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Raising a Thinking Child

Teaching Young Children How toResolve Everyday Conflicts and

Get Along with Others

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Kickoff

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Moving Up the Ladder

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Problem 1: Your child does not want to take a bath.

•ICPS words (asking WHY)

•Feelings

•Adding solutions

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Problem 2: Your (younger) child won’t use the toilet, even though he or she is potty trained.

•ICPS words (asking WHY)

•Feelings

•Adding solutions

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Tuesday Night Live

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Key Components of ICPS• Vocabulary Words

• Feelings—most important question in dialoguing: “How do you feel when…?”

• Alternatives—coming up with solutions: “Can you think of something different to do when…?”

• Consequences—develops empathy through awareness of other’s feelings: “What might happen if…?”, “Is _____ a good idea or not a good idea?”

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Vocabulary Word Review

Is/Is Not And/Or

Same/Different Might/Maybe

Some/All Before/After

Now/Later Why/Because

Same time/Not the same time

Good time/Not a good time

Good place/Not a good place

Good idea/Not a good idea

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Highlights

What have we learned so far?

How has it changed the way we parent?

How has it helped our kids?

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Homework

• Handouts (pages 61-69)

• Books of the Week: Hands are Not for Hitting by Martine Agassi

Words are Not for Hurting by Elizabeth Verdick

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