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THE FIVE BIGGEST RETIREMENT DANGERS THAT MONEY CAN’T FIX
Dips, Curves, and Surprises That Can Take Retirement Offtrack
by Andy Raub, America’s Encore Coach
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“Dandy, you’re gonna scream like a little girl!”
THE FIVE BIGGEST RETIREMENT DANGERS THAT MONEY CAN’T FIX
I have never liked riding roller coasters. I prefer
to stay in control and know where I’m going next.
Unfortunately, my grandchildren love them. Several
years ago, my wife, Jean, and I took our two daughters
and their families to Disney World to celebrate our
anniversary. The biggest and baddest roller coaster–
type ride they could find was something called
Expedition Everest. The whole family lined up to ride,
but Jean and I stayed behind to guard all our stuff.
After everyone had finished the ride, the conversation
for the rest of the day was about how scary it had
been: all the vertical climbs, the sudden drops in the
dark, and especially the yeti monster that jumped out
to frighten everyone.
The next day, my intrepid youngest grandson, Kyle,
insisted on returning to the coaster and riding again.
Kyle was six years old and couldn’t convince any
other adults to join him for the second go-round, so I
volunteered. As we were standing in line awaiting our
fate, Kyle, with his vast experience, went into great
detail about what we were soon to encounter: the
dark climbs, the gut-wrenching dives, and, of course,
the leaping yeti creature. Finally, just before we were
strapped into the car, Kyle looked up at me and said,
“Dandy”—that’s my grandpa name—“you’re gonna
scream like a little girl.”
Guess what? I did.
Let me ask you a question. Does life ever make you
scream? You know the feeling: thrilling triumphs
followed by sudden falls in the dark. Then, just when
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Some transitions come about because we choose them. Other changes seem to choose us.
you think things are back to normal, a monster jumps
out and scares you to death. Changes happen to all
of us, but sometimes it feels as though we’ve been
strapped into a giant roller coaster with no control
and no end in sight. Many of us feel as though we are
balanced precariously between what was and what
will be, and we’re not sure what will happen next.
For more than thirty-five years, I have worked as a
financial advisor and investment manager for families
and retirees. During this time, I’ve had the privilege
of helping hundreds of clients work their way through
all kinds of transitions, such as retirement, serious
illness, or the death of a loved one. Some transitions
come about because we choose them, which allows
us to build a plan and prepare. Other changes,
however, seem to choose us and offer no alternative.
Experience tells me we should all prepare for the
certainty of uncertainty. But how can we do that?
Retirement is one life change that almost everyone
looks forward to in one way or another. It is the one
transition that we have some control over in terms of
when it happens and what we want it to look like. For
many of us, retirement seems like a kind of nirvana, a
time when we can finally stop working, put our feet up,
and live on our own terms. For others, it is a dreaded
time when we must stop doing what we love and enter
a big unknown.
I have learned that the retirement experience can
be a lot like my experience at Disney World. I arrived
with a great expectation of sharing perfect leisure
with my loved ones in a perfect environment where
there is never even any trash in the streets. What I
encountered instead was an experience for which I
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was unprepared and that scared me to death. Only
six-year-old Kyle gave me an accurate warning, and I
failed to listen.
The Retirement Amusement Park Ride
For most people, retirement planning can be framed
by two great fears, one about money and the second
about meaning. The money fear sounds like one of
these questions: “Will I run out of money?” and “Can
I sustain my income?” The second fear usually seems
to arise from a question about time. People often think,
“What am I going to do with all that free time?” But
underlying this question is the true fear: “Will I lose my
significance and purpose when I retire?” It is this final
question that we are going to focus on. It seems that
everywhere we turn, someone—our banker, financial
planner, broker, or well-meaning friend—is trying to
alleviate the money fear for us. But they—and we—are
often ignoring the meaning fear, and I believe this
concern is more important than the money issue and,
potentially, more complicated.
