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Think Positive Act Positive

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Ulaaz


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WELCOME NOTE

Are you positive thinker??? Are you positive actor??? Whoever and whatever

you are, dont worry!!! Now you are about to be a part of positive environment,

positive world. You are going to be a positive thinker!!! Positive actor!!! Get

ready!!!

Well discuss about some of the ideas to stimulate our positive brain and

optimism. Some of them will be right for you and some may not be. This isbecause there are no any approved universal techniques and principles for

positive thinking and optimism in any situation, whatever people say. It is just

up to you. Moreover, Think Positive, Act Positive will do nothing. If you truly

wish to change your mind into positivity, if you are truly destined to the positive

worldif you are not kidding yourselfonly then this book will join you hand-in-

hand. This is what I strongly assure you from this book.

We, in this book, will discuss how to deal with stresses and challenges that

strike us frequently in our life that intend us to bend towards frustration,

depression and pessimism. Well discuss the brighter aspects of rejection and

objection in love, job, failure in career and everything else. I, from my side, offer

some of the techniques that I have collected from different magazines, books,

and websites to produce to result that you desire. But I respect your intelligence

more than that just to tell you that these techniques work. And I know youre

the best in your own way. So, I urge you to believe in yourself and assure

nothing will be more convincing than your own techniques. You better create

your own for the positivity however .Be guided by your own philosophy. Master

your brain by your own heart. Gudluck !!

Before you just go through this book, you first format your brain. Ouch !!! I

dont want to say format all the brain , I just mean to say to format the folder of

brain where you have saved the biasness, negativity, hatred and pessimism .


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PURPOSE OF THIS BOOK

Almost human with the head and dreams face the frustration phase once in

his life , especially very after the teenage. Lets end the entry of the frustration

phase in our life together with this book and lets enjoy the happiness of positive

environment and our success. Remember !!! This book neither is a roadmap to

voyage to success nor a guidebook to achieve your dreams. This is just the book

of positive thinking and positive action. But, trust me , the positive thinking and

positive action is the ultimate key to success . I especially target this book to

the Youth Group , but, this doesnt mean that non -other than Youths cant

read. I hope this book will be beneficial to all the age group more or less. But

the activation of the positive brain in any situation isnt easy anyway. This is

like the meditation and its achievement is not less than the achievement of

godhood through the penance. Moreover ,the application of this achievement

in the action is more important rather. This is the only way of happiness

,satisfaction and success as well. The concepts in this book simply make you

realize the power of positive thinking and ignite you to act so. The discussion

will ignite you to extract your strength to stretch your positive brain and drive

you to the positive.

SELF-QUESTIONS

What is happiness?? Why is one man satisfied and another man regrets

with his life?? Do the satisfaction always lead us to the success?? How

can we make worthwhile relationship in love, play and, organization

with family ,friends ,and co-workers? Does the failure in any field mean

failure in the entire life??Or does this mean you are awarded anothervalued field in your hand???Or ,does this mean you should cope it up

with another new strategies??Does the objection or rejection mean


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you deservebetter than that

??............................................................The answer to these and allsimilar questions are -your thinking. It completely depends on you. Cuz

there is always a hidden brighter aspects covered with dark shells if

your positive eyes can see well. This is the natural law. Remember!!

Only those who can see the inside protein of walnut can only taste it.

Think and Act

No boundaries can block your ways if you are truly destined to your aim. To

reach to your destiny your thinkings are the road-map and actions are the

action s itself. So, your thinkings and actions are both the crucial components

to the complete personality and to reach to the goal as well. And it is known

that the actions what are observed are made the evaluating factors normally

by the people. So, it is important to act positively for your all positive thinkings.For this , note the words or sentences of your choice and the try to act

accordingly everyday. Repeat the same action of positivity and finally you judge

differences you found within you in every 21days . If you truly want to change

yourself , I assure this technique will surely work. But , I dont say this is the

best technique because the best will be your own. At last , I would like to say

think positive and act so.


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My Words Of Gratitude

If at first an idea doesnt sound absurd ,

then there is no hope for it

-ALBERT EINSTEIN

The above line by the greatest scientist Albert Einstein always knocked me and

encouraged me to start anything new that my heart wanted to do however it

sounds absurd to others and to myself. So , I would like the thank Einstein for

his igniting words and for his inspirational life as well. This book is not only mine

.It is ours. This is what I always claim proudly about this book. This means there

are efforts of many people for the completion of this book. I would to likethank my parents for their supports and encouragement in writing this book.

Not only for the support in writing this book, I dont like to miss the chance of

thanking them for the every support from the very day I was born. What Im

now is because of them. So ,I thank them for everything they did for me .I would

like to thank my very own brother Dil, whose encouragement and supports are

instrumental in writing this book. A special thank for Kabita Magar ,Dayan

Puun(Dipa) and Haan Lapha(Jeewan) , who continuously helped me in selectingthe contents of the book and developing an innovative idea of creating

facebook page for the contents selection in the process of writing this book. I

thank all who visited my facebook page

www.facebook.com/thinkpositive.actpositive, supported me and helped

me directly or indirectly. Thanks also to my friend Raz for his keen interest in

helping me to create the cover of the book. I would also like to thank Mr Shawn

Toss and Mr. Resam for their help since we were known to each other.
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Many techniques , examples , words ,quotations and sayings are taken from

various sources , such as websites, newspapers, magazines, books, and words ofother people .But sources were not always noted and available .So ,it seems

about an impossible and impractical to provide an accurate gratitude .

