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New to the Revia family, I feel fortunate to have crossed paths with such great people and an equally wonderful and culturally integrative magazine. With so few publica-tions connecting people with their roots, Revia excels at not only linking the Polish demographic together, but also at welcom-ing those without Polish origins to connect with the Polish Community. I’m glad to have become a part of this altruistic mis-sion and everything that it gives back.

This issue was especially sentimental to me because for the fi rst time I am able to contribute to Revia not only as an Edi-tor, but as a friend and most importantly, a community member. Covering the theme of love, our ultimate goal was to offer the word love the respect and recognition it deserves by educating our readers about all the existing forms of love, and encour-aging to stop taking it for granted. We want people to start expressing love with a genuine connection to its core meaning and value and to start incorporating love into our everyday life practices. Honestly, I could have not jumped in a more engaging subject!

We hope that this collaborative love-based issue awakens the sense of self love that each one of us deserves. We owe it to ourselves!

Sincerely till next time,

moniCa DoLeCkaassoCiate eDitor

As we transition out of winter and into spring, it’s always nice to appreciate the blossoming changes in our lives. The start of the year gave us a chance to reflect on our paths to progress and map out where we want to be in the upcoming months. For some of us, this may be a physical relocation to a new city, a body transfor-mation with healthier habits, stronger relationships with loved ones, or perhaps a nurturing connection to your higher being. Wherever your path takes you this year, it is important to remember that love is all around you and especially inside you.In this issue, we teamed up with a few experts to take a look at the many modes of love. Our hope is to help everyone remember that love is not just a word we anticipate to hear from our partner one day, or use it when describing our favorite food. It’s a deep and wholesome con-nection that we share with our source, our-selves, our families, community, and That Special Someone. To achieve the highest form of love, we must pay attention to all of its modes, and treat each with respect.

In the spirit of love for our community, we highlight the story of Monika Wiela, founder of Give Back Box. From corporate rock star to entrepreneurial babe (shout out to Jessica Zweig!), Monika is making a big difference in the quality of life for peo-ple in need, one box at a time. We invite you to take the Give Back Box challenge, and donate your Spring Cleaning items to help the less fortunate while saving our planet from excessive waste.

Enjoy the transition of the seasons, stay on your path to progress, feel the love inside and out, and share the blessings!

Happy Spring,

ania JaBLonoWskieDitoriaL DireCtor

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i wanted to be very brief with my note this month because i would like to introduce our newest team member, associate editor, monica Dolecka. she comes with a great pedigree and is a much needed addition to our team and we are ecstatic to have her aboard.i also wanted to thank everyone who attended our first Polish history night at vertigo on march 4th. We were pleasantly surprised by the turnout, which only reiterates the desire of younger generation Poles to expand on their education in regards to their culture and heritage. the outcome was a great sign for the Polish american network (Pan) and has provided us with additional insight on how to structure these events in the future. one last note to make is that we have secured our next social event which will take place on april 30th at the godfrey hotel’s i|o urban roofscape. We are really excited for the event and will have full info soon at www.reviamagazine.com.

karL WroBeL, generaL manager

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The voice of the NEXT generation of Polish Americans

PAN was founded in the beginning of 2015 with the objective to bridge the existing generational and cultural gap in our community. Our organization consists of educated and affl uent individuals who want to nurture the professional development of Polish-Americans, while preserving the valued Polish heritage.

The mission of Polish American Network is to provide a social, educational and business platform for Polish-Americans to build a stronger community in the US. We invite Poles to celebrate their cultural pride, develop strategic business relationships, and learn about their roots.

By encouraging Polish-Americans to play a leading role in shaping a modern Polonia here in America, PAN is a premier cultural platform that offers business professionals the chance to develop, build, and share their multicultural success stories and ideas.

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ConTrIBUTors

raJ saI As guest contributor for this issue’s column,

"The Art of Being a Gentleman," Raj Sai hopes to inspire readers to embrace the lost art of manners,

etiquette and class. From personal relationships to professional settings, Raj’s advice applies to

gentlemen of all ages and backgrounds.

aLLIson sImaAllison Sima is Program Manager at AdRevenu and is a Freelance Designer and Writer with over 10 years of marketing communications experience. Allison assists companies with brand development and lead generation. She is passionate about marketing that delivers results. A Chicagoland native, Allison's

cultural background is Polish on her mother's side and German on her dad's.

marTa ZaWaDZkaActivist, Editor and Writer. Originally from Poland, she is well known amongst the Polish community for her dedication and action for those in need. Marta is a very motivated, outgoing, highly imaginative, and a very resourceful individual whose goal is to positively change other’s lives. For the past four years she has

been helping women with her motivational group “Success in a Skirt”, where she helps women achieve their goals and pursue their dreams. Marta loves vegetarian cooking and traveling.

anITa CHIPaLaTwo of my passions in life are helping people with their love life and writing. With my advice column,

“Ask Anita, ”I get to combine the two! As a dating & relationship expert, I’m on a mission to prove that

happy and satisfying relationships are possible. I’m a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and hold

a Master’s in Marital & Family Therapy from the University of San Diego. I founded Relationship Reality 312, Inc., and I work with clients both internation-

ally and in my Chicago downtown office.

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Dr. mICHaeL FeLInskIMichael hails from Poland's magical city of Krakow, and has emigrated to Chicago in the mid 90's with part of his family. His love of science, dragons, castles and travels has motivated him to return to his hometown to acquire a medical degree, and currently he is undertaking an acute medicine residency as

a senior doctor in sunny UK. With aim of acquiring an MBA with a focus on medical leadership, he plans on helping tackle global health issues from the top-down in the future.

naTaLIya GoVDIakMy name is Nataliya Govdiak and I’m a NASM/TRX

certified personal trainer, fashion/fitness model, NPC competitor, athlete, and health and wellness coach. I graduated with an MBA from Keller Graduate School

of Management in 2009. I love helping people and am very excited when my client’s reach their personal

health and fitness goals.

LeanDro mULeTLeandro Mulet was born in Cuba and at age nineteen he moved to the United States. Mulet is a fashion de-signer currently based in Chicago. His designs have managed to catch the attention not only from models and fashion producers, but also from photographers desiring to use his editorial ensembles for photo-

shoots. With his fashion expertise and good styling, Leandro has dressed many local celebrities from Miami to Chicago.

marTa PaTLanThe first American born in her family, Marta’s parents

came to the US over 30 years ago. She grew up in Chicago in a typical Polish household and attended Polish school where she learned to read and write. She met her husband, a Mexican-American, with a similar family immigration story and together they

have three small children, ages 5, 3, and 1. A life-long learner, Marta has a love for writing as well as an interest in sharing stories with other moms about

running a home, being a full-time professional, and keeping Polish traditions alive (with a twist!) for the next generation.