For most of our adult lives, various voices in the
retirement industry have promised us a perfect
environment for our later years. The investment and
financial planning sectors have told us that if we save
our money and have the right investment strategy,
then retirement will be worry free. The leisure industry
implores us to spend the rest of our lives relaxing
in the lap of luxury on some cruise or exotic resort.
Real estate experts tell us to downsize into a house
costing twice as much as the one we are leaving or to
let our cares disappear in a senior-oriented planned
community. This all sounds like a great theme-park
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Boomers want to remain relevant and stay youthful and active during retirement.
existence, but no one warns us of the sudden twists
and turns of the roller coaster. In many ways, when
we strap ourselves in for an amusement ride without
taking a wise look at the path we’re about to travel, we
set ourselves up for frustration and disappointment—
and maybe even disaster. There are some real hazards
lurking for retirees who are neither ready nor realistic.
Riding a Rickety Roller Coaster
Let’s take a minute to peek beneath the surface
glitz and look at the real world of retirement. Most
new retirees now come from the baby boomer
generation. This generation has had an enormous
social impact during every life stage, and they expect
to continue making an impact throughout retirement.
As individuals, baby boomers are purposeful,
discerning, and want to be part of something bigger
than themselves. They want to remain relevant and
stay youthful and active during retirement. In short,
they have high expectations. For them, the retirement
ride will be a different journey than the pension-plan
relaxation their parents experienced.
Boomers have always challenged the status quo and
approached obstacles differently. They are one of the
largest, wealthiest, and most active segments of our
population. They are also the first generation that has
a large individual responsibility for their retirement
savings.
Setting the money issues aside, however, a boomer’s
expectation hides a potential retirement crisis as he or
she ages and tries to maintain an independent façade.
Increasing divorce rates, poor health, rising alcohol
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and drug abuse, rising suicide rates, and increasing
isolation are all problems as we age. Combine these
problems with our ongoing need to feel like we matter
and have a purpose, and we have the makings of
retirement dangers that money cannot fix. Some of
these statistics may surprise you:
• Nearly 20 percent of adults over age sixty-five suffer
from depression, and depression is the single biggest
risk factor for rising suicide rates. Many medical
procedures associated with aging such as heart attack,
joint replacement, and macular degeneration are
known to be associated with increased depression,
not to mention the impact of grief.1
• Men older than sixty-five are four times more likely to
take their own lives than women, and men older than
seventy-five have the highest rate of suicide of any
other group. In fact, the suicide rate for men increased
by nearly 50 percent between 1999 and 2014, while
the rate for women rose by more than 60 percent. 2
• The rate of divorce for couples over age fifty
has increased so much in recent years that it has
prompted a new buzzword: “gray divorce.” From 1980
to 2008, divorce among men aged sixty-five and older
doubled, and it tripled among women age sixty-five
and older. During the past ten years, gray divorce has
increased significantly while divorce rates overall have
fallen.
20% of Seniors are Depressed
Age 65+ Divorce Rate Increase Over Last 30 Years
for Menfor Women
2x3x
1 National Institute of Health 2 Centers for Disease Control and Prevention
MEN
75+years old
Highest Rate of Suicide
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• Drug and alcohol abuse is increasing among retirees.
Alcohol or drug problems contribute to 6 to 11 percent
of elderly hospital admissions, 14 percent of elderly
emergency room admissions, and 20 percent of
elderly psychiatric hospital admissions. Widowers over
the age of 75 have the highest rate of alcoholism in
the U.S.
As you can see, retirement is not necessarily the
utopian existence that the advertisers lead us to
believe. Underneath the retirement façade, we often
find the bones of a rickety roller coaster that will sweep
us through unexpected twists and turns and might even
be ready to collapse as soon as we get on it!
How can we avoid these dangers? Like any great
endeavor, the potential hazards can be overcome if we
know what they are and how to deal with them. But we
have only one chance to get it right. Here are the top
five retirement dangers have nothing to do with money
and everything to do with life and happiness. If you
want to find satisfaction in retirement, keep reading.
