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Mc lc

Na ly nc .................................................................................................................... 5

Yu mnh......................................................................................................................... 7Bit mnh......................................................................................................................... 9

y lc ny ................................................................................................................ 13

Tnh Yu ....................................................................................................................... 15

Sc mnh ca t tng ................................................................................................. 18

Khen.............................................................................................................................. 21

T duy tch cc l g ? .................................................................................................. 24

Lut Hp Dn................................................................................................................ 27

Nhng git nc hm nay ............................................................................................ 32Tch cc hay tiu cc? Yu hay th ?........................................................................... 36

T duy tch ccThuc v cuc i.......................................................................... 39

Cc phn bin chng t duy tch cc............................................................................ 42

Nn tng ca t duy tch cc ........................................................................................ 45

Tch cc n mc no ? ................................................................................................ 48

Cng hng tch cc..................................................................................................... 51

Chin u vi chnh mnh ? .......................................................................................... 55

T duy tch cc lm c g cho ta ?............................................................................ 59

Khi no ta cn t duy tch cc nht ?............................................................................ 62

Hnh ng tch cc th no ?........................................................................................ 66

Lm th no tip thu c nhiu kin thc?............................................................ 69

Cng hay nhu? Mnh hay yu? .................................................................................. 72

Lm th no ph phn tch cc ?.............................................................................. 76

Thnh cng l g?.......................................................................................................... 80

Hy t to chi........................................................................................................... 83

Cn quan tm ngi khc nghg v mnh ? ................................................................ 86

Tch cc hay tiu cc nhn t bn ngoi ....................................................................... 89

Phi c danh g vi ni sng ? ...................................................................................... 91

i bin m ci mt mnh .............................................................................................. 95

Lm sao a t nc i ln ? ...................................................................................... 96


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T do u tin v cui cng.......................................................................................... 99

Lm sao a t nc i ln ? .................................................................................... 101

Gieo ht dc ng i................................................................................................. 104

Yu mnh v v ng .................................................................................................... 107

T duy tch cc v chiu su con tim ......................................................................... 109

Xy dng mi trng t duy tch cc......................................................................... 112

Du nhp vn ha nc ngoi ...................................................................................... 115

Hiu v pht trin vn ha dn tc ............................................................................. 118

Lin h gia t duy v hnh ng .............................................................................. 122

Yu thng ci yu ca mnh ..................................................................................... 125

X-tin c nhn.............................................................................................................. 128

Mt s nhn l chn s lnh......................................................................................... 131

Sc mnh trong tnh lng,........................................................................................... 133

Bo trng bn tnh chn tht ....................................................................................... 138

Lm th no bt au kh ?..................................................................................... 142

Hnh Phc Tht .......................................................................................................... 145

Nhng k nng sng ................................................................................................... 148

Lm th no khim tn ?........................................................................................ 152

Kin Nhn l g v lm sao c kin nhn............................................................... 155

Lm th no thnh tht........................................................................................... 158Ngng phn nn, sng thnh tht ............................................................................... 163

T duy tch cc trong kinh doanh............................................................................... 165

Gia tng sng to......................................................................................................... 169

Bo tn v pht huy c tnh ........................................................................................ 172

Ti v khng ti .......................................................................................................... 176

Vng nh hng ca bn rng n u? .................................................................... 178

Ni chuyn th no ? .................................................................................................. 182

Ni trong ni chuyn ........................................................................................... 186Networking ................................................................................................................. 190

Luyn tp to nn hon ho ........................................................................................ 193

Chi n trong ting th thm .................................................................................. 196

Hu x t nhin hng ............................................................................................... 199

Nhng cn bo i ..................................................................................................... 203


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Con ma ngy mai ........................................................................................................ 206

y na ly hay cn na ly?......................................................................................... 209

Phn bin nh th no ? .............................................................................................. 214

au kh v trng thnh ............................................................................................ 216

C mt thi cho mi mc ch di bu tri.............................................................. 219

Tham ........................................................................................................................... 222

Sn .............................................................................................................................. 226

Si ................................................................................................................................. 230

Thc hnh t tm........................................................................................................ 234

Cho Hm Nay ............................................................................................................. 241

Cng phu t duy tch cc v kh khn th thch ....................................................... 246

Cc mc thang t duy tch cc ................................................................................... 248

Ph phn xy dng hay li nhi tiu cc?................................................................... 252

Pht tnh lng mi ngy .............................................................................................. 255

Thuc v nhm no? ............................................................................................... 258

Thuc v th gii..................................................................................................... 261

Kin b ming ci....................................................................................................... 263

Cng tu cng ti .......................................................................................................... 266

Trn trung bnh 6%..................................................................................................... 269

T i vt ...................................................................................................................... 271Teamwork Thm li................................................................................................. 274

C x th no vi ngi chung quanh? ...................................................................... 277

Phn ng lp trnh hay hnh ng t do? ................................................................... 280

Pht trin con ngi, pht trin t nc.................................................................... 283

Gip khu vn t quc .......................................................................................... 286


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Na ly nc

Posted on Thng Hai 7, 2009 by tdhoanhCcbn mn,

Hm nay bn hi hoa xun, nam thanh n t dp du, ci ni xn xao. Nhng ai lmli gia dng ngi, nhn nhng cnh hoa mun sc m nghe lng t ti: Hoa i, saongi c v tnh?

Hm qua tri ma, nhng emb tm ma ci a trong hm nh, i tnh nhn mnhau che d bc trong ma. Nhng ngi cph chchng nhn nhng dng ma nhnhng dng nc mt.

Vy th ma bun hay vui? Hoa v tnh hay hu ?

Ma ch l ma. Hoa ch l hoa. Hoa u c tnh, ma u c bun vui. Chng qua chv lng ngi xung ln, bp bnh, tri ni.

Tt c nhng hin tng bn ngoi, u khng c ngha g t chng c; cc ngha ut t duy ca ta m sinh ra. Ma ch l ma; nu ta cho l ma bun th ma bun, nu tacho l ma vui th ma vui. Nng ch l nng; nu ta cho l nng p th nng p, nu tacho l nng chi th nng chi.

Tt c cc tnh cmvui, bun, gin, ght, yu, thchch l phn ng ca ta i vi svic bn ngoi. Nu chng tr hn m ta cau c phn nn th cngphi, hoc ta ci vuiv kt xe th m chng cng n cho bng c th cngphi. Tr hn ch l tr hn. chngphi l chuyn vui hay bun, tt hay xu. Vui bun ch l phn ng ca ta i vivic tr hn thi.

Na ly nc, nu ni l y na ly th cng ng, m cn na ly th cng ng. ng nocng ng. Tt c ch ty thuc vo s la chn ca chng ta thi. Ta mun t duy tchcc, yu i, mnh m? Hay l mun lm k phn nn, ngi thua cuc?

Vui bun, yu ght, tch cc tiu cc, khngphi t ngoi n. Cng khngphi l bNm

tnh tri sinh. Chng ch l thi quen ca taphn ng li vi cc tc nhn bn ngoi. Nuta quen cu nhu,phn nn, tiu cc, th c i ta lun lun cu nhu,phn nn, tiu cc.(V c l l cng s kt hn vi ngi cu nhu,phn nn, tiu cc. Ni no vung ny).Nu ta quen mm ci, vui v, nng nhit, th c i ta lun lun mm ci, vui v, nngnhit.

V trong hai loi ngi ny,bn bit l ai s thnh cng trong i,phi khng?


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Trnnh Honh 6

Victory!

Bn mi mua mt chic xe my, i c vi hm b tai nn, chic xe nt by, vy lxui hay hn? Nu chic xe nt by m ginybn cn ngi ni chuyn c, th lxui hay hn vy?

Nubn thi hng, khng vo i hc u tin mt c, th l vic tt hay xu?

Nu khng vo c trng y nhng li vo trng lut, bit u li chng l du hiubn hp ngh lut hn v sau ny s thnh cng ln trong ngh lut.

Nu chng c i hc no nhnbn c, c l l du hiubn s phi theo con nglm n ca Bill Gates.

