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The Psychology of Dying. Kubler-Ross. Page 44 (PAD&D) 5 stages: 1) Denial: (and Isolation) “the defense mechanism by which a person is unable or refuses to see things as they are because such facts are threatening to the self” 2) Anger: “blame directed toward another person” - PowerPoint PPT Presentation
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The Psychology of DyingThe Psychology of Dying
Kubler-RossKubler-Ross
Page 44 (PAD&D)Page 44 (PAD&D)5 stages:5 stages:– 1) Denial: (and Isolation)1) Denial: (and Isolation)
““the defense mechanism by which a person is unable the defense mechanism by which a person is unable or refuses to see things as they are because such or refuses to see things as they are because such facts are threatening to the self”facts are threatening to the self”
– 2) Anger: 2) Anger: ““blame directed toward another person”blame directed toward another person”
– 3) Bargaining3) Bargaining– 4) Depression4) Depression– 5) Acceptance5) Acceptance
LoflandLofland
Page 46 (PAD&D)Page 46 (PAD&D)
““dying scripts”dying scripts”
Elements:Elements:– SpaceSpace– PopulationPopulation– KnowledgeKnowledge– StanceStance
Em. M. PattisonEm. M. Pattison
Page 48 (PAD&D)Page 48 (PAD&D)
3 phases of the dying process:3 phases of the dying process:– 1) acute crisis phase1) acute crisis phase
– 2) chronic living-dying phase2) chronic living-dying phase
– 3) terminal phase3) terminal phase
A. WeismanA. Weisman
3 degrees of denial:3 degrees of denial:– 1) the person denies the facts1) the person denies the facts
– 2) the person accepts the diagnosis but 2) the person accepts the diagnosis but refuses to believe that it is terminalrefuses to believe that it is terminal
– 3) person vacillates beween open 3) person vacillates beween open acknowledgement of death and its repudiationacknowledgement of death and its repudiation
Glaser and StraussGlaser and Strauss
Page 49 (PAD&D)Page 49 (PAD&D)
4 contexts of awareness:4 contexts of awareness:– 1) closed awareness1) closed awareness
– 2) suspicion2) suspicion
– 3) mutual pretense3) mutual pretense
– 4) open awareness4) open awareness
Duties of the DyingDuties of the Dying
Page 49 (PAD&D)Page 49 (PAD&D)
1) arrange a variety of affairs1) arrange a variety of affairs
2) adapt to the loss of loved ones and self2) adapt to the loss of loved ones and self
3) manage medical needs and balance 3) manage medical needs and balance emotionsemotions
4) plan for future loss4) plan for future loss
5) identify and cope with the death 5) identify and cope with the death encounterencounter
Role of the FD With the DyingRole of the FD With the Dying
Page 50 (PAD&D)Page 50 (PAD&D)
Prerequisites for the FD:Prerequisites for the FD:– 1) acknowledge one’s mortality1) acknowledge one’s mortality– 2) understand the grief process2) understand the grief process– 3) effective listening and appropriate 3) effective listening and appropriate
responseresponse– 4) commitment to the dying4) commitment to the dying– 5) knowledge of personal limits5) knowledge of personal limits
Social Responses to DeathSocial Responses to Death
Page 53 (PAD&D)Page 53 (PAD&D)
variety of socialization processesvariety of socialization processes
demographic normsdemographic norms
Preindustrial: high mortality ratesPreindustrial: high mortality rates– small, tightly integrated communitiessmall, tightly integrated communities
Postindustrial: drop in mortality ratesPostindustrial: drop in mortality rates– death is distanced, sanitizeddeath is distanced, sanitized
Death of a ParentDeath of a Parent
Page 60 (PAD&D)Page 60 (PAD&D)
natural eventnatural event
unfinished emotional businessunfinished emotional business
little/no allowance for untimely, violent, or little/no allowance for untimely, violent, or unexpected deathunexpected death
allow the adult child to express the allow the adult child to express the feelings of lossfeelings of loss
support groupssupport groups
Death of a SpouseDeath of a Spouse
Page 62 (PAD&D)Page 62 (PAD&D)
secondary losses (Figure 12-1 page 155)secondary losses (Figure 12-1 page 155)
social issuessocial issues
support groupssupport groups
Death of a ChildDeath of a Child
Page 63 (PAD&D)Page 63 (PAD&D)
parents and siblings aren’t the only ones parents and siblings aren’t the only ones who mourn the loss of a child, but the who mourn the loss of a child, but the parental grief response is the most complexparental grief response is the most complex
friends may avoid the parentsfriends may avoid the parents
““service guilt”, “survivor’s guilt”service guilt”, “survivor’s guilt”
GuiltGuilt
Composed of:Composed of:– RegretsRegrets– MisgivingsMisgivings– Unresolved past conflicts with the childUnresolved past conflicts with the child– Every aspect of the relationship and childcareEvery aspect of the relationship and childcare
Secondary LossesSecondary Losses
child may have filled a “gap”child may have filled a “gap”
child as well as friendchild as well as friend
sense of status/self-esteem/purposesense of status/self-esteem/purpose
continued guilt can give rise to continued guilt can give rise to complicationscomplications
changed identitychanged identity
camily structure is alteredcamily structure is altered
Parental AngerParental Anger
feel that core identities have been ripped feel that core identities have been ripped outout
world no longer makes senseworld no longer makes sense
rage at those perceived to have a role in rage at those perceived to have a role in the deaththe death
feelings of betrayalfeelings of betrayal
anger directed toward survivorsanger directed toward survivors
Coping With Other PeopleCoping With Other People
Need to be aware that there are people in Need to be aware that there are people in their lives from whom they will never get their lives from whom they will never get the support they would have expected or the support they would have expected or desire.desire.
