Relationships

Learning Goals Success Criteria

I will understand that God created humans to be in relationships with others.

I will be able to identify the different types of relationships in my life.

I will understand the importance of the various relationships in my life on a (S.P.I.E.S) level. (Remember S.P.I.E.S. ??? )

- Healthy relationships worksheet

Agenda:

Setting the tone: what this unit will look like!

Called to Healthy Relationships Reflection

Carousel Reflection and Discussion Note on Healthy Relationships Reflection on personal relationships Episode 1- Full House (Why we need

relationships!!)

Spiritually   

Physically   

Intellectually   

Emotionally   

Socially   

Fill in the following chart below:As individuals grow from childhood to adolescence, how do people change in

each area? (S.P.I.E.S…sound familiar??? )

2. Journal Entry Respond in your notebooks:

a) How has your view of relationships/love changed since you were younger?

b)Reflect on the various relationships in your life involving people you like/love/care about. What are these relationships like? (Create a list of the main people in your life and then write about what each relatonship is like – minimum 5 relationships)

c)Make a list that includes 4-5 of the main qualities you feel must be present in a healthy and/or loving relationship. List 4-5 qualities you do not want in a relationship?

Carousel reflection Love is… Types of Relationships Qualities in Healthy Relationships Impact of Media on your view of

relationships and Sexuality Impact of parents on your view of

relationships and sexuality

The Difference between a Relationship that is Nourishing vs.

Toxic“Love...does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it

is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs...”

(1 Corinthians 13 4-6)

There are several barriers that can break down a relationship. We see these all the time and we are aware that they are destructive. However, when we are a part of a relationship that is unhealthy, we sometimes over look things or even worse, we don’t even realize that these barriers are unhealthy and destructive factors in our relationships.

The world would be very fortunate if all relationships were “nourishing” or healthy. However, we know that many relationships are “toxic” or unhealthy.

These are some examples of relationship barriers: Fear Lack of sense of personal or sexual identity Fear that our faults will be discovered, creating a sense

of guilt Afraid to reveal negative feelings such as anger,

hostility and resentment Past resentments and past expectations brought into

the present Unresolved conflicts with childhood friends, brothers,

and/or sisters The assumption others will expect too much, or too little

from us Lack of self-esteem/self-care and allowing exploitation

by others Unhealthy dependency on another for approval Being naive (where people don’t understand what they

are getting involved with) Secrecy

TOXIC• Lying/Fake/False• Manipulative/Controlling• Deceptive/Rude• Lack of self-reliance and self-confidence in

themselves and therefore, bring the other person down. (Often times this is due to unresolved conflicts or situations of the past)

• Fear is present• Rigid and narrow minded (inflexible)• Judgmental• Pessimistic/negative in their outlook

NOURISHING• Trustworthy and Open• Authentic• Direct/Open and Respectful• More flexible/adaptable to change• Natural and confident in themselves and who they

are as an individual

• Confident in knowing there is no reason to be afraid of speaking your mind.

• More accepting of other people even when they disagree strongly with them

• Avoid being judgmental and critical of themselves or of others

• More optimistic/positive in their outlook

People Nourishing Characteristics

Toxic characteristics

How can I improve this relationship

Parents/Guardians   

Extended family or other relatives   

Friends   

Other