Respect for Self and Others: Bullying

Respect for Self and Others:Bullying. What would you do?

PSMS BULLYING POLICYHarassment or bullying is any repeated and intentional act and may include:Physical Action (hitting, kicking)Verbal comment (teasing, name calling, discriminatory remarks.)Emotional or social form (spreading rumors, leaving or excluding people)Sexual action (sexual comments, gossip of a sexual nature, sexual touching)Cyber (electronically transmitted, inappropriate messages)

Respect for Self and Others:BullyingBullying behavior

act like they rule the worldact meanact rudeattack peopleboss people aroundbrag about being toughbreak peoples thingsdamage peoples thingsembarrass peopleforce people to hand over their money

force people to hand over their possessionsfrighten peoplegossipharass peoplehithumiliate peoplehurt peoples feelingsignore peopleinsult peopleintimidate peoplekicklaugh at people

Ask the student to tell you which of these behaviors they have witnessed.

3Respect for Self and Others:BullyingBullying or Mean Behaviors

make fun of peoplemake obscene gesturesmake racist or sexist commentsmake people feel inferiorleave people outmake people do things they dont want to domake people feel uncomfortablename-callpick on or verbally attack people because of their race, religion, gender, family background, culture, etcpick on or attack people because theyre different in some waypushput people downrefuse to talk to peoplereject peoplesay nasty things about peoplesay sarcastic things to peoplescare peopleshove spread rumorstake peoples thingstauntteasetell mean jokesthreatentouch people inappropriatelyuse physical violenceuse verbal tauntswrite nasty things about people

Ask the student to tell you which of these behaviors they have witnessed.

4Respect for Self and Others:BullyingFacts about BullyingAbout 30% school children is either a bully or a target.Bullying affects about 6 million elementary and middle school students in the U.S.15-20% of all children report being bullied on a regular basis..Kids who are obese, gay, or have disabilities are up to 63% more likely to be bullied than other children.

Bullying hurts everyone. Targets feel sad, afraid, anxious and bad about themselves. Witnesses/Bystanders may feel afraid and anxious. Bullies often get into serious trouble as adults.

National Youth Violence Prevention Resource Center, 2010

Updates with 2010 info5Respect for Self and Others:BullyingWhere do I fit in?Am I a Bully? Who

Finds enjoyment and satisfaction in being cruel to others. Is hurtful to othersHas a lack of respect for others, a sense of entitlement to be abusive Is intolerant toward differences.

GLAD, MAD, SAD, AFRAID, ASHAMEDWhen observing bullying, what did you feel about it? What do you think the bully is feeling?

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Work on vocabulary for emotions to describe peoples feelings.6Respect for Self and Others:BullyingWhere do I fit in?Am I a target? Who

Is one out of three students who are bulliedFeels sad, anxious, and has lower self-esteemIs sometimes hassled for no reason, made fun of, left out or overpowered. GLAD, MAD, SAD, AFRAID, ASHAMEDWhat are the feelings when bullying happens? How do targets react to bullying?

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Work on vocabulary for emotions to describe peoples feelings.

7Respect for Self and Others:BullyingWhere do you fit in? Am I a Bystander/Witness? Who

Finds bullying funny or amusing. Has no idea of the pain the person being bullied is experiencing. May feel afraid and anxious and not know what to do.

GLAD, MAD, SAD, AFRAID, ASHAMEDWhat are your feelings when observing bullying?What has been your response when bullying?

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Work on vocabulary for emotions to describe peoples feelings.

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Respect for Self and Others:BullyingWhat can you do if you are the BYSTANDER?

Dont participate in the bullyingTell the bully to stop, even if the bully is your friend.Help the target walk away with you.Encourage the target to report the incident. Ask for help of a trusted adult. Tell your parent, Counselor, Teacher, Principal, SRO, etc.Elicit responses from the students before responses are revealed.9

Respect for Self and Others:BullyingWhat can you do if you are the TARGET?

Ignore immediately, Walk away, Go to a safe locationFill out a bullying form, or fill out an online report at PSM website. Email your counselor, or Mr. LegleiterUse I messages.I feelwhen youbecauseI would like (wish/hope for)Ask for help of a trusted adult. Tell your parent, Counselor, Teacher, Principal, SRO, etc.If it does not stop after your report, continue to report until it stops!

Elicit responses from the students before responses are revealed.Teach the I-Messages. Give examples, let the students come up with some examples.10

Respect for Self and Others:BullyingWhat can you do if you are the BULLY?Be aware of others feelings.Think before you speak and act.Be respectful. Dont participate in others bullying.Apologize for your actions.Do things different from in the future.Talk with an adult change behaviors.

Do the right thing - STOP BULLYING!

Elicit responses from the students before responses are revealed.

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