Danger 1– The Decline Curve Will Make You Crash and Burn
Perhaps the biggest danger that retirees face is
the feeling of losing their significance—their sense
of identity and purpose—when they quit working. I
recently had lunch with a friend who had retired from
serving as the leader of a nonprofit foundation. When
I asked him how retirement was going, he talked for
a few minutes about playing golf and traveling. Then
he stopped and looked at me very seriously and
said, “Honestly, when I was working, I felt that I was
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The feeling of losing our significance is at the heart of the “decline curve.”
somebody and that I was doing important work. Now,
I’m not sure who I am and what I’m supposed to do. I
feel as though I don’t really have a purpose anymore.”
We all need to feel that our lives have significance.
Most of us have naturally found part of that purpose
and identity in our work. When our careers end, our
purpose meters often feel empty. We realize that our
remaining time on earth is growing shorter, and we are
suddenly filled with fear that we will never accomplish
many of our dreams. This feeling can be devastating
and will throw our plans into turmoil.
This feeling of losing our significance is at the heart of
what I call the “decline curve.” It is the point in our life
when our future begins to feel smaller and less inviting,
and our past threatens to become more important
than our future. Look at the curve in the graph below.
Think of this curve as depicting your life history—your
Personal Progress Curve. In engineering, this curve is
often called a “sigmoid curve” and is used to measure
productivity over time.
The first part of the curve shows your early adult years
as you are getting your act together. The second part,
which slowly rises over time, is the time in your life in
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“We remain young to the degree that our ambitions are greater than our memories.” - Dan Sullivan
which you are most productive and successful. Now
notice the top of the big curve, where it turns down-
ward and begins to decline. This is where many retir-
ees find themselves. They may have grown bored with
their jobs. They may be losing energy as they age. Or
they may be losing focus and the drive to compete. For
whatever reason, their life slowly goes into decline. This
is the point at which a person’s future begins to shrink.
As Dan Sullivan, the creator of The Strategic Coach®
program says, “We remain young to the degree that
our ambitions are greater than our memories.” If we
don’t pay attention to the decline curve, we might
find ourselves on that rickety roller coaster, suddenly
whizzing downward at breakneck speed. If we
are not ready for it and haven’t planned for it, the
decline curve can ruin all the fun we planned for our
retirement.
My book, The Encore Curve: Retire with a Life Plan
That Excites You, will show you how to avoid or delay
your decline curve by creating a new, upward sloping
curve called the Encore Curve. (See graph below.)
Encore Curve
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As we age, our backpacks grow increasingly heavy.Yet we insist on dragging it around with us.
With an Encore Curve, retirement becomes a time to
repurpose life rather than retreat from it. A good life
plan will make the retirement adventure a lot more fun.
Danger 2 – The Loaded Backpack Will Weigh Down Your Future
Closely related to the decline curve is the concept of
the Loaded Backpack. To illustrate what I mean, allow
me to tell you about my father. He was born in 1911 in a
small Indiana farming community. He had what we now
know as dyslexia. As a result, he did not learn to read
until he was almost thirty years old. Even though he
had a brilliant engineering mind, he was told he was
dumb from an early age, and he wore that mental label
all his life. Living through the Great Depression and
suffering a number of personal and business setbacks
gradually added to his negative outlook. As he grew
older, he became a fearful, suspicious person who was
obsessed with various conspiracy theories.
It was as though he carried a backpack around with
him labeled with the words “I am not good enough,”
and it colored every aspect of his life. As a result, he
raised me with the same critical tone that he used on
himself. I was told I was never good enough and that
I needed to try harder. I now understand that this was
his way of trying to make me the best I could be so I
could escape his life of hardship. But I also know that
my personal self-talk and self-image is often negative,
even as an adult, because I still hear those “not good
enough” tapes playing in my head.
We all carry a backpack throughout our lives. Into that
backpack we throw all of our experiences: our great
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We need to discover the wisdom from our experiences.
triumphs as well as our crushing disappointments,
regrets, and failures. As we age, our backpacks grow
increasingly heavy. Yet we insist on dragging all these
accumulated experiences around with us. But who
says we need to drag the entire heavy backpack into
our future?
