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Table of Contents

Feature

AMINA S MCINTYRE

LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS:

AN INTERVIEW WITH KIMBERLA LAWSON ROBY 19

SYNOLVE CRAFTWHEN YOU LOVE SOMEBODY 56

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Articles

REV. ALAN ROWBOTHAM

THE LANGUAGE OF YOUR HEAR 57

SPIRITUAL SOLUTIONS

DENNIS MERRITT JONES

THE ART OF BEING KIND 77

THE ART OF BEING

SUSAN MAREK

DIVINE DETOX MEDITATION 79

MEDITATION

TERRI LEE-JOHNSON

HAVE A LITTLE FAITH 60

THE SPIRITUAL BOOKSHELF

JANICE GIRGENTI

FENG SHUI TIPS FOR LOVE 43

FENG SHUI

PETER C. ROGERS, D.D., PH.D.

SOURCE 81

THE ULTIMATE TRUTH

KEN AND RENEE KIZER

TALK TALK 65

SPIRITUAL RELATIONSHIPS

TERRI LEE-JOHNSON, MALENE BELL, JAMIE FLEMING, FATEEMAH WICKHAM

NATURAL HAIR 37

BEAUTY

NANCY A KAISER

BECAUSE OF LOVE 33

NATURE

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TONYA PARKER

MATTERS OF THE HEART 61

CONSCIOUS LIVING - FOOD

BEN CHILD

DEAR CHOCOLATE BLISS 64

CONSCIOUS LIVING - FOOD

JEN ALY

THE COURAGE TO OPEN YOUR HEART 47

SPIRITUAL RELATIONSHIPS

SHAUNA ARTHURS

SELF LOVE 9

MAGNIFICENT YOU

MIN VALERIE LOVE

LOVE THE FOUNDATION FOR ALL PROSPERITY 30

SPIRITUAL LAWS OF FINANCE

DAVID BESLOW

PROCRASTINATION IS A VERB 70

JOURNEY INTO SELF

REV DIANNIA BATY

AFFIRMATIVE PRAYER III 27

AFFIRMATIONS

ELAYNA FERNANDEZ

PAGEANT51CONSCIOUS PARENTING

ALEXZANDRIA CRAFT

LOVE 12

TWEENS & TEENS

GEMMA ABSON

2 AM 24

POETRY

JENNIFER ONEILL

RELATIONSHIPS ITS COMPLICATED 45

INTUITIVE WISDOM

DEOLA FEARON

NLY THE HEART 32

OETRY

ARA COVERT, PH.D.

OVE IS WHAT YOU MAKE OF IT 25

OURNEY INTO SELF

EBBIE RUSTONAVE YOU EVER DONE SOMETHING FOR SOMEONE YOU LOVE 67

USINESS ENLIGHTENMENT

IN JENNIFER HOPPER

AWS OF LIFE FOR KIDS:

WALK IN THE PARK 13

IDZ

ALENE BELL

OOD FRIDAY 15

HORT STORIES

DWARD WILLIAMS

O LONGER WILLING TO PAY 49

OWER LIFE

UE URDA

WHERE LOVE ABIDES GRATITUDE IS NEAR 75

RATITUDE

YNOLVE CRAFTACRED INTENTION AND AFFIRMATION TO ASSIST IN YOUR

OURNEY AS YOU FOLLOW THE GURU WITHIN 8

FFIRMATIONS

ARLA DURBEN

IVE YOURSELF TO LOVE 84

NTENTIONS

AURIE MARTIN

USTIN OBRIEN (SWAMI JAIDEV) 53

MILE ACROSS YOUR HEART

YNOLVE CRAFT

NITTING A WEB OF LOVE 86

MAGNIFICENT YOU!

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a message from spirit

I love February, although it's much too cold and way too short. It is a month that

is all about LOVE. You can even feel it in the air.

LOVE can also be felt on every page of this magazine. There is so much good

stuff in this issue that I can hardly contain myself. We've got an exclusive

interview with best selling romance novelist Kimberla Lawson Roby. Having

read many of her novels and admired her for many years, it's obvious she knows

a thing or to about LOVE! Kimberla shares a few "insider tips" on how to spice

up the romance in your life! Amina S. McIntyre caught up with Kimberla on her

book tour stop in Atlanta. It's steamy ya'll!!

Then Janice Girgenti takes it to the bedroom with Feng Shui advice on how to

bring LOVE into your intimate space...Oooh, it is HOT!

Marla Durden asks you to Give Yourself to Love, and Nancy Kaiser shares a

beautiful story,Because of Love, about a Quarter Horse foal named Wild

Women.

No matter what it is you desire to love - whether it's a pet, a spouse or a friend -

there's an article just for you! Once again, I'm amazed as TIFM's family of

contributors open their heart so wide to give you the very best to help you create

the life of your dreams.

Join the TIFM family as we share with you the many faces of love and offer

some humble tips on how to take care of you! Invite your friends and know that

you are always loved in this space.

Infinitely Yours,

Welcome to The Infinite Field!


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Each day I set the intention to follow the Guru within. This intuitive God-

voice is my teacher and my guide.

As you look in the mirror, whisper these words from Spirit in your ear....

I love myself.

I value myself.

I enjoy being with myself.

I appreciate the wise guru that speaks from within.

Sacred Intention and Affirmation to assist in your journey as you

Follow the Guru Within

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by Shauna Arthurs

As the saying goes, you cannot give what you dont already have...So if February is the month to give love

perhaps its time to turn your loving thoughts to the person most deserving in your life (hint: look in the

mirror!).

Yes! YOU are the star of your life, and you are worthy of all the love you may be tempted to shower on

others this month.

The great news is love is expansive and will never run out. The more you turn inward and cultivate love, t

more it will grow and spill out - the more you will have to give others as well!

Lets make sure you are full to the brim with love this month by discussing ways in which you can lavish

enough TLC on yourself that you have plenty to share. Here are some ideas to get you started:

Health

When we dont have our health, we arent much good to anyone. Even if you havent been dealing with an

major health issues of late, there is always room for improvement in your daily regimen. Spend some time

thinking about your wonderful body, which moves you through this world and helps you accomplish your

goals. Combined with your senses and your incredible mind, your body is a remarkable tool, and you hav

only one. Sure, we all know this, but often we act as if our behaviors do not have future consequences.

See if you cannot come up with some loving things to gift your fine self this month: eat more whole, naturfoods; make that doctors or dentists appointment youve been avoiding; perform breast self-exams if you

are female; look in the mirror and appreciate the wonder of who you are. LOVE YOURSELF.

Fitness

Part of overall health includes physical fitness, and often we value it intellectually but dont take the steps

actually achieve it. Remember that fitness is a lifestyle, not a goal. If, for instance, you recently set a New

Years resolution to get fit like millions of other people - you may already find yourself falling off the

wagon and feeling disappointed in yourself. This could be because you put enormous pressure on yourselfbe absolutely fit in a certain amount of time, and possibly, youve focused on exterior results (yay for tigh

abs!) rather than the important physical benefits of fitness (yippee for a strong core that helps you in your

everyday tasks and for strengthening your bones to stave off osteoporosis!).

This month, re-set your priorities, and ensure that fitness is an integral part of your lifestyle. Even if it mea

just walking a few times a week, take the time. No one can do this for you, and according to Seattle-based

research think-tank Sightline Institute, people who walk keep off weight and exercise more, helping to

prevent chronic ailments such as diabetes and heart disease.

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Balance

Lots of us pay lip service to the concept of life balance, but in truth, its usually quite elusive. The perfect

balance between family and work, for instance, or between public and private time, or indulging and

sacrificing, does not necessarily exist, at least for most of us.

