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RSD Brad Evolutions Product Outline of Video Content, Real Social Dynamics
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Video 1: Introduction (6 mins)
-‐ What is Evolutions? o My History o Why this product needed to be created o Bullets of what you will learn
Video 2: Introduce Timeline (briefly) (4 mins)
-‐ Explain timeline, Mindset, Approach, Verbal, Close -‐ Beginner, Intermediate, Advanced: Which are You? -‐ Explain how you can learn from all -‐ Explain each mindset at the beginning of the 3 sections, and how the timeline
comes into play o The timeline gives you confidence in a gameplan, you always know
where you are at o Totally versatile no matter your skill level, where you meet the girl, or
what type of girl
Video 3: What Creates Attraction (10 mins)
-‐ Attraction for men and women is different o Men are superficial,
§ If men dated men, it would be a resume comparison, and you’d make a conscious decision
o women respond to high status behavior § Women decide on how they “feel” and respond to the outward
manifestations of confidence -‐ Why does confidence create attraction?
o What is confidence (sun comes up, reference points) § Shows you’ve done it before
o This is why The direct approach alone causes attraction-‐ § It shows that you have approached in the past, and things went
well, so the girl should assume that you two are a good fit § talk about that later
o People ping off of decisiveness, if you are confident in an action, people will assume it’s true
§ Social dynamics is a self fulfilling prophecy • Bouncer example, pulling example,
o Conclusion: Confidence is attractive because: § it shows that you’ve been with someone like her before § It shows that you are the type of man that goes for what he
wants § People follow the strongest reality, and if you believe it enough,
she will follow you § Women respond to status, and high value traits, all which need
to be done with confidence • Give examples of high status behavior
-‐ Entitlement: o When you feel you deserve the girl, you feel confident, and everything
works § Doesn’t matter what you say, or what you do, it all works
because you fully assume it’s going to happen • Give example of fatty, and how everything works
o How to build entitlement? (results) § This is why guys that are successful early continue to be
successful, or how some random event in their life helps them decide to be confident, and that confidence breeds results which breeds more confidence
§ It’s not looks, it’s not success or money, although because those things are socially acceptable, it gives the guy superficial confidence, which he then uses to get results, but if he loses that external pillar, it’s all over
o Positive feedback loop, the more results, the more success, the more success, the better your results
• Again, comes from confidence, feeling deserving, and entitled to the girl
• What if you are outside the positive feedback loop? o The Timeline will give you an outer game
approach to get good results, and in turn build your inner game
o How outer game will lead to inner confidence
Video 4: Newbie Mindset (I am Awesome!) (20 mins)
-‐ If you truly feel good about yourself, and are in a good mood, people will GRAVITATE towards you
o I am awesome! Is the frame of mind you want to have when you go up to every girl
§ I am the shit, I am the man, I am god’s gift to women and the world, I am a perfect 10, I am a high value coolest guy in the world
o Why woud you feel awesome?
§ What holds most newbs back from feeling awesome around a girl
§ The girl is on a pedestal, they think women are rare and have a scarcity mindset
• Explain scarcity mindset vs. abundance mindset • Therefore are outcome dependent, and emotionally
affected by her reactions towards him § “I don’t wanna be the next guy to hit on her”, what sets me
apart? • If you don’t know what you offer, how will she know • If you were Brad Pitt, do you think he worries about
“inconveniencing” the girl by approach and making her night/LIFE
• That’s what I think, “This girl is going to talk about the time I came up and talked to her, for the rest of her life, haha”
§ You question your awesomeness • On bootcamp, usually it’s removing the doubt, not
something the client is doing wrong • If you don’t have any experience, you don’t know how to
act which feels weird • You look for her feedback to see how you are doing
o You wait for her to give you permission, or follow her lead, or mirror, but she will never take the final step, it’s against her nature
• You use advice heard from friends, family, other girls, maxim magazine for what works, and aren’t true to yourself
§ Why, it shows that you are confident in that environment, that you belong there, you are happy because in the past, when you were in that environment, things went well
• Situational confidence vs. core confidence o Not relying on your environment to feel good
§ The club § Or her reactions to you, we’ll discuss this
in detail later o Core confidence is nothing more than feeling
AWESOME in any situation around any person o We want to move more towards core confidence,
how do we get there? § All these are relying on something external to take action or
feel a specific way -‐ extreme self love
o Extreme narcissism o Makes you feel good at all times
o Don’t identify yourself based on other peoples opinions or reactions § Can’t live by superficial values, they are arbitrary
• Why are some people happy, some people sad? • Give examples of how people identify with their job,
their family, or what they were in high school § Shakespeare Quote
• Choose your own values, and decide to view everything in your life as awesome
o Give examples: • Remember, you need to create life goals so that when
you take action towards that goal, you feel good. Let’s say you are working on those six pack abs. Every time you grab a water instead of a Coca-‐cola, you should celebrate!
