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Teacher-Parent Request
Requests on Parent-Teacher Night
Revisiting Paren-Teacher Night
• Take your observation reports
– Would you interpret the situation differently now?
– Would you act differently in the same situation now?
– Now that you know about Positive Action Language, what would you do next in that situation?
Revisiting Parent-Teacher Night
• Get back together in the same threesomes
• Think about your situations
– Something unclear? Ask each other for help
• Go through the following again:
– Observation
– Feelings
– Needs
Revisiting Parent-Teacher Night
• Time to REQUEST TO ENRICH
– Write 2 different REQUESTS from teacher’s POV toward parent
• Requests must enrich the situation and help meet teacher’s needs
– Help each other writing these REQUESTS
Revisiting Parent-Teacher Night
• Let’s play!
– Play out your role plays again
– Teacher in the situation will make requests of the parent
– Parent gets to genuinely react to the request (it’snot because a request is NVC-based, that youmust always comply)
– Observers observe!
A No is NOT the End
• Accepting NO for an answer:
– A NO to a request means that the request doesn’thelp meet the other party’s unmet needs
– Respect this NO and try to find out the unmetneeds
– Form a plan/strategy that will meet all/many of the needs in the situation
A No is NOT the End
You want your partner to do the dishes tonight.
“I have a need for relaxation, would you pleasedo the dishes tonight?”
Answer: “No.”
A No is NOT the End
You might have a need for relaxation, but you didn’t take in account what your partner’s needs are.
“Why not?”
Answer: “You never do the dishes and I’ve had enough of it. I want you to do the dishes sometimes, too.”
A No is NOT the End
Ahaa! Your partner might have a need for equality and apparently you are quite lazy when it comes to doing the dishes!
So, what now?
How about this multi-step approach:
A No is NOT the End
• “What if we did the dishes together tonight,
• And we set up a schedule of who does the dishes when afterwards.
• Maybe there can be a limited amount of wildcards, for when you really don’t feel like it.
• And after that, we’ll relax together?”
Exercise
• Every threesome chooses 1 situation in which
– A no was the response to the request
– A no could also have been a reasonable response to the request
Exercise
• Think about the possible needs of the parent
– Use the lists of feelings and needs
– Which feelings are playing a big role?
– Link to several possible underlying needs
– Think up an NVC strategy to meet teacher’s and parent’s needs in this situation