C th l mi ngi chng ta c mt t di truyn t b m. Nhng nu mnh khng chutp t duy tch cc ri c li cho b m v tnh tiu cc mun nm ca mnh, th rt lbt cng cho b m, v bt cng cho c ng tri na Mun bit lm ton th ch ccch l i hc ton m thi.

Nhng lm th no tp c mt t duy tch cc?

Th nht, mm ci c ngy, nht l khi ni chuyn vi ai.


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Th hai, gp bt k chuyn g, d xem ra c v xu cch my, ta cngphi hi: Chuynny c g hay? C g tt? Nubn tm khng ra cu tr li, hi tip cho n khi thy cutr li.

Th ba,bn s khng tm ra cu tr li nubn ni nng, mtbnh tnh, than khc,phn

nn. Tr c con ngi khng th lm vic tt trong nhng iu kin kh khn nh th. Vvy, ung vi ngm nc, ngn nga mtbn nhc, i b vi ba vng, trc v trong khihi.

Th t, lun lun tm n ci tt, ci hay, ci ng thng cm ca ngi khc, vng c ch tm vo ci xu, ci ng ght ca h. Ai cng c mt ci g ng chomnh thch, ng cho mnh thng cm. Nubn khng thy c im no ng yu,ngphc, ng cm thng trong mt ngi no , th nht nh l u c cabn cvn , cha bit cch suy ngh chnh xc.

Ch gin d th thi. V luyn tp s a n ton thin (practice makes perfect). C

tp hoi th mt lc no bn ch c th t duy tch cc, v u c cabn mt c khnng t duy tiu cc. Lc l lc i cng co thnh.

Chc ccbn mt ngy vui v.

MnHonh

Stumble It!

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ng trong: Tr m | Th: tch cc, yu i

Yu mnh

Posted on Thng Hai 9, 2009 by tdhoanh

Cho ccbn,

Nu ta mun yu thng tch cc vi th gii v i sng ny, trc ht taphi thngyu chnh mnh. Nu mnh khng yu thng qu mn chnh mnh th lm sao mnh cth yu thng qu mn ngi khc c?

Mi ngi chng ta l mt ch th c bit, vi hnh dng, c tnh v tm tnh c bit.Trong gn 7 t ngi trn th gii, khng ai ging ta c. Trong cc th nghim v DNA,ch t hn 1% ca mt genome c th nghim, nhng kt qu t cc th nghim nycng cho thy chi hai ngi trn th gii c DNA ging nhau l di 1 phn triu.


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Nu ton genome c th nghim th xc xut ny cn gim xung t nht l 100 ln,tc l 1 phn trm triu. ( l tnh theo ng thng, nuphi tnh theo cp s nhn thxc sut c th nh n mc khng th tng tng). V ch l ni n DNA, nuthm vo kinh nghim, tm tnh v tnh cm ca mi ngi, th chi hai ngitrn th gii hon ton ging nhau l zero.

Tt c cc tn gio u nng niu tn trng i sng con ngi. Trong cc tn gio thuctruyn thng Moses (Do thi gio, Thin cha gio, v Hi gio), con ngi c thng to ra theo hnh nh ca ngi. Trong Pht gio, c lm ngi kh nh mt con racht mt, c mi trm nm mi ngc u ln khi mt bin mt ln, v tm cch chui uvo l nh ca mt khc g tri lnh bnh trn mt nc, b gi ng, gi Ty, gi Nam,gi Bc thi tri dt ht phng ny n phng khc.

c lm ngi l mt vinh d kh c nh vy, c lm chnh mnh li l mt vinh dcng him c hn. Vy th sao mnh li chng vui mng v chnh mnh? Ti sao mnh lichng vui mng v i sng ca mnh? Ti sao mnh li chng yu thng chnh mnh?

Ta khng th yu thng v qu trng ngi khc nu ta khng yu thng v qu trngchnh mnh. Mun yu ngi khc, taphi yu ta trc. T bi h x l tnh yu ca ta ivi ngi khc, nhng thc hnh, taphi pht lng t v chnh ta trc, sau mimang lng t n c vi mi ngi. V yu ngi th yu nhchnh mnh ta vy.

Vn v nhthng!

Nhng yu mnh l yu th no?


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, cch d nht l bn hy ngh n mt ngi m bn yu nht trong gia nhb, m,anh, ch, emhay l c hng xm cng c, nubn mib ting st i tnh ngy hmqua Ngi m bn yu thng nht ,bn mun ngi y lm g cho chnh mnh?Bn mun ngi y:

Vui v ti ci (hay nhn nh phn nn) c ngy?i chuyn lc no cng khen (hay lc no cng ch)?Yu i (hay thy i l y a)?i chuyn v hm nay v ngy mai (hay c li nhi chuyn 30 nm v trc mi ngy)?Thy mnh c li ch cho nhng ngi chung quanh, t ra l nhng ngi thn trong gianh, (hay thy i mnh v ngha l)?Gi gn sc khe (hay n chi v )?Hot ng (hay thn th l ng)?n ung cNn thn (hay c a mi th vo ming m khng cn bit chng s lm g chothn th)?

Mi ngi chng ta c nhng thch khc nhau v c l l cng yu hi khc nhau mtt. Nhng c l bn hiu ? C nhng g mnh mun thy ni ngi mnh yu, th hyt lm trc i . Bit u v mnh c lm, m ngi kia li chng lm theo? Gn mcth en, gn n th sng.

Chng ta hay ni ti yu b m anh em, ti yu gia nh, ti yu thy c, ti yu ngbo, ti yu t nc. Nhng c bao gi bn ni Ti yu chnh ti khng? Chng ta skhng bao gi i n ch nu chng ta khng bit im khi hnh.

V yu khngphi ch l li ni. Cng khngphi ch l cm tnh. Phn ln nht ca tnhyu l hnh ng bn .


Mn,

Honh

Stumble It!



Bit mnh



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Trnnh Honh 10

Ccbn mn,

Bn trm nm trc cng nguyn, Socrates li hai t bt t, vng vang sut my ngnnm lch s trit l ty phng: Bit mnh (gnthi seauton, know thyself). Bit vchnh mnh tc l bit v con ngi, tc l bit v i sng v ngha ca n. Binhphp

Tn gia ni: Bit mnh bit ngi, trm trn trm thng. Nhng nu ta thc s bit rv ta, th c l l ta cng bit gn ht v ngi ri, v ngi vi ta c l ging nhaukhong 90 phn trm v ch 10 phn trm l khc nhau.

Nhng bit mnh khngphi l vic d. Benjamin Franklin vit: C ba iu cng/kh-khn (hard) nhtthp, kim cng, v bit chnh mnh. i khi ta c cm tng l tabit rt r v chnh mnh. Tuy nhin, bit c ngha l kim sot c. Nu ta bit chtrm s suy ngh v hnh ng nh th no, ng nhin l ta khng th b trm. Nhng bao nhiu lnb hng xm ch ni mt cu nghe hi chanh chua l ta bc la hnghc tc th, trc khi kp suy nghNn ni gin khng? bao nhiu ln ta bit l nnlm ha vi hn, nhng h thy mt hn th ta li ch mun tt cho hn mt ci, th l ta

li bc sang hng khc? bao nhiu ln ta bit khoe khoang l khng hay, nhngvn tip tc khoe khoang?

H thn kinh, h suy tng ca chng ta, c lp trnh theo thi quen. C th m chy,khng cn ta iu khin, m thng th cng khng cho ta iu khin. Mt s cc thiquen ny ta c th thy c. Mt s thi quen khc, nht l thi quen v cm tnh, ta chlm theo m khng bit. Chng hn, ni lo th tim p khc i mt t, hoc nghe iu glm ta lo lng th li ti mt, m hi. Hoc l, ni v mnh th c t nhin thm thtmt t.

Cung cch suy ngh v hnh ng ca mi ngi chng ta c lp trnh bng qu

nhiu iu: H thng tm sinh l t nhin, di truyn, thi quen hc c t b m anhem, gio dc, kinh nghim, v.v Tt c nhng iu ny to nn c tnh ca ta. C tnh ltng hp ca tt c cc thi quen ta c. V cc thi quen ny va to nn c tnh, va lnhng bc mn che ta trongbng ti ca chnh mnh.