§ Your identity needs to be under your control, results aren’t actions are (can’t rely on things outside of your control)
§ Reframe EVERYTHING in your life for being awesome • Examples:
o I have a dirty shirt and rock it, awesome! o I am drinking water, awesome! o All you can control in life is what you choose to
focus on, as long as you make that choice, you should feel GOOD
o Being hungry § Positive reference points
• You need to know the mindset you want to reinforce
• Your ras picks up on this o High school prom king
§ Turn self doubt into self love § Become conscious of the negative thoughts
• Cut it immediately and turn it into something positive • This gets easier and easier with time
o Positivity is a choice o Also, never talk in absolutes. So if you are fat, it’s
not that you are unhealthy. It’s “you are working towards becoming healthy.” It’s not that you are negative, it’s “I’m getting more positive every day.”
Video 5: Newbie Timeline: The Approach (30 mins)
-‐ Why Most guys don’t approach o Nice guys are afraid of serious rejections, but people aren’t mean, it’s
only once you get good do you get harsh blowouts o Approaching is weird, everyone is looking at me
§ But they end up thinking you know them or are promoter § You are not a special snow flake,
• Yelling unstifling exercise o Rejection is usually just a head turn, or ignore
§ I can’t even tell when a student is getting rejected o They stack too high of what they want to accomplish
§ Lower criteria, if you approach it is a success o They go into analysis mode
-‐ Open o 3 second rule, o short set method o momentum
§ each one is easier than the last § short cut to confidence and entitlement, she doesn’t realize
you’ve talked to 20 other girls, she just feels you don’t care § Self trust that it will work
o The power of the direct approach § Why it creates attraction
o 3 aspects of direct approach § eye contact, full direct
• make it obvious that you are approaching • Robbie Williams vid of eye contact
§ Tonality • explain tonality briefly
o conveys value • Autopilot responses from tonality • Become conscious of tonality around you
§ was that 100% • if yes, I don’t judge, she’s prolly a bitch • don’t analyze in the field, wait until the end of the night
or end of the week o Openers?
§ How you can “escalate” your opener • Start with situational, guys are most comfortable with
that o Situational examples
• Move to introduction, is it the best? No, but shows it’s not the opener
o “Hi, my name is…” o Hook Point
§ If you went in hard enough, the approach itself will get it to hook
§ Some times you just have to plow until you find something that hits
• Just keep talking, will get you that golden voice in the next section
Video 6: Newbie Timeline: Mid Game (29 mins)
-‐ Why do you run out of things to say? Trying to impress the girl -‐ Lower the bar/remove the cool guy filter
o The more stupid the less it shows you care and actually conveys more value
§ OLD: Value is conveyed on the level of words. § NEW: Value is conveyed on the level of actions. § Guys Verbally joust (value to words),
• Who’s got the better story, funnier joke, more right • Don’t qualify, it conveys you are try hard
o You can’t argue your way into a girls pants § women vibe,
• what is vibing? Conversation without a gameplan • There is no direction to the conversation, the slope is
flat, with spikes of fun and teasing • Power of subcommunication, value isn’t conveyed at the
level of the words • Degrees of separation in a conversation
o Gets her reacting to you, you lead and she can’t follow
-‐ Fallbacks o Situational
§ Talk about something in the environment • Her friends, the music, what you did earlier, what you
did yesterday, something she is wearing § Passions
• Talk about the things you most enjoy, even if you think they are weird
o Girls want to know you are passionate about SOMETHING
o Statements not questions § EXAMPLE: § Questions aren’t bad, but start getting comfortable just sticking
in there • Leave on a good note
-‐ What is humor o Value amplifies everything
§ CEO tells a funny joke at work • Work on being more awesome i.e. conveying more
value, and humor and attraction will come naturally -‐ Give example of my travel verbal game, “open, you look Swedish, Denmark,
or I’ve been to Copenhagen, etc”
Video 7: Newbie Timeline: The Close (41 mins)
-‐ Physicality o One minute rule (one minute and half to hug the girl)
§ Excuses to hug her (reward principle) o Cut the space, get comfortable getting closer and talking o Don’t wait for permission o Be dynamic, shifting sands, no “purposeless hand of doom”
-‐ When to close? (number, kiss, pull) o Whenever, try it on the opener
§ Token resistance and brief explanation of shit tests (no means not yet)
o As long as you aren’t emotionally affected by her response, and she stays there, pretend it didn’t happen and change the subject
o How to get the phone number or pull, be blunt. § After party!