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On January 29, 2015 Revia Magazine hosted its official 2015 kickoff party, featuring for the first time ever, Polish American Network (PAN) at Time Nightclub in Chicago. Over 250 guests enjoyed a musical performance by Kamil Bartoszcze of KBE Entertainment, DJ Madrid Perry and Khary “K.F. Khary F Jacques” Laurent. Special thanks to event sponsors: Halsted Eye Boutique’s Dr. Joanna Slusky, Chepov & Scott Attorneys George Chepov, HORA USA, Computers Nationwide, The Godfrey Hotel, BioLife Organic Spa, FIT Lincoln Park, Fizz AutoSports, Good Time Photography, Ray Thompson Rockin Ray Photography,

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Fire And IcePresented by Chicago Design ConceptsJanay Graves of Chicago Design Concepts Produces another Success On February 18th, 2015 Janay Graves of Chicago Design Concepts and Vertigo Sky Lounge (2. E. Erie St.) presented Fire and Ice: a fashion show and cocktail party to benefit Ronald McDonald House (Chicago and Northwest Indiana Chapter). RMDH is just one of the charities that Graves and her company strive to support due to the strong long term mission to help families in need. Chicago Design Concepts presents four to five events

a year with various themes, and all for charity benefit.The evening’s highlights included a fashion show,

featuring well-known designers: Borris Powell, Wanda Cobar and jewelry designs by Benjamin Cottrell.

The momentum for Fire and Ice 2016 is already building and the planning by Janay Graves is in full swing. Independent fund raising for a charity is never easy. No matter how big or small the number, the dollars go a long way. To donate and to learn more, please visit http://ronaldhousechicago.com.

ABOUT:

Janay A. Graves is Founder of Chicago Design Concepts LLC, a marketing and branding company and Program Director for Chicago Scene Magazine.

Her mission and passion for helping those in need is relentless. Janay produces a number of sought-after events such as Butterflies at Sunset, Miami in Chicago, Halloween Hop and Fire and Ice in which all benefit children and family charities.

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Charity4LIFE Rebrands as Avansea FunDraising event For street kiDsAvanse (formerly, Charity4LIFE) hosted their largest event to-date on January 27th at Fulton Market Kitchen. A total of $12,806.25 was raised to help advance the lives of street kids in Latin America & the Caribbean. Scintillating lighting and streaming visual media left guests touched, moved, and inspired.

Over 300 guests were in attendance at the event, which was co-hosted by Kelly Rizzo, host of Eat Travel Rock TV, and Jake Hamilton, Reporter of Good Day Chicago Fox 32 news. The event was

well attended by members of Chicago’s social and humanitarian scene, including Jillian Conley of Social Avenue TV, Abigail Simon of Joffrey Ballet, Monika Dixon of Monika Dixon Public Relations, and Sarah Baker of Balanced Babe Blog.

During the event, gues ts watched artist Jasper KIRK, as he painted live and viewed artists renditions of the children impacted by the charity. Featured artists included Liz Flores, Tom Robinson, and Jennifer Whang. The charity unveiled a big surprise by presenting the new name Avanse. ‘Avanse’ is a

take on the Spanish word Avanzar and the Haitian word Avanse—both meaning ‘to advance.’

The unveiling of Avanse was a great opportunity for guests to learn about Avanse’s existing programs in Colombia, Haiti, and Nicaragua, as well as the evolved services they have been able to offer to their partner operations; these include program development, strategic management, capital planning & investment, and sustainability models.

For more information about Avanse, visit Avanse.org and follow on social media@AvanseOrg.



Modern Man Fashion Show Recap It's a new year and The Status Group Inc. started off 2015 with a Bang! On February 7th, the group’s founders, Leo Vega and President Kevin Davenport, proudly presented "Modern Man", an exclusive runway fashion show that also hosted the official launch party of The Dapper Club– Chicago's newest and hottest upscale men's custom suit service.

The EPIC club in downtown Chicago housed the luxurious event which, as always, offered a magnetic escape from your traditional nightlife experience. The event began with an upscale cocktail reception, delicious hors d'oeuvres, and

beautiful people who gathered together to enjoy a fabulous fashion show, which opened with an amazing visual perfectly illustrating what the Status lifestyle is all about: exposing some of Chicago's top talent. The event also featured J-Na Couture and Fibre by Rae, two additional top-notch designers who showcased their fabulous exclusive garments. The “Modern Man” event was truly one of the most elegant runway shows in downtown Chicago showcasing over 35 beautiful models that truly owned the runway! Teaming up with some of the best designers, hair and makeup artists, as well other talented individuals, the night consisted of

revolutionary gurus who set themselves apart from others in the industry. Finally, a stunning gala and later after party capped off the wonderful night!

Over the past year, The Status Group has put together some of the industry’s most amazing shows featuring Chicago's most beautiful models. Status Group continues to set the bar very high, mixing beautiful male and female models and touring the city's most infamous nightlife venues. The sky is the limit for Status Group as together they make a great partnership combining everything necessary to make a huge impact on Chicago’s beauty and fashion industries.

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White and Red Ball 2015On September 2, 1939, Helen Lenard Pieklo and a group of her friends founded the Legion of Young Polish Women (Legion Młodych Polek). At the time, their initial purpose was to help the people of Poland in their urgent time of need. These visionary women and those whom they inspired to follow their lead for over 75 years – volunteers, then and now – have all collected and donated over one million dollars to the many worthy causes. The Legion helps ensure that Polish culture, heritage, and traditions remain an integral part of our ethnically diverse country. In 1961, the legion helped establish the University of Chicago’s professorship of the Polish Language and Literature. In recent years, the legion

supported Loyola University’s Chicago Polish Studies Program, and additionally, this year marked the 70th Anniversary of the presentation of the debutantes we were very grateful to have, including the top 5 Corporate Sponsors supporting our cause by underwriting various parts of the event: Copernicus Foundation, Gorafix, Idea Furniture, Polish & Slavic Federal Credit Union, and Troy Realty.During the ball, something unexpected and amazing happened: Charity Rose Appeal, Maria Kosinski (in honor of her mother Joan, who was a debutante in 1952) gave us a perpetual matching scholarship in honor of her mother, a past president of the legion.

For the first time ever, the Legion of Young

Polish Women was very proud to be offering the following scholarships: Queen ($1,000), 1st place ($750) and 2nd place runner ups ($500). However, Copernicus Foundation (Treasurer, Marek Kowalczyk, plus another anonymous chairman) surprised us all by tripling the award amount all of the scholarships for this year’s ball! In other words, the queen (winner) received $3,000, 1st runner up $2,250, and 2nd runner $1,500, in education-related scholarship funds. This was so fantastic– and totally unexpected! We hope to be equally lucky next time as well!!

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Owning a double citizenship, I consider myself half Polish and half American, and re-ally value the benefits I’ve earned from both the Polish and American cultures, each in their own respective ways. Having been raised in Poland has provided me with strong core values in work and family life. Likewise, the slight culture gap I’ve experienced has given me the advantage of owning different and unique viewpoints on many important mat-ters in life, which have reflectively helped strengthen and polish my skills in running a business over the years.