Regardless of the source, I would like express my sincere gratitude to all who

contributed in creating this book. Moreover, my special thanks also goes to all

the persons for their inspirational sayings and quotations which always

motivated and encouraged me in this work.

journey of thousand miles begins with a

single step


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CONTENTS

Welcome note i

Info note ii

Purpose of this book iii

Self - questions iii

Think and Act iv

My words of Gratitude v

Introduction to Positive Thinking x

The Power of positive thinking xi

Positive motivation xii

Love your life and Belongings xiii

Choices are up to you xiv

Positive attitude xv

The road not taken-Robert Frost xvii

Enlightenment of Buddha xviii

Believe In Yourself xix

Look at the positive aspects xxi

Beauty beyond the obstacles xxiii

Beauty beyond the failure xxiv


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Design your own mind to live your own life xxvi

Start where you stand-Berton Braley xxviii

Section-II

Dont just advocate xxxi

Play with positive words and things xxxii

Environment

Education

Experiences

Books and movies

Focus on the positive xxxiv

Accept the criticism xxxv

Physical health for positivity xxxvi

Balance weight

Sound sleep

Getting exercises

Control your stresses

Stay away from smoking and drinking

Avoid anger

Climb Till your dreams come true-Helen Steiner Rice xxxix

Be positive to people xli

Be confident xlii


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Introduction To Positive Thinking

Positive thinking in any situation is above the manhood. It is more than the

thoughts that you have. It means focusing on the brighter aspects of anything inany situation rather than the darks. It is the ingredient that empower you to

extract the best from the best you have and spectacle that enable you to see

the best of others. Positive thinking is about dealing with others keeping the

worthwhile relationship. It means being well to everyone regardless of the

situation ,being aware of everything and every problems , being able to take

required action and feeling good about what you are doing . Positive thinking

enable you to register every problem regardless of the difficulties and visualizethe simplicity in the difficulties. Conclusively , positive thinking means

satisfaction ,happiness , confidence , and optimism rather than the regrets , and

pessimism . Positive thinking is right decision making command of our brain . So

, I personally divided human thinkings into : the positives and negatives ,

however, most people and psychologists divided it into : positive ,negative and

right .


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The Power Of Positive Thinking

You can bring into your life the more power ,more wealth ,more health ,

more happiness, more satisfaction and more encouragement by learning tobe positive to any situations which releases your hidden subconscious

power of mind .

You need not acquire this power, you already possess it . You just need to

empower you with this power with your positivity in any situation so that you

can apply it to all departments of your life . You can be inspired by a new light,

and you can generate a new force enabling you to realize your hopes and make

all your dreams come true. Decide now to make your life grander, greater,

richer, and nobler than ever before.[1] Decide now to be positive and

undoubtedly , your positive thinking drive you to the positive actions . The

subconscious depth can be reached by your positive thinking . Within your

subconscious depths there lie an infinite wisdom, infinite power, and infinite

supply of all that is necessary, which is waiting for development and expression.

Begin now to recognize these potentialities of your deeper mind, and they will

take form in the world without* The infinite intelligence within your

subconscious mind can reveal to you everything you need to know at every

moment of time and point of space provided you are open-minded and

receptive. You can receive new thoughts and ideas enabling you to bring forth

new inventions, make new discoveries, or write books and plays. Moreover, the

infinite intelligence in your subconscious can impart to you wonderful kinds of

knowledge of an original nature. It can reveal to you and open the way for

perfect expression and true place in your life.[2] Through positive thinking you c

make your companions of positivity and right business partners so that you will

be financially uplifted. It is your right to discover this inner world of thought,

feeling, and power, of light, love, and beauty.[3] Be positive to any troubles that

come into your life . Free them from the negativity to enter into the world of

happiness , joyous and satisfaction . Reach the power of positive thinking ,feel it

and enjoy it .


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Positive Motivation

Positive thinking is the crucial component in positive motivation . Positive

motivation is sole factor for your successful, happy and satisfied life because thepositive motivation is the only source of your encouragement. We are

motivated either positively or negatively . Positive people are motivated

positively and lead their successful life. So, now decide to live your own life

with the story below.

There were two brothers in a city . One was a drug addict , and drunk who

frequently beat up his family . The other was a very successful businessman

who was respected in society and had a wonderful family . How could two

brothers raised by same parents , brought up in the same environment , be so

different .

Thefirst brother was asked , what makes you do what you do ? You are drug

addict , a drunk , ad you beat your family. What motivates you ? He

answered , My father . My father was a drug addict, a drunk and he beat his

family . What do expect me to be? That is what I am .

The second brother was asked , How come you are doing everything right

?What is source of your motivation ? And guess what he said ? My father.

When I was a little boy , I used to see my dad drunk and doing all the wrong

things. I made up my mind that , that is not what I wanted to be .[4]

Both brothers derived their motivation form the same source , but one used it

positively and the other negatively . Negative motivation brings the desire to

take easier way which ends up being the tougher . This way, your thinking has

miraculous power of changing your life either into heaven or hell: positive or

negative : happy or sad.


