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RelationshipsRelationshipsDefinition of biblical Definition of biblical love:love:
““A commitment to give A commitment to give of myself in every area of myself in every area for the good of for the good of another”another”
RelationshipsRelationshipsA biblical relationship A biblical relationship model:model:
1. Qualities of biblical 1. Qualities of biblical lovelove
2. Areas of investment2. Areas of investment3. Levels of relationship3. Levels of relationship
1. Qualities of biblical love1. Qualities of biblical love4 essential dimensions4 essential dimensions
1. Qualities of biblical love1. Qualities of biblical love4 essential dimensions4 essential dimensions
SacrificialJn. 15:13
1. Qualities of biblical love1. Qualities of biblical love4 essential dimensions4 essential dimensions
SacrificialJn. 15:13
Righteous (Disciplining)Mat. 18:15ff
1. Qualities of biblical love1. Qualities of biblical love4 essential dimensions4 essential dimensions
SacrificialJn. 15:13
Righteous (Disciplining)Mat. 18:15ff
ForgivingI Cor. 13:5
1. Qualities of biblical love1. Qualities of biblical love4 essential dimensions4 essential dimensions
SacrificialJn. 15:13
Righteous (Disciplining)Mat. 18:15ff
ForgivingI Cor. 13:5
EmotionalI Cor. 13:4
2. Areas of Investment2. Areas of Investment
2. Areas of Investment2. Areas of Investment
CommonCommonExperienceExperience
2. Areas of Investment2. Areas of Investment
CommonCommonExperienceExperience
PersonalPersonalInner Inner
WorkingWorking
2. Areas of Investment2. Areas of Investment
CommonCommonExperienceExperience
PersonalPersonalInner Inner
WorkingWorking
EmotionalEmotionalSharingSharing
The Casual RelationshipThe Casual RelationshipCommon Common ExperienceExperience
Inner Inner WorkingWorking
EmotionalEmotionalSharingSharing
The Casual RelationshipThe Casual Relationship
Sporadic Sporadic contact. contact. Tends to Tends to be short-be short-term and term and somewhat somewhat superficialsuperficial
Common Common ExperienceExperience
Inner Inner WorkingWorking
EmotionalEmotionalSharingSharing
The Casual RelationshipThe Casual Relationship
Sporadic contact. Tends to be short-term and somewhat superficial
Come out of your comfort zone
Common Common ExperienceExperience
Inner Inner WorkingWorking
EmotionalEmotionalSharingSharing
The Casual RelationshipThe Casual Relationship
Sporadic Sporadic contact. contact. Tends to Tends to be short-be short-term and term and somewhat somewhat superficialsuperficial
General General searching into searching into the other's the other's interests, goals, interests, goals, likes, dislikes,likes, dislikes,problems, problems, background, background, spiritual spiritual experiences, experiences, priorities, etc. priorities, etc.
Common Common ExperienceExperience
Inner Inner WorkingWorking
EmotionalEmotionalSharingSharing
The Casual RelationshipThe Casual Relationship
Sporadic Sporadic contact. contact. Tends to Tends to be short-be short-term and term and somewhat somewhat superficialsuperficial
General General searching into searching into the other's the other's interests, goals, interests, goals, likes, dislikes,likes, dislikes,problems, problems, background, background, spiritual spiritual experiences, experiences, priorities, etc. priorities, etc.
Get Get outside outside yourself & yourself & explore explore anotheranother
Common Common ExperienceExperience
Inner Inner WorkingWorking
EmotionalEmotionalSharingSharing
The Casual RelationshipThe Casual Relationship
Sporadic Sporadic contact. contact. Tends to Tends to be short-be short-term and term and somewhat somewhat superficialsuperficial
General General searching into searching into the other's the other's interests, goals, interests, goals, likes, dislikes,likes, dislikes,problems, problems, background, background, spiritual spiritual experiences, experiences, priorities, etc. priorities, etc.