-‐ Do it around midnight (old rhythm 10-‐2) o So what are you up to later? (logistics)
-‐ In the bedroom, LEAD, you go first o Show you aren’t emotionally invested in sex o Women like sex more than men
§ Can’t wait for permission
Video 8: Frames (18 mins)
-‐ Each mindset is a frame of reality, your perception of a situation -‐ Most people don’t choose their frame, they let society dictate how they
should act, and perceive situations based on superficial standards o Makes sense, like I said earlier, you ping off the environment to see
how to act and learn second hand o Women are higher value based on advertising, money and toys gets
you status § Don’t fall into these frames, create your own
-‐ More congruent reality/stronger frame wins (tony robbins with black people)
o What creates a strong reality? § Reference points create beliefs and strengthen reality
• More reference points, the stronger the belief and reality
o Married chick has a very strong reality, hot girl at the bar, not so much
o Your reality is weak because you just found out about it (“I am awesome”, more in next section)
§ And you are using the girl as a tool to see how well you are doing, therefore you are
trying things and looking for a specific response, verifying your new mindset
• The more decisive you are, the more people follow and fall into your frame, choose to always be decisive!
o Scam Artist § Catch me if you can Movie example of
how a scam artist has to hold the frame even if things go wrong
§ Self fulfilling prophecy -‐ Public speaking example with cold audience Unreactive
o Force the Fun (choose the fun frame and force it unwaveringly) § Become the Yacht
• Square peg, round hole § Unreactive to positive and negative § Jersey Guido Mindset
• The girl gives you a bad reaction, normally you would feel sad and lose the fun
• The Guido doesn’t see negative feedback o Because he is stupid o You aren’t you learned to be socially calibrated
o Unreactive does not mean grey and dead Masculine Polarity § Be on your path
• what does it mean? o Living by your life values o What are my life values
Video 9: Intermediate Mindset (I am Awesome, I am Having Fun!) (16 mins)
-‐ Need to have more fun around girls, don’t be outcome dependent -‐ I am having fun frame = Self Amusement
o Reaction seeking versus self amusement § When to smile, when not to smile
• Can’t be doing it because you want a reaction, smile has to because you feel good inside
o Inside joke with yourself § Excalibur shirt
o Don’t let environment affect your ability to have fun § tired, bad reaction from hot girl, state comes from within § Friends always having fun, choose to become that
• Being social and having fun takes energy • As said earlier, you choose to be positive or negative • Examples of negative and positive people
o Lower your criteria for what makes you laugh (harder as you get old) • see the negative feedback, but ignore it
Video 10: Intermediate Timeline: The Approach (25 mins) -‐ Used to approaching indirect, start going more direct
o “You’re cute” opener o Make it very obvious you are approaching
-‐ Build an ego of being successful o Not going to take as many risks
§ Maybe Not approaching as much as when they were a newb § Or not escalate all the way through § Or not approaching man to women
• Validating that you are successful with women, so reaction seeking and outcome dependent
• You are trying to look cool in front of your friends o Cures to external validation
§ Extreme self love you can control, it’s controlling your focus, not the results
§ More awkward approach and dealing with the social pressure conveys more than a smooth approach
• Norway example • Conveys being unreactive (explained later why this is
attractive) -‐ How to create the chase but still go for what you want
o Direct approach is not giving all your cards away, you saw something you want, you went for it but don’t have an emotional response if it goes bad
§ Screening frame, for chemistry, negativity, personality, and logistics
-‐ Approach TIPS: o be as comfortable or more comfortable than the girl o Hot searing coal vs. raging brushfire
Video 11: Intermediate Timeline: Verbal Game (24 mins)
o Blues Guitar Analogy § Don’t need to say much but OWN it § Don’t talk TO the girl talk AT her
• I don’t listen, too busy listening to myself and the awesomeness
• CEO says anything, low value stifles what they say o More likely to state his opinion
-‐ Eckhart tolle says whatever, become the guru and spit gold o
o How to make it more playful § Make it more fun for you
o Man to Woman Frame vs. Friend to Friend § Use quick verbal leading and cut threads to transition to man
to woman
§ Give sarcasm example with girl and how I failed to lead • Just have to force the transition, and push through the
friction • Be willing to cut threads, if she asks boring question, tell
her it’s boring and move on o You don’t have to answer the question she asks
§ Have boundaries for what you put up with, on the phone, not paying attention, call her out!