Bit c chnh mnh tc l bit c tt c nhng thi quen g ang xy ra trong mnh,ang hnh ng trong mnh, v tm cch iu khin chng, khng cho chng iukhin mnh. Bit mnh tc l lm ch c chnh mnh.

Nhng lm th no bit mnh?

Cch t nhin l mnhphi lng yn quan st mnh. Mun bit v con ve, ci kin, haybt iu g , th ch c cch l quan st tht k thi. Mun bit v chnh mnh cng th,ta c phi quan st chnh mnh. V nu khng th va quan st con kin va nhy rockand roll, th ta cng ch c th quan st chnh mnh trong yn lng.

Yn lng l iu kin cn thit quan st. V bi v yn lng qu him hoi trong thii chy ua n o ca chng ta, quan st chnh mnh tr thnh qu kh khn , v vynhiu ngi khng c chi thy c mnh mt cch r rng. y l iu m nh Pht


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gi l v minh, v mt s trit gia v x hi hc gia ty phng gi l vong thn(alienation).

Tnh lng v bnh yn

Vy th iu u tinbnphi lm l tm mt t yn lng mi ngy quan st mnh.Ngi yn trong mt gc cng vin thanh vng, hay ng caphng ng v tt nhc,

ng nhin l bt i c mt t n o, nhng cha chc nh vy l yn lng. Bi vtrong u chng ta thng c nhiu ting ng, nhl bn rn suy tnh cng vic, lolng, gin ai , bc mnh iu g . Ch khi no cc ting ng ny lng xung, lc ta mi c c yn lng. cng chnh l l do m cc nh o hc ng phngthng dy ngi ta xp bng v tp trung t tng vo vic theo di hi th. Kinhnghim cho thy y l cch hu hiu nht lm cho cc ting ng trong u mnhlng xung. Cc tn gio ty phng thng tm s tnh lng trong cu nguyn. cngl mt cch rt hay.

Bn c th tm bt k cch no hp vibn. iu ct yu l tnh lng. Nubn tp trungt tng vo vic quan st mt bng hoa p chng hn, quan st mu sc, cch hoa,

nhy hoa, cc kt cu ca hoa, cng c th lm cho cc ting ng khc bin dn i.Hay l nghe nhc nh v tm vo nhc mt t.

Khi c yn lng ri, bt u quan st mnh. C hai cch quan st.

1. Quan st qu kh:hn li mi vic mnh lm, mi cu mnh ni, mi suy ngh mnhc trong ngy. Quan st xem mnh lm iu g khng nn lm, v cn thay i phongcch v thi trong tng lai khng. y ch l cch rt sng.


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2. Quan st mnh trong hin ti: C ba giai on quan st quan st thn th, quan stcm gic, v quan st t tng.

Quan st thn th l nhm mt, dng tr c nhn thn th mnh, nhn th ngi hay thnm ca mnh, nhn tay chn, mt mi, tc tai ca mnh.

Sau quan st cm gic, bt u l cm gic trong thn th nh t tay, nga chn, rin cc cm gic trong u c nh bun, vui, gin, bc mnh, trng khng, v.v K quan st c l do m mnh c nhng cm gic , nhl ai hi chiu ni mt cu mti nay mnh cn cm thy bun bun.

Giai on cui cng l quan st t tng, nhn xem ci u mnh ang suy tiu g,nhl mnh ang bc mnh v c ny v ang c ao c mng c ta mt trn, haymnh ang ngh n vicphi vit xong t trnh ngy mai.

Ch gin d vy thi. Nu ngy no trc khi ng ta cng c khong 10pht tp nh th,

th ta s luyn cho h thn kinh ca mnh nhn din cc cm xc v t tng ca mnhmi khi chng xut hin. V nhn din c tc l c th kim sot c. Thngthng vic nhn din t n c hiu qu ngn nga, cng nhk trm t ng ngngtrm khi hn bit l ngi ta nhn din c hn l tn trm.

Cc thc tp trn y da mt t theo thin T Nim X ca pht gio nguyn thy.Thin ny c bn quan st: Thn th, cm gic, t tng v v tr. y ta ch cn dng3 bc u v mnh m thi. Hn na, cc v s thng ngi xp bng thin nh. Tuynhin, nubn ngi xp bng m trong lng th c tng tn ging nm v gi m,thi th ln ging nm m gi cho c vic. iu quan trng l tnh lng v quan st,ch khng nht thit l ngi, nm hay i.

Bn ch cn tp quan st chnh mnh nh th, mt lc no bn s thy c nhng gxy ra trong mnh mi khi chng n v bn c th lm ch chnh mnhkhng d ninng, khng d lo s, khng d mtbnh tnh. Lc no cng tnh lng v ch ng. Vnu c ai thybn ni nng, khngphi l v bn b ni nng m bn c tnh ra vni nng, v lm nh th th ngi kia mi chu nghe.


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Stumble It!




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Trnnh Honh 13

y lc ny


Cho cc bn,

Ngi ln tui th hay sng bng qu khnhng thng ngy thn thng xa xi yngi tr tui th hay sng bng tng lainhng c m, nhng mc tiu ca imnh. Chng my ai trong chng ta sng vi hin ti. Nhng nu suy nghcho cng tnth ta ch c mt thi im sng, l lc ny, v mt ni sng, l ni ny. Nmpht trc l qu kh, tc l ch mt t tng trong tm ta. Nm pht sp ti th chan, li cng ch l mt t tng. Ch c lc ny l tht. Vy th ch c mt cch sng thtm thi. l sng lc ny, ngay y.

Ni n y chc chn l vi bn s thc mc ngay: Vy ch hm nay nng ri chim phi au kh t chi, v cn phi lo lm bi, vy chng phi l hc cho tng lai sao?

Ai li ch bit i xi n vi nng th sng hn l lm ngi hng c n vi my quynsch. Dnhin l ng, v hu nh ai trong chng ta cng phi lo cho tng lai nh th,khng nhng l tng lai ca mnh m cn l tng lai ca nhng ngi thn, ca ccem, ca vcon, trong gia nh. Tuy nhin, k hoch cho tng lai ch l mt d tnh, mtt tng trong u c. thc hin k hoch tng lai, ch c mt cch duy nht l sngv thc hin n trong hin ti, vo lc ny, ti ni y. Abraham Lincohn ni: iu haynht ca tng lai l tng lai chn mt ngy mt ln. V ngy l ngy hm nay.

Hm nay c rt nhiu iu trong i sng mnh. Nu bn dnh tt nghip trong nmnm, th ngy hm nay ch c 1 phn 1825, tc l khong 0,55 phn ngn ca k hochtt nghip nm nm. Bn cnh cn cc vic khc hm nay, nh lin h vi ngi

trong gia nh, tp th thao, lm vic t thin, nghngi, v.v Nu mnh gt tt c mis qua mt bn v ch ch tm vo my quyn sch cho k hoch tt nghip, tc l mnh khng sng cho ngy hm nay. Nu cn i hc th c th l bn khng thy c taihi r rng nh nhng ngi lp gia nh. Bao nhiu ph n tm s rng ng chngtng gim c ca mnh mi ham m cng vic m khng h ng ngng g n vcon?Bao nhiu gia nh v? V nu ni n sinh vin, th bao nhiu gio si hc vlnh o cng ty phn nn l sinh vin ra trng nhng chng bit g ngoi my quynsch?

l cha ni n stress. Nhng c gng thng xuyn qu mc, thiu ngh ngi, s tora stress thng xuyn, lm cho ngi ta thay i tm tnh qua hng lnh lng hp tp,

v trong trng k gy ra nhiu bnh cht ngi. Trong thp nin 1980, M ai cng catng c tnh hng A (type A personality). y l loi ngi thng minh v chy vi vntc Apollo. H l nhng ngi thnh cng nht trong thi . Tuy nhin sang n thpnin 2K ny, loi ngi type A ng cht, bt qu, b bnh tim, cng nh cc loi bnhhim ngho khc, nhiu hn cc loi ngi khc rt nhiu. Vy th ?


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Trnnh Honh 14

Anh khe khng?

Nhng sng hm nay, ngay y, c ngha l g?