Interest, Interest, warmth, warmth, enthusiasm enthusiasm "Politeness" "Politeness" means means negatives are negatives are shared shared carefully and carefully and only if only if necessarynecessary
Common Common ExperienceExperience
Inner Inner WorkingWorking
EmotionalEmotionalSharingSharing
The Casual RelationshipThe Casual Relationship
Sporadic Sporadic contact. contact. Tends to Tends to be short-be short-term and term and somewhat somewhat superficialsuperficial
General General searching into searching into the other's the other's interests, goals, interests, goals, likes, dislikes,likes, dislikes,problems, problems, background, background, spiritual spiritual experiences, experiences, priorities, etc. priorities, etc.
Common Common ExperienceExperience
Inner Inner WorkingWorking
EmotionalEmotionalSharingSharing
Interest, Interest, warmth, warmth, enthusiasm enthusiasm "Politeness" "Politeness" means means negatives are negatives are shared shared carefully and carefully and only if only if necessarynecessary
Learn to be Learn to be more more expressive expressive and and vulnerablevulnerable
The The CloseClose Relationship RelationshipCommon Common ExperienceExperience
Inner Inner WorkingWorking
EmotionalEmotionalSharingSharing
The The CloseClose Relationship Relationship
Regular Regular time spent time spent Quality Quality time time included. included. Shared Shared goals and goals and interestsinterests
Common Common ExperienceExperience
Inner Inner WorkingWorking
EmotionalEmotionalSharingSharing
The The CloseClose Relationship Relationship
Regular Regular time spent time spent Quality Quality time time included. included. Shared Shared goals and goals and interestsinterests
No short-cut No short-cut to intimacy!to intimacy!
Common Common ExperienceExperience
Inner Inner WorkingWorking
EmotionalEmotionalSharingSharing
Regular Regular time spent time spent Quality Quality time time included. included. Shared Shared goals and goals and interestsinterests
Freedom to Freedom to ask pointed, ask pointed, personal personal questions: questions: other other relationships, relationships, feelings, etc. feelings, etc.
The The CloseClose Relationship RelationshipCommon Common ExperienceExperience
Inner Inner WorkingWorking
EmotionalEmotionalSharingSharing
Regular Regular time spent time spent Quality Quality time time included. included. Shared Shared goals and goals and interestsinterests
Beginning to Beginning to understand understand each other's each other's problems and problems and potentials. potentials. Able to Able to promote promote potential and potential and help with help with problemsproblems
The The CloseClose Relationship RelationshipCommon Common ExperienceExperience
Inner Inner WorkingWorking
EmotionalEmotionalSharingSharing
Regular Regular time spent time spent Quality Quality time time included. included. Shared Shared goals and goals and interestsinterests
Beginning to Beginning to understand understand each other's each other's problems and problems and potentials. potentials. Able to Able to promote promote potential and potential and help with help with problemsproblems
The The CloseClose Relationship Relationship
Thinking Thinking about the about the other while other while not togethernot together
Common Common ExperienceExperience
Inner Inner WorkingWorking
EmotionalEmotionalSharingSharing
Regular Regular time spent time spent Quality Quality time time included. included. Shared Shared goals and goals and interestsinterests
Beginning to Beginning to understand understand each other's each other's problems and problems and potentials. potentials. Able to Able to promote promote potential and potential and help with help with problemsproblems
Loyalty, Loyalty, affection and affection and gratitude. gratitude. More honest More honest about about disappoint-disappoint-ments, but ments, but also careful also careful to encourageto encourage
The The CloseClose Relationship RelationshipCommon Common ExperienceExperience
Inner Inner WorkingWorking
EmotionalEmotionalSharingSharing
Regular Regular time spent time spent Quality Quality time time included. included. Shared Shared goals and goals and interestsinterests
Beginning to Beginning to understand understand each other's each other's problems and problems and potentials. potentials. Able to Able to promote promote potential and potential and help with help with problemsproblems
Loyalty, Loyalty, affection and affection and gratitude. gratitude. More honest More honest about about disappoint-disappoint-ments, but ments, but also careful also careful to encourageto encourage
The The CloseClose Relationship Relationship
Most of us are Most of us are too negative- too negative- we have not we have not discovered this discovered this powerpower
Common Common ExperienceExperience
Inner Inner WorkingWorking
EmotionalEmotionalSharingSharing
Common Common ExperienceExperience
Inner Inner WorkingWorking
EmotionalEmotionalSharingSharing
The The IntimateIntimate Relationship Relationship
Extensive Extensive time time commit-commit-ment. ment. Availability Availability has few has few limits. limits.
