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…to understand, to love, to influence, to be influenced & to be heard
ListeningExercise 1 - How well do you listen?
ListeningIntroduction
God, who knows everything, asks questions, invites us to talk & ask for things. Why?
We, who know very little, need to ask for additional reasons
The unity we desire is fostered – in part through listening.
Conflict is best addressed by listening
ListeningThe importance of humility
Flesh problems require humilityBrain problems require humility
Selective attentionMemory formation & recallProjectionLogic/Empathy switchingDecisions are emotional
ListeningGetting to intimacy
Understanding the person
BiologyGenetics
Development
personalitypredilections
BiologyGenetics
Development
personalitypredilections
BiologyGenetics
Development
personalitypredilections
SpiritualityFallenSatan
Redemption
BiologyGenetics
Development
personalitypredilections
SpiritualityFallenSatan
Redemption
Saying what’s experiencedSaying what’s felt
Saying what’s being thoughtSaying what’s wanted
Saying what you’ve done
Intimacy is…
Core beliefs, desires & strategies drive much of what goes on in our inner life
ListeningExercise 2 – mapping the inner life (Johari Window, Understanding Beliefs & Desires)
ListeningTurning toward them
Notice out loud & ask them to interpret
ORLet them have their turn firstReflect & summarizeValidate (leaning out on the rail w/ them)
Exercise 3 – taking turns listening with your body
Exercise 4 – taking turns reflecting & validating
ListeningGetting around their bad habits
Intimacy is saying what I…
Experience
Feel
Think
Want
Did
But what’s presented is…
interpretation
blame
insisting
entitlement
justification
ListeningGetting around their bad habits
When they interpret (mind read)When they blame you for their feelingsWhen they insist their thoughts = reality
When they feel entitled to their wantsWhen they justify their behaviorsOther offensive/defensive habits
ListeningBe offensive/defensiveExercise 5 working around their bad habits (and yours)
ListeningThe importance of personal humility
Getting to intimacyTurning toward themWorking around their bad habits
Q & A