One way to put an end to all the pressure for balance and actually achieve a little peace of mind is to realiz

that, as Oprah once said, "You CAN have it all. You just cant have it all at once." This is brilliant advice,

releases us from the need to be perfect at everything NOW. Instead, we can acknowledge that there may b

other times when certain issues are better addressed, and we can let them slink to the back burner without

feeling guilty. Whether youd like to be dedicating more time to your kids, your new business or yourself,

remember that YOU are in charge; consider life balance with a longer timeline in mind. There will be year

when the kids are gone, filled with plenty of time to write that novel or renovate the upstairs bathroom.

Future Plans

Depending on the nature of your habitual focus, you m

benefit from either widening or narrowing the lens. If

are someone who keeps your nose to the grindstone,

always bent on some elusive future goal, it may be tim

look up, catch your breath and just gaze around to see

what you might be missing. Living fully in each mome

as it comes provides a rich, multi-layered existence tha

just isnt possible when you are stuck in scurry mode.

same goes if you live in constant regret of the past. Taksome time this month to improve your relationship wit

life, and with yourself, by turning your attention to the

moment at hand as often as you can remember to do so

Life passes in little moments, each of them precious an

deep.

On the other hand, if you are consumed with your current situation and feel like it will never change, it ma

be time for you to make some big, bold plans for the future. Breaking out of the doldrums requires you to

ignite and fan the flames of your passions. As authors James Collins and Jerry Porras reveal in their populbookBuilt to Last: Successful Habits of Visionary Companies, it is important to set what they call big, hair

audacious goals. You can incorporate this fabulous philosophy into your personal life by imagining and th

living into big, passionate dreams that keep you motivated and excited to be alive.

Love, life, passion, excitement - its all the same at the core.


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Forgiveness

Bishop Desmond Tutu wisely said that forgiveness is the best form of self-interest. When you carry

resentment or bitterness in your heart, it hurts you both mentally and physiologically. Whether you need t

forgive another person or yourself, theres no time like the present. Tell yourself that your precious mome

are worth far too much to allow negative, toxic emotions to rule them, and drop the resentment and regret

once and for all.

Often, we have difficulty letting go and forgiving because the resentment feels familiar its comfortable

and moreover, were right, darn it! However, someone wise once asked, "Would you rather be right or wo

you rather be happy?" CHOOSE HAPPINESS.Focusing on yourself is anything but selfish, or perhaps we could say its selfish in a good way. Without

your light, those in your inner circle would surely find their way dimmer. Perhaps the best gift you can gi

them is a happy, loving you, and true, deep love always comes from within.

Shauna Arthurs specializes in sharing effective tools and resources toinspire and help you to create the unique, magnificent life you weremeant to live. Get started at BreathingProsperity.com andIncreasingVelocity.com, and for an instant boost of abundance, enjoy her

popular e-book 30 Days to Wealth.


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Laws of Life for Kids

A Walk in the Park (The Law of Polarity)

On this particular day, Snuggles the Puppy was out for a walk with his fathe

His father led the way to a park where they had never before been. A winter storm

passed through town a few days earlier and the last dried leaves that still clung to the

few trees in the park had now fallen. As Snuggles looked around, he noticed this wa

not a place he would consider to be beautiful. Not only were the trees bare, but thegrass was brown, stiff, and dry. Trash, left by humans, lay all over the ground. On

side, he saw a large, concrete bridge almost completely covered in spray paint.

Snuggles wondered why his father kept going, why he kept following the path wh

lead through this ugliness instead of turning around and going back to a place they k

was more pleasant. But, Snuggles trusted his father and knew there was always a go

reason for what his dad did, so he chose not to ask any questions. Rather, he decided

continue looking around and following his fathers lead.After some time, the puppy and his father came across a bridge. Snuggles noticed

that the bridge also appeared old, run down, and rusty. As they came to the middle o

the bridge, Snuggles looked down. There beneath them was a very narrow, slow

moving stream. The water was cloudy with dirt. This stream was small enough that

Snuggles might have missed it had he not been paying attention. When they got to t

other side of the bridge, the path turned and they continued following it with a steady

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A few more minutes down the path and Snuggles noticed they were entering into

small forest. There were many more trees now, some had leaves, and a few patches

grass were actually green. Squirrels were running and birds were chirping. Sudden

Snuggles realized what his father was showing him. Where there was trash, there w

also water. Water provided life to the plants and animals he now saw. Without the

water, there would be no life at all in the park. In the middle of the ugliness, there w

LIFE!

Now, had Snuggles tried to talk his father into leaving because he did not like the

first part of the path through this park, he would have missed the beauty of the fores

that lay just beyond the ugliness. Had he refused to follow his father, he would hav

missed this lesson- that in every situation there is both good and bad. Snuggles

understood this was true in his own life. Whenever something happened in his life

that he thought was bad or ugly, he could remember there was also good in it.

Whenever he felt angry or sad, there was also happiness somewhere in him at the sa

time. He could look for the happiness, pay attention to it, and then feel better!

Snuggles felt so thankful to his father for this walk in the park and what he had

learned, that he tackled his dad and began licking his face. His father loved all the

kisses he was given and began to feel happy, too. Together, they ran down the path

into the beautiful forest, playing with each other until it was dark. On the trip home

Snuggles had a new feeling of gratitude for the ugly part of the park; he now knew

where it lead and it was beautiful!

Written by Min Jennifer Hopper

Min. Jennifer Hopper's mission is to promotelove, peace, freedom, and understanding on the

planet. Currently, she provides parents, teachers,

and children tools and information that supportsthem in understanding themselves and oneanother.



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GoodFrida

yIn fourth grade at St. Marys School, saddle shoes were a girls best

friend. Wed nestle them square between the legs of any boy who told

us we were anything less than powerful, wise sages. We were smart

girls with smart mouths and friendships sticky as gum. The class

intellectuals were girls too, so collectively we had brains to match our

brawn. Our battles took place on the playground and in the coatroom,

which we transformed into a WWF ring, live with hair pulling, hollow

kicks to meet the bone marrow of a shin, and body slams that released

lots of sexual tension.

Though we waged gender wars, boys and girls alike looked forward to seeing each other, to

joining hands in Mass where wed pinch each others ears or stuff down our laughter at Ms.

Stafaronis pancake butt or Ms. Douglas deep-throated alto churning out Jacobs Ladder. We

especially looked forward to Fridays, when wed huddle into the Computer/Band/Community

room for serious moral talks and bite-sized liturgies. Our meanest teacher, Ms. Douglas, a short

African-American woman in her sixties with double bifocals, would let her hair down and

delight us with secular comparisons between the Holy Bible and soap operas, a rare smile on her

face. I watched soap operas every day after school and never imagined shed debase herself

watching women and men slobber all over each other like they do. And even though she was our

Religion/Science teacher, none of us imagined her religious, or scientific, for that matter. She

was pious enough and nun-like plain, oatmeal colored khakis and Dr. Huxtable sweaters, her

uniform. But she ruled, rather than taught, and her Commandment was that children were to be

seen, not heard, and it was within her right to set straight any child in breach of that Law. When

the entire middle school lined the four-story stairwell for morning Mass, Ms. Douglas was the

only teacher who could quiet the hallway from the first floor to the rafters. Whispers of her

movement traveled like wind and our silence spread like dominoes, her footsteps the push.