C ngha l (1) tm dn nhng g quanh mnh, v (2) lm iu g th tm n iu.

tm n nhng g quanh mnh ngha l, nu ngi trong nh, bn cnh l vv a congi, th ng c qun mt vcon, m ch quan tm n tin tc trn TV hay cng vic chongy mai. Nu c ngi bn b bnh, n nh thm mt t v ngi ni chuyn mt hi,thay v ch t th trong th vin. Bc ra ng, n con ng mnh ang i, nvm cy bi c, nh nng, v tn hng ci p, ci sc sng, ca ph phng ngpnng.

Lm iu g tm n iu ngha l nu gp ai, ci cho v hi Sao, lc ny khekhng? th ch tm vo cu hi, v lng nghe cu tr li. C l ai trong chng ta cng qu quen thuc n cc cu cho hi x giao m, nhn phong cch ngi hi, mnh cngbit l chng ta chng h quan tm n cu hi ca chng cng nh cu tr li ca ta.Trong mt bui tic ng ngi, gp mt ngi bt tay cho hi lm quen, th ch tmvo cu chuyn vi ngi , tht s lng nghe nhng g h ni, tht s tr chuyn, thayv cp mt lo lin, lin tc qut vng vng quanh phng tic, xem c ai mnh cnphi chy li bt tay network khng. C l ai trong cng ta cng thy loi tc phongny lun lun hin din trong cc bui lin hoan ca cc chuyn gia v doanh nhn. Sngnh vy tht l qu hi ht. V iu m h khng bit l sng nh vy th cng chngmang n thnh cng g c.

Chm li mt t, quan tm n mi trng chung quanh, quan tm n giao tip vingi chung quanh, sng thc bng qu tim v tm tr ca mnh, d ch l trong nhng


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cu x giao bnh thng. l sng lc ny, y. Li sng ny rt l th cc bn a.Th nht, mnh hng th s sng trong tng giy pht trong ngy. Th hai, mnh khngnhiu stress. Th ba, u c mnh sng sut hn ngi bnh thng, tnh u trng .Th t, mnh c lin h su m vi nhiu ngi chung quanh, c nhiu bn b yu qu,m cng nhiu bn qu th cng nhiu thnh cng trong i. Th nm, con ng n

tng lai ch l mt chui ca nhng ngy hm nay. Nu mi ngy hm nay c tasng tn tm, th con ng n tng lai mi c xy dng tht l chc chn. Th su,ba mi nm sau mnh s khng ni: Phi chi

Chc cc bn mt ngy vui v.

Mn,Honh

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Tnh Yu


Cho cc bn,

Nhn dp Ngy Valentine, mnh xin chia s vi cc bn ba cu ni v tnh yu m, theothin ca mnh, l ba trong nhng cu ni v tnh yu su sc v mnh m nht, nukhng phi l ba cu su sc v mnh m nht, trong kho tng vn ha th gii.


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Chc cc bn mt Ngy Tnh Yu du ngt.

***

Thng l tnh yu. 1 John 4:8***

Khng c tnh yu no ln hn tnh yu ny, l hy sinh thn mng ca mnh cho bnmnh. John 15:13

***

Nu ti ni c mi ngn ngca loi ngi v ca cc thin thn, nhng khng ctnh yu, ti chl ci cng vang di hay ci ching n o.

Nu ti c ti tin tri v c thqun thng mi huyn nhim v mi tri thc, v nu ti cc tin c thchuyn di ni non, nhng khng c tnh yu, ti chng l g c.

Nu ti tng ht ti sn cho ngi ngho v x thn trn dn ha, nhng khng c tnhyu, ti chng c g c.

Tnh yu l kin nhn, tnh yu l du dng.

Tnh yu khng ghen ti, khng khoe khoang, khng kiu hnh.

Tnh yu khng khim nh, khng v k, khng nhy gin, khng chp trc.Tnh yu khng vui sng trong ti li, nhng hn hoan vi stht.

Tnh yu lun lun bo v, lun lun tin tng, lun lun hy vng, lun lun kin tr.

Tnh yu khng bao githt bi.

1 Corinthians 13: 1-8


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Nhn y mnh xin php cc bn cho mnh lm mt vic c tnh cch c nhn mt t.Thng thng l mnh hay tm cch lm qu tng, thay v mua qu tng ( l tnh tntin hc c t m hi cn nh ). Hm nay dch my cu ny v tnh yu, mnh munmang ra lm qu Valentine cho b m (Phng) y. Mong cc bn cng hoan h vimnh.

C ba cu ny u nm trong Thnh Kinh (Bible). Mnh dch t bn New InternationalVersion. Nu bn no thy c cu no u su sc v mnh m hn th xin chia svi mi ngi, bng cch comment y. Xin mun vn cm t.


Happy Valentines!

Honh


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Stumble It!


Sc mnh ca ttngPosted on Thng Hai 13, 2009 by tdhoanh

Cho cc bn,

C l ai trong chng ta cng nghe rt nhiu chuyn v nhng ngi c lnh bnhmt cch k l, hoc l php l do cu nguyn, hoc l tin rng mnh ung thuc thntrong cc trc nghim v tm l. T tng tch cc c kh nng tng cng sc mnh cah thng min nhim, i khi n mc trthnh php l. V vy, ngy nay bc sthngkhuyn khch cc bnh nhn nn cu nguyn (nu h c lng tin tn gio), v khuyn

khch thn nhn ngi bnh nn chm nom, lm cho h yu i, chng bnh. Cng vvy m thnh thong ta vn thy c ngi lm chng rt thnh tht rng Thy Nm Nginy cha ti lnh bnh kinh nin, 20 nm nay khng ai cha ht, mc d l iu tra rath thy ch c mt cch cha cho mi bnh nhn l phun nc l vo ngi ca h. Hmnay, chng ta s ni n vic s dng sc mnh phi thng ny ca t tng vo cucsng hng ngy to nn thnh cng trong cuc sng.

I. T tng c thnh hng n i sng v thnh cng (hay tht bi) ca ta trn rtnhiu cp khc nhau. Cp u tin l t tng nh hng ht mc tp trung nnglc ca mnh. Nu cu hc tr tin rng mnh s thi u, quyt tm thi u, th ngnhin l cu ta hc hnh chm ch hn cu hc tr c tin l mnh s rt. Mt ngi tin

rng mnh c nhiu ci hay, ci gii, v chc chn l s thnh cng trong i, th h s cthi tch cc, vui v, yu i mi ngy. iu ny lm chnh h nng ng hn vngi khc cng thch th h hnngi vui v tch cc lun lun hp dn ngi khc,d l cng phi hay khc phiv vy, hng nhin l s nhiu chi thnh cngtrong i.

Ti y ta c th nghe mt thc mc quen thuc: My a ngi mu, tri sinh chngn p, cho nn d dt hay gii th vn thnh cng, cn em th ci g cng trung bnh haydi trung bnh, lm sao m b c? Dnhin ri, lm sao m b c? i khngnn so b vi ngi khc, v mi ngi chng ta l mt ch thc bit, vi mt conng sng c bit. So b vi ngi khc th chng khc no so snh qu cam vi qu

to. Thnh cng ca ngi khc khng phi l thnh cng ca mnh. Hn na, ngay c tthnh cng cng rt l tng i v ngha. Thng thng ngi ta nghrng tin bc,a v, tn tui l thnh cng. Nhng nu hi cc v ti t ni ting t t cht, v nuc th mp my c vi cu by gi, c l l chng v no ng vi nh ngha thnhcng .

Mi ngi chng ta c mt mc ch trong i sng, nh thnh bc sgii phNu, lm chmt tim ph, thnh ngi mu, v.v t c mc ch th tm gi l thnh cng.


