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SISTERHOOD

Delta Internal Development Participant Manual

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_____________________________________________ Delta Internal Development Module - Sisterhood

Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc.

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TABLE OF CONTENTS

Agenda ...………………………………………………..………………………………………………...4

Objectives ……………………………………………..………………………………………………….5

Ice Breaker ……………………….…………………………………………..………………………..…6

What Does Sisterhood Mean to Me? …………………………………..……………………………...7

Keys to Effective Sisterhood – First …...……………………………………………………..……..…8

How Do I Feel About Myself? ………………….………………………………………………..…….10

How Do I Refresh? ……....….........………………………………………………………………..….11

Keys to Effective Sisterhood – Second ………………………………………………………..……..14

Keys to Effective Sisterhood – Third ……………………………………..…………………….…….16

How Do I Feel About My Sorors? …………………………………………………………….....……17

The Concept of Sisterhood ……………………………. ………………………………………..……18

Guidelines for Relationship Development ……………………………………………………………19

Keys to Effective Sisterhood – Fourth .…………………………………………………………….…20

Keys to Effective Sisterhood – Fifth ……………………………………………………………..……21

Chapter Member Roles and Responsibilities ………………………………………………………..22

Soror Improvement Guide ………………………………………………………………………....….24

My Sisterhood Commitment ………………...…………………………………………………..…….25

“We Are Family” ………….………………………………………………………………………….....26

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AGENDA

Introductions

Meditation

Objectives

Ice Breaker

What Does Sisterhood Means to Me?

Keys to Effective Sisterhood

Sisterhood Commitment Plan

Evaluation

Closing

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OBJECTIVES

To explore the concept of sisterhood.

To understand the five keys of sisterhood.

To help sorors better understand attributes and experiences that promote sisterly behavior.

To develop an individual action plan for sisterly behavior.

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ICE BREAKER – “Autographs Please” Directions: Secure autographs from sorors from whom the following descriptions are appropriate. Try to obtain as many different autographs as possible. Time limit: 5 minutes. One who is a legacy _____________________________________________________

One who has been a member of Delta two or more years ________________________

One who has been the President of a Delta chapter ____________________________

One who is the first member of in her family ______________________________

One who has attended a Delta convention or conference within the past two

years _________________________________________________________________

One who is wearing Delta paraphernalia _____________________________________

One who is a member of the chapter’s step committee __________________________

One who is wearing Fortitude jewelry ________________________________________

One who is wearing red and white __________________________________________

One who has read the book In Search of Sisterhood ___________________________

One who has visited our National Headquarters _______________________________

One who is wearing pearls ________________________________________________

One who believes that membership in is a lifetime commitment _______________

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WHAT DOES SISTERHOOD MEAN TO ME? Write your brief definition of sisterhood. ______________________________________ Before you can be a sister to someone else, you have to be a sister to yourself. What does that statement mean to you? __________________________________________ How do you define sisterly behavior? ________________________________________

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KEYS TO EFFECTIVE SISTERHOOD -- I

Sorors must feel good about themselves.

Attainment of needs

Self-esteem

Esteem for others

Positive attitudes

Respond to the following questions during your personal time:

Who am I? Do I like who I am?

How do I wish to relate to others in the Sisterhood? What do I expect from the Sisterhood?

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KEYS TO EFFECTIVE SISTERHOOD -- I

NOTES

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HOW DO I FEEL ABOUT ME?

Answer yes or no to the following: I accept constructive criticism. Yes No I am at ease meeting new people. Yes No I am honest and open about my feelings. Yes No I value close relationships. Yes No I am able to laugh and learn from my mistakes. Yes No I notice/accept changes in myself as they occur. Yes No I look for and accept new challenges. Yes No I am confident about my physical appearance. Yes No I give myself credit when credit is due. Yes No I am happy when others succeed. Yes No I am a team player. Yes No

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HOW DO I REFRESH?

A. Listed below are three categories of personal drainers. For each item, list

the people, places, activities, and/or conditions that drain you.

ACTIVITIES/PEOPLE/ PLACES THAT

AT HOME AT WORK OR AT SCHOOL

SOCIALLY

ANNOY YOU

ANGER YOU

DEPRESS YOU

WORRY YOU

FRUSTRATE YOU

How can you modify or manage these drainers that deplete your energy?

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HOW DO YOU REFRESH?

B. Listed below are three categories of personal fillers. These are your

refuelers, things that charge your battery. Everyone needs the three r’s: refuel, recharge, and reenergize yourself on a regular basis.

