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Resilience in Action:A Strength-Based Approach
Ken Ginsburg
Covenant House Pennsylvania
The Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia
Objectives
1. Speaking the language of resilience
2. Eliminating shame, building confidence
3. Not undermining competence; Learning not to lecture
4. Managing stress without turning to the easy fix
Resilience
• The Ability To Overcome Adversity
• The Capacity to Bounce Back
ResilienceResilienceis ais a
MindsetMindset
Resilience is UnevenResilience is Uneven
Resilience
is
NOT
Invulnerability
A Reactive Mind May Find It Harder To be Resilient
Resilience
is
NOT
a character trait.
It is affected by supports and circumstances!!!
The Bottom Line of Resilience
• Young People will be more resilient if the
important adults in their lives believe in them
unconditionally and hold them to high
expectations
• Young People live up or down to the
expectations we set for them
This means our attitude matters . . .
Problem Free . . .
. . . is NOT Fully Prepared!
Karen Pittman
And . . . our attitude is assessed constantly by
watching our unintentional signals
Body Language
The 7 C’s of Resilience
Confidence
Competence
Connection
Character
Contribution
Coping
Control
(Little, 1993; Pittman et al., 2003; Eccles and Gootman , 2002; Roth and Brooks-Gunn 2003; Lerner, 2004; Ginsburg,
2006; Frankowski, Leader & Duncan, 2009)
Shifting Resilience
Theory into Action
The Bottom Line . . . again
• Young People will be more resilient if the
important adults in their lives believe in them
unconditionally and hold them to high
expectations
• Young People live up or down to the
expectations we set for them
Therefore, the importance of
Connection can not be overstated. . .
• Family
• School
• Community
• Role models
• Someone who sees the potential . . .
“I’m not trash”
The Five Steps of Behavioral Change
1. Awareness
2. Motivation
3. Skills
4. Trial and error
5. Maintenance
Who’s the Expert?
Confidence gets it started . . .
. . . and shame paralyzes all efforts
How can we help kids realize they hold the keys to their own healing?
Finding Competence . . . . . . Building Confidence
Learning Not to Undermine Competence
• Listening
• Letting young people make their own mistakes
• Knowing how to praise
• Knowing how to criticize
• Yet
Promoting Authentic Success
• Talking in a way young people understand
• Recognizing the cognitive development of adolescence
• No more lectures!!!!!!
Learning Not to Undermine Competence
Battlemind
The Importance of Skills
Control
The World Happens to Me
or
I control my Destiny
You Feel Awful!!!
Positive Coping
Strategies
Stress Discomfort
Negative Coping
Strategies
Relief
You Feel Awful!!!DiscomfortYou Feel Awful!!!Discomfort
Relief
You Feel Awful!!!
Positive Coping
Strategies
Stress Discomfort
Negative Coping
Strategies
Relief
You Feel Awful!!!DiscomfortYou Feel Awful!!!Discomfort
Relief
Coping
Engagement vs. Disengagement
Emotion Focused vs. Problem Focused
A Stress Management Plan for Teenagers
Stress Management : Tackling The Problem
1) Making the problem manageable
2) Active Avoidance
3) Let Some things go
Serenity Prayer
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the
difference
Stress Management : Taking Care of My Body
4)Exercise
o Fear
o Anger
Stress Management : Taking Care of My Body
5)Relaxation
6)Nutrition
Stress Management : Taking Care of My Body
7) Sleep
o Stimulation
o Cool Down
Exercise
Shower
o Release emotion
Stress Management : Managing Emotions
8) Instant Vacations
9) Releasing Emotions
The Worst thing is not to be
stressed . . . it is to be NUMB
The Tupperware Box
Stress Management Plan : Making the World Better
10) Contributing to the worldThe Protection of Contribution
Contribution to our centers as a road towardengagement
US
We are the rWe are the role modelsole models that ...that ...
Display resilience Display resilience
Choose to cope in healthy waysChoose to cope in healthy ways
Admit vulnerability and personal limitsAdmit vulnerability and personal limits
Reject stigmaReject stigma
See strength in seeking helpSee strength in seeking help
How do we define How do we define success?success?
To touch many lives over a To touch many lives over a lifetimelifetime of service and of service and connection with othersconnection with others
Burnout PreventionBurnout Prevention
Caring professionals Caring professionals are at are at
increased increased riskrisk because of the because of the
intensityintensity of their work and the of their work and the
emotional bondsemotional bonds they form they form with the people they serve.with the people they serve.
Serenity PrayerSerenity Prayer
Grant me the serenity to Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot accept the things I cannot change; courage to change change; courage to change
the things I can; and wisdom the things I can; and wisdom to know the differenceto know the difference
The The Worst thing Worst thing is not to be is not to be stressedstressed . . . it is to be . . . it is to be
NUMBNUMB
The best way of assuring The best way of assuring you will give a lifetime of you will give a lifetime of service is To take care of service is To take care of
yourself firstyourself first