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Nhng ch l tm thi, v mt lc no , c th l sau bao nm tranh u trnng i, ta s thy rng mc ch tht m ai cng mun l hnh phc, m hnh phckhng phi tu ra c, hnh phc ch l mt trng thi bnh an trong tm tng. Chngta s ni thm v hnh phc trong nhng dp khc, hm nay ta ch nhc n mt t nirng thnh cng l mt nim rt tng i, ng c so b mnh vi thnh cng ca

ngi khc, l mt so snh cc k sai lm.V so b rng ci g ca mnht sc p n ging ht n tr thng mnhu trungbnh hay di trung bnh, cho nn kh m thnh cng, th li l mt sai lm rt ln khc.ng tri rt cng bnh, a s mi ngi trn th gii u sn sn nh nhau, chng ai thcs tri hn ngi khc, c ci ny mt ci kia. Bn c th c nng khiu no hnngi m cha khm ph ra thi. i c c nghn cng vic khc nhau, chu ch cmt hai ngh. Hn na, mt v tng ti vn c thiu khin mt on qun ch ton lngi trung bnh thnh mt on qun bch chin bch thng. Nhng th trung bnh cthc tng hp thnh mt tng hp phi thng nu ta bit tng hp. Tt c cc mn ntuyt ho bn thy trong tim chung qui cng ch l mm mui tiu ti ai cng bit,

nhng cc bc u bp bit cch tng hp m ta khng bit. Vy thi.Mi ngi chng ta c to ra vi mt s vn ling th cht v tinh thn. Nhim v cata l dng vn ling mt cch thng minh sinh li. Nu ngi i bun m c chorng vn ling mnh khng lm n, th l cha nh thua, lm sao m lmn g c? a s cc i gia thng mi u k cho bn rng lc khi u h chng cmt t vn ling no c.

Vit Nam V ch

II. T duy tch cc lm cho chnh mnh trthnh vui v, tch cc, nng ng. T mnhc nng lc t nhin lm cho ngi khc tin tng v cm phc, v h s mang n cngvic v chi cho mnh. Nhng, t duy tch cc cng c nhiu cp . Ta cn phi bitmnh ang cp no, v c gng n cp cao hn. V d: Ti khng mun ngho thkhng tch cc bng ti mun giu. Ti khng mun bo th khng tch cc bng ti


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mun ngi thon th. Ti khng mun nng gin th khng tch cc bng ti munlun lun du dng.

Trong cc v d trn y, mi cu c hai v. Vu tin l v tiu cc v dng th phnh (khng) v nhng ch tiu cc, tc l ch chn ci ta khng mun (ngho,

bo, nng gin). Ngc li, v sau ca mi cu rt tch cc v dng th xc nh(mun) v nhng ch tch tc, tc l ch chn ci ta mun (giu, thon th, dudng). Nu bn c t bo mnh ti khng mun bo c th l bn s cn bo rt lu, vtim thc bn c b nhi vo ch bo, t tim thc c hot ng theo li bo, lmcho bn khng hng hi v ngh lc i hng thon. Khng mun ngho haykhng mun nng gin cng th. Ch no ta nhi vo tim thc (bo, ngho, nnggin), th tim thc c theo hng m lm.

V vy, tt c mi suy t, mi ch dng trong cch suy ngh, mi nh lut vn phmtrong nhng cu ni m thm trong u mnh, u phi tch cc. Th xc nh l th tchcc nht, v d thng xuyn nht l Ti mun V ch no xc nh ci ta mun l

ch tch cc nht, v d, giu, thon th, du dng. Khi tim thc nhn cc ch ny thngxuyn, tim thc c theo hng m i, v t nhin l ta s thy hng hi vui sng itheo hng .

III. T duy tch cc cn i xa hn na v cho rng tng lai vn cn rt yu so vi hinti, v hin ti thng l nhng g ta sm c. V vy, ti mun giu (tng lai) vncha tch cc, ta phi nghrng ti ang giu (hin ti) th mi mnh m. C xnh mt b hong, v ngi ta s c x vi bn nh mt b hong. C ngha l, c nghrng mnh l ngi thnh cng, n ni i ng suy t nh ngi thnh cng, ri tnhin cuc i s mang n thnh cng cho mnh.

iu ny mi ni ra nghe c v hi l lng. Tuy nhin, trong thc t n li cc k hiuqu. V d: Thay v ngi c sch qun l ci hy vng s thnh nh lnh ogii, ngy hm nay bn cng ra mi gi bn b t chc mt CLB g , ng nhinbn thnh ngi lnh o hm nay ca nhm (d trn thc t chc danh l g, k cchc danh chy lng xng chuyn). Vic tt trn vai mnh gnh nng ngi xydng nhm s bin bn thnh mt lnh o ti ba mt ngy no , m nu c c sch50 nm th cng khng lm c.

y ta thy tin trnh tp luyn qua mt bc nhy vt rt ln. T vic tp trung ttng tch cc v ti mun trong tng lai, ta i t duy thnh ti ang tronghin ti, v ti ang t nhin thc Ny ta n hnh ng ngay. T t duy n hnhng l mt bc nhy, xem ra rt gin d vi mt s ngi, nhng i vi nhiu ngi, l bc nhy m ci h, cho n khi nhm mt, h vn khng dm lm.

Nu bn c lng tin nh ch bng mt ht ci, bn c th bo ngn ni ny di i nikhc, v n s di i. Bn nghe cu ny c quen thuc khng? Bn c tin vo chnhmnh, d vi lng tin ch bng mt ht ci khng?

Chc cc bn mt ngy vui v!


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Mn,

Honh

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Khen


Cho cc bn,

i vi ngi Vit chng ta th c l nhng ngn tc s dng tn tin nht, tn tinn mc keo kit, l nhng li khen. R l Li ni khng mt tin mua, t do m nimin ng c khen.

n slm thy c bn mc chic o p, mi mming Tri, hm nay Vn p qul my qu v cng phng bt u nheo nheo mt Hmm coi b bt u th cu.V nh mi khen thng con trai cha ht mt cu, b ch Anh c lm h con.Thng cho roi cho vt, ght cho ngt cho bi. C nh vy con ci n ln ngi trn u.(Qu vi, qu v c ght th xin cho mt hp s-c-la, nht l loi made in Switzerland.

Mnh ha l s khng leo ln u qu v). trng th dc n bt tai hn l c mtli khen. i lm, mnh lm vic gii n mc vn phng ca mnh mi vic tri chy,chng c x-cng-an g bao gi, th chng ai thm . Hi c ai phn nn by b,th c nc nho v da.

Nu mi ngy, tng s t ta ni trong ngy chia ra ng 50% khen v 50% ch, th l qun l v gio dc na ma. Nu ch 75% v khen 25%, l qun l v gio dcbng stress. Nu khen 75% v ch 25%, l qun l v gio dc bng mch nha. Trongvn ha thng cho roi cho vt ca ta, tng li khen ln n mc na ma l khkhn lm ri, ni chi l mch nha. Bn c mun ng hng xm mang ci roi my bnglng n t thng tay my ci vo mng bn, ri mming ci huynh huch, khoe

chic rng vng lp le, Ti yu ch lm chi , khng? Th th ti sao bn li tin rngbn c them th thut p dng cho con ci, thn nhn, bn b?


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Khuyn khch em

M mnh cng khng hiu truyn thng thng cho roi cho vt ny n tu. Mt

ln, lu lm ri, trong mt bui c-ph m trong mt qun nhuy l s thc, voqun nhu nhng gi c-phmt ngi bn ca mnh l gii: Ti nghc l l tvn ha Pht gio. Lm nh vy tp cho tr con bit dp ci ti ca mnh xung.Mnh tr li ngay l mnh khng thy Pht gio c mi , chng ni l c r.Pht hc rt coi trng nhn cch ca mi c nhn v dy ngi ta rng mi ngi chngta, k c nhng ngi xem ra t hi nht, u c Pht tnh trong lng, u l Pht-ang-thnh, v nht nh l mt ngy no kip ny hoc mt kip sau no sc othnh Pht. L thuyt v ng ca nh Pht dy chng ta ng chp vo ci ng camnh, ng kiu cng hm hnh, ch khng ni l phi coi thng, ch p v nh pn. Hn na, gio dc nh Pht l t gio dc, t gii thot, ch khng phi do ngikhc cm cy p.

Theo mnh ngh, chc chn l khi my ch ba bn Trung quc sang h tin nhn tamy ngn nm v trc, nu cc ch thng minh mt t (v dnhin l cc ch rt thngminh), chc chn l cc ch phi tay th qut roi vo dn bn x, ming th Ng i l a.Ng i l a. n thi cc anh Ph-lang-sa th nht thit phi l tay th bt tai ming thje taime. Nht nh phi l nh vy, v bn cht chnh tr ca h v n l ha phil nh th. V nu ngy nay ta vn cn yu qu phng php va bt tai va I love youny th phi l hi chng Stockholm.