o Dealing with Friends § How to keep going when friend comes in § How to keep going if guy comes in
o How to pass a shit test/congruence to stay on your path o how to reframe her sarcasm, not rejection but
teasing o less is more on response
Video 12: Intermediate Timeline: Escalate (25 mins)
-‐ Your friends think you are awesome but you never pull o Let’s push through this plateau and get you pulling more consistently
-‐ Why guys eject? o Fear of unknown, success barriers, ego protection, state preservation, o Spinning plates, need to change gears
§ Power of Leading § About to eject, time to lead, § About to go in your head, time to lead before whatever you feel
she feels -‐ Escalate in isolation, so LEAD to get her there -‐ Makeout ONLY increases attraction
o Passing a shit test, creating a shit test o Makeout escalation, kiss to makeout
-‐ Mine for gold to hit the windows o Keeping a constant pressure to move the interaction forward o She gives you one, take 2 o Use sexual misinterpretation to get things escalated
-‐ Rapport? o Built with TIME, shit happens and you deal with it
-‐ Pulling o baby steps o Check logistics to start moving things sexual
§ Hotel, we’ll check it out later ;) o Time to pull, 2AM vs 4AM in different cities o Be decisive when leaving
Video 13: Advanced Mindset (I am Awesome, I am having fun, you’re a nympho!)(16 mins)
-‐ Becoming the sexworthy guy o Start having your RAS focusing on the sexiness of girls
§ Who likes the sex more? § Cosmo magazines § Your past experiences ultimately reinforce that women are
sexual § Nancy Friday
-‐ Only difference from intermediate to advanced is Self Trust o Pull once a week vs. once a month= self trust o Petrified wood-‐ My game didn’t get better, I just trust in myself more
than ever § Force the mindsets more
o Entitlement, how momentum is cheat code to entitlement § Become conscious of it, and “act as if”
-‐ The Aura o How most guys use scarcity to be successful and how it hurts when
socializing o Walk through the world with ease
§ Comfortable in your own skin
§ Trust that people can perceive the 4th dimensional aura -‐ Cartoon character
o Weirder stuff is better § Turn up the volume knob of your personality
-‐ Conscious competence, the game never ends, you never stop thinking o Soccer example
Video 14: Advanced Timeline: The Approach (12 mins)
-‐ Congruency on approach o Stop using tonality as a crutch o Don’t try to be anything
-‐ Hotter girls o More plowing, they silent test you more
§ Not as obvious, less IOIs, less physical § Be the selector, don’t fuck the warm up, you see her, go for it § Girl who said she wouldn’t talk for the first 5 mins
• OWEN TALKING ABOUT HOT GIRLS ARE EASIER §
o Push to talk to hotter girls early on, Gazelle time at the end of the night
-‐ Learn how to break the conversation so you can keep warming up without feeling bad
o Get used to having groupies following you around § “Become the hot girl.”
-‐ Kobe analogy (try reverse lay up over and over until right) o Man to women on the opener o Approach when they enter club, on their way to bathroom, with a guy
§ Shows you are buyer not the seller Video 17: Advanced Timeline: Mid Game (17 mins)
-‐ Spectrum of Authenticity, verbal unapolgeticness and sexual escalation o Call out the chainsaw
§ Give public speaking example -‐ Why Guys Eject?
o State preservation -‐ Use silence, get the girl to invest -‐ Forcing shit tests
o How to use shit test to escalate -‐ When to qualify the girl
o Go for number, qualification or value -‐ Gorilla Mindset
o Not alpha wolf o Tyler taxi shit test o The jazz drummer vs. rock drummer o New rich old rich
-‐ Using pattern interrupt to push hard and then DIVERT tension Video 18: Advanced Timeline: Escalation (16 mins)
-‐ Be Leo deCaprio(example from Ukraine, not enough to assume attraction, must assume she’s going to fully be down)
o Not assume attraction, assume the PULL § Give Leo example from Vegas
o Be the shark eating the seal. Assume the kills but have some fun. o IT’S ALWAYS ON
§ Give examples of where you thought it wasn’t and girl totally was
-‐ Slope of directness and calibration o Pin her against the wall, lock in against the wall? o different type of girls, Russian vs. Swedish (polarity)
-‐ Fall in love = how to create a connection (see yourself in others) o Be vulnerable
-‐ When not to kiss the girl o Proactive vs. responsive kiss close o What to do before and after the kiss
-‐ The Checklist o Logistics, befriend the friends, The Preview, Lead once, PULL!
-‐ Pull is sooner than you think o Stockholm student, vegas pull
-‐ Full pull from advanced level