For many of us, much of this stuff we drag around is
not fit to prepare us for living well in retirement. My
father dragged around a lot of lies and misinformation
about who he was. His past determined his future.
We don’t have to let that happen. Most of the
experiences we have thrown in our backpacks is just
past information, and dragging it around with us is a
fruitless venture because we can’t change the past.
What we need is the ability to discover the wisdom
that comes from our experiences. Wisdom will unstick
us from the quagmire of the past and move us forward.
I have seen many retirees ruin their retirement
because either they cannot let go of past regrets or
they continue trying to repeat past greatness. The
key to avoiding the decline curve in retirement and
creating a repurposed life is to take the backpack off
and sort through your past experiences to find the
wisdom that will carry you into the future. You are then
free to put the backpack, with all its remaining junk,
in the corner. You can always come back and reclaim
your biggest regrets and try to relive your greatest
triumphs, but you might find daily life a lot more
enjoyable without that encumbrance.
In The Encore Curve and its companion coaching
workshop, we can teach you how to sort through your
backpack, collect only the wisdom you need to take
with you into the future, and build new purpose and
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excitement for your retirement life. You have a choice:
stay stuck in the past or use the lessons of the past to
create an exciting and fulfilling future.
Danger 3 The Habit Hole Will Swallow Your Dreams
A small river runs behind our vacation cabin in the
mountains of northern New Mexico. To most people, it
looks like a mountain stream, but it is called the Red
River. It flows with water collected from melting snow
and smaller, spring-fed streams high in the mountains.
As the snow melts at higher altitudes, the water makes
its way down in trickles, which flow into larger streams,
which finally flow into the river. I’ve always been struck
by how this process naturally repeats itself. Over the
years, the water has cut deep channels that it now
follows. It has no choice. It is following the path of
least resistance.
We do the same thing. We follow the path of least
resistance. We call these paths “habits,” and they
become as natural to us as the water flowing down the
mountain. The problem for most retirees is that when
we stop working, massive sets of habit patterns that
we have developed around our jobs simply disappear.
Think about all the habits and routines you have built
into your working life: when you get up, where you go,
what you read, what you think about, and with whom
you interact. When you retire, all these habits suddenly
vanish. In their place, you are left with a big void I call
a “Habit Hole.” Not being subject to the same routine
may sound great at first, but nature abhors a vacuum.
Your new Habit Hole will instantly begin to fill up with
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other behaviors—ones that you may find temporarily
pleasing but that don’t help you feel significant. Maybe
you suddenly find a new affinity for daytime television,
check Facebook incessantly, or fritter away countless
hours with no mindful purpose or direction. Just as the
mountain snowmelt quickly forms new ruts in fresh
ground, so will these unplanned behaviors.
Several retirees have told me that after playing golf
every day for months, they became bored and quit
visiting the golf course even though they had nothing
else to do. One client admitted to me that she had
formed the habit of watching daytime news shows
and stock reports for over ten hours per day. The
habit had developed slowly as she recovered from
surgery. Now she was addicted, and it showed in her
outlook. In a period of months, she had transformed
from a vivacious, socially engaged woman to a fearful,
negative, and withdrawn human being.
There is nothing wrong with any of these relaxing
activities, but they can get out of control and become
part of a new routine of habits we never intended to
form. If we don’t take intentional action to fill our Habit
Holes, we will find ourselves following new paths of
least resistance—routines of unplanned behaviors
that eat away at our lives just as flowing water eats
away the soil and digs a riverbed. We will suddenly
find ourselves sliding down the decline curve, not
understanding how we got there. As a friend once
pointed out, the only difference between a rut and a
grave is the dirt in your face.
Daily Habits While Working
Habit Hole of Retirement
3 Stage names coined by Michael K. Stein in The Prosperous Retirement: Guide to the New Reality (Boulder: Emstco Press, 1998).
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There are three stages to retirement: Go Go, Slow Go,
and No Go.3 In the Go-Go stage, we typically have
the energy, health, money, and motivation to be very
active. In the Slow-Go stage, age catches up with us
and causes us to slow down and cut back on activities.