C l l khng cn ni nhiu th chng ta ai cng bit tm quan trng ca tnh t trngtrong vic pht trin nng lc hot ng v kh nng sng to ca con ngi. T trng

l t tn trng mnh. Tc l mnh phi thy mnh c ci g ng tn trng. M lm saothy c ci g ng tn trng trong mnh khi mnh c b ph phn, roi vt, hng ngy?Cch thng thng nht chng ta thy c ci hay ca mnh l nhngi khc vchra: Tri, mt chp qu, chic o ny hp vi ch qu, ch thng minh qu c,ch gii ngoi giao qu. D l ngi ln hay l tr em, rt kh pht trin tnh ttrng khi ti ngy chc nghe n ci yu ca mnh m chng thy ai ni mnh cim no hay c.


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Khuyn khch

Dnhin l li ta khen lm cho ngi c khen tch cc v yu i hn. Nhng i vinhng ngi thc tp t duy tch cc, li khen li cn quan trng nhiu hn na, v likhen tng ngi khc nh hng trc tip n tduy ca chnh ta. Th nht, li ta

khen ngi khc s cho chnh ta bit rng ta t tin. Bi v ch c ngi t tin mi khenngi khc, ngi khng t tin th ghen ght v thng bi mc ci yu ca ngi khc.Th hai, ch c ngi tch cc trong t duy mi thy c nhiu ci hay ci p cangi khc m khen. Nu khng t duy tch cc th khng th thy ci g hay pc. Th ba, khen ngi khc tc l nng ngi ta ln, m nng ngi khc ln ngnhin c ngha l gim ta xung. Ngha l, ch c ngi khim tn trong lng mi haykhen ngi khc. Thiu khim tn th rt kh m khen. Th t, cng yu nhiu ngichung quanh, ta cng thy nhiu iu hay p ca h v cng mun tn dng h bngli. Cc cp tnh nhn u nh th. l bn tnh con ngi. V vy nu ta t khen, hyt hi: Thc s l mnh c yu ai chung quanh mnh khng y? V vy , trc khi likhen tc ng nh l mt phng cch gio dc v qun li vi ngi khc, ngay lc

cn dng t tng trong u ta, trc khi ni ra, li khen dnh cho ngi khc lphng thuc thn diu cho chnh ta v l thc o cho chnh ta. Khen ngi nhngthc ra l luyn tp tm mnh.

trn, chng ta c ni n gio dc v qun l mch nha vi 75% khen v 25% ch,nhng ch l mc thp. n mc qun l tuyt nh th ch cn 100% khen, v chngcn t no ch ht. V d: Ngi cng s ca mnh hi yu v qun l thi gian, mnh cth ni: Em rt hay, rt analytical, gii communication, gii quyt mi vn rt nhanhchng v chnh xc. Nu em qun l thi gian hay hn mt t, lm cho vic s dng thigian c hiu qu hn, th nng xut ca em s cn tng thm c rt nhiu. Ta vn cth khen trong khi gip ngi cng s thy c khuyt im ca h.

Trong t duy tch cc, ch l tiu cc, khng cn dng n, khng nn dng n. Hnna, y l mt im quan trng khc m ngi t duy tch cc cn lu : Ch thngl phn nh tnh tiu cc ca ngi ni. Nu ta ch, m khng bit dng li khen vch ra khuyt im, th, mt l, kh nng s dng li ni ca ta cn yu, hai l, ta cnrt tiu cc trong t duy. (Tuy nhin qun l l mt ngh thut. Trong trng hp no ,vi mt ngi no , c th l ch thng mt, th ngi mi nhp tm lc .Nhng y l ngoi l, m l ngoi l th c ngha l ch nn c mt nm mt ln).


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kt thc, chng ta c th lm mt trc nghim v chiu su ca vn mt t. Nu bn tng cu nguyn vi Cha, vi Pht, vi tri t, vi bt k ai , bn cu nguyn ikhi nh th ny, Ngi l ng ton nng, bit tt c mi iu, y lng yu thng ivi chng con. Xin ngi cho chng con c bnh an, qua c cn khng hong tichnh ton cu ny nhanh chng, hay l nh th ny, Thi i ng i. ng lm n kiu

g m th gii c tm lum mi chuyn ln xn hng ngy. Dzy m cn ngi chmch trn ?

Cc ng ti cao khng cn c khen m ta vn c khen. Ta khen cc ngi l v cc ngicn nghe, hay v ta cn t lng tn knh?

Ta khen mi ngi v mi ngi cn nghe, hay ta cn t lng quan tm v qu mn h?


Mn,

HonhTB: Oops! Qun nhc cc bn n ng: Hm nay khen your house cu no cha?.

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Tduy tch cc l g ?Posted on Thng Hai 20, 2009 by tdhoanh

Cho cc bn,

T duy tch cc l g? T duy tch cc khc vi mt vi loi t duy khc nh th no?Ti sao ta li cn t duy tch cc?

T duy thng c ngha l suy ngh, v ni n suy nghl ta thng c n tng rng l mt hot ng ca no b mt lc no . Thc ra, t t duy y rng ri hn,

v c ngha l mt thi sng, mt ci nhn v cuc i v s sng, tng t nh t duytrong cm t thay i t duy. T duy tch cc chnh l sng tch cc hay thi tchcc.

Tch cc c ngha l khng tiu cc , l

(1) khi nhn mi s, mi vt, mi vn ta lun lun thy ci hay, ci p, ci tt;


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(2) nu thy ci xu ta c kh nng bin ci xu thnh ci tt; v

(3) lun lun hng n hnh ng lm mi s tt hn.

V d: (1) Bn A. ca mnh tht nng ng v c lng tt vi mi ngi, (2) ch hi keo

kit mt t, nhng nh vy th, nu bn lm th qu cho nhm mnh, chc chn l quchng bao githiu ht, v (3) c lm t thin hoi th chc chn l bn s t t bit cchphung ph tin cho ngi ngho kh.

c im ca t duy tch cc l

(1) tp trung ci nhn v t tng vo ci tt, nu thy ci xu cng phi tm cho ra ci tttrong ci xu tp trung t tng vo , v

(2) dng ci tt nh l ng lc thc Ny mnh sng v lm vic, i n mc ch cuicng l lm cho cuc i tt p hn. Cuc i y l cuc i ca chnh mnh, v l

cuc i ca th gii mnh sng. Tc l, ci tt va l ng lc thc Ny mnh sng, val mc tiu ti hu ca cuc sng.

Thng thng ngi ta thng phn chia th gii thnh hai nhm ngitch cc v tiucc. Nhng ch l cch ni tt cho thun tin; thc ra ai cng va tch cc va tiucc, ch l khuynh hng no mnh hn m thi. Hn na, thng thng ta hay c thiquen tch cc hay tiu cc ty theo tri ma nng v ty theo i tng suy tng lngi yu hay ng hng xm kh chu.

Ta thc tp t duy tch cc ta lun lun tch ccnhng ngy nng p cng nhnhng ngy ngp lt, khi do ph vi ngi yu cng nh khi bng xei vi tt c

mi ngibn thn hay ch th, thnh nhn hay t.

Bay!

V ta cn thc tp v tm tnh khng d g thay i c. Tm tnh ca mi ngi lmt b my tm sinh l c bit, c nh th m vui bun yu ght. Khng phi mun i


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tm tnh l c th lm xong trong mt ngy, mt tun. Nu cth cn c tp luyn mingy, kh ln mi ngy mt t, vi ba nm mi c nh vn ng vin, th tm tnh cngth, cng phi c rn luyn mi ngy, khng, mi pht giy ta sng. V phi kin nhnmt thi gian th mi c c kt qu trng thy.

Nhng ti sao ta phi suy t tch cc? Tri sinh sao vy khng c sao?Trc ht, tm tnh ca ta khng phi do tri sinh. Cc yu t di truyn c d phn mtt, nh l sinh ra th c hai tay hai chn, nhng c ai en Judo hay mt cth o t bnhhon l do ta. Tr lc v tm lc cng th, tri sinh ra c tm tr, tch cc hay tiu cc ldo ta.

