critics that .the Quran sanctions $ife abuse(, that a man can
beat her $ife blac) and blue for disobedience anytime he $ants, is a
complete lie"
/irstly, there is a serious sequence of events that has to ta)e place before a
husband can lightly beat his $ife" 0hen the $ord .beat( is mentioned in the
passage, it is meant in a symbolic $ay, it is meant to emotionally ma)e the
$ife thin), $hat she is doing is $rong" 1t is important to point out that the
verse starts off $ith that men are protectors of $omen, it says: #Men are the
protectors and maintainers of $omen, because %llah has made one of them
to excel the other &strength'"- 1t is also crucial to sho$ the fact that the Quran
describes three steps to be ta)en, before a husband can symbolically, .lightly
beat( her" The verse does not start off $ith .beat her $henever she disobeys("
The main aim of the passage is to prevent &restrain' a husband from using
violence against his $ife"
2"Qa$$amuna .rotectors and maintainers(
The passage begins by stating that men are .protectors and maintainers( of
$omen, this straight a$ay thro$s the false argument held by critics that men
in 1slam are allo$ed to abuse their $ives" %lso 1 $ould li)e to highlight that
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the verse does not denote that men are superior to their $ives" The %rabic
$ord .qa$$amuna( used in the start of the verse literally means that men are
#protectors and maintainers("
Dr" %hmed 5" 6a7ir comments on the $ord .Qa$$am( &.qa$$amuna(' in his
boo), he says:
#!ome quote the verse 4:34 &Men are the protectors and maintainers of
$omen8' to say that, in 1slam, men are the bosses of $omen" This phrase
does not mean that men are the rulers or commanders of $omen" %s human
beings, 1slam gives equal status to both men and $omen" This phrase means
that men are protectors of $omen and they are responsible to spend of their
property for the support of $omen" The %rabic $ord .Qa$$am( &protectors'
means .9ne $ho stands firm in another(s business, protects his interests, and
loo)s after his affairs: or it may be, standing form in his o$n business,
managing affairs, $ith a steady purpose"(-2;
Those critics $ho love to quote the verse &4:34' and assume that men are
masters and $omen are servants, should get familiar $ith chapter < verse =2
of the Quran, as the same $ords &Qa$$amanu' are used for both passages"
Quran elievers, men and $omen, are protectors &Qa$$amanu' of
one of another: they en?oin $hat is ?ust, and forbid $hat is evil: they observe
regular prayers, practise regular charity, and obey %llah and +is Messenger"
9n them $ill %llah pour +is mercy: for %llah is *xalted in po$er, 0ise"
Thus, the %rabic $ord .Qa$$amanu( only means, to guard, protect, maintain,
ta)ecare of, not $hat uneducated missionaries have assumed that .men are
masters over their $ives"( 0e shall no$ bring forth further evidence for the
%rabic $ord .Qa$$amanu("
*ncyclopaedic Dictionary of @eligion: QA gives the meaning for the %rabic
$ord Qa$$am, it says:
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#Qa$$am: Qa$$am or qayyim is a person responsible for administering or
supervising the affairs of either an individual or an organi7ation, for
protecting and safeguarding them and ta)ing care of their needs"-B;
0e can see that the $ord .Qa$$amuna( is someone $ho is a .protector and
maintainer( for the $ife, a man $ho is financially responsible for the family"
od %lmighty has assigned men the role, to be a maintainer and guardian of
the household, ta)ing care of the $ife(s needsi"e, food on the plate, clothing,
shelter and protecting her physically and emotionally $hen she is do$n" This
?ust goes to sho$ that $omen in the Quran are treated $ith dignity, and
commanded by od that they be protected"
B" %rabic $ord .6ushu7(
6ext, the $ord .nushu7(" Dr" %hmed !hafaat, $ho is a commentator of the
Quran gives a thorough, detailed explanation on the $ord" +e $rites:
#%s for those $omen on $hose part you fear nushu78- >efore $e go any
further $ith the translation, it is important to explain the meaning of the )ey