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Love Your Life and Your Belongings

We humans are the most beautiful creatures of this universe. This means , our

life is beautiful and is the most wonderful gift of god, if the god exists and mostdeveloped if evolved. So, we are the luckiest creature of this universe in any

way. But, we humans never be satisfied with our own life . Our mind is filled

with the negative and we cant see the beauty of struggles in our life. We cant

sink into the depth of realism of our life and we even cant identify the purpose

of our life. Our life is precious . We must love our life and our belongings. We

see the appearance of others and compare our life with them and tend to sink

into the sadness. We never try to know the secrets and hardships behind theirsuccess. Everyone has their own hardships, scarce and so forth. The

appearances are virtual .Moreover, they are the illusion . So, dont compare

your real life with the virtual appearance. Stand above the virtual world. Stand

above the sadness. Love your own life rather than others. Praise your own real

life rather than others. You know the reality of your life and dont compare with

the virtual ones. Your life is special. Insight the positive aspects of your life and

find out inborn interest within you . Let the world know that you exist. Let youknow that you are yourself. Love your belongings . Dont compare the facilities

of other Schools, Colleges and Universities with yours and the professor . You

have exactly the same time as others have . The physical facilities dont worth

much to your intelligence. Rejuvenate your mind with encouragement . Be

yourself and love your belongings and feel proud to be who you are and what

you are as Steve Jobs said, Your time is limited, so dont waste it living

someone elses life . Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.Beautifully said, from the founder of Apple Co.


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Choices Are Up To You .

Every livings are mentally combined with the feelings , thoughts and beliefs .The crucial step to head you towards the positive is to identify and distinguish

these elements in life . You must recognize these and act accordingly. You must

be aware and sensitive to these elements . This are the basics indicators of

positivity and negativity. The more aware you are of emotional signals, the more

you will be able to move your feelings from negative to positive . Your

satisfaction level has direct link with your feelings , thoughts and beliefs and so

your actions do .The positive feelings , thoughts and beliefs motivates you tosome extend and energize you to the effective results. The positive belief, I

can be good at sports prompts the thought, I can win, and this motivates and

energizes you into effective action. Your success generates positive

expectations, reinforcing yourself-belief and boosting your abilities.[1] The

choices are always up to you and your choices are the crucial factors to your

satisfaction and the happiness of life .

The positive choices let you extract best of the best you have keeping

worthwhile relation with others. It stimulates your subconscious mind and let

you sink into the depth of potentiality. The right choice making ability also fall

under the positivity.


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Positive Attitude

What we have inside us counts for the peace, happiness, success and everything

in our life. The thing inside us is called attitude. This is controlled by our heartand mind as well. People think and act so. Some think positively and get the

work effectively and some by other way. Your thinks shapes your future. So,

your attitudes counts much in the success of any person and by similar any

organizations. So, I want to present here the data in this regard A study

attributed to Harvard University found thatwhen a person gets a job, 85% of

the time it is because of their attitude, and only 15% of the time because of

how smart they are and how many facts and figures they know. Surprisingly,almost 100% of education dollars go to teach facts and figures which account

for only 15% of success in work! Attitude is the most important word in the

English language. It applies to every sphere of life, including one's personal and

professional life. Can an executive be a good executive without a good attitude?

Can a student be a good student without a good attitude? Can a parent,

teacher, salesman, employer, employee be good in their roles without a good

attitude? The foundation of success regardless of your chosen field, is attitude.If attitude is such a critical factor in success, shouldn't you examine your

attitude toward life and ask how your attitude will affect your goals?

Our attitude determines how we look at a setback. To a positive thinker, it can

be a stepping stone to success. To a negative thinker, it can be a stumbling

block. Great organizations are not measured by wages and working conditions,

they are measured by feelings, attitudes and relationships. When employees

say, "I can't do it," there are two possible meanings. Are they saying they don't

know how to or they don't want to? If they don't know how to, that is a training

issue. If they are saying they don't want to, it may be an attitude issue (they

don't care) or a values issue (they believe they should not do it).

To develop the positive attitude , we must be surrounded by the people with

the positive thinking and create positive environment. One must extract positive

aspects from the negative environment as well. And , we must read inspiring

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will be developed. Moreover, movies and many other seminars also help you In

developing positive attitude.

However, the absence of negative attitude doesnt alone make the positive.

People with positive attitudes have certain personality traits that are easy to

recognize. They are caring, confident, patient, and humble. They have high

expectations of themselves and others. They anticipate positive outcomes. A

person with a positive attitude is like a fruit of all seasons. He is always

welcome. Positive attitude has certain benefits like :-

Develop a good relation anywhere at home, organization, with friends.

Increase the productivity Assist in creating a good teamwork

Solves problems

Creates the positive environment

Improves the quality

Will be liked and respected in society

Stress free

Creates the good health

Creates happy family

Love other and love by others

And so on

On the other hand , we ourselves add biggest obstacle in the course of

life by growing negative attitude which have lots of defects in our life.

People with a negative attitude have a hard time keeping friendships,

jobs, marriage and relationships. They create a negative environment at

home and work and become a liability to society.

They also pass on their negative behavior to others around them and to

future generations.


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The Road Not Taken-Robert Frost

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, And both that morning equally lay

And sorry I could not travel both In leaves no step had trodden black.

And be one traveler, long I stood Oh, I kept the first for another day!

And looked down one as far as Yet knowing how way leads on to way

I could I doubted if I should ever come back

To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair, I shall be telling this with a sigh

And having perhaps the better claim, Somewhere ages and ages hence;

Because it was grassy and wanted Two roads diverged in a wood ,and I-

wear; I took the one less traveled by

Though as for that the passing there And that has made all the difference.