This day, we found ourselves crammed into the sacred Friday space with Ms. Douglas andFather Joe --a deep voiced man with fluffy Tom Cruise hair and Michael Keaton all-American

goodness who would leave the priesthood to marry a curvaceous parishioner. He told us the story

of Adam and Eve. In the beginning, he said, all was right with the world. In the end, all was

wrong. In his version, Eve ate the apple and destroyed all that was perfect, including Gods

Love. In our 11-year-old-girl version, we were at fault, and we writhed like snakes at the

uncomfortable accusation we took as truth.

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Candice and Edwina, the class intellectuals, whod normally raise their hands with the most diabolical of

questions, sat quiet. This simple story stumped all of us girls, but left the boys giddy and superior.

By high school, Id forgotten Eve and the need for saddle shoes. By college, Id flipped a middle finger to

religion, and embraced the-revolution- will-not- be-televised- dogma of Black Nationalism. Soon put off by

its machismo and lack of originality, I discovered Womanism, where Eve & God showed up again in an

Alice Walker book called "Living by the Word".Picking up where Father Joe left off, Walker points to Gods subsequent curse of women in childbirth. If

before Id questioned the Bible, that day Id become wholly disenchanted. Around the same time, my

boyfriend proposed to me.

Like little puppets marching onto a cardboard playhouse, my mother, my father, and my best friend, piled

into the living room of our apartment, one floor above my mothers day care center. When my boyfriends

mother scuttled in, a few minutes later, I knew something was up, because she visited rarely. Video camera

in hand, bawling like a baby, my boyfriend got down on one knee, and popped the question. I was in the

middle of finishing a play about Lulu, a woman dying while the world held watched. Completing the projectwould give me the final credits I needed for graduation. Unable to speak or look him in the eyes, I nodded

yes as he slipped the $5,000-tax-return-could-have-been-spent- on-rent-money-or- daycare-money-for-our-

one-year-old-child-ring on my finger. I excused myself and signaled for my friend to follow me into my

bedroom.

I held out my hand toward the mirror, not like the marriage-crazed women in the movies who race to altars

as if starved, but as a ghost, a woman fading into the background of an unwanted life.

Why didnt you tell me? I say. I I, she stutters.

It feels so heavy, I say. These are the only words I can find for the next ten minutes, before I make my

debut as the blushing bride to be.

The ring, itself, bore the weight of devastation. It was the same weight I felt when I lost faith in God and

myself, as a girl, in the second floor multipurpose room under the gaze of a teacher, a priest, and an amazing

group of girls and boys, who were taught that one knew better than the other, that one was more cherished

by God than the other; where I accepted the lie of womans place.

Two months after the engagement, India Aries Beautiful playing in the living room ofournew apartment

with the 9ft ceilings and exposed brick paneling, I asked my fiancto leave. I could give you reasons, words

he used to keep me, words I took for truth. Years afterwards, my daughters limbs lengthening, her choppy

words forming new sentences, Id recite the reasons like Hail Marys to stave off the guilt that came with

being the One to break up my family, to destroy it. But the deeper truth is that I could no longer accept the

lie --the lie that convinces women that they should endure, rather than live; the lie that says women must

prove themselves deserving of love, over the truth of being unconditionally loved; the lie keeps women

shiny as silver on the exterior, while the interior unvarnished, dulls; and, the ultimate lie, that our knowingis

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Twenty years ago, on a Friday afternoon, my Catholic school sisters and I sauntered through the doors of the

multipurpose room expecting communion; instead, we received a polite stoning. Just as we were coming to

know ourselves, to collectively connect with our feminine strength, to tap into the Feminine Divine, our

sense of place in Gods Heart was dismantled, and we, made refugees of Spirit. For when the Heart is

denied, so too is Spirit. And a Heart denied is a Heart divided.

At St. Marys we lit candles at the feet of Mary, sung Ava Maria, and devoted rosary length prayers toJesus mother, but as we were the children of Eve, while they the priests, the sons, the boys who teased and

tortured us, the fathers who hit our mothers, the uncles who bloodied the lips of stepchildren--were the sons

of God, thus, we were indebted. We said Our Father who art in heaven, and crossed out the Feminine

Divine with an incomplete Trinity. So, we looked for Salvation in the service of others and forgot ourselves

or served the god of conditions until we grew in Love and found what we knew all along, that God is of

the Mother and the Father.

I come back to Eve again and again and find I want different for myself, for my daughter, and for the

generations of girls and women who have come, gone, and will come again. I find myself ever theconductor who musthear the whole of her symphony, knowing that harmony is a necessary chord, that

naming is Creation, itself.

Malene Kai Bell is a writer, poet, mother, and activist. A graduate of Morgan

State University (B.A. in English) and The Johns Hopkins University (M.A.

in Writing), her work has appeared in Mosaic Literary Magazine, The

Baltimore Review, Radar, 13th Moon, and Urbanite Magazine. For nearly a

decade, she has taught students and teachers in the Baltimore CityPublic School System & the Washington D.C. Public School System.

Malene Kai is the creator ofAmerican Heroine Sessions, creative

writing workshops for women with an emphasis on personal story. She

is currently working on a memoir, Medusa Underwater. Malene is also

an editor for The Infinite Field Magazine.

In the name of The Mother, The Father,The Son, The Daughter encompassed in

the Holy Spirit, Ashe.



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Love and Relationships:An Interview with

Kimberla Lawson RobyBy Amina S. McIntyre


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From Pastor Curtis Black to Jillian Maxwell, New York Times Bestselling author Kimberla Lawson Roby has

written memorable characters over a course of 14 books who deal with issues of their own relationships,

sometimes with a not-so-happily-ever-after endings. Kimberla, a Chicago native who started writing late in

life after never being satisfied on a job, writes books that explore issues of infidelity, insecurities, mistrust,

miscommunication, and the complexities of being a Christian despite human reactions to each situation. An

inspiration to book clubs and individuals all over, Kimberla will be one of the featured writers at the upcoming

Faith and Fiction Retreat held in Atlanta, Ga in June.

Between writing, book signings, and meeting with her many fans, TIFM caught up with Kimberla to talk abou

love, relationships, and her latest book,Be Careful What You Pray For(Morrow).

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ASM: Why did you choose to start really writing about love?

KLR: You know, I think because relationships, no matter who you are, it

always has some sort of affect on your life, whether it be in a positive way o

negative way. Thats why I started out with the first book, I thought Well

these are the kinds of stories I would like to read. And I would say it is more

love than I would say romance because sometimes my characters dont alwa

end up living happily ever after. But you get to see what happens when thing

are wrong and people make the wrong choices in their relationships whether

be a married couple or even just are a couple who's been dating for a certain

period of time. But, Ive always had an interest in that, and Ive been blessed

be able to see both sides of that. I was married, the very first husband I had,

and it was horrible. You know, there was no communication, you know, the

person just didnt see marriage as the type of, you know, sacred entity that it

was supposed to be. Then Ive been married now to a man, itll be now 20

years this year, and this is the way its supposed to be. And I think thats why I like to write about it. I know t

bad, and I also know the really, really, really good side of it.

ASM: You say, this is how its supposed to be. Can you expound on that a little bit for me?

KLR: For me, I think why my marriage works with my husband is that we communicate. No matter if its goo

news or bad news, weve always pretty much done that. You know, we have respect for each other. Hes alway

first before anyone else. I always tell people, its God, and then its my husband. And for him, its God, and th

its me. And so I remember early on in the marriage he would always say, Well be fine; we will never let

anyone else enter into our circle. That includes family members, friends and any other outside people, and

weve just never ever, you know, given up on that particular mentality. And it has really, really worked for us.

mean, we are each others best friend! And I think that makes as much of a difference because you can have th

person who you consider to be, Wow, this is my lover, I am in love with this person, but you also have that

person as your best friend that you confide everything to. You know, that makes a difference as well.