In the final stage—No Go—health, energy, money, and
other things can grind us to a halt. The problem with
not having a clear life plan at the outset of retirement
is that you cannot recapture the Go-Go time. There
are no do-overs. If you let your Habit Hole slow you
down too much in the first years of retirement, you will
skip to the Slow-Go stage with no way to recover your
wasted Go-Go years. You will live the rest of retirement
in a state of regret.
Therefore, we must take great care how we fill that
Habit Hole after every major life transition. Periodic
review of our habit patterns will keep us energized
toward significance.
In the Encore Curve program, we will lead you through
a series of exercises to help you prepare for the Habit
Hole before retirement. If you are already retired, we
can also help you more clearly define what kind of
habits and routines you want in order to move forward,
which ones are holding you back, and how to build a
strategy for gradually making changes. Changing your
path of least resistance can take time, but you are
going to live that time anyway. So you might as well
make the best of it.
Danger 4 – The Inigo Montoya Conundrum: Your Answer Will Determine Your Future
One of my favorite movies is the 1987 classic The
Princess Bride. In this movie, actor Mandy Patinkin
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Being rendered useless is not what you or I have in mind as we face retirement.
plays a character named Inigo Montoya whose whole
life is dedicated to finding and killing the six-fingered
man who murdered his father. Throughout the movie,
he confronts people with this now-famous line: “Hello.
My name is Inigo Montoya. You killed my father.
Prepare to die.”
At the end of the movie, however—after he has finally
succeeded in finding and killing the murderer—he
utters another unforgettable line that frames our
retirement question: “You know, it is very strange. I
have been in the revenge business so long. Now that
it is over, I don’t know what to do with the rest of
my life.”
For most retirees, Inigo’s question is actually a two-part
question: What am I going to do? And how am I going
to do it? The “what” question is the hardest—and
most-asked—question that retirees need to answer as
they move from a life of working to a life of retirement.
One of Merriam-Webster’s definition for retirement is
to be “taken out of service.” I doubt anyone wants to
be taken out of service. It would be nice to slow down
and relax a little, but being rendered useless is not
what you or I have in mind as we face retirement.
This whole idea of finding what you are going to do
next is complicated by the second question, the how.
Most of us have worked as employees or in arenas
where we have had a structure and system to support
us. But when we retire, most of our support structure
vanishes, much like our habits. The result is like
suddenly being forced to become an entrepreneur
when we have had no experience working for
ourselves. Most retirees are not ready for this type of
paradigm shift.
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Planning a successful retirement requires a unique set of skills that most of us don’t possess.
Across the street from my office, a large apartment
complex is under construction. My office is on the
fourteenth floor, so I have a great view to supervise all
the activity. Before they started moving dirt, architects
and engineers drew up detailed plans for the project.
Then teams of experienced craftsmen and engineers
built the infrastructure and laid the foundation. After
that, other skilled workers built the walls, floors, and
finally, the roof. When the building is finished, the
completed project will look exactly like the original
plans, and everything will work as expected.
Now imagine tackling that apartment project by
yourself with no experience. Sure, you can fix a toilet
and repair a fence, but you wouldn’t know where to
start to design, develop, and construct a fifty-million-
dollar apartment complex all alone. Your retirement life
is no different. You may have an idea of what you want
it to look like, but do you really have any experience at
creating a new life out of nothing with minimal support
systems? You don’t know if your ideas will work, how
much time will be needed, what to do when you hit a
roadblock, or even if you will like the outcome.
Planning a successful retirement requires a unique
set of tools and skills that most of us don’t possess.
Without those skills, we are forced to learn on the
job. The result? Most people confess discovering
that what they thought they wanted in retirement
and the final reality don’t match up. What happens
when you start off in the wrong direction and then
second-guess yourself or have to backtrack? What
do you do when health issues, family complications,
and time constraints begin to eat away at your plans?