Had worn them really about the same,


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Enlightenment of Buddha

I dont find myself a reliable person to talk about the Buddhism. Im neither a

Buddhist but Im impressed with the Buddhism, Hindu and other religions. But , Idevelop some words to say about Buddhism. So, I cant let aside to talk about

Buddha in this regard. Moreover, I agree with some people that Buddhism is not

a religion but a path of positivity. Buddhism doesnt include the idea of

worshipping a creator god. The basic tenets of Buddhist teaching are

straightforward and practical; nothing is permanent; actions have

consequences; change is possible. So, Buddhism addresses itself to all people

irrespective of race, nationality, caste, sexuality, or gender. It teaches practicalmethods which enable people to realize and use its teachings in order to

transform their experiences, to be fully responsible for their lives.[10]

My concern here is to share how my eyes and mind see the relation of

Buddhahood or enlightenment with positivity. Buddhahood ,in fact , is the

activation of subconscious mind with the positive stimulations. So, the ultimate

point of positivity is the enlightenment and only Buddha achieved it . So, he is

above the manhood and is respected as the God, to me too, he is. Buddhism

enables us to be aware of our sufferings in life and how to tackle with them with

our positive mind. Peace is the ultimate goal of Buddhism which is also the

concept of positivity. Buddha was enlightened with positivity. He thought

positively and walked on his own laws with zero diversion which others didnt.

Extraction of maximum positivity is simply the Buddhahood and hence the

peace of mind. There is a big , somewhat like a political, debate where Buddha

was born . I undoubtedly say Buddha Was Born in Nepal.There is a saying

that the history are of winners. But , the Birth of Buddha is the history to all the

living creatures existing in this world regardless of winners and losers. So, we all

must be proud that Buddha was born in this world and he first stepped in

country called Nepal which is also a part of our world . The world is ours and

Buddha guides us to walk the positive life. This is more important rather than

where he was born. Buddhism doesnt encourage people to tell any lies and to

create enemies. So, I finally sayBuddha was Born in Nepal , Buddha was

born in this Earth, and Buddhism guides us to lead a positive and happy life


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Believe In Yourself

A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking,

because her trust is not on the branch but on its own wings .Always believein Yourself .

Believe in you. This is what that energizes you to move into the work. This

empowers you and energizes you to move ahead. If you think that you can do

then your soul and mind believes in you that you can do and they stimulates. If

you dont believe in yourself, you are telling your soul and mind that you are too

feeble to achieve what you want in life. And the tragedy is that your soul and

mind believe it .Your system believes that it is not capable of doing the work.

You cant stimulate your subconscious mind and soul and you start sinking into

frustration and happiness cant kiss you .

Believing in yourself directly means that you can do which means you are

positive in your in ability. If you believe that you can top the class then your

brain believes it and your brain will be stimulated . Your brain start driving you

to work hard and your heart starts filing with satisfaction. Ultimately , you canreach nearer to the 1

stposition even if you cant be on the top.And next time

you might get the 1stposition . But , if you think you are crazy even to think that

you can be 1st

than you never can. There lies your downfall. If you are athlete

you quit your race at the same moment when you think you cant complete. If

you are student, you dont work enough to the extend you are capable. So , be

positive towards yourself , believe in yourself. Convince your entire system and

stimulate your system extract the best from the best you have. Stephen

Hawking , smartest personof the present world, believed himself and he made

possible to be alive till ,which even surprises the medical world. Moreover, he

made his life glorious as well. This is the miraculous power that lies beyond your

positive thinking.

So , boost up your positive thinking. Believe in yourself. Tell yourself that you

are worthy of what you want and make your system to convince on you. If youtell you are worthless , there will be bunch of people to keep telling you that

you are worthless. Your brain and soul will be always there making you


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remember your worthlessness. You start staying passive . Finally, you prove

yourself worthless.

Now, begin to believe in yourself. Try to know your potentials. Positive thinking

is good beginning to your destination and so your ending will.

A good beginning always have a good ending.

Start making your life worthy. At least worthy to yourself, to your heart.

You can do it. I believe positive thinking is most powerful weapon existing in the

universe and in you. Use it. Use it day by day and sharpen this weapon. When

you truly believe that you deserve success, your mind will automatically

generate ways to achieve it. So value yourself. There exists a magical power in

your positive belief. Now, Lets together try it and lets together rise above the

negativity .


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Look At the Positive Aspects

Every bad situation will have something positive. Even a dead clock

Shows correct time twice a day. Stay positive in life.

God knows what is best for you.

Each coin is two sided. Likewise, every bad situation also will have something

positive. Look at the positive aspects of any situation. Get benefited from the

bad as well. Learn something from the bad situation. They are the lessons to

your life. They teach you to live your life and enjoy your life with the problems

in coming days. They strengthen you to cope up with more difficulties of life.

Someone sees the glass half-filled and some others see the same glass half-

empty. Those with positive mind look at the positive aspects but with the

negative at the other. If you are rejected by some people that doesnt always

mean you dont deserve them but this might be the reason that they think they

dont deserve you. Or you have someone better to come in your life. But , at the

same time you have to work hard. Nature has provided the food for the birds

but nature doesnt deliver it to theirnests. They have to work hard for their

food. So, you need to work hard to get anything you deserve as well. Same way

, if your friend cheated you than you cant be cheated in the future in bigger

issues. This might be a great lesson for your life.

You cheat me once, shame on you. You cheat me twice, shame on me.

But , to be cheated next time is up to you. Thats your fault. If you can see the

positive aspects of anything, you can learn many things in life to drive you

towards satisfaction and you can realize the beauty of life.


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Now you need to become seeker of good rather than bad. Focus on the positive

aspects of life. Start looking for what is right in a person or situation instead of

looking for what is wrong. Due to our negative eyes sometime we even fail to

the see oceans of positive picture within in a person. Focus on positive than you

will find good .If you are looking for what is wrong with the people, you will find

faults. We will find what we are looking for. Even in paradise, fault finders will

find. Focus on positive things in everything and apply in similar situation in the

future. Desire to be positive. Life is not for once. Friend is not for once and

everything is not for once so utilize the chance of learning and visualize the

positivity even in any negative situation.