V thc ra th chng ai bt ta phi tch cc hay tiu cc c, sng cch no l sthch cnhn v t do la chn ca mi ngi. Nu ta mun lm th sinh tri g khng cht, tingy thng my khc gi, nh cc nho strong S, th cng c. Nhng nu tamun mnh m t th cht n tinh thn, sng nh hi u ci gi trn nhng ln sng

i dng, th ta phi t duy tch cc. Ch l vn la chn.Mt trong nhng cu hi ta hay gp khi ni n t duy tch cc l: i khi ta cng cnphi ph phn ch. Critial thinking cng cn vy. Critical thinking, tm dch l t duyph phn, l mt phng thc suy nghrt c ch trng ngy nay. Thc ra critical vac ngha l ph phn, va c ngha l nghim trng. y l cch suy nght trng tmvo nghi vnnh du hi tt c cc tin , cc kt lun, cc d kin, cc phng phplm vic, trong mt vn , cho n khi ta tha mn vi chnh xc ca tt c cc iuny v i n mt kt lun chnh xc. V nu ni n nghi vn v ph phn tc l ni nvic phi mang ci xu (v ci tt) ra m x. M ni n ci xu l c ngi nghrngnh vy c v khng tch cc.

Chng ta s ni n critical thinking chi tit hn trong mt dp khc. Ti y chng ta chcn nhc rng, critical thinking (t duy ph phn) v positive thinking (t duy tch cc)u cn thit v c thi i vi nhau. Positive thinking l mt thi sng, hn l mtphng thc suy ngh. Critical thinking l mt phng thc suy ngh. Ta c th dngcritical thinking vi mt thi tch cc, hoc vi mt thi tiu cc.

V d, i din vi cc vn gio dc, ta c th dng critical thinking mang ra mts cc vn nh chng trnh hc cha khoa hc v thc tin, phng php ging dycn t chng, lng gio vin cn thp, hc c cn thiu thn, v.v Nu l ngi tiucc th ta s ngi nhn nh phn nn: Nh nc ta ti, dn ta ti. Chm ht. Nhngnu l ngi tch cc th ta s nhn vo cc yu t tch cc nh vn ha Vit knh trngthy c, kinh t quc gia pht trin kh trong thp nin qua, mt s cc cng ty vinthng (Internet) l cng ty nh nc, lin h quc t tt, ngi Vit nc ngoi ng, tnh n mt k hoch vn dng tt c sc mnh ny vo vic ci cch gio dc.

Critical thinking l mt phng php phn tch tm hiu mt vn tht k. Positiviethinking l mt thi tch cc ta c trong khi lm cng vic phn tch tm hiu . Chai i i vi nhau rt tt.


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T duy tch cc l chng, dng thi ca mnh to ra th gii ca mnh. Th giica mnh l cth v u c ca mnh, gia nh mnh, bn b mnh, nhng cng vicmnh lm, nhng ngi mnh giao tip hng ngy. Mnh chng tch cc bin thgii v nhng ngi trong th gii trthnh vui v hn v tch cc hn mt t.Thay v c sng theo li phn nggp ngi vui th vui, gp ngi cau c th cau c

tc l lm cho th gii ca mnh chao o tng pht tng gi, th mnh chng gi thgii ca mnh an vui tch cc lun lun. iu ny, trn phng din trit l, c th gi lduy tm, tc l dng tm thc ca mnh qun l mnh v mi trng sng ca mnh ,cc bn a.


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Cho cc bn,

T ngn xa con ngi khm ph ra tru tm tru, nga tm nga, ni no vungny, lng tin bng ht ci di c ni non, v nhng cu thn ch ngn gn lp ilp li vi lng thnh s lm cho s vic xy ra theo mnh mun. Ngy nay c th giiphng ty ang ni n cc iu ny, nhng vi mt t mi hnLut Hp Dn (lawof attraction).

Mt cch vn tt, lut hp dn ni rng bt c t tng g ta c cng u hp dn ccnng lc tng t trong v tr to nn s vic theo t tng . V d: Ti s ctin, nu c nghv tin nh th t dng ta s c tin. Ti sp, c nghnh th th tas thnh p ra.

Dnhin ni n lng tin hay thn ch, th vn c mt nn tng rt khoa hc.Nu ta c tin l ta c tin th ra s rt hng hi lao vo cc vic lm tin. Cng lm, cngnhiu kinh nghim, cng gii, cng thnh ln. y ch l chuyn hin nhin. Hoc, chngno tin l mnh p trai th thng hay n cch n mc hn v t tin hn vi cc c.M cc c th thch n ng n mc t t v t tin. Rt cuc s lng cc c bn chng c


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l chng minh hng hn nht l chng p trai. Lng tin lm cho mnh c t tin v tptrung t tng, do a n thnh cng. Vn rt gin d.

Tuy nhin lut hp dn cn c kha cnh siu nhin ca n. l, sc mnh ca ttng hp dn cc nng lc trong v tr thc hin mun ca t tng. Tng t nh

nh Pht ni, mt ting khNy mng tay c th mang m ba rung ng n v lng thgii. Nh vy ngha l sao? Nng lc g trong v tr li cng hng vi nng lc ca ttng ca ta n mc ?

Chng ta s khng i vo lnh vc tm l ngoi cm m ta khng sc chng minh, tcl v lng th gii. Thay v vy, ta s ch kho st lut hp dn trong th gii c nhnca mi ngi chng ta, thy c tnh cch khoa hc ca n, v s dng n mtcch hiu qu. Th gii c nhn ca mi ngi chng ta l chnh mnh, gia nh, bn b,nhng ngi lm cng s, nhng ngi mnh giao tip hng ngy, nhng ngi mnhkhng giao tip nhng h c tip xc vi t tng ca mnhnh nhng ngi c iug mnh vit trn Internet.

Hp dn nhau cc

Danh tu tin ta phi gii thch l t tng. T t tng (idea) trong lut hpdn c th lm cho rt nhiu ngi hiu lm rng l mt hot ng ca thc, nh

suy ngh hay suy t. Nhng trong lut hp dn, t tng c ngha l mt hot ngca tm thcgm thc, tim thc v c cc cm gic nh vui bun yu ght. Nichung, t tng l tt c nhng g xy ra trong tm ta. M ni n tm, l chng ta ubit tim thc ln lao v mnh m hn thc ngn ln, cho nn khi hiu t t tngtrong lut hp dn nh l mt hnh ng suy nghca thc m thi, l ta lm mtsc mnh ca lut hp dn i c trm, c nghn ln. V d: Nu ming ta lNm bNm ti sc tin (tc l thc), nhng trong thm tm ta khng tin l iu ny s thnh s thc(tc l tim thc). M tim thc th mnh hn thc c nghn ln, cho nn ng nhin


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l ta s sng theo hng ti s khng c tin, v v vy mt t tin trong vic kim tin.Th th lut hp dn vn ng, nhng thn ch ca ta th sai.

V tim thc rt kh cho ta thy, ta cn phi tm cch thy tim thc qua nhng cikhclng tin, v cm gic. Lng tin iu khin mt phn rt ln s suy ngh ca tim

thc, v cm gic thng l hu qu ca tim thc, cho nn ta qun l tim thc bngqun l lng tin v cm giclng tin phi tht mnh m, cho n ni ta lun lun cmthy rt l hng hi, chc n. Khi ta ni ti s c tin vi mt lng tin mnh m v mtcm gic hng hi, chc n, th lc t tng ca ta mi tm gi l chn tht v mnhm. V vy, thay v ni thc v tim thc, rt mh v kh hiu, chng ta ch cnquan tm n 3 iu: (1) s suy ngh, (2) lng tin, v (3) cm gic. Suy nghn iu g,nh ti s xung cn, th suy nghvi mt lng tin vng chi v mt cm gic hnghi. Lc t tng mi thc s c sc mnh chuyn ha i sng ta v th gii ca ta.

Ni n y c l chng ta mng tng c lut hp dn hot ng nh th no:Nu ta c ni ti c tin vi mt lng tin mnh m v mt thi hng hi, th tim

thc ti s c tin s bt y ch huy tc phong v cch sng ca ta. T nhin l ta sbt u hng say nghin cu vic kim tin, ni chuyn kim tin vi bn b, sing nngi tm vic lm, h vic g c th kim ra tin ta u hng hi lm. Nhng ngi nh vy,i xin vic u, cc ng chu m. Ngi no mun lm thng mi g cng muntm partner nh vy. Khng giu sao c?

