It was the best of times, It was the worst of times.
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ENDURING UNDERSTANDINGS Talking to a teen is a dynamic process
that requires reflection in order to remain respectful, healthy and
positive Communication & parenting styles are closely related
Parents must work with their teen to maintain positive
communication Communication within a family should be
developmentally appropriate and adjusted over time Communication
within a family should remain safe & supportive
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ESSENTIAL QUESTIONS How do you keep communication with a teen
respectful, healthy and positive? What are communication styles?
What are parenting styles? How are they related? What strategies
help to maintain positive communication with a teen? How do you
ensure that your communication with your teen is developmentally
appropriate over time? What does safe & supportive
communication look like?
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COMMUNICATION STYLES Aggressive Ready or likely to attack or
confront with words and/or actions, in a hurtful threatening way.
Passive Accepting or allowing what happens or what others do,
without responding or resisting. Assertive Standing up for your
right to be treated fairly. It is expressing your opinions, needs,
and feelings of others in a supportive way.
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Learning Activity
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SCENARIOS You receive a call during the school day from the
principal of your child's middle school. They inform you that your
child was caught deliberately plagiarizing on a paper in Social
Studies and would like you to talk to your child about it. When
your child comes home from school you ask how their day was and
they reply with a quick "fine." Consider the 3 different
communication. Discuss different ways of responding. First
response. Just right response. Strategies for repairing if you are
too hard or too soft. Your child goes to Sri Lanka on a Week
Without Walls trip and when they arrive home you are informed by
the trip leader that your child was caught out of bounds with
another student in a room they were not supposed to be in. On the
drive from the airport your child says very little about the trip
and seems unwilling to engage in conversation about it. Consider
the 3 different communication styles. Discuss different ways of
responding. First response. Just right response. Strategies for
repairing if you are too hard or too soft.
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PARENTING STYLES Authoritarian parenting marked by a high
demand of children and strict discipline, but with little to no
warmth or compassion. Also referred to as a Drill Sergeant Parent.
Permissive parenting with few to no demands and with a high-level
of warmth. Also referred to as Laissez-Faire Parenting. These types
of parents often try to be friends with their child without
exhibiting a parental role. Authoritative parenting characterized
by a child-centered approach with high demands but also high levels
of warm and responsiveness. Typically thought of as a medium
between Authoritarian & Permissive. Encourage children to be
independent but still place limits on their actions.
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Learning Activity
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SCENARIOS You receive a phone call from another parent who says
your child was writing harassing Facebook posts about her child.
The parent says their child does not want to go to school the next
day because the comments on Facebook makes them so uncomfortable.
When your child arrives home you calmly bring it up with your child
and they immediately become angry and begin yelling at you about
how much they dislike this student. Consider the 3 different
parenting styles. Discuss different ways of responding. First
response. Just right response. Strategies for repairing if you are
too hard or too soft. You find a cigarette butt close to your homes
back door. No one in your home is a smoker and you fear your child
may have smoked it. You decide to check your childs jacket that is
hanging by the door and find a packet of cigarettes. When your
child arrives home from school they deny that they smoked
cigarettes but are unable to explain whos pack of cigarettes was in
their jacket. Consider the 3 different parenting styles. Discuss
different ways of responding. First response. Just right response.
Strategies for repairing if you are too hard or too soft.
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TEEN TALK TOP TEN Become an expert in adolescent development Be
available during times of pain, wrong choices, and failure. All
necessary for growth. Be open to talk through decision- making.
Help them plan, do, review Provide love, boundaries, and personal
power for your teen Create comfortable moments for open &
honest communication. Engage in conversation, rather than directing
Identify non-negotiables. Be willing to discuss and compromise.
Listen with respect to what they say. Listen to words and look for
underlying emotions. Ask if help is wanted or needed, before giving
advice. Model positive communication
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TEEN TALK RESOURCES How To Talk So Kids Will Listen &
Listen So Kids Will Talk by Faber & Mazlish Bringing Up Kids
Without Tearing Them Down by Leman Parenting with Love & Logic
by Cline & Fay Positive Discipline by Nelsen & Lott Words
Kids Need to Hear by Staal Please Stop the Roller Coaster
http://pleasestoptherollercoaster.c om/
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