ACTIVITIES/PEOPLE/ PLACES THAT

AT HOME AT WORK OR AT SCHOOL

SOCIALLY

EXCITE YOU

CALM YOU

NURTURE YOU

CHALLENGE YOU

MAKE YOU LAUGH

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HOW DO YOU REFRESH?

How will you refuel, recharge and reenergize yourself? To refuel, recharge and reenergize myself, I promise to: __________ __________

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KEYS TO EFFECTIVE SISTERHOOD -- II

Sorors must value our sisterhood.

Mission Statement

Minerva Circle of Identity

The Delta Oath

Code of Ethics

Code of Conduct

Nine Cardinal Virtues

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KEYS TO EFFECTIVE SISTERHOOD -- II

NOTES

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KEYS TO EFFECTIVE SISTERHOOD -- III

Sorors must support one another.

Pulling together

Avoiding negative thoughts

Expect success for others

Give security and praise

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HOW DO I FEEL ABOUT MY SORORS?

Answer yes or no to the following: I am careful in my criticism of others. Yes No I communicate to and with sorors in a sisterly manner. Yes No I am sensitive to the needs of others. Yes No I show respect to sorors regardless of their

individual skills. Yes No I help sorors in the slow process of growth. Yes No I would keep a soror from saying or doing harm to anyone. Yes No I would keep a soror from bringing harm to herself. Yes No I support chapter members whether I like them or not. Yes No I support chapter activities whether I vote for them or not. Yes No I encourage sorors to stay active and engaged in the chapter. Yes No

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THE CONCEPT OF SISTERHOOD

Complete each statement from the heart. I joined Delta because I __________________________________________________. As I grew in Delta, I was overwhelmed by ____________________________________. In Delta, I once thought that I would ________________________________________. Now I think that I will settle for _____________________________________________. I have the most fun with Deltas when _______________________________________. I really wish we had time to do more ________________________________________. In my chapter, I love ____________% of the sorors. I like ___________% of the sorors. I am learning to get along with __________% of the sorors. I believe that I am a(n) (Describe yourself as a soror.) ____________, _____________, ______________, _______________, _____________ soror. I think sorors would _____________ with my belief about me. (agree/disagree) In any case, I love my sorors and __________________________________________.

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GUIDELINES FOR RELATIONSHIP DEVELOPMENT

Δ Value the relationship

Δ Be open and honest

Δ Affirm the relationship

Δ Learn and practice gestures of positive relations (encourage and

praise)

Δ Allow for space in the relationship (develop self and other interests)

Δ Be cautious with criticism. (balance criticism with affection)

Δ Expect shifts in the relationship

Δ Touch

Δ Compliment

Δ Listen deeply

Δ Talk freely about your feelings

Δ Learn to let go of anger

Δ Respect the contribution of conflict

Δ Know thyself with confidence (know your strengths and weakness)

Δ Forgive freely

Δ Be loyal and constant (do not give up easily. Keep trying)

Δ Give of yourself

Δ Trust

Δ Incorporate the element of surprise

Δ Love

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KEYS TO EFFECTIVE SISTERHOOD -- IV

Sorors must be responsible. Governing Documents Corporate Charter

Constitution and Bylaws

Robert’s Rules of Order, Newly Revised

Chapter Management Handbook

Ritual

Code of Conduct

Protocol and Traditions

Chapter Rules of Order

Chapter Policies and Procedures

Heritage and Archives Manual

Conduct of the Ritualistic and Ceremonies Protocol for Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc.

Administrative Resources and Tools Delta Doctrine

Administrative Procedures for Membership Intake

Pyramid Study Guide

Membership Intake Program

Chapter Mailings/Website Updates

Financial Officers Manual

Advisor’s Handbook (found in the Chapter Management Handbook)

Chapter Compliance Checklist

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CHAPTER MEMBER ROLES AND RESPONSIBILITES ROLE OF A CHAPTER MEMBER Ideally, every member of the chapter will be actively involved in some responsibility during the year. Members of the Sorority must behave in a responsible manner as they receive the reports of officers and committees. During the chapter meetings, all questions and comments should be addressed to the presiding officer. Suggestions should be constructive and should lead to a solution to any problem. Sorors should not needlessly prolong a meeting. In a sisterhood such as Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc., differences of opinion are respected; however, it is important to be able to differ without bitterness. Deliberate contentiousness must be avoided. In any democratic organization, the majority must rule when all have had an opportunity to place their opinions before the body.