Despite my strict business studies in busi-ness management, I was always more inter-ested in the creativity of arts and crafts. The process of transforming rocks into jewelry has always struck me as magical, and over the years that magic has lead me from enjoying a hobby to creating jewelry as a successful art-ist. Eventually, I searched for a way to express this interest further and finally decided to put my attention into designing jewelry from natural stones, and that is how my journey with designing jewelry started. What began as a hobby quickly turned into a passionate career after only 5 years when I launched my own company, TherArt Jewelry Inc., in 2010. Finally, I was able to combine my creative passion for jewelry design with my business-centered background, and to top it all off, I ac-

tually sold my first jewelry piece that year on my birthday!!

Designing and handcrafting jewelry fills me with an unexplainable sense of accom-plishment and integrity, and has proven to be an acquiescent outlet for translating in-ner visions to an outer reality.

Over the years, I am proud to express that my clients have been very loyal and always find a way show their appreciation for all of the hard work I put into my jew-elry. My creations make my customers feel unique and that is exactly how my ladies like to feel– special. These are women who want to be different, are not afraid of it, and want to make a statement with their unique look, and I am proud to help them achieve this. My clients love fashion and appreciate the distinctive European flair of both my custom-made dresses and jewelry and this is something that I take a lot of pride in.

Through my entrepreneurial experi-ences, I have learned that success can have as many definitions as one could imagine. In my eyes, being successful means loving what you do and doing what you love. This

way, your work will always give you satisfac-tion and, even in the most difficult moments, being able to move on from hardships and hav-ing the encouragement to try harder next time.

I’ve learned that running your own busi-ness is not an easy thing. It requires hard work, a lot of sacrifices and demands a wide range of refined business and interpersonal skills. If you do what you really love and if that is truly your passion, then you will always have a recipe for success. If I could offer begin-ning entrepreneurs some advice, it would be to always remember to hold onto their initial goals and to that ultimate vision of what they want their business to be one day; I would encourage them to never lose sight of their dream– that is very important. Those new to the business world need to keep in mind to work hard, always be prepared to fail, and most importantly, accept whatever outcome results of their efforts. Mainly, I would advise up-and-coming business owners to be true to themselves and to learn from any mistakes they make along the way. Never give up…. and always DREAM BIG!

To learn more about Teresa and her passion for the jewelry arts, visit Obsession Boutique at 16 S. Dunton Ave, Arlington Heights or call 773-822-6788 / email: [email protected]. Check them out on facebook.com/LeObsessionBoutique and at: www.

leobsessionboutique.com

TeresaHABCzyktalks Jewelry and her newfound Life as a Creative Businesswoman in america

All TherArt Jewelry collections are handcraft-ed individually and created with good energy, and a lot of passion. Designing jewelry is my own unique way of expressing my passion for natural stones, for art and for people.

I start the process of designing a particu-lar piece of jewelry by first feeling the stones to get a sense of its shape and texture, which helps determine the final design for the end piece. Every stone has a different energy, with its own special properties, and learning that is an amazing experience every single time. My work is influenced by my surroundings and the feelings I experience, though the final character of the piece is always dictated by a woman’s uniqueness and her individual beauty. It makes me proud when a woman can make a statement with my jewelry and feel more confident, beautiful, or simply just happier.

I can definitely say that the most reward-ing aspect of my business is seeing my clients’ satisfaction. My ladies trust me and honor my taste, and as a result, I reciprocate that loyalty by always exceeding their every expectation. My clients have the ultimate say in how they envision their jewelry and they can always add or change a piece to give it that personal touch, or they have the option of designing their own piece from scratch. Overall, I am grateful and blessed to have such amazing clients.

A r t i s t S ta tementI came to the US with my parents in 2002, right after graduating from the University of Economics in Krakow where I majored

in marketing and management, with a minor in small business management.


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Drinks & Dialogue with Franklin Drob

One of the more positive minded, more caring people I know has a very special gift of being a great resource in both

business operations and mind-body lifestyle. Franklin Drob introduced himself to me at an event a few years ago and we had an instant connection. There was an incredible amount of open sharing and dialogue about young professionals in the workforce and there was this sense of living a purpose– driven life that radiated from Franklin. I could tell in his eyes that his ambitious mind and heart were in the right place.

Franklin is a fi rst generation American who recently shared his story with us.

“The story is actually quite adventurous, and it begins January 1st, 1984 in Chicago”, he starts off. “That was actually an extra cold winter night that night, and I am a New Year’s baby, so I’ve had the fortune of cele-brating with everybody over the last 30 years of New Year celebrations.”

“It all began there, but it comes from hav-ing two Eastern European parents, both of which came to America with the dream of giving the next generation a better future. That’s what all parents seem to want to pro-vide for their kids. I’m part of that whole dream and that whole vision of being able to have an American-born son who also has the roots of Eastern European and its tradition, values, and ways of being, along with the mannerisms.”

Franklin grew up in Chicago, and he says he also has a fi rst generation connection where he still experiences a lot of the lifestyle from Russia or from Eastern Europe. He de-scribes it as, “Whichever culture an individ-ual comes from, when their parents start to assimilate, the children will also have some cultural distinctions that come along with it.”

He remembers what it was like growing up fi rst generation in Rogers Park; at home, Franklin spoke Russian and English with his family. He says, “My dad was born in Russia. He came to America during the small period where there was an immigration movement, so by the time he was eight he lived in three different countries and had forgotten Rus-sian growing up because he had assimilated so much that eventually it was rarely spoken.”

“I was talking to my Dad the other day, and found out he grew up with John Wayne. Watching John Wayne, and the old American Westerns, speaks up to why my Dad forgot the Russian language growing up”, Frank-lin explains. But because Franklin’s parents

were both Russian, his mom spoke Russian to him. “My father would speak to me in English, while my mother and that side of the family kept the Russian side.”

Franklin grew up having a strong relationship with his grandmother. He says, “My grandmother was a doctor, so it was like this patient /doctor relationship, with this kind of wisdom about her. There was a lot of respect for her work in neuropsychology and being able to help a lot of people in times of the warfront as a fi rst-aid nurse. My grandmother was a highly respected woman who was very emotionally mature and present.”

When asked about his fi rst generation experi-ence while transitioning into his adult years, Franklin says, “I recall stages of a younger age than many of my peers, and seek out questions of my purpose beyond the American Dream.” This led to a change in Franklin’s life. “I had person-ally made the decision quietly to take my college years as my personal time of growth … I was given an opportunity to attend a campus that DePaul had tried to build up in Lake Forest and had professors that were providing my mind with a lot of attention”, he adds. “I would take some of their classes, up to the 400 level, and learn a lot. It was a pretty good opportunity for a fi rst generation college-trekked mind to take advantage of a really great campus and small university just down the street in the North shore of Chica-go”, Franklin explains. Since the campus was small, there was no social life, so Franklin would work four part time jobs on top of be-ing a full time student. He worked at the local bakery on weekdays, taught yoga and medi-tation weeknights, worked the front desk MLS on weekends, and did wedding fl ower delivery and vase pick up weekend nights.