The Chinese word for problem also means opportunity. The lesson here is to

challenge negative thoughts by looking for the opportunity that lies within a

problem. Maybe you learned a lesson, gained motivation, avoided a problem?

Train yourself to look for a silver lining, even in small difficulties.[7]

When you are given feedback, or exam results, for example, focus on the

successful element rather than the negative aspect -Positive thinker.

Feels disappointed with grade -Negative thinker[8]

Finally , Count your blessings , not your troubles , as a bonus recipe for your

positivity that strike my mind at this moment which I read many times on

different sources.


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Beauty Beyond The Obstacles

People say obstacles are curse to your life but I say obstacles add

beauty to your life -Ulaaz

To write such book at this age seems absurd to some people so again I want to

paste the line If at first an idea doesnt sound absurd ,then there is no hope for

it , a well said by -ALBERT EINSTEIN, that ignites us to start a new.

Moreover, the purpose of my writing is to begin to change myself to the positive

which I mentioned at the very beginning of the book. I just want to join you in

this project of my life and make it as our common project.

The beauty of life is life itself and obstacles add more beauty to it. No matter

how hard the circumstances might seem to be, how difficult life becomes or

how numerous threats have been proposed in life or by life, life is always gift.

Its blessing.[5] Obstacles provide aroma to your life. They are the ornaments to

life. Nothing worthwhile in life comes without a struggle. People who have

overcome obstacles are more secure than those who never faced them. They

can realize the value of life. They can see the positive aspects of obstacles. They

can see the beauty of obstacles in life. Everyone faces obstacles and sometimes

feel discouraged. Everyone faces disappointments. But, the positive minded

people visualize the destination just after it and energize themselves to the

work. A bus must stop, move back for many times to reach to the destination.

Likewise , everyone need to do so. We cant run away from our problems. Only

losers quit and give up. A smooth sea never made a skillful mariner.This way,

life would be more beautiful with obstacles as everything is difficult before it

becomes easy .

Life can be hard at times, accept it. Appreciate it. Take the patience toovercome the obstacles. The more we take the time to appreciate the life ,the

more we realize what an incredible journey we are on.


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Beauty Beyond The Failure

God has introduced us with the pains of failure to make us

realize the importance of success-Ulaaz

Failure is a highway to success. Failure makes you realize the importance of

success. A student who always top the class doesnt give much value when he

again top the class. But, the one who top his class for the first time has its

greater value to him. He even might not sleep for 2,3 nights. He will realize itsimportance and work hard for the again and again to continue his toppism.

Actually, failure is booster to success and adds beauty in your success. Tom

Watson Sr. of IBM, said, If you want to succeed, double your failure rate.

The stories of great and successful people are also the stories of great failures.

But people dont see the failures. They only see the final result and judge them

as the lucky. They want to kiss the success. They want to feel the success once in

life to hide their failure. And they made it as well. Adison failed thousands of

time on making electric bulb but we dont see his failure and we only praise his

success and he should be respected as well. If you fail that means you are going

to be stronger for the next attempt. Motivate you with positivity. Utilize it as a

practice to be skillful. You learn and move forward. Learn from your mistakes

and keep going. All success stories are stories of great failures. The only

difference is they bounce back and keep moving but the failures keep hands on

their head and pray for the success.


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Let me share a famous life history with you. This was a man who failed in

business at the age of 21; was defeated in a legislative race at the age of 22;

failed again in business at the age of 24; had his sweetheart die when he was

age 26; had a nervous breakdown at age 27; lost a congressional race at theage 34; lost the senatorial race at the age 45; failed in an effort to become

vice-president at the 47; lost a senatorial race at the age 49; and was elected

president of the United States at the age 52. This man was Abraham Lincoln.

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Do you still call him failure? He could have quit and hung on shame but he

didnt. He take them as lesson they struggled with the failure and now he is

supposed to be one of the successful person in the history of world.

So, failure doesnt always induce the sadness in life. If you look at the positive ,

it trains you to be skillful. It adds fuel to your burning desire to kiss the success.

And finally adds value on your success as well.


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Design Your Own Mind To live Your Own life

The creator gave the man the prerogative of power over his own mind. We are

sent in this world with great potential, but we must know our potential anddesign our own mind to fabricate our life- then you will find and enjoy that

mighty potential. Become acquainted with you inner self and we can win what

we want within a time limit of our own choosing. Certain special techniques

help us win the goals of our dearest dreams, and everyone of these techniques

is easily within our power. There is not any difficult path to find out this

potential, you must design it by yourself. Design it with your own power of

positivity to live your life of satisfaction. Know thyself. Never believe you donthave , think you will certainly have it. Life is full of obstacles but when you come

to know it , there is no more obstacles in life because you accepted it and will

act so. The more you travel the voyage of life to the peace of mind, you will find

more smoother and straighter. Take the life as our own. Dont let others to

shape your mind if they discourage you. Probably you are reading under an

electric light. You know that Thomas A. Edison gave the first practical electric

light to the world. But did you know that Edison was thrown out of schoolingthe early grades after his teacher decided he had an "addled "mind and could

not take schooling? This then was the impact of another person's opinion upon

Thomas Edison-to let him know with the voice of authority that he didn't have

what it takes to absorb even a primary education! Where would he have been

if he had allowed this directive to take charge of his thinking? Fortunately for

him for the world, Edison decided to live his own life. Through early

adversity, Edison discovered something he might never have learned throughformal schooling. He learned, first, that he had a mind he could control and

direct toward any desired end .Then he learned he could use the technical

training of other men and successfully direct scientific research even though he

himself never had been schooled in any of the sciences. When he took full

possession of that "addled" mind it produced not only the incandescent lamp

but also one great discovery after another.[10]