$ord nushu7" The literal meaning of the $ord is #rebellion-" >ut rebellion
against $hom and in $hat senseC 0e should certainly not thin) of this interms the rebellion of the ruled against a ruler in a sultanate or dictatorship
and conclude that it consists of the $ife disobeying some of the husband(s
commands" This is because the same $ord nushu7 is used in case of a
husband in verse 2B of the same surah 4, $here it is said: #1f a $oman fears
nushu7 on her husband(s part8- !o nushu7 is something that can be feared
by the husband on the $ife(s part or by the $ife on her husband(s part" 1t
cannot therefore be understood in terms of the rulerruled relationship" To
correctly understand the meaning of the $ord, it must be noted that both in
the verse under consideration and in verse 2B the reference to nushu7 is
follo$ed by a reference to the brea)up of the marriage &see vv" 3E, 23F'" 1f
this context is )ept in mind, then it becomes evident that nushu7 means the
type of behaviour on the part of the husband or the $ife $hich is so
disturbing for the other that their living together becomes difficult"
6o$ the behaviour of a marriage partner can become disturbing for the other
in one of the follo$ing t$o $ays:
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2' There is no ill$ill on the part of the offending party" 1t is simply because of
some incompatibility bet$een the t$o or the failure on the part of one to
understand the other that one of them finds some aspect of the other(s
behaviour disturbing"
B' 9ne partner )no$ingly behaves or continues to behave in a $ay $hich
seriously disturbs the other partner" 1n this case there is obviously an ill$ill
on the part of the first partner to$ards the second"
6ushu7 is only this second type of behaviour, for only a deliberate illconduct
based on ill$ill can be described as #rebellion-"
There is also a measure of relativeness about nushu7 in the sense that $hat
constitutes nushu7 in the eyes of one person may not be so vie$ed by
another" /or this reason, the ?udgment that one(s spouse has been guilty of
nushu7 is partly a sub?ective and personal one" That is $hy the verse says: #1f
you fear nushu78- instead of for example, #if you find nushu78"- 1n the +oly
Qur(an #fearing- signifies sub?ective but certain, )no$ledge or ?udgment
about something"
1n short, nushu7 is a behaviour on the part of one marriage partner $hichcomes out of ill$ill and seriously disturbs the other partner" &!ource'
3" !pea)ing to your $ife &2' and then separating beds &B'
1t is also important to highlight to everyone that, $hen a $ife is disobedient,
$ho is seriously disturbing the peace in marriage" The husband has to first
spea) to her $ith gentle $ords, to bring her to her senses that, $hat she is
doing is $rong" 0hen the verbal complaint to the $ife is exhausted and she
continuous" Then the Quran commands the husband to separate beds $ith
her, depriving her of her sexual needs"
4" %rabic $ord .1ddribunnah(
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The %rabic $ord .1ddribunnah( for chapter 4 verse 34, has been by many
critics, especially %nti1slam propagandists $ebsites t$isted, distorted" They
assume that this $ord sanctions &approves' of $ife abuse" 0hen the $ord
.iddribunnah( is used for the passage &Q 4:34', $hich means .beat( &lightly',this final step the husband ta)es, that he beats &lightly' her" 0hen one loo)s
at the verse, in a historical perspective, it has al$ays meant in a symbolic
$ay" The husband is not allo$ed to hurt, bruise, brea) any part of her body,
must also avoid the face" rophet Muhammad &p' stated in his fare$ell
pilgrimage:
#Treat $omen )indly, they are li)e captives in your handsG you do not o$e
anything else from them" 1n case they are guilty of open indecency, then do
not share their beds and beat them lightly but if they return to obedience, donot have recourse to anything else against them" Hou have rights over your
$ives and they have their rights over you" Hour right is that they shall not
permit anyone you disli)e to enter your home, and their right is that you