Parental FearParental Fear
Fear of losing other children or any close Fear of losing other children or any close person causes bereaved parents to person causes bereaved parents to overprotect.overprotect.
““New Me in a New World”New Me in a New World”
The image of the child exists within but is The image of the child exists within but is no longer physically available as an no longer physically available as an external reality.external reality.
Create a new internal picture of who they Create a new internal picture of who they are in the outside world.are in the outside world.
Their loss and grief accompany them Their loss and grief accompany them everywhere they go.everywhere they go.
Painful RemindersPainful Reminders
seasonal remindersseasonal reminders
unexpected “moments”unexpected “moments”
continual acknowledgment of the child at continual acknowledgment of the child at family eventsfamily events
can still feel connectedcan still feel connected
Linking Objects and Continuing Linking Objects and Continuing BondsBonds
Page 65 (PAD&D)Page 65 (PAD&D)
helps maintain continuity of a relationshiphelps maintain continuity of a relationship
provide support for grieving parentsprovide support for grieving parents
FD ResponsibilitiesFD Responsibilities
Page 65 (PAD&D)Page 65 (PAD&D)
reinforce that their feelings are acceptable reinforce that their feelings are acceptable and normaland normal
point out to them society’s inability to point out to them society’s inability to comprehend their losscomprehend their loss
well-meaning people’s commentswell-meaning people’s comments
create an atmosphere of security, comfort create an atmosphere of security, comfort and accessibilityand accessibility
Death of a SiblingDeath of a Sibling
greater chance of healing if parents greater chance of healing if parents remain in their livesremain in their lives
parents grieve openlyparents grieve openly
parental grief is sharedparental grief is shared
siblings may experience shame or siblings may experience shame or embarrassmentembarrassment
preteens and teens are particularly preteens and teens are particularly sensitive sensitive
Replacement ExpectationsReplacement Expectations
parents may inappropriately place parents may inappropriately place expectations on childrenexpectations on children
parents may consciously or unwittingly parents may consciously or unwittingly communicate that surviving children take communicate that surviving children take on the dead sibling’s roleon the dead sibling’s role
parents may deify the dead childparents may deify the dead child
parents may focus on the dead child to the parents may focus on the dead child to the exclusion of the surviving siblings exclusion of the surviving siblings
Surviving Adult SiblingsSurviving Adult Siblings
Page 65 (PAD&D)Page 65 (PAD&D)
least acknowledged by societyleast acknowledged by society
facing the death of someone in their own facing the death of someone in their own generation…..personal confrontation with generation…..personal confrontation with their own mortalitytheir own mortality
FD should be available to themFD should be available to them
Implications for Funeral DirectorsImplications for Funeral Directors
Page 66 (PAD&D)Page 66 (PAD&D)
1) society’s perception of the death may not 1) society’s perception of the death may not “track” with the individual’s response“track” with the individual’s response
2) be sensitive to conflict between what is 2) be sensitive to conflict between what is expected and what they feelexpected and what they feel
3) provide information about resources3) provide information about resources
4) small library of books, tapes etc.4) small library of books, tapes etc.
5) provide clear, complete and accurate 5) provide clear, complete and accurate communicationcommunication