Common Common ExperienceExperience
Inner Inner WorkingWorking
EmotionalEmotionalSharingSharing
The The IntimateIntimate Relationship Relationship
Shared Shared worlds:worlds:goals, goals, activities, activities, and other and other people. people. Backlog of Backlog of common common experienceexperience
Common Common ExperienceExperience
Inner Inner WorkingWorking
EmotionalEmotionalSharingSharing
The The IntimateIntimate Relationship Relationship
Shared Shared worlds:worlds:goals, goals, activities, activities, and other and other people. people. Backlog of Backlog of common common experienceexperience
Prolonged Prolonged investment investment overcomes overcomes other other deficienciesdeficiencies
Common Common ExperienceExperience
Inner Inner WorkingWorking
EmotionalEmotionalSharingSharing
The The IntimateIntimate Relationship Relationship
Shared Shared worlds:worlds:goals, goals, activities, activities, and other and other people. people. Backlog of Backlog of common common experienceexperience
Complete open Complete open communi-communi-cation.cation.
Common Common commitment commitment to develop to develop each other's each other's charactercharacter
Common Common ExperienceExperience
Inner Inner WorkingWorking
EmotionalEmotionalSharingSharing
The The IntimateIntimate Relationship Relationship
Shared Shared worlds:worlds:goals, goals, activities, activities, and other and other people. people. Backlog of Backlog of common common experienceexperience
Complete open Complete open communi-communi-cation.cation.
Common Common commitment commitment to develop to develop each other's each other's charactercharacter
Common Common ExperienceExperience
Inner Inner WorkingWorking
EmotionalEmotionalSharingSharing
The The IntimateIntimate Relationship Relationship
Confronta-Confronta-tion and tion and affirmation affirmation go both waysgo both ways
Shared Shared worlds:worlds:goals, goals, activities, activities, and other and other people. people. Backlog of Backlog of common common experienceexperience
Complete open Complete open communi-communi-cation.cation.
Common Common commitment commitment to develop to develop each other's each other's charactercharacter
Same as Same as "close," but "close," but even more even more freedom to freedom to share openly. share openly. Emotional Emotional giving is giving is constructive constructive & controlled & controlled
Common Common ExperienceExperience
Inner Inner WorkingWorking
EmotionalEmotionalSharingSharing
The The IntimateIntimate Relationship Relationship
Shared Shared worlds:worlds:goals, goals, activities, activities, and other and other people. people. Backlog of Backlog of common common experienceexperience
Complete open Complete open communi-communi-cation.cation.
Common Common commitment commitment to develop to develop each other's each other's charactercharacter
Commitment Commitment to share to share nurturing nurturing feelings for feelings for the sake of the sake of the other the other even when even when not not spontaneousspontaneous
Common Common ExperienceExperience
Inner Inner WorkingWorking
EmotionalEmotionalSharingSharing
The The IntimateIntimate Relationship Relationship
Shared Shared worlds:worlds:goals, goals, activities, activities, and other and other people. people. Backlog of Backlog of common common experienceexperience
Complete open Complete open communi-communi-cation.cation.
Common Common commitment commitment to develop to develop each other's each other's charactercharacter
Commitment Commitment to share to share nurturing nurturing feelings for feelings for the sake of the sake of the other the other even when even when not not spontaneousspontaneous
The The IntimateIntimate Relationship RelationshipCommon Common ExperienceExperience
Inner Inner WorkingWorking
EmotionalEmotionalSharingSharing
Some Some expressions expressions will will nevernever be be spontaneousspontaneous
Using the ModelUsing the ModelFor each point of tension:For each point of tension: -the key is to appropriate the -the key is to appropriate the power of God for changepower of God for change
-persistent prayer and -persistent prayer and availabilityavailability
-don’t be confined to working -don’t be confined to working on only one levelon only one level
-get help from others-get help from others
Next WeekNext WeekManaging inter-personal Managing inter-personal conflictconflict
Relationships Week 3Relationships Week 3
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