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Here are the top 10 nlp techniques that will propel you from being a Good coach to becoming a Great

coach, and are vital for an NLP Practitioner. Stick around to the end – I’m going to share a crucial

secret with you (no peeking)!

Top 10 NLP Techniques

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1. Meta Model Questioning

Coaching is about powerful communication. The best communication (ergo, the best

coaching) is all in the questions. Ask the right questions and the other person (your

client, your partner, even yourself) is immediately propelled to look at their map of the

world with new eyes.

The NLP Meta Model is a set of language patterns that pays emphasis on the deletions,

distortions and generalizations that occur in everyday language use. We cause many of

our problems by our unconscious use of language, especially when talking to ourselves.

Asking ‘magic questions’ helps pinpoint what problems there are and to immediately

look for their solutions.

2. Modelling

“It’s all well and good to identify what needs to be done, but how does one go about

doing it?” If you think that it’s a lot of hard work to figure out how to achieve

excellence, you may have overlooked one important fact. Somebody out there has

already practiced and demonstrated the very skill you are looking for. In fact, the very

basis of NLP is in “modelling” – somebody who does it better than you currently are

doing. One of the definitions of NLP is, ‘NLP is about Modelling Excellence‘.

So, don’t re-invent the wheel. If you want to be a better coach, or your client wants to be

better at a certain skill, get yourself a genius! Capture the astonishingly effective patterns

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of their unconscious such that a template or blueprint of this excellence can be generated,

and then go get ‘em.

3. New Behaviour Generator

“Okay, I have a model and studied him inside out. Now what?” In order to install their

strategy in to your life permanently, you need to see the biggest truth of reality – YOU

are the director of Your Life! And this is literally an NLP tool you can use. As the

director, you get the actor (viz., you) to behave exactly as you want. Generate automatic

changes in your behaviour by visualising yourself doing what you know will lead to

better results. (And the Oscar goes to…)

This is a basic tool for all good coaches. This strategy is at the heart of mental

rehearsal. Excel at guiding your clients jump in to their new world in their mind’s eye,

and they will respond wonderfully in their outer world.

4. Re-imprinting

Have you ever had that feeling when you are really raring to go, and instantly a deep

fear sets in? “What if things go wrong?” is a common anxiety shared by even those who

you think are most successful and it is generally rooted in one’s past. We are all

imprinted with various experiences throughout life. They act as a template for various

situations, and despite all our preparation, we continue to respond from a place of our

past failures.

Part of re-imprinting is guiding the client to reinterpret their experience of an event. We

may not be able to change the past, but we can change the way that we feel about

it. And we can certainly change the way that the past affects us today.

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5. Changing Limiting Beliefs

Along with the rather messy experiences of life, seated deep in our psyche are limiting

beliefs that we have carved out of our lives. Sometimes, we don’t even notice them and

that is when they are strongest, sabotaging our every activity without our knowledge.

Limiting beliefs prevent you from seeing opportunities and maybe even discourage you

from trying at all.

Anything you say to yourself to justify why it isn’t working out for you is a limiting and

erroneous belief. Remind your clients that the single most significant difference

between the ‘go-getters’ and the ‘procrastinators’ is their belief in themselves. Our

beliefs and expectations shape our perceptions and (through time) the results we get

in life.

6. Memory Dissociation

Changing one’s life for the better will invariably bring up the messy bits of the past. All

those past hurts and disappointments that have not been digested will regurgitate

themselves, crying for attention. It is always essential to work on these memories as

they come up during the coaching session.

Invariably, we tend to re-live memories as an actor within them. The disadvantage of

associating into negative experiences is that you won’t access the learning from

them. Your clients need to realise that negative experiences, just like the positive ones,

occur only for the reason that we’re meant to learn certain lessons from them. These

lessons make us stronger and more mature.

7. Parts Integration

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It is generally around this phase that the habit of procrastination rears its head. “I know I

have to write this blog; I’ll get to it in five minutes…” “I know I have to go to the gym;

I’ll go tomorrow…”

‘Parts’ are values and beliefs in your life that seemingly conflict with one another – one

part of me knows I have to write, the other wants to spend five more minutes trolling

Facebook. But, the thing is that they are both there for a positive intention, and only

seem to get a little confused along the way. You will always find that even seemingly

diametrical opposites such as ‘Freedom’ and ‘Security’ have the same highest positive

intention – a feeling of being at peace. This tool can also be used when making the big

decisions of life, “Should I keep my job or quit and take up birdwatching?”

8. Fast Phobia Cure

“Yay, I got that sale and just have to close it by meeting the client. But I CANNOT take

the elevator! Walls closing in… can’t breathe…” Whoa, relax! The NLP Fast Phobia

cure works by allowing the traumatized individual, whilst in a safe relaxed state, to

reprocess a traumatic event and discharge it completely.

It is also known as the ‘Rewind Technique’ as it involves speedy rewinding of the video

of the event, disconnecting any associated feelings. Rather than continually activating a

terror response to the stimulus, you now feel relaxed and calm. As most of these

problems begin in the mind, the solution exists there as well.

9. Circle of excellence

As we keep working on the negative experiences and beliefs, building positive states of

being is essential. The ‘Circle of Excellence’ is a form of ‘Anchoring’ in NLP enabling

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you to get yourself into the right frame of mind and being, wherever and whenever

you want. When guiding your clients, remember these 3 basic steps:

1. Know how you want to feel – Bring up memories of how you were in the past

when you had experienced the desired state.

2. Design a ‘Circle’ that works as your anchor – Visualise a circle in front of you and

bring up the memories in Step 1. Make it come alive and step in to your Circle.

Whenever you need this state of mind or being, just take a step forward in to your

‘Circle of Excellence’.

10. T.F.A.R

We do everything in life twice – once in our inner world, and again in the outer world.

The process starts with a Thought, which creates a Feeling that propels Action to

achieve Results. Sometimes when someone already believes they can achieve something

in the inner world, all that needs to be addressed is taking the right action needed to get

where they want.

See your destination as a vividly coloured snapshot always in front of you. “What

Thoughts, Feelings and Actions did I take when last I had exceptional results? How do I

apply the same to reach my new destination?”

Now, here’s the secret I promised: The best coaches don’t just use these top 10 nlp

techniques/tools for their clients, they use them first with themselves!

See your highest destiny straight ahead. Hear your inner voice, “Now, that would be

nice!” Smile at the vision and jump right in.

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