He refl ects back, “I started teaching yoga and meditation at night while I was in college learning how to write standardized curricu-lums in education and social sciences. After working at Deerfi eld Bakery during the day, at Swanson's Flower Shop on the weekend, for my brother-in-law’s real estate business (RE/MAX at the time) during the week and

weekday, my schedule was very full with intrepre-neurial and entrepreneur-

ial foundational skills.”“Teaching yoga while I

was going to school provided self-management skills because being in my 20’s and learning how to apply morning medita-tion, evening meditation, and

fasting served as important inner solutions”, Franklin tells us. After college, Franklin was recruited by his mentor, a 20+ year medita-tion master and retired hedge fund business-man from Highland Park, to serve as a vice principal for a 501C3 where he co-authored and helped secure funding for CPS district programs that helps schools improve the lev-el of emotional intelligence in the classroom. That several year post college work molded Franklin’s life to become a valuable asset in the emerging workforce. Eventually branch-ing off on his own, Franklin applied all of his talents in different for profi t marketplaces with Studio226 Media solutions, where he was able to develop on his core skill sets and brand of services to serve consumers with personal name-brand lifestyle resources and businesses.

Franklins shares that, after his time of learning and development, he was excited to become more socially engaged in Chicago’s cultural and social life through connect-ing with the Russian speaking community, mainly because of his desire to maintain the Russian language. Franklin ultimately began connecting with different organizations and groups where he could serve on host commit-tees or directly organize events himself, all of which he has been doing for many years now.

Learn more about Franklin @ www.FranklinDrob.com

By: Ania Jablonowski

You know what it’s like to grow up with multiple languages in the

house, eat different food

than your American friends, celebrate certain traditions that are literally foreign to your

peers, and have to break down your name syllable by syllable.

For first generation Americans, the art of balancing two cultures is

a unique, yet fundamentally similar experience, and it shapes us in a very significant way.

We are on a mission to document these stories.

FIRST GENERATION AMERICAN

Franklin Drobwere both Russian, his mom spoke Russian to him. “My father would speak to me in English, while my mother and that side of the family kept the Russian side.”

Franklin grew up having a strong relationship with his grandmother. He says, “My grandmother was a doctor, so it was like this patient /doctor relationship, with this kind of wisdom about her. There was a lot of respect for her work in neuropsychology and being able to help a lot of people in times of the warfront as a fi rst-aid nurse. My grandmother was a highly respected woman who was very emotionally mature and present.”

When asked about his fi rst generation experi-

weekday, my schedule was very full with intrepre-neurial and entrepreneur-

ial foundational skills.”“Teaching yoga while I

was going to school provided self-management skills because being in my 20’s and learning how to apply morning medita-

it’s like to grow up with multiple languages in the

house, eat different food

than your American friends, celebrate certain traditions that are literally foreign to your

peers, and have to break down your name syllable by syllable.

For first generation Americans, the art of balancing two cultures is

a unique, yet fundamentally similar experience, and it shapes us in a very significant way.

We are on a mission to document these stories.


LUCAS FUKSA

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party with whom you contracted to perform the work for a breach of contract. If you con-tracted directly with the property’s owner, you would be suing them. If you contracted with a general contractor, as a subcontractor, you would sue the GC. In both cases, your ability to recover would depend on the strength of your case (whether you performed the work prop-erly, whether remedial work was necessary, etc.). There is nothing wrong with suing for breach of contract, and most commercial dis-putes are founded on that exact legal theory. Regarding mechanics liens, you must file your claim for lien within four months of finishing your work to have a lien that is not subordi-nate to other lien holders such as a mortgage. Therefore, if four months have not yet passed, file your lien. However, even if four months have passed, you still may utilize a mechan-ics lien to recover against the homeowner. For example, if the house you performed work on does not have a mortgage on it, your lien would still be valid against the homeowner even if it was filed after four months.Q: I have a contract that hasn’t been paid. Can I recover interest in addition to the amount owed under the contract?A: Yes, Illinois law allows for prejudgment in-terest to be applied to money owed under any written instrument at a rate of 5% per year. Accordingly, if you are owed $10,000 under a contract, you may recover $500 for each year the amount is not paid.

My nAME IS LUCAS FUkSA and I am an attorney engaged primarily in the practice of business law, construction law, real estate transactions, and commercial litigation. I co-founded Fuksa Khorshid, LLC in late 2006, a boutique law firm located in the River North neighborhood of Chicago. I served as president of the Polish American Chamber of Commerce for four years. Through the PACC, I have been a part of many initiatives focu-sed on promoting the interests of the Polish-American business community. In late 2012, I co-founded a political action committee, the Polish American Leadership Political Action Committee (PAL-PAC), whose main focus is to address political issues that are important to the Polish-American community, engage the Polish-American community in the political process, and elect candidates that will best serve the needs of Polish Americans.

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In my household we don’t think about the way in which we do things as being Polish or Mexican. We speak three languages

but usually just say whatever is on our minds. We do what we do and if it happens to be in a Polish, Mexican, American, or mixed, we don’t even think about it. As with most of you out there, we are just trying to get the kids through another day with as few meltdowns as possible. We try to do so with lots of love and laughter sprinkled in. [MamaNote: Easier said than done, I know, but next time there is a meltdown, just laugh! Chances are you being silly will help your kids calm down and get back to laughing too].

Growing up, I was obviously knee deep in Polish and American life, but I had a lot of Hispanic friends as well. I learned about other cultures in school by celebrating during various months or times of year, but most of what I learned was through play and friendships.

As I grew older, the internet helped expose me to many others who were either born here of immigrant parents or came

to America at an early age from another country. One site that still sticks out in my mind is My Life is Polish, or MLIP. I remember reading through some of the statements submitted by readers with my family, and we laughed for hours because we could relate. Yes, our garbage can was under the sink. We too wore kapcie around the house and would never leave our shoes on after entering someone’s home. For sure most of our last names are a mess of consonants and considered tongue twisters to pronounce. Most definitely we would drink herbata even when we weren’t sick and take shots of vodka to cure any and all ailments. And yes, we did eat kanapki with only one piece of bread at a time.

In college, my boyfriend and I (my husband now, whose parents are both from Mexico) were at a party of a Polish friend of ours and I overheard someone speaking Polish and Spanish. We introduced ourselves and briefly talked about our upbringing. He said his mom was Polish and his dad was Mexican. He didn’t speak much Spanish but said he understood it. To me this was wild: my

first exposure to a Polexican! From there, we all probably took shots, because let’s face it, everyone speaks alcohol, but never saw him again. Here I am, many years later with a house full of kids, realizing that the way we are as adults is actually based on a mix of what we were exposed to culturally throughout the years. Our kids will meet people during their lives that they will learn from and further shape the cultural groundwork that we as their parents have already established. And they won’t even bat an eye.

A couple of weeks ago, I sat with my family around the table while eating chips and pico de gallo I had just made. My 3 year old daughter was eating the chips but was worried the pico would be too spicy. I of course overdid it on the lime to level off some of the spice precisely for this reason – in case she got brave and wanted to try some. She dipped a chip in, and slowly had it touch her tongue before freaking out that it was too spicy. I said, while laughing, “What kind of Mexican are you?” and she replied, quick as can be and very matter fact, “Polish.”

