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Tried and True Keys for Mentoring. 1. Be a Friend. Mentors are usually described as friends An ideal older brother or sister- Provide gentle guidance Do not be an authority figure Don’t preach your values. 2. Have Realistic Goals and Expectations. Relationships take time and patience - PowerPoint PPT Presentation
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Tried and True Keys for Mentoring
1. Be a Friend
• Mentors are usually described as friends
• An ideal older brother or sister- Provide gentle guidance
• Do not be an authority figure
• Don’t preach your values
2. Have Realistic Goals and Expectations
• Relationships take time and patience
• Primary goal is to create a trusting relationship- Positive changes will follow
• Emphasize friendship over performance
3. Have Fun Together
• Many of the youth have few opportunities for fun
• Simplistic activities
• Introduce them to new experiences
4. Give Mentee Voice and Choice in Deciding Activities
• Let them partner in deciding what the two of you do
• Helps with decision making skills
• They may not be involved at first
• Set clear limits about the amount of money you spend
SEX, POLICTICS & RELIGION
5. Be Positive
• Develop self-esteem and self-confidence
• Be encouraging
• Be yourself- Don’t be fake positive
6. Let the Mentee Control What the Two of you Talk About
• Listening and talking are at the heart of the relationship
• Respect limits
• Don’t push mentee to discuss personal matters
• Some open up quickly and others take time
7. Listen
• Let the mentee talk
• They have a voice that needs to be heard
• Friends listen
• Listening offers emotional support
8. Respect the Trust Your Mentee Places in You
• Be supportive and do not lecture
• Give any advice with a grain of salt
• Sound like a friend, not a parent
• Reassure mentee that you are there for them
• Keep your word
9. Remember that Your Relationship is with the Youth- No One Else
• Do not get involved in family issues
• Do not be judgmental
• Show empathy and support
• Primary focus is on the youth
10. Remember you are Responsible for Building the Relationship
• Be careful not to rush it
• They may be resistant and shy at first- Give it time
• Some may not trust the adults in their life and are testing you
• Maintain contact- Be consistent