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THE SELF FROM VARIOUS
PERSPECTIVES
THE PSYCHOLOGICAL PERSPECTIVE OF THE SELF
JEAN PIAGET’S COGNITIVE DEVELOPMENT
TRUE SELF AND FALSE SELF
Concepts introduce into psychoanalysis in 1960 by
Donald Winnicott
THINK, SHARE
• What comes to your mind when you hear the word
TRUE?
• What comes to your mind when you hear the word
FALSE?
ROOT of the Formation of
TRUE SELF
And FALSE SELF
infancyParenting
Can be taught
parents teachers
• Real self
• Authentic self
• Feeling of being alive
• Real needs, desires and thoughts
A person is in her/his true self if s/he has
a sense of integrity and of connected
wholeness.
CHARACTERISTICS
TRUE SELF
• Like their bodies
• Appreciate their qualities
• Do not compare yourself with others
• Speak to yourself kindly
• Proactive
• Accept your emotions and know how to
express them
• Optimistic
• Welcome the praise of others
• Confident
• Look for challenge and adventure
• Live the present moment
EFFECTS: TRUE SELF
THE TRUE SELF AT THE CENTRE PROTECTED BY OUTER LAYERS OF FALSE SELF.
As kids- attuned to parent’s feelings
and needs
Unconsciously felt- need for parents’
approval and expectation
The true self – the child’s real
feelings, needs, desires and
thoughts – is pushed further and
further inside the onion
The false-self thought and behaviour
patterns we develop during childhood
stay with us as adults. While they used
to be helpful, they often become a
hindrance as we get older and gain
more independence.
FALSE SELF
Repressed feelings
Pushed needs aside
in order to survive
CHARACTERISTICS OF FALSE SELF
• Pessimistic - Repress their emotions
• Take no risks - Blaming
• Happy to imitate others - Focus on faults
• Critical of themselves - Suspicious of praises
• Look defeated and depressed - Narcissistic
• Compare themselves with others
• Think they are important because of their possessions
SELF-TALKS OF FALSE SELF
• If I am pretty, I will be more likeable.
• If I have a lot of money, I am successful.
• If I work hard/achieve more, I will have more value.
• One more glass of wine, and I’ll start feeling better.
EFFECTS: FALSE SELF
When the person has to comply with external rules, such
as being polite or otherwise following social codes, then a
false self is used. The false self constantly seeks to
anticipate demand of others in order to maintain the
relationship.
HEALTHY FALSE SELF
The healthy false self is
described as one which
allows someone to be
functional in society. It
enables politeness and
social courtesy, even
when we may not feel
like it.
There are times in our
day-to-day lives when it
would be harmful for us
to let our true selves
dominate
we use our healthy false
self: one that functions
perfectly and allows us
to live our lives, but
protects the true self,
keeping it safe until a
time when we are
around people we know
we can trust.
Put simply, a major
component of the
healthy false self is an
awareness of personal
boundaries.
A healthy false self is one that works
with and stays committed to the true
self. It is a form of useful self-
protection, in that it shields us at
times when vulnerability would not
be appropriate, or might even be
harmful.
HOW TO LOVE AND DEVELOP YOUR TRUE SELF
1. GOD LOVES YOU
• God created you in a very special way.
• He shaped you, fashioned you, and molded you.
• God designed every part of your being.
• You cannot love others if you don’t love your self
• You can’t be successful and happy if you don’t love your self
2. ACCEPT YOUR SELF AS YOU ARE
• in life: The most stressful thing for you to do is to be someone
else. And the easiest thing to do in the world? To be yourself.
• And there lies your greatest success.
• And your greatest happiness.
• When you become yourself, you discover that success and
happiness becomes almost effortless.
3. FORGIVE YOURSELF
• Don’t be imprisoned by your own weaknesses or
ugliness
4. NURTURE YOURSELF
• Be sensitive to your need
• Feel good about yourself
• Think of your blessings
• Read the Scriptures
• Enjoy yourself, pamper yourself
5. SET BOUNDARIES
Avoid EMOTIONAL VAMPIRES
6. AFFIRM YOURSELF
• I am a great person
• I am beautiful
• I am loved by God
• THIS WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE!
CHALLENGE
ASSIGNMENT
Go to this link and answer the quiz and make a
reflection of the result:
http://www.playbuzz.com/christynolan10/this-
abstract-image-test-will-reveal-your-true-self
ASSESSMENT:1/2MAKE 1 QUOTATION FOR TRUE SELF AND
1 FOR FALSE SELF
RUBRIC:
POINTS 10 6
CONTENT The text is
striking and
inspiring
The text is less
inspiring
ASSIGNMENT: JOURNAL WRITING
• Using Psalm 139 make a prayer of thanksgiving on
how God fashioned you according to His will.
ASSIGNMENT
• Watch the short video “Am I pretty enough?” attached link in the next topic. After
watching the video your task is to :
• 1. Send at least one POSITIVE adjective that you can described of that classmate of
yours base on how you see them.
• 2. You too will received positive feedbacks from your classmates.
• 3. Write a reflection paper on the video and the feedbacks you get from your
classmates in a yellow paper and take a photo of your reflection paper and send
through your messenger.
THANK YOU!