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Polexican Tales. Part ii

By Marta Patlan


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By: Ania Jablonowski



REVIA MAgAzInE: you spent the majority of your life in Poland. What were your early years like?MOnIkA WIELA: I was born in Stefanów Ruszkowski, Poland and grew up on small farm. We had cows and grew potatoes, and our whole family had to help out. I would go to school and then come straight home to work on the farm. It was hard work every day. Our family was poor– we had no TV or other luxuries.

I was really outgoing and imaginative as a child. Since we didn’t have a TV, I loved reading books. Kids need some form of entertainment, and books took me to magical places. The stories I read made me very adventurous. I’d wander around in the fields and forest, get lost, make friends along the way. It was safe there, and I was very social. When I would write my own stories, it made me so happy. I think this also shaped me into a good student. My parents never told me to go to school, and they never asked me about my homework. They didn’t even know where my school was. But I was a straight A student, and I’m thankful no one was forceful with me. I enjoyed learning.

When I started high school, I was enrolled in the math program. Back then, it was kind of like a technical school and you had a major. For me, this ended up being the worst thing ever. I was good at writing and competed quite a bit. I scored very high on exams to get into the best high school. The writing program was full, however, and so they placed me in math. I stopped enjoying school and despised having to learn something that I had no passion for. There was no room for creativity in math. This made me think about the purpose of life and why would someone pursue a career if they’re not happy.

Luckily, I had the escape of beautiful Paris from time to time. When Poland’s borders opened after the fall of Communism, my mom left to find work and took my brother with her. She came back to the farm and my brother ended up staying in France. I always wanted to travel the world, and being able to visit my brother in Paris changed the way that I looked at life. I’d go there three times a year, and seeing a world beyond Poland opened my eyes. It made me think there is

something bigger out there and I can do anything.

RM: What brought you to the US?MW: Before I moved to America, I worked at many high-paying corporate sales jobs for several large companies. Between Polpharma, Lucas Bank, Johnson & Johnson, and Nestle, I gained a lot of experience and perspective. I was living the sales dream, but at one point, I felt like I hit a ceiling. I had a fully-paid downtown apartment, corporate car, great salary, fancy title – I had it all. Something just seemed unfulfilling to me, I needed a change. It wasn’t what I wanted to do anymore. My mom suggested that I try moving to Chicago and see if there was something out here for me that would challenge me and give me a sense of purpose. So, I took her advice and made the move to Chicago in 2006. I lived with my Babcia’s brother for two months and then branched off on my own.

RM: How did you get started with e-commerce shoe boutique StyleUpgirl.com?MW: One of my aunts took me shopping with a family friend when I first arrived in Chicago. I was amazed at how inexpensive everything was compared to Poland. When I saw how fashionable the shoes were (by the way, I love shoes!), I bought five pairs with the intention to give them away as gifts to my friends and family when I was going to visit home the next month. After I got back to my apartment from the shopping spree, I wondered how much money I could make on these shoes if I were to sell them online. I posted them on the Polish eBay service, and overnight I sold all five pairs for much more than I paid! Then it hit me: I know what I am going to do! For the next several years, that became my life. I would buy shoes in Chicago, resell them online, and ship them out to Poland. Polamer, the largest Polish parcel shipment company, became my best friend. I also had to buy a truck since I was sending out 100 packages a day. At one point, a friend came over to my apartment and said, “What’s with all the stacks of shoe boxes?! Don’t you have a storage unit?” I replied, “What is a storage unit?” This discovery took my online business to a whole new level!

FROM TOP SALESWOMAn In POLAnD’S LEADIng COMPAnIES, TO OVERnIgHT E-COMMERCE EnTREPREnEUR, MOnIkA WIELA IS A PRIME ExAMPLE OF HOW TAkIng A CHAnCE CAn LEAD TO gREATnESS. AFTER STARTIng A SUCCESSFUL OnLInE SHOE BOUTIQUE, MOnIkA WAnTED TO gIVE BACk. SHE DEVELOPED A COnCEPT TO USE THE EMPTy BOxES FROM E-COMMERCE SHIPMEnTS (OF WHICH THERE ARE 12 MILLIOn A DAy!) AnD EnCOURAgED COnSUMERS TO FILL THEM UP WITH DOnATIOnS FOR gOODWILL. WE CAUgHT UP WITH HER In LOS AngELES TO HEAR HOW SHE IS CHAngIng THE WORLD, OnE gIVE BACk BOx AT A TIME.

MOnIkA WIELA PHOTOgRAPHER: VLAD VLASIkCREATIVE IDEA: InTELLIgEnT ADVERTISIng


One day, I was walking down Michigan Avenue in downtown Chicago and saw a homeless man holding up a sign that said “I need shoes.” Because I own a shoe company, I thought, wow this is a message for me! I can help this man! I had thousands of shoes in my warehouse, but I was only selling women’s shoes. So I went to get him a pair of shoes from the store, but he was gone. The next morning, I woke up with this idea: when I ship shoes to my customers, I will give them a prepaid shipping label and a letter asking them to not throw away old shoes or clothes, but rather donate them and send them back in the box that they received from my website. That way, they can help in a great way and make someone else happy. My customers reacted amazingly to this idea, and I started receiving boxes upon boxes filled with donated items. I stopped by a local homeless shelter in Chicago and asked if they can use any donations, and they were beyond thankful. Then I thought, if this can work for my online business, I wonder who else can benefit from it.

In 2013, I did a lot of research and learned some staggering statistics. There are over 12 million boxes shipped through online retail every day in the US alone, and it’s growing by 15-20% per year. Think about how many of these boxes get thrown away into the trash and not recycled! Also, each household has an average of $7,000 of unused items that can be donated. What’s more is that I discovered one of the biggest issues facing charities all across the country: a lack of donations. These days, people don’t have time to drive to a charity or shelter to drop off donated goods, or maybe they feel intimidated by it. Simple logistics prevent them from giving back in a huge way.

When I started Give Back Box®, I approached Goodwill International charities to see if they would be open to receiving our donations, and they welcomed our support. Once a person sends ships their box, it goes to Goodwill’s closest participating location. The cost of shipment is covered through fundraising and monetary donations on our website, and we are able to continue the prepaid

I launched my website StyleUpGirl.com as a whimsical place where every girl can be a princess and buy her own “glass slipper.” It’s all about high fashion, style, and affordable prices. Our collection of shoes can take you from the boardroom, to a rooftop lounge, city hall, a night out with your sweetie, or girls night on the dance floor.

RM: What made you want to give back and start a nonprofit?MW: In 2012, I was very happy with my business, but felt like there was an opportunity to do something bigger. I attended a conference with keynote speakers that were talking about creating value for customers, while helping people. This resonated so deeply within me, and I could not get it off my mind. I just kept thinking to myself, “I need to help people, but how can I help through a shoe business?” When I looked at other philanthropic shoe companies, I loved what they were doing to give back. Their stories were incredible, and I wanted to start my own story.