Dont give the ownership of your life to the others, dont let others to end your

dream. Dream your own way, design your mind and shape your life. Great

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After I passed my +2 science, I tried to join UK army. To be honestI didnt have

much interest on that but so as to continue my something like hierarchical

profession I decided to try for the army due to pressure s from my relatives and

joined training and gain interest slowly. But, when I was on my tuition for the

Education I did the best in the class test and our instructor awarded me with the

book which himself had written. On the way to return my home, I thought of

only that scenario. That distracted me from the training and honestly I added

my laziness more. Although , I still was good enough for the army and I went to

measure my chest and finally I couldnt be recruited. Still Im happy now with

what Im. If others could shape us then I should have been in UK army at this

time. But, I now is an University student,. On the other way ,if others could

shape my life then after disqualification I must have been disqualified in my life

and I couldnt have enjoy my life. But , Im more happy these days than I were . I

am happy that I learned to accept the rejection and disqualification. I have my

own dreams , I have my own mind to accept negativity with positive. I have my

own vision to see the positive within everything. Im trying to widen my horizon

in this regard. This book , in fact, is for me and for us. Because I was more

frustrated and dissatisfied to my life.

The authority to your mind is yourself. Cultivate it with positivity , grow it with

patience day by day and live your own peace of life. And finally be able to take

the authority/ownership of your life by yourself.


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Start where you Stand-Berton Braley

Every Morning, You have two choices :-continue to sleep with dreams

or wake up and chase them-

This is one of the famous motivational poems by Berton Braley and one my

personal favorites. This poem urges you to make a habit of doing it now cuz

the best time is always the NOW. This encourages and motivates you to

forget the bitter past and begin the new glory of the life from the verymoment.

Start where you stand and never mind the past;

The past wont help you in the beginning new,

If you have left it all behind at last

Why thats enough, youre done with it,

Youre through;

This is another chapter in the book,

This is another race that you have planned

Dont give the vanished days a backwards

Look,

Start where you stand.

The world wont care about your old

Defeats,

If you can start anew and the win success;

The future is your time, the time is fleet


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Dont just advocate

Geet gaauna ta geet nai gaaunu parchha babu-Narayan Gopal

It is easy to just advocate but not so easy to act so. Your words dont value

much if you truly doesnt change your thinking. But, to change your mind , you

first need a strong commitment and hence patience. You can be a positive

thinker but still it is hard to be a real positive thinker in any condition because

by nature we human are sensitive. But , with our patience we can be a positive

to the level that is enough for our healthy life and healthy relation with all the

people. I say the optimum achievement of the positive thinker is the is called

Buddhahood which is above the manhood.

Honestly , speaking when one of my friend used my laptop and he saw my draft.

He appreciated the work but he said there must be some separate and clear

points on developing the positivity and I took some time for this section as well.

To improve your life you must ensure every aspect of your behavior positive.

Examine and, if necessary, change your thoughts, your beliefs, and your view of

yourself.

In the first section too, the approach is the same. There were the ideas on

developing positivity with their benefits in the first section. But in this section I

am trying to collect some clear ideas on developing positivity. At first , dont just

advocate the words of positivity, make your brain filled with positivity day by

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Play with the positive words and things

Positivity is not gained by a one day work. This takes years of patience. But ,still

we can t be positive in all situations completely. But , to add some positivity onour mind we have to play the game with positive words and lines. For this, Daily

note at least a positive line and word either by yourself or from any other

resources. Stay away from the words and lines that encourage the negativity

and distract your mind. Before you start your day , read the positive lines and

words you have noted and take it seriously. This energize you for the whole day.

Even you can read those lines and words whenever possible. Make your mind

filled with positivity like I can do and I can complete. Before you go tobed, again read the your daily notes. This will help us to develop positive

aspects of life.

Environment :

If you desire to be positive then you must be surrounded with the positive

environment and the circumstances. It will be easier to form the positive during

our formative age however, there is no age block in this regard. The positive

people will let you to see hopes in any bad situation and encourages you but the

negative people always try to make you think down. Try to stay away from the

negative people. But, if you have to stay then also take the chance to learn

positive aspects either analyzing the defects of the negative behaviors in our life

or in any way. Seek inspiration from the mentors.

Education

Both the formal and informal education play a role of great value in developing

your positivity. Get continuously visited to the educational seminars and

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Experiences:

Learn from the mistakes. This means ,learn from the experiences. But, this willbe best to say, learn from your own mistakes and others. We dont have enough

time to make many mistakes to learn them. It be better if we learn from others

mistakes. But, it is not possible for us to not to make any mistakes in our life

time. We must accept them positively and apply this experience for the future.

Books and movies

This days people and children learn more from books , television programs and

movies than from their parents . We can find books of any kind. So, must select

good books to motivate and build our positive beliefs. We must select books

that encourage us to live our life. We must read the books on positive thinking,

motivational books, encouraging stories etc. It will be beneficial if we study

autobiographies of great people whose name are remembered for their good

deed s and encouraging life. They will inspire us to walk the path without

distraction even if we are troubled to maximum. We must be away from the

discouraging books .

In present days, people spend all most time in front of TV regardless of age.