Transitioning to retirement takes a lot of work, and the
ever-looming decline curve reminds us we don’t have
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Retirement can endanger your marriage.
time for many mid-course corrections. We don’t want
to waste those first few precious and most valuable
years of the Go-Go stage trying to figure retirement out.
Most of us would benefit from a coach or the
experience of someone who has already gone
through the process. We need a GPS of sorts to clearly
delineate our direction and warn us of detours and
course corrections. The Encore Curve program will
help you construct your own retirement GPS system
and show you how to use it to define your direction
and keep you on course. You don’t have to embark
on this journey alone. Right after Inigo made his
statement, he leaped on a horse and rode off with a
group of friends to help each other discover their next
stage of life. The retirement journey is too important to
go it alone.
Danger 5 – Retirement Will Endanger Your Relationships
The final danger I want to address is the decline or
termination of relationships as we age.
Retirement can endanger your marriage. If a couple
hasn’t addressed their marital issues prior to retiring,
they will find they must confront them after. No longer
able to retreat to work or raising a family, many
couples find they cannot resolve issues that they have
ignored for years. “Gray divorce” rates have been
steadily rising.
In my book, The Encore Curve, the main character
George announces to his wife, Linda, that he is facing
forced early retirement. One of her first reactions is
concern that he will have nothing to do and he will
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Loneliness is associated with a higher risk of mortality.
encroach on her carefully designed life: “What are
going to do? You can’t just hang around the house and
bother me all day.”
Another example happened when my top-executive
friend John retired and could not turn off his CEO
mentality. As a result, he expected his wife to suddenly
set aside her life and become his executive assistant.
That approach did not end well. The many frustrations
they had with each other ruined retirement and,
ultimately, their marriage.
Think it won’t happen to you? Meet Char and Bill. Char
was a well-known realtor, and Bill was a successful
litigation attorney. They raised their kids, and then for
the next few years focused on their careers before
deciding to retire within a year of each other. Suddenly,
two very high-powered personalities were stuck living
together without the surrounding insulation of their
careers or child-raising. With their career masks gone,
they had to learn new skills to get along smoothly
while trying to jointly design the next phase of their
lives in retirement as a couple. They wished they had
done some of this important groundwork before retiring.
Marriage is not the only relationship danger we face
as we age. We humans were designed to live in
community and interact with each other. We have a
basic need to draw support from others and to give
back in return. As we age, we face an increasing
threat of isolation that can cause great harm. Mother
Teresa once remarked that loneliness is the leprosy
of modern society. According to a 2012 study in
Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences,
both social isolation and loneliness are associated with
a higher risk of mortality in adults aged fifty-two and
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When we retire, our connections often vanish into the Habit Hole.
older.4 This study also concluded that illnesses and
conditions such as chronic lung disease, arthritis,
impaired mobility, and depression were associated
with social isolation as people age.5
While women are more likely to maintain stronger
relationships longer than men, loneliness is still at
epidemic stages. Nearly half of adults ages sixty to
eighty report significant loneliness.6 This danger
multiplies when we retire. Many of our closest
relationships are built around our coworkers and
colleagues. When we retire, these connections often
vanish into the Habit Hole. Then as we age, many of
our remaining closest friends begin to move away,
become ill, or die, leaving us alone.
As most of us know, it is not easy to make new friends
or maintain old relationships. It takes work. Meeting
people by approaching a group where we don’t know
anyone can be difficult even for the most gregarious
personalities. Maintaining existing relationships in a
changing world also requires focused attention. This
upkeep is especially difficult as we age and if we are
not naturally outgoing people.
In the Encore Curve program, we teach a process
that will help you think through relationship strategies
as part of creating your plan for your transition.
Recognize this danger early and build a plan to foster
relationships. Then you will have a good chance
of avoiding the loneliness that comes from the
relationship reset, and you will have the opportunity
4 Steptoe et al., “Social Isolation, Loneliness, and All-Cause Mortality in Older Men and Women,” doi: 10.1073/pnas.1219686110 5 A Place for Mom, “Elderly Depression: Symptoms & Care,” aplaceformom.com/senior-care-resources/articles/elderly-depression 6 Singh et al., “Loneliness, Depression and Sociability in Old Age,” Industrial Psychiatry Journal 18, no. 1 (2009): 51–55, doi:10.4103/0972-6748.57861.