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ASM: Tell me a little bit about whats it like writing between the lines of romance and love and

spirituality, because theres such a push for if youre going to kind of do something that talks about

relationships to really go off push into the romance end. You kind of maintain a fine line.KLR: You know, there is a very thin line when you think of whenyoure writing from an inspirational, you know, Christianperspective. [I]n many cases, youre writing about a relationship, and

lets just say, for example, infidelity happens where, you know, thats

really crossing the line when youre talking about anything Christian-

related. But for me, I dont have a hard time writing about the threethings at once - love, romance, and Christianity - and even theproblems that come with love and romance because even as

Christians we all fall short. You know, were not perfect people, thesame as non-Christians are not perfect people. And so, I think we

even learn and we grow from the mistakes that we make. You know,

mistakes and problems, they make you pray more, and they make

you become a much better person than you were before the issuestarted happening in the first place.ASM: So tell me aboutBe Careful What you Pray For.KLR: Well,Be Careful What You Pray For is the 14th book that Ive written but the seventh book in my Rev.

Curtis Black series. So it touches the Rev. Curtis Blacks daughter, his eldest child, and this is the second book

actually based on her life. [Alicia] starts out in The Best of Everything marrying for the first time, she just

graduated from high school, and she has such high hopes of being in love and living happily ever after. Butwhile she has a great husband, the kind of man that most women hope and dream about, he doesnt have enough

money; he cant give her the lifestyle that shes become accustomed to from the time that she was a child, all thway through her college years. Shes used to living very well. [Alicias] used to her father paying her credit card

bills, and shes used to being able to shop at Neimans and any other top department store. And so she and herhusband immediately start to have problems because of it. She has a serious shopping problem: she spends waybeyond her means, she puts them in all kinds of financial trouble, and so the marriage cant survive. It isbasically ruined because of it.

Now in this book, what Alicia believes she didnt learn anything in the last book, she learned absolutely

nothing - Wow, if I can find a man with more money, Id be happy, things would be good. And so she finds

this, which is why the book is entitled,Be Careful What you Pray For because while shes prayed for this very

wealthy husband, she gets that. This is a man, J T Valentine, who is the pastor of a congregation that has 5,000members, he earns well into the 6 figures - the high six figures, in terms of his salary - and he does want her tohave the very best of everything. He gives her everything that she wants. The downside, and what she doesntknow right away, is that hes consumed of money and power and lots of women, and hes worse than her father

ever was in his terrible days. And so thats how all of her problems with JT begin.


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ASM: Do you feel like a lot of the things she ends up wanting for is based off her relationship with her

father and what she wants from him? Just basically her own perception of what men are?KLR: Yes, I do. You know, she starts out, even in The Best of Everything before she marries the first time thinki...]she never wanted to marry a minister, and that was based on what she had seen with her dad. The way he had

reated her mother and the way he had treated her step mothers, you know, it was always in such a horrible mann

and so when she meets Phillip, the first husband, you know, she likes him and then she falls in love with him. Anhe is a good guy. This time around - not even really realizing that shes marrying someone whos just like her fath

n the way he used to be and is not thinking that what happened between her mom and her stepmom - shes not

hinking shes going to be in that same position. Shes thinking, I have finally found the perfect man and life is

going to be great, you know, and she gets that rude awakening. But thats not how she goes into the marriage, sdoesnt believe that first off.

ASM: And its really funny how a lot of times relationships in our own lives are based off of the patterns of

our past. Whatever our parents do, sometimes we try to react against it, but we fall into some of the sametraps not knowing it. Either good or bad, sometimes its really good consequences, and sometimes theyrenot so good.

KLR: Exactly.ASM: So what kinds of things have you had your characters do t

spice up their own romances?KLR: Wow, lets see. And I really gotta think now because I have to through all the books....I think this is one of my favorite scenes that I

have written. In The Best of Everything, with Alicia -- and I think itsinteresting because sometimes women can be more romantic than me

In The Best of Everything, Phillip is really trying. He knows that heand Alicia are having trouble, theyre having lots of arguments, havinall these disagreements about her shopping and about her spending

habits, and she feels like she should always be able to do what she

wants to do, he shouldnt tell her what she should or shouldnt do. Aso all of this is going on, and so shes gone out with someone from th

church one evening, and out of the blue -- its no special day, its a week day -- she comes back, and what Phillip

has been doing this entire time is planning. Hes gone and bought her this wonderful night gown, this beautifulnight gown, and hes laid it across the bed and got the candles going around in the bedroom, all over their bedroo

hes got rose petals across the bed and across the floor. You know, its just a beautiful scene. And, I guess, in his

mind hes thinking he needs to do something special for her thats going to help. It wont hurt anything, it can onhelp our situation and our marriage.

So I think spicing it up, that means doing something different. Thats what married couples have to do becauseonce youve been together for a certain period of time, it can become norm. You know, the norm is like, this is aneveryday thing, you dont have to do anything different, but you really do - if you want to keep your marriage, yo

know, healthy and alive. You dont want it to become stagnant or this monotonous situation. But you have to dosomething differently, you have to really think about what would really make them happy.

ASM: What Im hearing you say is that a lot of really making successful relationships is really considering

the other person in the relationship?


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KLR: And thats always what it is and just like I was saying early on. Just like with my husband and me thats thehing: always paying attention to what you say and do and how thats going to affect the person that youre marrie

o. For me, I dont make any decisions without my husband being in the back of my mind, you know, because Iknow that anything that happens, and any decisions that I make, it affects him completely, and he feels the same

way. But I really do believe that it has made all the difference, and it makes the difference for a lot of couples, not

eing so much worried about yourself, but caring about that other person.

* * *Kimberla also shared one of her most romantic experiences.

For her husbands 50th birthday, instead of a birthdayarty, he asked for a shopping spree. As they went shopping to various stores, one of the gifts he purchased wasn

or himself, but for her! It is a watch, she says, that was expensive enough that she wouldnt have bought it on hewn. Because of the thoughtful way she received it, Kimberla no longer wears any other watches.

Kimberla is currently working on another Curtis Black book,Love, Honor, and Betray. For more information on h

ooks, or to sign up for her reader mailing list, visit her website at www.kimroby.com.

Amina McIntyre is a writer at the beginning of her writing career. She has had productions o

her short plays,Point of View andIn Those Jeans; a staged reading of her one-act Two Card

Table and a Clothes Rack; a cold reading of her playDoin The Workat the Indiana Theater

Association ITWorks 2008, as well as poems in various publications. Her full-length play,

Most Eligible Bachelor, was produced at Wabash College in April 2009. A native of Atlanta,

GA, McIntyre received a BA in Anthropology at Colby College, a MA in African American

and African Diaspora Studies from Indiana University, Bloomington and a MFA in Creative

Writing from Spalding University. She is a member of The Dramatists Guild, Inc and a Cop

Editor for The Infinite Field Magazine.


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Ge

mma

Abston

Souls divide and come back together again.

Hearts collide and fall away forever.

Things I hide are more from myself than from the world.

Lost to imagining the world I want rather than the one I live in.

I floated away one day to some far away universe without the chaos of middle aged life cri

Found peace beyond imagining, something you would never believe to even try and concei

But when I returned to my present realm of this truth and life I found I could not return to t

peaceful place, that I had to make my peace with this world and learn to be okay with the

damned and the accused and innocence and the pure and the zealots alike.

