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Student Leader Coaching Skills CADA Workshop with alan e nelson, ed.d. If you want to change the world, focus on leaders. If you want to change leaders, focus on them when theyre young.

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Naval Postgraduate School 7 Indicators of Leadership Aptitude in Kids 5 Ways Parents Stunt Leadership Growth 5 Ideas to Grow Great Leaders @ Home 4 Stages in Young Leader Development

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Where Were Headed: Why Develop Student Leaders? 4 DA Mistakes Re: Leadership Training 8 Great Coaching Traits

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Why Develop Student Leaders? We develop leaders primarily to grow them, NOT to accomplish events.

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4 Common DA Mistakes Re: Leadership Training DAs rarely experience executive training, so we often miss what it means to grow leaders.

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1 MISTAKE #1: Failing to identify leadership aptitude in students. Ways DAs Stunt Leadership Growth

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2 MISTAKE #2: Confusing team & confidence building with leadership development. Ways DAs Stunt Leadership Growth

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3 MISTAKE #3: Reducing leaders to followers by doing vs. leading projects. Ways DAs Stunt Leadership Growth

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4 MISTAKE #4: Thinking youre too busy with events & activities, to train them how to lead them. Ways DAs Stunt Leadership Growth

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2 COMMON AD MISTAKE #2: ASSUMING LEADERSHIP IS GOOD CITIZENSHIP, ACTIVITY AND DISCIPLESHIP. Ways ADs Stunt Leadership Growth

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Best Practice Young Leader Coaching Skills What weve learned in 7 years of developing young leaders.

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YOUR PRIMARY ROLE IS COACH, NOT TEACHER OR LEADER Exercise self-discipline 1

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Examples of Socratic Asking a.Do you know how much time you have left? vs. Hurry, you only have 1 minute! b.How can you find the time (or instructions)? Vs. The time is The instructions are c.Team Leader, is all of your team engaged? vs. Bobby, pay attention.

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Examples of Socratic Asking d. What is another way you could _____? Vs. What you need to do is _______. e. Team Leader, who can tell you? vs. Trainer, can you explain? f. What do you think of that idea? vs. Thats a good idea, lets do that.

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2 REMEMBER THE 25/75 COMBO; LIMIT TALKING TO 25% AND OF THAT, ASK QUESTIONS 75% OF TIME Monitor your airtime

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Strategic Questions A. Focus on the topic; avoid rabbit trail questions. What is one thing you learned about leading from that activity? Vs. How did you enjoy that activity? B. Consider options; dont just settle for one good answer. Thats good. Lets think of 4 more ways we could have accomplished this. Vs. Wow, great answer. Okay, the next question is.

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Strategic Questions C. Look for teachable moments; great finds are found in failures. We lost the competition. What can we learn from that? Vs. Oh bummer, you didnt do well. Well do better next time. D. Avoid yes/no and rhetorical answers. What are some ways we can improve next round? Vs. Do you think we can do better next time?

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Strategic Questions E. Keep the feedback of people positive. Whats one thing Karli did well as the leader? Vs. What should Karli have done as the leader? F. Convey value for Leaders opinions. What do you think about how our team did in this activity? Vs. I think we did well, but we could have done better.

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3 DURING AN ACTIVITY, FOCUS ON THE TEAM LEADER (TL WHISPERER) Strive for 2-4 cues per minute

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Be a Leader Whisperer A.Physically beside or behind TL. (Move!) B.2-4 comments per minutes (on average) C.Team awareness, but TL focused. D.Dont let your focus on not talking too much, disengage you from the process. E.Add variety to your questions (See 55 things to say in Koach Training Manual)

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4 DEBRIEF MEETINGS & EVENTS; FOCUSING ON LEADERSHIP, NOT JUST DETAILS Focus on processes & skills

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5 RUN YOUR LEADERSHIP COUNCIL AS AN EXECUTIVE BOARD; THINK STRATEGIC VS. TACTICAL Require others to develop teams

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6 PROVIDE ACTIVE LEARNING LEADERSHIP SKILL TRAINING (TEAMS OF 5-8) 10-20 minute micro-projects with feedback

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6 PROVIDE ACTIVE LEARNING LEADERSHIP SKILL TRAINING ACTIVITIES IN TEAMS OF 5-8 Manage personalities

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7 PROVIDE SPACE FOR THE TEAM LEADER TO LEAD EFFECTIVELY Maintain an emotional moat

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Good Group Dynamics in Team Time A.over talking-quiet (ask specific students for responses) B.Dishonoring (how could you say that in an honoring way?) C.not paying attention (remember, leaders are good listeners) D.hijacking (thanks; lets give some others a chance)

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8 BRING IN MENTORS & DO FIELD TRIPS WITH COMMUNITY LEADERS Expand your reach & expertise

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The Koach Minute Good-Better-Best 1-on-1 Real Time Feedback

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The Koach Minute: Good, Better, Best 1.One thing you did well (good): I heard you say to your team ____. Nice job. 2. One thing to consider so youll do better next time. I think it will be more effective if you____. So just consider it. 3. What I think you did best was Wow, what I liked best about your leading was _________. Excellent. Keep it up!

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Graduate Level Koaching When Leaders become familiar with methods and skills, the tendency is for Koaches to become passive. DONT DO IT! Make good leaders even better. Hone your skills: Ask more probing questions. Affirm good Leader decisions. Raise self-awareness. (What were you thinking when you decided to ? How do you think it went? How did you do?) How else could you have done that?

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Empowerment Continuum 12345 1: TELL: Direct student what to do 2: TELL Plus: Direct & give authority 3: SELL: Brainstorm and then suggest 4: SELL & DEL 5: DEL: Empower w/ Socratic cues Autocratic ----------------------------------------------------------------- Socratic

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Empowerment Continuum 12345 1: Start on the right (5) 2. Move left as needed 3. As student succeeds, move right 4. Assign according to Activity Difficulty Ratings Autocratic ----------------------------------------------------------------- Socratic

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Summary What do I perceive my strengths and weaknesses to be as a young leader coach?

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