should treat them $ell in the matter of food and clothing-" %t Tirmidhi
%rabicI*nglish boo) reference: >oo) 2, +adith B=J;
0e see from the above narration the rophet&p', commanding Muslims that
they treat they $ives $ith )indness" %lso, the prophet &p' mentioned that, if a
$oman is found to be .guilty of indecency( that the husband should separatehis bed from his $ife, depriving her of her sexual needs" Then, if the $ife
continuous $ith the same old behaviour, not changed, last resort .beat
lightly(, touching her in such a $ay as to not leave a mar), not to hurt her"
%bu Ka(far Muhammad ibn Karir alTabari $ho is one of the earliest
commentators of the Quran $rites on !urah 4:34" Tabari $ho has a tradition
going bac) to one of the Lompanions of the rophet &p', and explains the
$ord .beat(, he says:
#1 as)ed 1bn %bbas: .0hat is the hitting that is ghayr almubarrihC( +e replied
$ith; the si$a) &toothbrush li)e a t$ig' and the li)e(" 6arrated by alTabari in
his tafsir &Dar alfi)r reprint E:J'
/urthermore %l@a7i &JE
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#%l@a7i &3:BBB' mentions that as a rule &a' it must be a light beating and &b'
the face must be avoided" +e added that certain !hafi(1 ?urists said #coiled
scarf &mindil malfuf' or his hand may be used but not a $hip nor a stic)"-
+ere is a picture of, $hat a .Mis$a)( &or !i$a)' loo)s li)e:
Mis$a)" !i$a), brush teeth, Mas$a)
/rom the evidences presented, it is abundantly clear that the beat must be
very light, that one has to use a Mis$a) &toothbrush' or #coiled scarf-, as
scholars mentioned it" 1t is evident that the force utilised by a .folded scarf( or
a .mis$a)( is, therefore, purely symbolic, it is in no $ay meant to hurt her, it
is more li)e a shoc) to $a)e her up" 1 mentioned at the start of the article
that, 1 $ill present nonMuslim !cholarly evidences, $ho )no$ about 1slamicla$ and the rights of $omen" ay close attention to $hat they have to say,
regarding Quran 4:34"
Kohn ouis *sposito &born May 2
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the last Quranic verse to be revealed that addressed relations bet$een
husband and $ife $as
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violence continued to exist in maledominated cultures and to be legitimated
in the name of religion, neither the ma?ority of Quranic verses nor the hadith
support or permit it"-3;
@ev" Dr" 1ra ilbert Aepp, Kr", professor emeritus of the @eligious !tudies
department at McDaniel Lollege, also comments on the Quranic passage
4:34, he says the follo$ing:
#The husband is the head of the household, is the final authority, and has due
obedience and cooperation from his $ife" 1f the $ife is rebellious or
disobedient, there are several options open to the husband" +e may first try
dissuade her $ith )ind and gentle reasoning" 1f this fails, he may then refrain
from sleeping $ith her" %nd if the above are not effective, he has Quranic
permission to .beat her lightly( &4:34'"
!uch .slight physical correction( &as Husuf %li says' avoids her face and other
sensitive areas" !tri)ing your $ife in the face &as $as pictured in the film 6ot
$ithout my Daughter' and other forms of verbal and physical cruelty have no
sanction in the Quran"
Many Muslims feel that although permitted, such activity is not advisable and
is the exception much more than the rule" 1f all else fails, the next verse
&4:3E' suggests the couple see) help and counsel from a mediator" erhaps
the disagreement bet$een husband and $ife can be resolved in this open,
balanced and neutral $ay"-4;
Dr" Lhris T" @" +e$er .comes from a bac)ground in Lhristian theology,
education, 1slamic studies and interfaith studies and has $or)ed in the field
of Muslims in >ritain and LhristianMuslim relations since 2oth men and $omen have an equal
responsibility to follo$ the 1slamic $ay of life &Q" 33"3E'" % Muslim $oman is
allo$ed to o$n property in her o$n right and dispose of it $ithout reference
to her husband" !he normally )eeps her o$n name after marriage" !he is
permitted to ma)e her o$n $ill to dispose of her goods after death" !he has