There also variety of TV programs and movies . We must selective in this regard

to. We must stay away from salacious and filthy TV programs. It is good to

watch the movies that let us to visualize the rays of hopes of life at our worst

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Focus on the Positive

You kicked from the back and that fasten me in moving the forward

To integrate positive-thinking strategies fully into your life, you must learn to

apply them in all circumstances, at all times. Only when they are second nature

will you really reap the benefits. Start the day by mentally listing the things that

are going well at work. Pick a time of dayperhaps first thing in the morning or

after workwhere for just a few minutes you sit quietly and focus on the good

things in your life. Make a habit of doing this daily to maintain a positive

attitude. We need to focus on the positive in life. We need to be good finder.

Under stressed condition you may find your positivity starts slip. If this happens

distract your mind from your circumstances causing the slip. Focus and start to

repeat on the affirmation. Smile to create good mental psychology or you can

give yourself letting you fully negative for just ten minutes. And if you find

yourself being gloomy in order to get sympathy, find other, more cheerful ways

of getting attention. Aim to increase the high spots of your life and decrease the

low. This will help you to focus on the positivity in what you do. Practice the

positive thinking strategies until you are using them easily and without effort.

The more positive you are, the more positive you learn to be. Expand the

positive-thinking opportunities in your life. During the day, pick a task, an

interaction, or a journey where you focus on thinking and being positive. Catch

yourself every time you slip into negativity and consciously replace that with a

positive thought. Once you start to succeed, designate areas of your life as

negative-free zones, where you only feel, think, and act positively. Start with the

most stress-free areas of your life and gradually expand your positivity

throughout all areas of your life.[11]

Let's start looking for what is right in a person or situation instead of looking for

what is wrong. Because of our conditioning, we are so attuned to finding fault

and looking for what is wrong that we forget to see the positive picture. Even in

paradise, fault finders will find faults. Most people find what they are looking

for. If they are looking for friendship, happiness and the positive, that is what

they get. If they are looking for fights or indifference, then that is what they get.

Caution looking for the positive does not mean overlooking faults.[12]


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Physical health for positivity

It is widely accepted that there is a link between physical health and mental

well-being. To maintain a positive way of living, you need to support yourmental approach with the right diet, exercise, and stress-reduction program. A

varied and well-balanced diet plays a significant role in maintaining balanced

emotion. You are what you eat. And there is increasing evidence that poor diet

can send your body into a downward spiral of negative emotions. If you eat

foods that make your blood-sugar level soar, that produce an adrenalin rush, or

that trigger food intolerance, you are likely to spend your days on a roller

coaster of emotion. Choose a diet that avoids refined carbohydrates and refinedsugars, and where possible eat unprocessed foods with no additives in order to

avoid bad reactions to artificial colorings and flavorings. Your brain naturally

produces certain neurotransmitters one of whose functions is to help you feel

good. In particular, serotonin keeps you calm, focused, and optimistic, while

dopamine and norepinephrine keep you alert and active. Choose a diet that is

designed to support their long-term production: for serotonin, eat foods rich in

unrefined carbohydrates, such as cereals, pasta, rice, starchy vegetables; fordopamine and norepinephrine, eat foods rich in amino acids, such as chicken,

fish, beef, nuts, and pulses. If you need to lose weight, follow a balanced diet

and exercise more, rather than eating less. Avoid eating too many of the key

foods that may trigger intolerance, such as wheat and milk products.

Balance weight

It is important to keep our weight balanced in order to keep our physical and

mental health positive. There must be scientific proportioning of weight to

height ratio. The healthy proportion of weight to height is 1kg: 1inch. So , it is

important to maintain our balanced weight condition in any way by applying

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Sound sleep

If you are not sleeping properly, you will have difficulty in thinking positively;

lack of sleep creates mental confusion, stress, and depression. Experiment to

find the right amount of sleep for you. If you have difficulty in sleeping, this is

most likely to be due to stress during your day, or a lack of preparation for

sleep. Avoid evening activities that leave you overstimulated, such as watching

scary movies or listening to loud music. Instead, set up a relaxed pre-bed

routine, doing the same things, at the same time. Stick to the same waking and

sleeping hours, if possible. To make sound sleep , you better have make same

time of sleep. You can also wash your hand ,legs and faces before you go the

bed. You also should in the complete darkness and keep your mobiles switched

off.

Getting exercises

If you want to lift your mood, keep moving. Exercise builds healthand a

healthy body is conducive to a happy mind. Exercise helps counteract stress,

and increases the production of feel-good brain chemicals. Create an exercise

regimen that you enjoy and can maintain20 minutes three times a week is a

good basic minimum. It should leave you feeling relaxed and good about

yourself. To keep heart, lungs, and nerves and hence mind daily exercises are to

be done. Daily bathing, swimming, laughing fall under the exercise. Choose a

form of exercise that you likeand do not overdo it. If you are competitive,

play team games. If you like company, find a gym buddy. If you love the

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Control your stress

You will find it difficult to be positive when you are under stress, not only

because your body and mind are on the alert, looking for problems, but also

because you are likely to feel fragile. Be aware of stressat work, in

relationships, or from family mattersand take immediate action to reduce it.

Say no to unrealistic demands. Try to sort out the problems in your life. Take

timea daily half-hour, a weekly half-dayto do off-task things and unwind. Be

aware when stress comes from being underused or bored, and make sure you

are stretching yourself just the right amount in your life. Get support: talk

through problems with someone who can listen and support you. The higher the

number of checks, the more stressed you are. Take action to reduce the stress

in your life so that you are better able to cope with it. The best way to reduce

our stress may be the YOGA. So , get daily involved yoga , sometimes stay with

your family, gather with your friends and go for the visiting new places.