When I looked at other phil-anthropic shoe companies, I loved what they were doing to give back... And I wanted to start my own story.


shipping label model at no cost to the consumers. What’s wonderful is that you are able to print a tax deduction from straight from GiveBackBack.com as well.

Thankfully, I have been able to share the concept of Give Back Box with Technori Pitch, TEDx, NBC Today Show, Forbes, and many more. My vision is to give customers the ability to decide, “Do I want to throw this box away, or do I want to donate and make a difference?” The purpose of Give Back Box is to provide an effortless and convenient method of donating unwanted and used household items directly to charities to aid them in carrying out their mission of critical work to help the billions of people in need. Give Back Box will not only enable charities to help people in need through giving cardboard boxes a second life and recycling them, but it will also keep them away from landfills and improve our environment.

In December of 2014, NewEgg.com became the first online retailer in the United States that secured a message on each box about donating to Give Back Box. We are

also grateful to work with UPS, Overstock.com, Loft.com, and as of Spring 2015, we will be announcing another major online retailer that will be partnering with us to make a difference.

RM: Were there any people that inspired you along the way?MW: I met my mentor Meir Ezra when I was starting up Give Back Box. He helped me since beginning, came to my first meetings, and his family has always been so supportive of my initiatives. Meir taught me how to take a passion and make a business of it. Sometimes we have a dream or passion… Shoes was my hobby, but now with Give Back Box, I know how to measure performance, look at the business model and create great results. This was an education that I really never had. I was lacking how to organize the business, and how to go from a dream to a major company. With my shoe company, I did it all on my own. You have to remember that there are people around you that want to help you. It’s good when you’re successful on your own, but you are only really

fulfilled when you help others. Now I can understand this. You can help people through so many ways. If you can do something better than someone else, use that knowledge and help them build their skills. Now I am able to share that knowledge too, and it’s the best feeling ever!

RM: How do you envision the future of give Back Box?MW: BIG. I want to change the world, one Give Back Box at a time. My goal is to become a global company and secure every box in the world with a Give Back Box stamp next to the recycling symbol. Imagine if we were able to fill all 12 million shipments per day with donations to charities in need. How many people can we feed, clothe, educate? With its motto of ‘No Box Left Behind’, Give Back Box aims to perpetuate a paradigm shift in the shopping arena, particularly online, by enabling people to reuse their shipping box to generate charitable donation on a massive scale. Now giving back becomes a normal part of your shopping experience.

It’s good when you’re successful on your own, but you are only really fulfilled when you help others.


The multidimensional “nature” of love has been interwoven throughout the human experience

biologically, behaviorally, scientifically and philosophically, causing much debate, emotion and expression. To some, the word love is merely a four letter word, not linked to any deeper meaning, whereas to others, the word love is an essential in life that explains the nexus within us and the world around us. Many have sought to explain and analyze the word love, dissecting and extracting it to capture and share its ultimate meaning. Others perhaps try to learn from love firsthand, or try to teach it, while others strive to live and die for it. Yet despite all efforts, humanity will continue exploring new interpretations for this all-encompassing and limitless force called love. Love is powerful enough to mobilize homelands, to raise arms, yet it is warm enough to nestle the walls of a wedding hall. With love’s dichotomous beauty, my effort is to present love in a practical sense, in the best way possible, so that you may harness its wonderful momentum in your own life.

For centuries, innumerable pages have been filled with theories of the meaning of love. Some focus on the behavioral applications of love and its place in culture/society, while others focus on the scientific roots of love and try to understand it through a single neurotransmitter. Some ambitiously draw

the parallels of love via a metaphysical context filled with otherworldly states of “being”. All of these theories are interesting, informative and intuitive; however, we need to realize there will never be a single definition for this powerful phenomenon. Trying to cubbyhole love into one definition is like trying to draw boundaries on the universe. We are able to see love’s patterns, to be amazed by the stories it dictates, but individually, we each give love a unique and interpersonal meaning based on our own experiences and convictions.

The following breakdown of the meaning of love consists of four different types: companionate, passionate, spiritual and compassionate. This love model aims to highlight the fact that we all may subconsciously have a predominant and predisposed love type, which then explains the reason why sometimes we clash with those who do not reciprocate our preferred love (type).

Companionate love refers to a long-term affectionate attachment to those who we feel a mature and deep sense of care for. This is a camaraderie defined by trust, respect and mutual understanding. This type of love allows us to feel comfortable, free and open with our affectionee. Companionate love defines new relationships, and particularly keeps marriages strong and staying afloat when passion takes a backseat in

the relationship. Compassionate love is also centered on the love of others and it is often described as the feeling we get upon witnessing others’ suffering and pain. Individuals who are mature in companionate love are capable of sharing an inexplicable, intricate and engaging bond, which contrasts from the more common, shallow notions of romantic love. Companionate love is very resilient in withstanding the tests of time.

Passionate love, on the other hand, represents an intense longing for a physical connection with another person. Psychologist Elaine Hatfield beautifully describes it as a “... complex functional whole, including appraisals or appreciations, subjective feelings, expressions, patterned physiological processes, action tendencies, and instrumental behaviors." Passion, when compounded onto the previous types of love, adds a strengthening dimension, however, for many, passion alone is enough to maintain a lifelong relationship.

Spiritual love is a bond between two people shared when both are able to find mutual fulfillment in shared sacred beliefs. Religion is the most common example, and practicing spiritualists usually best understand the message being conveyed here. The ability to share the multiplex of ethereal experiences, with a mutual devotion, is an addition of solidity to this already strong and loving relationship that literally takes the relationship to “another level.”

Of course, the holy grail of love is one that incorporates all the above love types, and that is known as consummate love. Consummate love results in absolute, synergistic transparency between two individuals based on a shared and mutual love, not only for one another, but also for their physical and spiritual surroundings. A bond of this magnitude is rare, and is commonly highlighted as holding truth, making it indestructible, solid and timeless.

Being aware about all the different possibilities of interpersonal relationships allows us to gauge what type of loves we need, what we can give and provides us with insight about where we are lacking in love. It may take years to find someone who complements our unique love, and while it sometimes feels like an eternity to find that perfect reflection of ourselves, having that awareness of love’s practical complexities helps us develop the love which we want and find valuable, and respectively, helps us find our own recipe for that special love.

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MAY 3rd

“My name is ALEkSAnDRA

PAWLIkOWSkAand I am 18 years

old. I was born in Zakopane,

Poland and came to the U.S when

I was 7 years old. Currently, I am a senior at Reavis High School and will soon attend Moraine Valley

Community College. My

favorite hobby is ceramics and I'm representing the

south Chicago highlander

culture.”

“My name is gABRIELA nAROnOWICz

and I am an 18 year-old senior at Lake Park High School. This year I plan to begin studies in medicine and hope

that my emphatic nature towards people

and liking to help those in need one day leads me to becoming a successful doctor. In

my free time I enjoy playing sports, music

and dancing, but I also dedicate a lot of time to

volunteering. I am an optimist at heart who always has a smile on

her face!”