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When we talk about the non-money side of retirement, time and direction become even more critical.
to build meaningful connections with the people that
matter most.
Summary
As I have explained these five dangers, you may have
noticed a couple overarching themes. The first theme
is time, and the second is direction. When I advise
my clients about investing and financial planning, we
always talk about time and direction. Time can be the
best friend or the worst enemy of a financial plan. If
you start saving early and let the magic of compound
interest work for you over longer periods of time, then
you can cut your risk and reduce your needed rate
of return. Direction is a second critical element in
financial planning. Clear goals will tell you how much
money you need and when you can arrive at that point.
(Read the in-depth discussion about these concepts in
my book, The Encore Curve.)
When we start talking about the non-money side of
retirement, time and clear direction become even
more critical. Remember that retirement has three
phases: Go Go, Slow Go, and No Go. Most of us won’t
have the privilege of determining when these stages
change. We may feel good and full of energy now,
but aging will eventually slow us down. All our plans
for active retirement can go out the window with one
accident or diagnosis.
That’s why it is critical to have a clear direction and a
well thought out plan before retiring or as soon as you
can. We simply cannot afford to waste the first few
precious years of retirement stuck in the Habit Hole
and surfing down the decline curve.
Avoid the decline curve by creating a plan to finish well.
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Is retirement going to be your encore where you’ve saved your best act for last?
My wife and I recently went to a Don Henley concert.
Don Henley is one of the founders of The Eagles,
the great rock band whose songs made up the
background music for many baby boomers’ lives.
Henley and his band played a lot of the old Eagles
classics and covered some songs by other artists. At
the end of the concert, when he walked off the stage,
the crowd was on its feet cheering for more. As all
great artists do, Don and the band came back out for
an encore and performed their most popular song:
“Hotel California.” Don saved his best for last, and the
crowd loved it.
So let me ask you a question. Is your retirement going
to be your encore where you’ve saved your best act
for last? Will you finish well? Or are you just going to
walk off stage too early and allow yourself to slowly
decline, lose your zest for life, and fade away? It’s your
choice, and I want to help you make the right decision.
Other than money concerns, most retirees’ biggest
fear is that they will stop living and start dying. They
fear they will lose the identity they had in their career
and simply fade into insignificance. My passion is to
help you design a retirement that will give you new
purpose, renewed energy, and leave your audience
begging for more. That’s why I created the Encore
Curve program and wrote my book, The Encore Curve:
Retire with a Life Plan That Excites You. The book is
an easy read, and my coaching workshop will give you
practical tools for designing your own Encore Curve
future. Together, we’ll make sure you save your best
for last.
Read the book and then go to EncoreCurve.com to
sign up for my coaching workshop. I hope it changes
your life.
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About Andy
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For more than three decades, Andy Raub has helped
countless individuals plan for their retirement and manage
their investments. He founded Raub Capital Management,
a top advisory firm, to focus on retirement planning. As
an early Baby Boomer, Andy understands the fears most
retirees now face and created The Encore Curve program
to help them reset their life goals and reorganize their
money so they can live with renewed purpose.
Andy, known as “America’s Encore Coach,” is a sought-
after speaker on personal finance and life-planning topics,
as well as a popular Bible teacher. He holds a BS in
Psychology and an MBA in Finance from the University of
North Texas and has attended Dallas Theological Seminary.
Andy is also a church elder and has served on numerous
non-profit boards. He lives in Dallas, Texas, with his wife,
Jean, and is called “Dad” by their two grown daughters
and “Dandy” by four teenage grandchildren.
Visit EncoreCurve.com to learn about how to discover your
Encore future with Andy’s new book, workshops, and more!
I want to make sure that people avoid wasting their healthiest post-work years searching for an answer they can have right now.
Helping others accomplish this purposeful living is my own Encore Curve, the way I want to spend my future.