Stay away from smoking and drinking:

One reason that I don't drink is that I want to know when I am having a goodtime- --Lady Astor

Drinking and smoking destroy our health condition and degrade our positive

thinking ability. According to data , more people die from smoking and drinking

than from wars ,accident and natural catastrophes. So , avoid uncontrolled

smoking and drinking to create your positive life. This will also help you to keep

sound relation with people and create sound status on the society which fills

your mind with positivity.

Avoid anger

The most terrible health disease is the anger. This checks your mind to move to

positivity. This is the cause of war and creates bad relation with other. It also

increases blood pressure and cause the health problem to mind and the body.

So, avoid anger. Stay away from the things that induce your anger. Drink a glassof water. Dont remember the events or things that cause anger in your mind.


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limb Till your dreams come true-Helen

Steiner Rice

This poem is the poem of motivation and belief. It encourages us to tackle with

obstacles of life. It teaches us to visualize the positivity. The poem tells that the

courage and belief can overcome insurmountable obstacles. ( Helen Steiner Rice

is the one of the most inspirational poets of all the time)

Often your tasks will be many,

And more than you think you can do.

Often the road will be rugged

And the hills insurmountable, too.

But always remember,

The hills ahead

Are never as steep as they me seem,

And with the faith in your heart

Start upward

And climb till you reach your dream.

For nothing in life that is worthy

Is ever too hard to achieve

If you the courage to try it,

And you have the faith to believe.


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For faith is a force that is greater

Thank knowledge or power or skill

And many defeats turn to triumph

If you trust in Gods wisdom and will

For faith is mover of mountains

Theres nothing that God cannot do,

So start out day with the faith in your heart,

And climb till your dream comes true!


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Be positive to people

Positive thinking means being positive with other people as well as with

yourself. Dealing well with others creates good relationships, and the more

good relationships you have in your life, the more emotionally resilient you are

likely to be. The more connected you feel to other people, the more meaningful

your life seems. All successful relationships are based on mutual respect. So

open up and tell others if they impress you. They will appreciate it more if you

give them details about what you like and if you express your feelings as well as

just your thoughts. Beware of qualificationdo not praise a good performance,

only to compare it with an earlier failure. And remember that regular, drip-fed

compliments is much better than a downpour followed by a drought.

Even if you feel bad about what someone does, avoid heavy criticism. Work off

any critical emotion by writing your feelings out in a letter that you never send

or by imagining a conversation. If you still feel you need to give the person

feedback, begin by pointing out what they have done right, to help them feelconfident. Then, specify what you need them to do, in positives rather than

negatives. Lastly, look for improvement in behavior and reinforce it by praising

as soon as you can.

If someone criticizes you, stay calm. Let your critic say their piece so that they

feel they are being heard. But take on board only what feels right; offset any

hurt by recalling times when you have done well. If you sense the criticism iscorrect, particularly if you have had similar feedback from others, ask your critic

to coach you in improving. This will not only mean you are supported to learn; it

will also get him or her on your side, building a relationship out of a potentially

tense interaction.

When something has gone wrong and you cannot immediately findforgivenessfor yourself or another personlook back carefully at what has

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were valid reasons why you or the other person did what they did, or maybe it

was a difficult time or situation. It could be that what happened actually caused

no harm, or that it is outweighed by good things you or the other person have

done. Perhaps that was the only or best choice of action under thecircumstances at the time.[14]

Most couples disagree with each other sometimes, however content they are;

the happiest couples are those that learn to manage those disagreements and

find winwin solutions wherever possible. The key is to maintain a good mood;

stay calm yourself, and help your partner to stay calm, too, by reassuring him or

her that you still care. Negotiate to resolve the conflict. Find places where your

needs overlap, and reach a compromise.

Once your relationship is under way, be optimistic. Particularly if past

relationships have gone wrong, you may be wary and guarded, constantly

looking for problems. However, this approach is guaranteed to lay the

foundations for a tense, sad partnership. Instead, think the best of your

partner; not only will you bring out the best in them, you will also help them to

feel good about themselves. And be optimistic about your love relationship; youwill then create the energy needed to make it a happy one. Put the emphasis on

enjoyment, having fun together, and making each other feel good.

Being genuinely positive about other people is immensely seductive. If you like

someone, let it show. Pose questions, then listen carefully to the answers. Make

it clear you are interested. Talkwithout taking over the conversationabout

your own thoughts and feelings, to show you trust the other person. Once youhave established that there is some rapport, do not hold back. Instead, be up-

front about wanting to meet again.[15]

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Be confident

Your confident level shows how positive you are about yourself. If want to be

loved, at first love yourself and be positive about you. Positive people are fun tobe with, confident in their own abilities, able to give and take. The end result of

their positive outlook is that they find, develop, and maintain relationships

easily. The more you are positive about the more you can create positive image

and a magical glow will be seen at your face.

To gain love, begin with a strong, positive image of yourself. The more you

believe you are attractive, the more others will believe it, too. Remember that

while appearance is important, most people do not need a partner who is

perfectly good looking or has a stunning figure; confidence and personality are

very much more compelling. Be proud of your appearance and characterand

above all, believe you deserve love.

Let your eyes be straight to face with any problem. If you are confident you can

express what you really want to say. Confident means how positive you are

about you and how much you believe in yourself. Be confident an let yourfeelings and words express fluently so that you can create sound relation with

people and make them to believe in your words.

Finally, from this very moment start a new beginning of your life of the

positivity.

Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can

start today and make a new ending- Maria Robinson


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