The Gentleman

Michael DawesEnglish 1100

Multi-Genre Research Project

Dear Prospective Gentlemen,I hope this presentation is very meaningful to you and help you understand the values of being courteous, and coming to the knowledge of being a gentleman. As a gentleman, you become separated from young boys in thought process, and decision making. You will become aware of what you do, and think before acting. Enjoy!

Sincerely,

Michael DawesThe Gentleman

Definition of a Gentleman

• A Gentleman is a male that practices the high standards of proper behavior. He is also considerate, and has good manners. Being a gentleman in not based on social or economic standings, but based upon the moral values of the male. (Bucci)

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General Etiquette

• Always be polite– Be polite and courteous to

EVERYONE, even if you have a strong dislike for something or someone.

• Do Not Speak Loudly or Curse

– Cursing is a big no-no, it shows that there is limited education, VERY LIMITED, and speaking loudly alerts people of your stress level.

• Respect Your Elders– Elders should earn the same

respect that you would like in return. Young men seem to know it all, but WE DON’T

• Don’t laugh at other’s mistakes

– This can be considered mean, and if things were reversed, you wouldn’t want anyone laughing at your mistakes.

• Remove your hat indoors– This rule has gone out of

style, but it is poor etiquette to leave your hat on inside a building.

• Wait for seating before eating

– This rule is simple, wait until everyone else is seated and ready to eat before eating.

Conversation

• Avoid political and religious discussions.– Those discussions can lead to various

and ugly opinions

• Education is one of the main keys in indulging in good conversation

• Sex, and conversations about one’s personal life is not a great conversation piece.

ConversationShouldNeverBe One Sided(Hartley 1873).

Here’s a few tips……• When given a dinner

invitation, it is best to respond quickly as possible, whether you decline or accept.

• Speak, first to the hostess, and the host, if there is both. (Hartley 1873)

• Observe your conduct at the table.– Practicing great

behavior at home will result in great behavior elsewhere.

• Avoid making disturbing sounds with food such as soup or chewing sounds at the table.

• Never put more in your mouth that you can swallow, this could result in choking or suffocation.

• Maintain Sobriety– Never drink more than one

kind of alcoholic drink in the public setting.

• Converse in a low tone with your neighbor, LOUDNESS IS NOT NECCESARY! (Hartley 1873)

Guide Lines • A gentleman should always wear

an undershirt, no matter the situation.

• Socks should never show when a gentleman stands.

• Shoes are always shined• Cologne is considered Intimate

Apparel• A Manicure is in order from time

to time when there is no polish involved

• A gentleman should never color his hair.

• Nose hairs are clipped• A gentleman ties his own tie, and

for this matter his own bowtie• No button down collars with a

bowtie• A gentleman owns at least one

pair of black lace up shoes• If a vest is worn, he always leaves

the bottom button unbuttoned• A gentleman should know how to

iron and starch his even though he may leave this job to his local cleaners

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The Nitty Gritty• A gentleman’s hands and feet are just as important as the female’s

hands and feet.– Pay attention to the socks you wear, nylon or overly warm socks could cause

sweaty feet– Purchase the right tools for taking care of your feet such as clippers, cuticle pusher,

and creams– BUT CREAMS ALONE WILL NOT CUT IT!

• A Gentleman’s face is just as important as the rest of his body, so use moisturizers on the face as much as possible

• In the winter time take shorter showers, but remember to shampoo hair to avoid flakes and use a high quality crème to eliminate dry skin

• Brush teeth, floss, and it maybe even necessary to invest in a teeth whitening system

• Find a quality barber/stylist that is versatile and will be there to accommodate all of your need

• If a gentleman shaves, he needs to find a great after-shave product to use on his skin to avoid irritation.

As an expert gentleman, what products do I use for grooming and were do I shop?

Expert Gentleman Grooming and Dressing

Grooming• Body Wash

– Old Spice (Swagger)

• Soap– Irish Spring

• Body Spray– Axe or the similar brand

• Facial Care– Oxy Face Wash– Noxzema Triple Clean– Gene’s Vitamin E Cream

• Hair Care– Nelson’s Barber Shop

Dressing• Dinner Jackets/Blazers/Suits

– Belk’s– K &G Fashion of Raleigh

• Sweater/Sweater Vest/Cardigans

– Stein Mart– J C Penny

• Neck Ties/Ascots/Bowties– K &G Fashion of Raleigh– Stein Mart

• Footwear– K&G Fashion of Raleigh– Ross

• Other Clothing– Ross– Target

Do you possess the qualities to be a gentleman in today’s society?

Works Cited

• Hartley, Cecil. The Gentlemen's Book of Etiquette. Boston, MA: DeWolfe, Fiske & Co., 1873. Print

• Bridges, John. How To Be A Gentleman. Nashville, TN: Rutledge Hill Press, 1998. Print.

• Bryan, Meredith. "How to Groom for Cold Weather." GQ Magazine Jan 2006: n. pag. Web. 23 Nov 2009. <http://www.gq.com/how-to/groom/200601/winter-

grooming>.