Each of us has a leadership style. Whether this leadership style will be constructive depends upon the way we operate in the particular situation. We must respect the rights of others, have compassion for their limitations, and have understanding of each other’s needs. Each Soror must be willing to submerge herself in the whole and yet be able to provide leadership when it is required. Leadership is participation and hopefully, every member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority is a participating member with a contribution to make to the Sorority.

An effective chapter member should:

Be loyal to the officers and to Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc.;

Attend meetings regularly;

Pay dues promptly;

Mark the calendar, so meeting dates are not forgotten;

Be willing to serve when asked;

Be fair to all, interested in all, and never become involved in a clique; and

Be interested in the purpose of the discussion or activity, rather than in the personality of the discussant or participant.

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RESPONSIBILITY OF THE MEMBER TO THE CHAPTER Chapter success depends upon its members. It is the responsibility of all members to be effective. A member assumes an obligation to take part in the activities and to support the chapter. There are many ways of giving help to a chapter. A member may offer her home for a special occasion, may donate food or contribute to the costs of the meeting or special events. She may give extra help with ticket selling for a fundraising event, even if she cannot attend every meeting or chair a committee. Often meetings fall short of what they might accomplish because of the false notion that the sole responsibility rests with the leader. It is only when each member shares the responsibility for moving the business on that the group will operate effectively and in a truly democratic and sisterly fashion. Sorors should arrive on time and stay throughout the meeting. They should speak up when they have something to contribute, stick to the point, listen attentively when others are speaking, and respect and give thoughtful consideration to the view of others. They may request further information or study if they feel that the chapter has insufficient data on which to make a decision. They, as well as the leader, can help clarify a point, encourage others to express their views, summarize and integrate ideas. Whether or not the final decisions are feasible is as much the member’s responsibility as the leader’s.

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KEYS TO EFFECTIVE SISTERHOOD -- V

Sorors must come together and plan.

Network

Plan of Action

Evaluate

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SOROR IMPROVEMENT GUIDE Develop positive habits

Compliment sorors at every possible opportunity

Develop an understanding attitude

Learn more about the Sorority and what it means to be a part of a sisterhood It is important to know your history in order to:

Gain a better understanding of who you are

Learn from past mistakes

Provide growth and development to build towards the future

Practice improving one soror a year….myself

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MY SISTERHOOD COMMITMENT How strong is my commitment to the Sorority? _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ To promote and enhance sisterhood, I will:

1. ________________________________________________________________

2. ________________________________________________________________

3. ________________________________________________________________

4. ________________________________________________________________

5. ________________________________________________________________ Strategies I will suggest to my chapter to promote and enhance sisterhood:

1. ________________________________________________________________

2. ________________________________________________________________

3. ________________________________________________________________

4. ________________________________________________________________

5. ________________________________________________________________

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“WE ARE FAMILY”

Chorus We are family; all the other sisters and me. We are family; get up, every Delta and sing. We are family; I’ve got all my sisters with me. We are family; get up, every soror and sing. Everyone can see we are together as we walk on by. And, we fly just like birds of a feather. I won’t tell no lie. All, all of the people around us, they say Can they be that close? Just let me state for the record We are giving love in a family dose. (Repeat Chorus) Delta life is fun and we’ve just begun to get Our share of this sorority life. High, high hope we have for the future And our golden life. We know we don’t get depressed, Here’s where we carve our golden rule. Have faith in Delta and the things we do. You won’t go wrong. Oh, know this is our family jewel.

(Repeat Chorus)

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The Leadership Academy 2008-2013

Elsie Cooke-Holmes, Co-Chair

Pamela E. Smith, Co-Chair

Schean G. Belton, Esq.

Stephanie M. Cooper

Deloris Johnson Drakes

Lisa Farmer Cole

Soraya Williams Farver

Charlotte M. Freeman, Ph.D.

Renee LaVerne Harper

Beverly Harris Schembri

Wendy J. Johnson (2012-13)

Sandra F. Mack, Ed.D.

Gwendolyn J. Mosley

Mandy Mullens-Williams

Mabel Lake Murray, Ed.D.

Mildred Porter-Duncan

Norma H. Sermon-Boyd, Ed.D.

Jennifer R. Smith

Hellenna L. Terrell, Ed.D.

Barbara Woods, Ph.D.

Stephanie Flowers, Staff Liaison

Shannon Jones Jenkins, Staff Liaison