“My name is kAROLInA gAWROnand I am 18 years

old. Currently I am a student at Lane Tech

College Prep High School. When it comes

to interests, I enjoy singing in my school

choir and participating in international

dances. I am also the Vice President of the snowboard and ski club at my school.

From the age of five, I have participated in

the Polish Scouting Organization in Chicago

and am now proudly serving my second year

as troop leader.”

“My name is IzABELA SzELAg.

I'm a 21 year old architecture student at Uni-

versity of Illinois at Chicago. My

interests include architecture, art history, drawing,

and painting. Additionally, my other passion is dancing. In the future, I would

like to travel to new regions of the world to

learn about their unique historical monuments and

cultures.”

“My name is MAgDA SzALA and I

am currently a senior at Maine East High School,

and President of the Polish Club, along with

being involved in Student Council, Bake for a

Change, Rotary Interact, and the DECA Business

Club. I am an active member in The Legion

of Young Polish Women and have also been

volunteering at Lutheran General Hospital for the past two years. In college I plan to study pre-dental and eventually become a dentist. In my free time I enjoy traveling, reading books, fi shing, and art.”

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he May 3rd Polish Parade Queen contest has truly become a mainstay event, and is running this

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including: 1st runner up, 2nd runner up, plus two extra categories: a “crowd-chosen favorite” and “Miss

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When we think of the word love, it’s easy to default to the notion of romantic love– the fixed idea of a

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Love for a Higher Beingas DesCriBeD By: maureen muLDoon,Written By: ania JaBLonoWskiWWW.maureenmuLDoon.Com

Sometimes the topic of love for a higher being seems to be taboo. Maybe we don’t want to be judged, or maybe our faith is blindly accepted without question. For many centuries in many cultures, the only people allowed to talk about love were priests, monks, or mediators who were presumed to

know the most about spiritual connections. Nowadays, people are becoming more conscious and are finding it possible for each of us to have an intimate relationship with our own private Divine; that relationship that does not require a middleman.

Having an intimate spiritual relationship does not have to be specific to any one religion. Love for a higher being is a universal thing, the core of it being the desire to be cared for and to feel loved – to have a connection to something bigger. Some people prioritize religion, but as we grow and evolve, life has a way of eroding faith. People’s experiences may fall away completely, but, somehow, life always has a way of turning us back to seeking this connection. Sometimes it is the birth of a baby, suffering a broken heart, or battling with a disease, which guides up back to our higher divine from a new point and perspective. Monumental events can bring you to your knees, but they can also be an invitation to reconnect with your divine.

Tip: Allow for maturity with your spirituality. Just like a relationship with a lover, if you expect your partner to be the same as they were at 16, the relationship will be stagnant. There should be a constant maintenance and mindfulness of how do I want to honor, nurture, and go deeper with my spiritual Self? Some people choose spiritual practice, while others opt for a retreat, or connecting with a community of like-minded people.

Search for what is aligned with your truth. If your current experience does not

fit who you are today, it’s ok to try on a new shoe or two by visiting different places of worship and start dating your divine again. Giving yourself permission to do that doesn’t have to be a weird or wacky thing; it will give you a greater appreciation of the many of ways to connect with a higher being. It seems that when you have clarity in this type of relationship, it seamlessly flows into other relationships. Developing and nurturing this relationship can serve as a rich fertilizer that supports growth and goodness and it can be the very thing that guides your life and actually offers peace.

Self Love

as DesCriBeD By: anna PamuLa,Written By: ania JaBLonoWskiWWW.renuDaysPa.Com

You are a gift to the universe. You are important and have to respect yourself as a very special person. Understand that you are the most perfect creation on earth and that, too often, we look in the mirror and don’t like what we see because we compare ourselves to others. We must learn that true beauty is inside of us.

It took me so long to figure out the saying, “love your neighbor the way you love yourself.” I used to limit my basic biological needs (sleeping enough, eating right, taking care of myself). I wasted my health and became an angry and aggressive person – I was not centered. Then one day, I read an article that embodied this notion of self love and then it occurred to me: love yourself first, and then you can love your neighbor. The definition of self love will mature with

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you, and you will slowly start expecting more happiness to come from the inside, instead of from others. If a child wants to know what an apple tastes like, she will pick an apple and try it.

Tip: Nourish your mind, body, and spirit. Eating right and knowing what your body needs is a nurturance for your mind and spirit. If you don’t take care of your physical body, there will be imbalance. The wrong food can lead to disease, so pay attention to your food which provides energy for your mind. Also, get involved in learning to exercise your brain. Learn how to train your heart (recognize what makes it happy or unhappy and follow your instincts). Stop asking yourself “am I a happy person?” If you feel you are not happy, fi nd out what you are doing wrong. Usually the problem comes from within when do things that our heart does not agree with. We also create our destiny, so see your mistakes as a learning experience, not as a punishment. Life is progress; it is a river and you are never in the same water twice. As long as you are alive, you always have a chance to reach your dreams.

The Giving LoveBy: moniCa DoLeCka

What good is our love if it doesn’t make an impact on someone else’s life? The gracious Audrey Hepburn once said, “As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.” However, it’s easy for an altruistic intention to be cast aside in favor of other daily responsibilities at work, with family, or in our personal relationships. Therefore, it is our responsibility to make the conscious effort to awaken our gratitude for others by help

them in even the simplest way, as no matter how small a gift it, it is still a gift. Send a handwritten note, email or short text message to a close friend reminding them how much they mean to you every day, and not just on Hallmark occasions. Or, how about stepping up and volunteering at a nearby homeless shelter; the one hour of your life you sacrifi ce can have an impact on someone for

years! Furthermore, even by simply listening to someone’s troubles, you are sacrifi cing your time, your needs, and allowing for this selfl ess love to fl ourish and grow within you. This self-sacrifi cing love has to potential to open up the window to learning how to love yourself fi rst and then, eventually, that special someone in your life.

Romantic LoveRomantic love, in its truest form, should resemble a dichotomy: a healthy mix of self-love, along with the selfl ess love for someone else, untainted by jealousy, competition, anger or unresolved issues. Until we fi nd the right path to loving ourselves– through new discoveries, challenges and experiences– we are not ready to love another person. Before we can claim to “love” someone, we have to make sure to enter that relationship with unobstructed honesty and openness. This means, have

we taken the time to genuinely get to know this person– their dreams, their past, their passions? Do we complement them more than we criticize what they do wrong? Do we support their dreams, and do we fully accept their demands of us in the relationship? Alone, these love fragments seem almost insignifi cant and are often easily overlooked, but they are the single most important aspect when shaping the meaning of that ultimate love that each one of us wants– true romantic love. Finding out what obstacles stand in our way, and then dedicating time to fi x and overcome them is the fi rst step in seeking out that ultimate romantic love.

Self-love is the source of all our other lovesPierre CorneiLLe

can have an impact on someone for Romantic LoveRomantic love, in its truest form, should resemble a dichotomy: a healthy mix of self-love, along with the selfl ess love for someone else, untainted by jealousy, competition, anger or unresolved issues. Until we fi nd the right path to loving ourselves– through

we taken the time to genuinely get to know


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February is the month of Valentine’s Day and there is no better month to show off your manners and

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Open every standard or car door for her and let her walk through. For revolving doors, walk through fi rst and then guide the door to ensure she never has to push.