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an entitlement to education at all levels equal to that of a man" !he is
entitled to sexual fulfilment" !he has a right to engage in any profession or
business" !he should be consulted in public affairs, follo$ing the example of
Muhammad $ho habitually sought the opinion of some of the Muslim $omen
before ma)ing a decision" !he has the right to )eep and control her earnings,
it being the duty of the husband to meet all domestic expenditure, house hisfamily and educate his children &Q" 4"34'"
There are no grounds for her to be a domestic drudge, it technically being the
husband(s duty to see that hot food is laid before his $ife" The only duty laid
upon a $ife is to be open to bear children, should od bless them, and to
nurse them $hen they are young, although even here a $etnurse can be
retained" These are of course the ideals as provided by 1slamic la$ but the
realities in Muslim families around the $orld do not al$ays follo$ these
prescriptions"
@eference is often made to the verse of the Qur(an that appears to allo$ ahusband to beat his $ife &Q" 4"34'" The context here is one of nushu7, a
violation of duties on the part of the religious $ife" This verse of the Quran
lays do$n four steps to be ta)en, $hich may be seen as a correction and
limitation of pre1slamic practices" /irst the man should spea) to his $ife" 1f
this fails, he should then refuse sleep $ith her" 9nly if this fails to change her
$ays, is he allo$ed a )ind of symbolic humiliation by stri)ing her $ith his
mis$a), a piece of $ood smaller than a pencil, the tip of $hich is used for
brushing the teeth" *ven this is considered inadvisable in some schools of
1slam, and any form of cruelty, including verbal abuse, is unanimously
forbidden" !hould all this fail, then the couple should see) arbitration $ithin
the family"-E;
Lonclusion: 0e can see P understand that od has commanded men to
protect their $ives financially, physically and emotionally" 1f the $ife should
be guilty of le$d or indecent conduct, the husband is told to first, admonish
her and then if she $ould cease this le$dness" 1f she still continues in this
indecency &rebellion', then he should no longer share the bed $ith her" %lso,
if she still, deliberately continuous $ith the same old behaviour, then the
husband has the command from the Quran to beat her lightly $ith a Mis$a)
&a small toothbrush'" /inally, the critics false arguments, trying to criticise the
Quran, assuming that .1slam allo$s $ife abuse( has thoroughly been refuted,
using Muslim and nonMuslim scholarly evidences against their fictitious
arguments" 0e get a clear picture that 1slam in no $ay advocates( $ife
abuse" 1slam has al$ays taught #to love your $ife,- to feed them, to treat
your $ife $ith )indness, as it $ill be sho$n in the follo$ing statements from
rophet Muhammad &p':
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6arrated Mu(a$iyah alQushayri: #1 $ent to the %postle of %llah
&peacebeuponhim' and as)ed him: 0hat do you say &command' about our
$ivesC +e replied: ive them food $hat you have for yourself, and clothe
them by $hich you clothe yourself, and do not beat them, and do not revilethem" &%buDa$ud, >oo) 22, Marriage &5itab %l6i)ah', 6umber B23oo) , 6umber
34J'
ha77ali(s 1hya Nlum1dDin, Marriage:
#The most perfect of believers in faith are those $ho are the finest in
manners and most gentle to$ard their $ives"-J;
@eferences:
2; Dispositions: a7ing 1nto the %ma7ing, Lolorful, lobal Lrystal of +uman
ife BFFy %hmed 5" 6a7ir M"D" page 2F
B; *ncyclopaedic Dictionary of @eligion: QA Lopyright BFFE; Dr" @amesh
Lhopra page JB3
3; 0hat *veryone 6eeds to 5no$ about 1slam: !econd *dition Lopyright
BF22; >y Kohn " *sposito page 224 22J
4; % Muslim rimer: >eginner(s uide to 1slam, Rolume 2 >y 1ra " Aepp Kr
page 2B= 2B Lopyright 2
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J; ha77ali(s 1hya Nlum1dDin, Marriage section
http:II$$$"gha7ali"orgI$or)sImarriage"htm
http://www.ghazali.org/works/marriage.htmhttp://www.ghazali.org/works/marriage.htm