I find that its truly much harder for me to find peace in this place.

Im surrounded by those who are engulfed in the trumping up of society.

I need inner light to flow forth endlessly until this universe dies away to create another mor

unique elemental universe.

I cant imagine being without my other half.

Though, Ive lived this way without him for so long now.

I feel temporarily split in two.

Though this is how Ive felt all my life.

As if Im missing something crucial to my existence.

I feel as if Ive found what I need to be better than okay, but theres a lot of wor

to be done before it can be kept or condemned or even conceived.

My heart aches so badly from this feeling of division.

Nothing seems worth having or knowing in this place Ive falling to.

All things are somehow diminished greatly by these thoughts alone.

Desire for the natural and holy union of soul, body, and mind with that of The One

God how I need peace!

All this lonely in forever and Im lost to this battle of chance.

What will come from this time Ive so chosen?

Will anything be the way I feel it should be?

Or am I lost to the demands of Fate or Destiny???

And if so, what is this road you so desire for me to be on?

Why must I stare blankly at the stars unable to even make a simple wish because I know ho

am to be answered?

Why must the answers come so violently?

Is it to be or not???

I havent the vaguest idea anymore.

I guess Ill float on as Ive always done.

Deliverance is dashed away forever in my crazed lonely aftermath.

I no longer feel that I should acknowledge my own feelings.

Live alone, be alone, die alone

2 AM



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love is what you

make of itDr. Liara M. Covert

Love emerges from within to speak without words.

Love is awareness that flows through you. It is a soul-

level teacher that encourages you to recognize why you

believe in separation, oneness, and stages in between.

Each stage holds memory and a sense of identity, how

you view yourself, your experiences, sexuality and far

more.

The momentum of connection you feel from inside is

different from what is projected outside. Your task is to

remember the love that is truly you. As you permit

society or anything else to dictate what love is, then

you accept external judgment, and turn away from

what you know is embedded inside deep

consciousness. You selectively detach from inner

knowing about the core DNA coding inside the self.

Practical experience offers insight into love. This

invites you to question your basic assumptions about

communication, attitude, sensations, and core truth.

you sense love is lost, you miss not what you think y

lose, but that it represents. The language of love

expands in energy vibrations and timeless

consciousness.

In another way, love is viewed as a paradigm,

projecting ideas into your world from a movie reel.

What you experience is indirect from the view of the

mind and direct through the centre of the heart. You

hope to find ways to express. When you wish to

expand a sense of love, it is necessary to heal yourperceived past. Little do you know, every moment y

are a radio station, broadcasting a love frequency. Y

draw situations to you that mirror the degree you

accept or reject your inner self. When you love

everything unconditionally, you know it. You bring

about a merging through love. The key is to love an

value self and everything.



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As you wonder about

people who do not

seem to understand

love and compassion,

remember everyone

experiences life based

on their choices. What

if these people exist to

help you move beyondyour limited

understanding? What if they exist to help you to

xpand into other forms of consciousness? Your sense

f love is growing. Love is the answer, and the

riginal question?

At a basic level, love is a frequency, an energy

vibration that exists for a purpose that gives you what

you require. One perspective is the legacy of love you

reate is a combination of what you do and how youive your life. You are invited to reflect on how

houghts and feelings shape the legacy you are

eaving. Allocate moments to rethink a legacy.

Consider how perceptions of love influence how your

ife evolves in its aliveness.

) Make an honest assessment of gifts you have been

given.

) Create a vision to channel energy and share your

gifts.

) Decide to be self-directed and proactive in your

wn way.

) Choose to clarify your dreams and seek guidance.

) Make it happen with trust, faith, love and

acceptance.

Large numbers of people have selective amnesia aboutove. Awakening and remembering is part of a

rocess. Peruse 10 steps to help you recall how love

s open-ended based on your intent and open

nvestment of energy.

) How does love guide your mission & how you treat

thers?

2) When you reflect, whom or what have you loved?

3) Who do you love deeply? How does hate teach yo

love?

4) Where and when have you felt true love?

5) What awakens love energy within you?

6) How does your body change through knowing

love?

7) Why does love honor your physical journey?

8) What does it take to hold a vision of loving intent?

9) Who do you know who needs awaken to love

gently?

10) How does love permit you to stop fearing the

unknown?

Ultimately, love is what you make of it. You draw

from experience, emotions, and perceptions. Allow

yourself to go within. Sense the energy current

swirling and flowing without judgment. The flow of

energy communicates with you through vibration.

Love invites you to open to a deeper sense of peace

and well-being. The beauty and serenity of who you

are flows through you. As you choose to be more

familiar with who you are and how life truly is, you

let go of everything that is not love and remember its

limitless healing and renewing power.

Books: Self Disclosure: Changes from Within(Strategic Book Publishing, March 2009) Excerptavailable on Amazon.com E books: Harness theEnergy of Your Dreams (expected completion

before end of August 2009)TOC can be provided(includes astral, lucid dreaming, dream walking,exercises) http://blog.dreambuilders.com.au/bio/Ph.D. in areas of psychoanalysis and internationalrelations.


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AFFIRMATIVE

PRAYER IIII have been receiving some great feedback from those of you who are practicing affirmative prayer in their livetakes very little time out of your life to do this and the rewards are greater than I can put in this article. Trust m

works.

The next affirmative prayer starts the same way as the last two and this one has only three words and it is

God, thank you.

You can say just these three words or you can fill in the blanks for what you are thanking God for. Just thanking

God in general is enough but many times when you are practicing this prayer so many things come to mind tha

you automatically start a list of all you are thankful for. I am thankful for many things throughout any given day

may be for beautiful weather or the flowers that I planted that are now blooming and thriving. I am thankful for

crepe myrtle tree I planted that has new growth on it. I am thankful to be living in this wonderful house. I am

thankful for the birds that have made my yard their home. I am thankful for my friends and supporters. I am

thankful for you, dear readers.

I am thankful for each and every comment you send.

Every time I feel happiness for something I say these three words,

God, thank you.

This prayer puts you in an automatic state of gratitude. Feeling gratitude is a powerful way to look at your life a

all your experiences that unfold. I am connected to the universal source of all things immediately.


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ev. Lady Diannia Baty teaches spiritual and life development classes weekly and holdingorkshops and giving seminars throughout in NC. She wears many hats including artist, writer,blic speaker, life coach and intuitive reader. Rev. Baty is a fourth generation psychic and

ears it proudly. She is featured in an anthology book called Remarkable Women of Faith withher powerful women such as JenniferONeal and Ann Jillian. She is the author of Spiritetters a book of uncommon written dialogue between her and the creator. A lifetime memberInternational Speakers Network and the spiritual leader of the P3 Group, a womens

ternational empowerment organization, she has been interviewed many times on Spiritualuidelines, a Charlotte public broadcast station 21 and was the co-host for The P3 Boost Blogalk radio program. For more information, you may visit the following websites:ww.makeachoicenow.comdydiannia@makeachoicenow.comww.myspiritletters.com

One morning, about two weeks ago, as I was looking out the picture window in my family room, I was struck wi

such gratitude just because I was alive and able to use this mind and free-will to create. I was grateful for no

reason at all except that I am alive. That is reason enough. One thing that stuck in my mind is no matter how hard

life may be for some they cling to it with the ferocity of an alligator. I have heard stories of people who were goin

to commit suicide but after they took the pills or whatever they looked for help right away. Some people who hav

umped off bridges and survived were so happy that they did because they realized just how precious life is and

were grateful to have another chance at it. I hear stories of people who have survived against incredible odds.

