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The 7 steps to conflict Resolution1. Develop an attitude of resolution.- Take a deep breath and count to ten. - Think about the conflict and what gave
rise to it. - Instead of seeing yourself as a victim,
think about your own behavior.
2. Set the stage, plan your approach
- If you are still angry, find a safe place and person with whom you can vent your anger and get some honest, objective feedback.
- Think through what you want to accomplish and create a vision of a desired outcome.
- Mentally “see” this outcome as benefiting both parties and an image of both walking away satisfied.
3. Arrange a place and time to talk
- The ability to focus is important.- Sometimes it is useful to find an environment
different from the setting where the conflict arose.
4. Tell your stories, gain an understanding of the issues.
- Ask the person to relate her side of the conflict- Then, tell your story.
5. Listen actively and with empathy- Look directly at the person- Make eye-to-eye contact- Nod occassionaly - Sit quietly- Speak only for clarification- Summarize key points
As a person tells his story and perceives he is being heard, tension tends to decrease and real dialogue begins.
6. Generate solutions and a shared, win-win vision of resolution.
- Explore and be creative in searching alternatives.
7. Test for satisfaction
- Ask each party if the solution works for them.
Key Principles in Resolving Conflict Take shared responsibility for the conflict Recognize and appreciate differences
among people. Preserve individual dignity Listen carefully and with empathy, listen to
understand, communicate, don’t debate. Be calm Vulnerability is a key to successful
resolution, therefore open up and share your feelings.
Don’t assume people are being difficult intentionally
Choose a safe place or person with whom you can vent and clarify the issues for yourself.
Generate solutions…find agreement Follow-up to assure resolution and modify as
necessary.
Diagram: The 7 steps to conflict resolutionTo resolve a Conflict What to Say or Do? Why?
1. Calm yourself Take a deep breath Clears thinking, models control
2. Restore order Take a time out Stops the fight
3. Hear their stories “Help me understand your concern”
Gathers information, stops tension
4. Listen carefully Eye contact, don’t interrupt
Honors the need to be heard
5. Generate solutions “How could we resolve this?”
Moves from accusations to solutions
6. Agree on a solution “Would this work for you?”
Moves to resolution, brings closure
7. Test for satisfaction “Are you sure this will work for you?”
Assures clear communication
Key Points to Remember Be a model of calm and control Don’t give in to emotional outbursts Don’t assume people are intentionally
difficult Find a quiet and private place to resolve
conflicts No raising of voices Speak only for yourself… “I” phrases Confront the issues not the people