2. Help Her with Her Coat / Offer Yours – Another easy one that will show off your gentlemanly skills. Help put on or take off her coat. Always offer your coat, scarf or prized calf leather skin rabbit fur lined gloves, if she has naught.

3. Walking Alongside Your Lady – Always walk on the traffi c-facing side of the street. Lend her your arm for balance and comfort. Never let her walk on grates or puddles. If it's raining, the umbrella goes over her, not you.

4. Assisting Your Lady In /Out Of Cars – Do not let a lady ruin her lovely dress by making her scooch across the seat. Help

her enter a car and then walk around. Position yourself ahead of time in order to be ready to help her out of the car.

5. Up & Down: Stairs and Escalators – A gentleman stands behind a lady on the way up and in-front of her on the way down. This allows you to catch her should she fall. Do your best not to stare at her rear on the way up.

6. When dining, a gentleman always:a. Pulls out a lady's chair prior to sitting

himselfb. Stands when a lady enters the room,

leaves the table or returns to the table.c. Forgoes convention and allows the

lady the fi rst sip of wine– to fi nd out if she enjoys it

d. Asks prior to ordering for here. Gives a lady the fi rst taste and last bite

of each platef. Serves the lady, as appropriateg. Always orders dessert (trust me, she

always wants at least a small taste)7. Texting vs. Calling – A gentleman may

use texts for short messaging; however for any conversations that exceed 5 texts sent, a phone call should be your go-to. Important conversations should be conducted in person. Always.

8. When She's Sick, A Gentleman: Checks

on her periodically, but is careful to ensure he is not overbearing. Allow her space and some quiet so she may rest. Bring her meds and/or send her soup via a food delivery service.

9. It’s All About The Little Things:• Be a great listener

• Write her little notes• Send her fl owers on non-holidays• Fix things that are broken without her

having to ask• Fill up the gas in her car when it’s low• Buy her and her best friend a massage• Leave that toilet seat down• Step in during situations when you see

she is clearly uncomfortable, but do so with a smile and some class

• Send champagne to her table when she’s at a girl’s dinner

• Hold her in an embrace without trying to kiss her

• Treat her friends and family with courtesy and respect (especially the ones you don’t like)

OnE FInAL nOTE: A lady will always fi nd some way to express her gratitude if you are indeed a gentleman. Any woman that takes advantage of your generosity or doesn't ap-preciate your gentlemanly manners is truly not a lady.

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Dear Kamila and Gracie,If you want to have someone to text, to relieve some boredom, practice sending witty texts, or getting more comfortable with dating, then keep these guys around. But if you want to date to fi nd guys who could be your boyfriends, then you are both wasting your time – or rather, the guys are wasting yours! Neither of these situations is worth pursuing any further. The one thing that is consistent with these guys is that they are inconsistent with their attention toward you.

Kamila, did you ever ask your guy why he stopped communicating with you? You should know why he went MIA for several weeks before you give him any more of your attention. If you don’t know, you risk him disappearing on you again. He’s demonstrating to you that he can’t keep his word or plans now – why would that change in the future?

Gracie, working a lot should NOT be an excuse. No one is too busy to date. No one. This is a guy who clearly has other priorities and you are not one of them. Don’t waste your time. From this point on you can either ignore him or nicely tell him that you don’t want to schedule another date just to have him cancel on you.

For both of you, I would also defi ne what your expectations and goals are with dating. You may want boyfriends but your guys may not be interested in something serious, and they’re showing it by their actions. You can both be honest with them and clear up expectations. And moving forward, fi lter out the guys you meet by their contact with you. If they are consistent with communication and going out on dates, you can keep him around. If he’s fl aky, disappears for stretches, makes excuses, then don’t give him another precious moment of your time.

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Dear Not Text Savvy,I’m going to tell you what I tell all of my clients who have a question about their date’s communication style: Everyone is different. I know women who hate talking on the phone but love texting, and others who hate texting and prefer phone calls. There’s no “normal,” just what you both want and sometimes this could be different.

Since you’ve only been out a couple of times, it’s still early to ask about it. Give it a little more time and see if this pattern continues. Could be that she doesn’t want to get too excited about you too early, so she’s holding back until she gets to know you better. Or she just truly doesn’t like to text

much. Clearly she’s interested in getting to know you better since she continues to want to hang out with you, so her infrequent tex-ting has nothing to do with her interest level.

If this gets to the point of bothering you and you would like to increase communica-tion between dates, the best way is to ask her. Just don’t be critical or accusatory! Instead, be curious and gentle and honest about what you’d like from her as you two continue to date. And no matter what happens, the bottom line is that everyone has a different preference of how much contact they want with their dates, but as long as she’s consis-tent in her attention with you, you don’t have to worry about the quantity of texting.

i reCeive severaL Questions Like the tWo BeLoW:

Dear Anita,A mutual friend introduced me to a very cool guy. We had several dates and everything seemed to be going great. Three months in he stopped communication and I fi gured that he was not interested, but then a few weeks later all of a sudden he started texting again. We tried to meet up a few times since then, but it always fell through. Is this something worth pursuing?

KamilaDear Anita,

I have met a boy over an online dating application. He seemed nice and fun, so we exchanged numbers. For months we have tried to go out on a date, but he has been very fl aky cancelling the day of the date. We fi nally met for the fi rst time a few weeks ago, but since then arranging a next meeting has been a hassle, where he is never sure about his schedule or needs to cancel last minute. My understanding is that he works hard and is very busy, but should that be an excuse?

Gracie

Dear Anita,How different are younger girls with their communication? I hung out with this girl in her early 20s (I’m in my early 30s) a couple of times and had a lot of fun but she is distant when texting. She doesn’t seem to like texting unless it’s to make plans to hang out. Is this common? I was dating another girl a couple of months ago who liked to text a lot. She would text me random things and send pics of herself when she’s at the store, or having a cup of coffee. Every day she would ask how my day’s going, but this new girl doesn’t do any of that. What’s normal?

Not Text Savvy


For many people, certain holidays allow for an expression of Love. nowadays, this beautiful celebration has spread all over the world as an opportunity to show that special one how much he or she means to you. so now i ask, do we need to only wait for holidays to express love? i don’t believe so. Let’s make every day about love: love for family, your other half, but most of all, love for yourself. Find that one thing that makes you happy and embrace it. Love is about giving, sharing, and enjoying. i always like to encourage those around me to love the skin they’re in, but as a designer, i also like to encourage people to love their wardrobe. From that vintage blouse in the corner of your closet (the one that even though is old, still makes you smile every time you wear it), to that

new stylish suit for your job interview, try to find that special fashion piece that makes you feel confident and in charge. i always say, dress outside of how you feel inside. Love yourself and embrace who you are, and wear your outfit with pride. make each day about love for everyone around you, but most important, always love who you are.

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