Such is the will to live, strong and overwhelming. Brighter days are always ahead if you just hang in there. If youare going to live do it with gusto and enjoy every moment and be grateful for it. Remember the three word

affirmative prayer,

God, thank you.

Be thankful for no reason at all other than you can say these three words and mean it.

Sincerity is important. Say it from the heart and trust that you have been heard every time you utter it. This is the

case with all the affirmative prayers. They are said as a statement of fact. Below is a comment sent to me by one my class members, Laurette Tupper, who has given her permission to share it.

These affirmations are wonderful. I have noticed a difference in myself just since that powerful class we had las

week. I really enjoyed it. By far, it affected me the most out of all the classes I have attended. Since then I have

been feeling more peaceful and calm. I am also having more increased experiences with precognition moments

before the event. My dreams have been very busy and I wake up feeling like I've done more in my sleep than I

ever do awake. I feel that a lot is going on here and I am being prepared for something. Thank you for all your

insights, as I relate to them and look forward to finding out more and taking my spiritual life in a huge move

forward. It's time for me...NOW.

Gratitude has its own reward because it takes you immediately to a place where you feel good and hopeful. It fee

upon itself and becomes stronger in time.

There is no room for negativity where gratitude resides. It is a sad commentary for our world where we seem to

concentrate on what we don't have, rather than being grateful for what we do have. Telling God that you are

thankful for anything at all is powerful beyond words. Gratitude is a spiritual muscle. The more you use it, the

stronger the mental muscle of gratitude gets. Pretty soon, you will be telling God through this short but intense

affirmative prayer that life itself is something to be grateful for.
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Love The Foundation fo

All Prosperity


The foundation for all prosperity is simply this: a

prosperity consciousness.

You've heard that before, I know. And you're

probably already working on expanding your

prosperity consciousness, but let me share a story

with you that illustrates how you might deepen and

widen prosperity in your consciousness, and thus

create a richer life.

My basement had water in it from rains that fell for

three days. As a metaphysician, the first thing I

thought of was what this might represent for me in

consciousness.

Sometimes, us metaphysicians get too deep, and a

situation is what it is without a deep and profound

meaning. In this case, it was water in the basement

that had to be dealt with.

There were lots of thoughts swirling around in my

head: 'What' if mold starts to grow?' 'That would be

terribly expensive to address.'

There was the thought of, 'How do I get this

dampness out of the basement ASAP! I just want this

whole thing to go away!'

After I realized that I was in resistance about the

whole issue and that my resistance had triggered

several lack and limitation beliefs (that were crying

out to be noticed and released), I remembered a

simple truth: ALL IS WELL.

ALL IS WELL.

So I chose to shift my thoughts. All shift happens by

choice. We choose to do something differently. In

this case, I chose to remember ALL IS WELL.

What does ALL IS WELL mean? It means we're

always and eternally resting in the palms of theDivine, and no harm can come nigh those who know

this simple truth. Anything that gets to any one of us

must pass across God's desk first.

It means we have nothing to fear.

It means all resources are provided instantaneously

for any demand that arises. Instantaneously.

It means the "everlasting arms" spoken of in the

Bible book of Deuteronomy are holding you up righ

now.

It means that you never again have to worry, wonder

or fret about money. Wondering, worrying and

fretting about money are choices. You can simply

choose to be still and know.

Back to my story. I worked my ALL IS WELL

remembrance on the inside. It felt good. Right away,

I could feel my energy shift.



The next thing I moved to was loving the water in the

basement. I love water, so why not love the water in

he basement? What's not to love about water in the

basement?

As I was applying my I LOVE YOU mantra to myself

for the water in the basement, an enlightened thought

dropped into my spirit about how to get the water out

of the basement. I heard clearly that I simply neededo channel the water that was being pumped out of the

basement farther away from the house.

ran to the garage. What could I use to get the water

farther away from the house so that the basement

could empty of water?

The glass that goes in my front

storm door was resting gently

against the wall, as if waitingfor me to come scoop it up. I

still have the screen in my

front storm door, so this was

perfect. We got the large sheet

of glass out back and laid it

under the water flow from the sump pump. The water

began to flow away from the house.

Within hours, the basement had emptied of water.

Whew! I felt good.

Then the question came up of how to completely dry

out the basement.

The Voice said to call the insurance company. I

retrieved my homeowner's policy, but it clearly stated

hat it does not cover flooding. Darn.

The Voice said to call the insurance company.

called. The insurance company took the claim and

sent an adjuster to my house. After looking at the

basement and snapping a few pictures on her digital

camera, the adjuster wrote me a check on the spot for

several thousand dollars to have the basement dried

out, the wet insulation removed and new insulation

nstalled.

The whole process was smooth and easy, like butter.

What does this story have to do with an expanded

prosperity consciousness?

1. ALL IS WELL. You are taken care of. You are

provided for. We are sustained by an Infinite

Intelligence that, thankfully, knows way more than w

do in any given moment.

2. I LOVE YOU is the universal acceptance factor th

removes resistance to conditions and allows us to lea

the lessons inherent in them. For me, in this situation

I was learning trust, faith, and I learned a whole lot

more about my homeowner's insurance policy (I ask

lots of questions in the process). So I'm smarter,

stronger and better for the experience, not to mention

financially richer.

3. The Voice will tell you what to do. Never worry.

Never fret. You know what to do. You have The Voic

Everyone does. The Voice is never wrong and tells y

just what you need to know the instant you need to

know it. Just trust. Listen. And act. (Centering mysel

in love opened me to hear The Voice instantly and

clearly.)

The foundation for all prosperity is a prosperity

consciousness, and we develop it by knowing ALL I

WELL, applying unconditional love to all condition

and listening closely to The Voice.

May you prosper in all you do!

Min. Valerie LoveValerie Love is an Abundant LivingEnthusiast who teaches the simpletruth that we can truly have it all, byusing a proven 5-step simple systemin each of the 7 major areas of life:Faith, Fulfillment, Family, Friends,Fitness, Finances & Fun. Valerie is anAuthor, Inspirational Speaker and thecreative voice of the online blog:www.LiveYourDestinyToday.com


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SACRED GIFTS [email protected]



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In the spring of 1993 an old friend, Boots Cassie,asked my husband, an equine veterinarian, for an

opinion on a foal that had been born with scoliosis,

curvature of the spine. The condition prevented her

from standing on her own or walking once helped up.

Bob examined the Quarter Horse filly and really

couldnt recommend euthanasia, although several other

veterinarians had. He didnt feel she was suffering

inhumanely. Boots was willing to try whatever Bob

suggested.

A horses attitude is a major factor when making

these types of decisions.Are they willing to try? Are

they allowing us to help them? Do they want our help?

Our answers were based on intuition and years of

experience. We had never seen a foal with this rare

condition, but she answered yes to all our questions.

The filly displayed incredible determination and a

remarkably strong will.

A team of experts gathered to contribute to the filly'shealing. The group included herperson, who was

willing to give her a chance despite no guarantees. (I

never use the term owner for no one owns another;

not person, animal, plant or land). Over several

months, her person performed nursing care, which was

a 24-hour job. My husband contributed his medical

expertise and became a guiding, positive force

throughout it all. A veterinary chiropractor performed

spinal adjustments, while another friend offeredTTouch, an innovative method of animal healing. I len

moral support until I uncovered a hidden talent. This

discovery became the fillys greatest lesson for me.

My expertise surfaced when the filly was almost tw

months old. Shed been slowly progressing from spina

adjustments, TTouch treatments, and physical exams

by my husband. The filly was eating well and growing

like any Quarter Horse foal. She still couldnt rise on

her own, but once helped up, she would drag herselfaround until she tired. Her increasing weight

necessitated a hoist system to help her stand. The

strength in her front legs was amazing, but her hind

legs couldnt do much beyond hold her up. Her barn

name was Wild Woman due to the antics shed perform

trying to play in a less than perfect body.

At two months old, Wild Woman grew depressed and

uncooperative. Bob examined her and found her

physically healthy, except for her scoliosis. OurTTouch friend consulted with an animal communicato

who visited the filly the following weekend while

teaching a workshop in the area. The things the filly

told her such as "she had come to teach", "she was

starting to wonder whether all the suffering was worth

it", and "she didnt like people feeling sorry for her"

were truly remarkable. Her last comment shook me. I

was guilty of that, and I felt awful.

By Nancy A. Kaiser

BecauseOf Love


In the beginning of all things, wisdom and knowledge were with the animals; for Tirawa, the One Above, did

not speak directly to man. He sent certain animals to tell men that he showed himself through the beasts, and

that from them, and from the stars and the sun and the moon, man should learn. Tirawa spoke to man

through his works.



The next day, we met the communicator at her

workshop. She said that Wild Woman had decided to

ry awhile longer, but we had to be more positive

round her. After watching her workshop, I knew this

was what I was meant to do. It was as though a cosmic

x 4 hit me in my consciousness. Id communicate for

he filly. Id communicate for all animals; their

houghts, desires, needs, feelings, everything. This

would become my lifes work, but first, I needed toearn how. But, from who?

I contacted a clairvoyant counselor that Id met

months earlier and told her about the communicator

nd the filly. I drove into Manhattan weekly to work

with her. Remarkably, I began communicating with

Wild Woman fairly quickly. When something is

ligned with your souls purpose things get facilitated.

The barrier that had frustrated me all my life was gone.

inally, I could know exactly what the animals werehinking and feeling. I wouldnt have to base serious

ecisions on intuition and experience. Id just ask!

I could ask how the filly was feeling at anytime. I

dded the use of healing energy, "laying-on hands"

when I was with her and telepathically when I wasnt.

saw significant changes in her, which validated that I

was having a positive effect both physically and

motionally with her.

To those who are thinking, Oh no, another crazy,

d have thought the same a year before meeting this

oal. Please open your mind and keep reading. What

o you have to lose? Believe me, you have everything

o gain. If a scientific, analytical, retired pharmacist

ke myself can make the leap.

When I started working with Wild Woman, she

idnt know if it was worth trying anymore. I reminded

er that shed come to teach and asked if her lessons

were taught. No. I asked if she would keep trying if

we could get her outside. Shed try if she could go out

oon, she'd say. Shed never left her stall and none of

s knew if it was really possible. She taught us that

ossibilities are unlimited with a mind thats open.

By three months of age, Wild Woman could get up b

herself. This was huge, since it meant she could nurs

at will. Everyone was elated, especially her. Shed

gained a little of the independence that I knew was s

important to her.

Her person registered her with the name Because

Of Love. It was so appropriate; we were all involve

because of love. Without love, this filly would havebeen euthanized long ago. Id never called her Wild

Woman, because I knew her antics stemmed from he

frustration, not youthful play. Now, we simply called

her Love, which was perfect.

Loves right hind leg started bending under the weig

of a growing Quarter Horse foal. Bob tried a series o

splints, casts and braces to stabilize her leg. If she

damaged her hind leg, it would mean the end for her

explained what we were doing and asked for her helwhich she willingly gave. Being able to communica

what we were doing eased all our anxieties.

It is said that the eyes are the gateway to the soul.

When I looked into Loves big, soft, brown eyes, the

sense of understanding and appreciation, the sense o

her soul was incredible. She was always cooperative

unless we overstepped our bounds. Shed quickly, b

gently, put us back in our place. Always the teacher!

My clairvoyant teacher came to meet Love. She said

we had to build a gizmo like they used for dogs that

are paralyzed behind. We provided a million reasons

why it wouldnt work with a horse. She wouldnt

listen, thank goodness. She was right, but our minds

were closed until Love, and love, forced them open.

Our focus remained on her right hind leg, but nothi

was helping. One day while with the filly, we finally

accepted that shed never get out on her own. The

carts time had come. I dont think any of us wanted

admit that the cart might be the best we could give h

We wanted more for this wonderful horse that had

come to teach us, but it was time to get realistic. Our

job was to give her the best life experience possible

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My husband started to build a cart. He said that I had

promised her that wed get her out and he wanted to

keep my promise. Bob helped Love outside for the first

time at three-and-a-half months of age. I couldnt be

there, which was fitting. Bob was the one person whod

never given up. He deserved to share this special event

with Love. She was so excited when I spoke with her

about it.

The cart broke from her weight, but her person knew

someone who could build one in heavier metal. Bob

repaired his and went back the next day. He pressed

her, Love got angry, and then he got angry. She

expressed humiliation at the way shed been handled.

Bob confessed they had kind of forced and manhandled

her, i.e. disrespected her. The breadth of her emotions

continually amazed me.

Love wanted so desperately to be independent. It

broke my heart to know she never would be, but I

wouldnt let her sense that from me. The next day she

was very depressed about not going out. The new cart

was delayed, so we tried again with Bobs. This was the

first time I saw her out. She was amazing! She flew as

fast as she could to the grass to graze. I was ecstatic to

see her out at last. My promise had been kept.

Her short time out had her sweating and breathing like

shed run five miles. When I told her that I was

appalled at how hard she had to work, she said shedidnt mind. I thought Id be happier seeing her outside,

but knowing how many people she had to rely on was

disheartening. Shed never be truly independent.

The stronger cart arrived and was donated by the

generous builder. Love attracted the most wonderful

people. The cart could handle her weight and had

wheels that swiveled. She galloped out in it calling to

the other horses. She seemed so proud of herself. Later,

I asked her why she was screaming at the others. When

she told them we were going to fix her so she could goout, they said we wouldnt if it was too hard. The older

horses low opinion of people broke my heart, but I

certainly understood it.

That weekend I went away for a workshop. When I ghome, Bob told me that Love had developed diarrhea

the day before. Until now, shed been a very healthy

foal despite her spinal problem. Her person called to

report that Love was very bad, so we flew over. Bob

treated her and drew a blood sample, which we rushed

home to run.

Love informed me that it was time for her to leave. Helessons were taught or would be by the time she

departed. I couldfeelher running freely as she spoke

with me. I felt wind in her face and grass under her

feet. It was what wed wanted for her in this life, but

couldnt achieve. My tears flowed. I would miss her

terribly. I knew in my heart that my information was

accurate. Being so inexperienced, I immediately calle

my teacher and the animal communicator for

confirmation. I reached two answering machines.


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ob headed back to Love, who was in great distress. Her person

ecided to euthanize her, but theyd wait for me if I wanted. Yes! I

urried to her. As I sat with her head in my lap, those beautiful,

oulful eyes reflected such peace. They belied the severe physical

istress she was in.

t 4:35 PM on August 16, four months and one day from when she

ntered this life experience, she departed. I returned home to

messages from my teacher and the communicator. Neither of themelt shed made the decision to leave yet, which didnt jive with my

onversation with her. Loves parting lesson for me was to believe

hat my heart tells me.Believe in yourself!

ive days later, I talked with Love for the last time. I asked if I

ould write her story. Youre supposed to. I asked what her most

mportant lesson was. Take action through Love. If they keep love

s the basis for all their decisions in life, everything in life will

ork for them. People need to let their hearts guide them for the good of all creatures, both human and non-human

felt her moving away from me and knew I wouldnt talk with her again until she came back into a new lifexperience with a perfect, new body. (She does return, but youll have to read my book to learn more about this

ncredible animal teacher).

While Love was not one of my own animals, she was as influential as those who have shared each day with me

his exceptional filly helped me discover my purpose in life. She helped me recognize that I have an empathy for

nimals that goes beyond that of most people. With this gift Ive been helping animals and their people live

armoniously for the past 16 years. Love allowed this remarkable foal to achieve what seemed impossible. Withove as our driving force, everything is possible. I hope Loves story will awaken within you unlimited possibiliti

He sent certain animals to tell men that he showed himself through the beasts, and that from them, and from the

ars and the sun and the moon, man should learn. ~Pawnee Chief Letakota-Lesa

Nancy A. Kaiser lives in the healing Blue Ridge Mountains of North

Carolina surrounded by her family of dogs and a horse. She is the

author ofLetting Go: An Ordinary Womans Extraordinary Journey of

Healing & Transformation, about her recovery from trauma with thehelp of animals and nature. Nancy operates Just Ask

Communications, a practice devoted to healing the human-animal

bond through enhanced communication and understanding. Nancy

offers animal communication and healing consults via phone, in-

person and on Skype. Visit her at:

www.NancyKaiserAnimalCommunicator.com
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NATURAL

HAIRNatural hair seems to have become a hot topic in recent years.Thanks to more websites, forums, and blogs devoted to sharing

hair care regimen and product reviews, more women with

naturally kinky and curly hair are embracing a chemical free

lifestyle when it comes to their hair. The surge in online videos

with demonstrations on popular natural styles, such as the twist

and curl or braid outs, and henna treatments have also made

wearing natural hair seem a lot less daunting for many women.Yes, maintaining natural hair may take just as long or longer thanrelaxed hair, but many natural-haired women report feeling more

in tune with who they are, experiencing more freedom and being

able to express their true selves .

We at TIFM thought we'd ask a few amazing and courageous

women who've gone au naturale to share their experience with us

in their own words.



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Natural Sista

Why did you go natural?

Terri Lee-Johnson

For me, going natural was an option to keep my sanity. I was tired of paying a hairdresser to double or triple book

my time slot thus devaluing my time. Then one day, I just decided to chop off all of my hair to the "new growth"

and stop using relaxers. New growth is that hair at the roots that's not yet been relaxed. Well, at the time, I only h

about an inch or two of new growth so it was drastic. There was no epiphany or trend to follow, it was just me

going against the grain as usual. I soon learned that there were few products available for natural kinky and curly

hair. This eventually changed as a number of current products on the market were created by the women who

needed them, like Mixed Chicks and Curl Junkie, and what was available was not suitable for caring for curls ofany degree. Also, it was the mid-90's and not popular, so there was no community to reach out to for advice like t

forum on www.naturallycurly.com. No one has to feel alone anymore in this decision because there's now tons of

online community support for those currently wearing or thinking of transitioning to natural hair.

Once I did the "big chop", I heard every comment in the book from "you've got really pretty hair" to "what are yo

gonna do when you get a job?". I never had some profound comeback; it was just me being me. My favorite

comments were those that included a reference to some neo-soul artist as though natural hair only belonged to tho

who emoted positivity or a propensity toward the political through their craft. I love how Jill Scott dispelled that

myth in a concert asking: "Why is it every time we see somebody with a natural, we automatically think they're

positive?". I do identify positively with my heritage as a woman of African descent but, I don't think it's solelyhrough how I wear my hair, even if at all, and it's definitely not a political statement. I know some women may

feel hinderedby what their natural texture is, especially when it comes to work or professional settings. Even if

working in a setting that has a specific culture or set of rules that employees should adhere to, there are many styl

hat can be achieved to follow policy without jeopardizing healthy hair. Many of the same styles worn with relaxe

hair can be attained with natural hair. So, natural hair should be seen as a feasible option. More importantly, every

natural texture is beautiful and flawed.

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's been a long journey and one not without its mishaps like using all the wrong products and even, early on, going

ack to the relaxer for about a year. Now, thanks to sites like www.tightlycurly.com maintained by my hair guru,T

aFlesh, I have my curls in the best condition ever in this fifteen years of natural bliss. The mistakes are part of th

rowing pains like anything else but, now I know my hair and what works for it and what doesn't. The best part is

he satisfying feeling knowing that I have created my own aesthetic simply by embracing my natural coils. So,

ogether through our stories and our power to choose we - the kinky, coily, curly, straight, fine, long, short - celebr

llthe beautiful textures of our hair as we define our own individual beauty and our connection to the Divine one

hoice at a time!

elow are some key things to consider when transitioning to and/ or maintaining natural hair:

Moisture is the key, above all else, to healthy natural hair. A good, rich moisturizing conditioner like Organix

oconut Milk or Herbal Essences Hello Hydration along with shea or mango butter will do the trick.

A smoothing and detangling brush like the Denman D4 will do wonders for natural kinks and curls.

Putting little to no heat on the hair will also promote growth and less breakage. Most styling can be done withou

he use of any heat--air dry instead.

Sleeping with hair covered by a satin scarf or on a satin pillowcase will also protect hair from drying out which

eads to breakage. Also, avoid toweling dry the hair as this does not help retain moisture and can cause tangling.

or more tips on products and styles, visit BrownGirl RandomSpeakor the YouTube channel BrownGirlSpeaks.

erri Lee-Johnson maintains a multi-blog website at www.browngirlspeaks.com.

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mie's story

ne reason I stopped relaxing is the history behind black women straightening their hair- so

ey would be more accepted by mainstream society; knowing the history is one reason I

pped. It's like reclaiming who I am and who my people are...my ancestry...my culture. Also,

noticed that relaxers were making my hair thin, and I got tired of spending my Saturdays in

e salon, under the dryer for an hour, not wanting to get my hair wet in the rain and spending a

oong time trying to get my hair to 'lay right' only to end up frustrated. Natural hair has its

uggles, too, but I spend a lot less time on my hair.

hen I decided I would be au naturale, I was at a point where I wanted to be who I am and not

ho others thought I should be. I wanted to embrace myself fully and felt I couldn't do that with

elaxer. I've been completely natural for two years, and I decided loc my hair in 2008 because

egan living my life the way I want. Locs are a way for me to symbolize the growth and

anges in my life. I love my hair!

mie is a Georgia-based freelance writer. Check out her loc journey at

ochalocs.blogspot.com.

Malene's story

Natural hair wasnt the liberator I thought it would be. I still scheduled hair appointments

very two weeks to get double strand twists or to refresh my color, and later, when I grew

ocs, loc maintenance. And, while its true that I could roll down the windows and let the

ummer wind have its way with me, sleep without a scarf, and let the tips of my hair get wet,

wasnt until I cut off all of my hair that I felt the freedom Id longed for since I was a girl,

ining over so-called white girl hair. But, my pining had less to do with wanting white

irl hair and more to do with freedom.

or me, freedom means to be unencumbered, it also means swim, bike, hike, date all

n one day without spending the money and hours getting my hair did.

With an Even-Steven, I possess freedom; the freedom to stand directly under the

howerhead, the water massaging my scalp, the freedom to wash and go, to make love

without vanity; it lets me be.

Now, Im growing out my Even-Steven, so that I can get playful twists that will grow up to

e double strand twists, because it makes me feel sexy and, well, its what Im in the mood

or. And ultimately, thats all that matters.

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