Nh vy ta thy t tng ca ta chuyn ha c i ta, v t nht l i sng canhng ngi lm vic chung. V nu c bn b thn nhn no , nghe ta ni v tin vocch sng ca ta, h lm theo v thnh cng, cng l do t tng ca ta phn nochuyn ha cuc i h. V nu mt tbo no nhta vit mt bi v kinh nghimca mnh, nhng c gi no nh m chuyn ha i sng ca h, mt phn cng l

do t tng ca ta. chnh l t tng ca ta c nng lc chuyn ha th gii ca ta.V nu uy tn ca bn cng cao trong x hi, th th gii ca bn cng ln, nh hngchuyn ha ca bn trn hnh tinh ny cng nhiu. Rt thc tin v khoa hc.

Lut hp dn l lut t nhin, nh l trng lc, rt trung tnh. Lut hp dn ng vi ttc mi ngi, khng cn bit nam n, ln b, giu ngho, v quan trng nht l, khngcn bit tt xu. Ngi lng thin tin chc chn l mnh s giu, s giu nhlm nlng thin. Ngi c mu n cp, tin mt cch st l mnh s giu, th s giu nhn cp. V vy, chng ta thy trong x hi, bt k ai, tt hay xu, cng c th thnhcng.


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Vn hp dn nhau c

Th th c g khc bit gia ngi xu v ngi tt y? Tha, c lut nhn qu (law ofcausation). Ch ny nghe nh xut thn t Pht gio, nhng thc ra c th gii dngn c triu nm nay, v nh ngi th s c hu qu l b ngi nh li, ai cng phithy. Nu lm n lng thin th c nhiu bn v khng c k th, cho nn c xc sut rtcao l thnh cng svi mnh rt lu. May ra th c th hng c tui gi hnh phc.Nu i n cp, th c nhiu k th qu, li c cc bc cng an chiu cc bit, nnxc sut hng c thnh cng lu ngy chc l ch hn zero mt nc nh, v xc sutc ng da ct th sut sot 100%. S khc bit gia tt v xu l chmt bnth nhiu bn nn sng lu, mt bn th nhiu th nn cht yu.

Lut hp dn l lut ca t tng, m ngn ng l mt phn rt ln ca t tng, chonn ngn ng rt quan trng trong lut hp dn. Chng ta ni qua iu ny trong biSc mnh ca t tng. Trong ngn ng ca con ngi, th phnh c nh hng rtyu trong tm thc. V d: Ti khng yu ai th nht nh nc c. N chng c nghal g ht, n ch c ngha l ti khng yu ai, v khng chc l ti c ght ai khng. Nghechn pho. Hay ti khng chng anh, chng ngha l g c, vy anh c ng h tikhng?

V vy khi ta ni mt cu phnh ti khng mun bo, tim thc ca ta khng thmci yu t ca ch khng phnh, m li thm ci mnh m ca ch bo xc nh.Cho nn tim thc c hng ta sng theo hng bo. V vy, cc chuyn gia v t duytch cc (cng nh cc lut s chuyn v tranh tng trc ta) lun lun dy ngi ta niv vit th xc nh: Ti mun gy (khng phi l ti khng mun bo), hay timun giu (khng phi l ti khng mun ngho).

Mt s cc chuyn gia cn c cch trnh by th ny: Lut hp dn khng bit vn phm, ch bit cc t m thi. Nu cu bn ni m c ch yu, khng cn bit l phnhhay xc nh, th lut hp dn c dn ta i theo hng yu. Cc bn c nghe cc ph nln tui k chuyn i ca h khng: Hi tui ght ng gn cht, thy mt l wong khc. Nht nh l khng thm thng. Rt cuc cng ly ng. Tm li ti yuanh Tn hay ti khng yu anh Tn, i vi lut hp dn th nh nhau, v c hai ch cngha l yu v anh Tn. Tng t nh vy, ti khng thch bo v ti thich bou ch c ngha l ti v bo. V vy, ta lun lun phi suy ngh(v ni chuyn


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cng nh vit lch) theo th xc nh. V dnhin l ch nn dng cc t tch cc. (Ttch cc l t ni n ci ta mun, ta thch. Nu bn thch gy, th gy l t tch cc vbo l t tiu cc. Ngc li nu bn thch bo, th gy li l t tiu cc v bo lt tch cc).

nh cao hp dn

Dnhin l ai trong chng ta cng bit nh hng ca lut lp i lp li (law ofrepetition). Cc gio chc u rt gii lut ny. Dy mt iu nhng c lp i lp lihng trm ln, bng hng trm cch khc nhau (bit ri, kh lm, ni mi!), nh vy thhc tr mi nhp tm c. Cho nn, theo lut hp dn, nu bn mun iu g th sonmt cu thn ch ngn, nh ti s c tin, ri c thm lp i li cu trong u, th

lut hp dn s c tc dng mnh m. (Nhc thm thi, lm nhm ngoi ming chc l sb ngi nh cho nhp vin ).

V mt quy lut ngn ng khc na l hin ti th lun lun lun mnh hn tng lai.Hy so snh anh yu em v anh s yu em xem cu no mnh hn. Nhng iu tac mun ng nhin l thuc v tng lai, v d ti mun c tin. Th th ta giiquyt ci yu ca tng lai th no? Tha, c 2 phng cch. Th nht, nu vic g cth bin n thnh hin ti, th phi suy nghtheo cch hin ti. V d: Thay v ti s ct tin th ta phi ni Ti c t tin, v chng l do g ta khng th ni ti c t tin ngayby gi m phi i n sang nm.

Th hai, i khi ta cm thy nht nh khng th ni th hin ti mt cch y tin tngc, v d, nu trong ti khng c mt ng xu, th ni ti s c tin d tin hn l tic tin. Trong trng hp c ni ti s nhng phi buc tng lai vo hin ti,ngay trong lc ny, ngay y. Tc l, hin thi ti ang ngi y ni chuyn vi bnca ti, ti bit l ti mun c tin v ti s c tin, nhng ci s c tht c haykhng cng l do ti sng trong hin ti c tht hay khngtng lai ch l mt chuinhng ngy ca hin ti. Hin ti ti ang ni chuyn vi bn ti, ti s ni chuyn rtthc, ti s lng nghe rt k, s mrng u c v con tim nghe, ti s chia s tht


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tnh, ti s dng mi giy ng h mt cch tn tnh. Sng ngay pht ny, ngay ti y,mt cch tn tnh, d l mnh ang lm bt k vic g, th l cch ni hin ti ctht vo mt tng lai sn tht.

Cui cng, c bn hi lut hp dn ny tu ti? Dnhin l nghe qua ta cng thy

lut hp dn l qui lut tm l t nhin. Con ngi hp dn nhau v sc mnh bn trongca mnh. V cc chuyn gia v tm l v truyn thng (communication) ni nnhiu thp k (nu khng ni l hng nghn nm nay). (Ch c phn tm l ngoi cmnng lng ca tm thc lm chuyn ng nng lng ca v trth mnh xin c phpmin bn, v cha nm chc). Gn y mt vi cun sch bn chy Ny danh t luthp dn thnh rt ph thng. Theo mnh ngh, lut hp dn c din ging ngy naychnh l t duy tch cc pht xut t cc ging s thin cha gio khi xalng tinbng ht ci di c ni nontrnh by li mt cch khoa hc hn bng cc khi nimPht gio ang rt thnh hnh trong gii tr thc u M ngy nay.

Chc cc bn mt ngy vui!

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Cho cc bn,

Chng ta thng mong mun lm c iu g to tt ng gp cho i, lm chocuc i ca chnh mnh c ngha hn, v lm cho th gii ny c tt p hn. Vta hy vng rng mt ngy no ta s c kin thc v nng lc lm c iu .

Nhng, ta li thng khng bit rng ngy no l ngy hm nay, kin thc v nnglc s c l kin thc v nng lc c ngy hm nay, v iu g to tt l nhngiu rt nh ta ang lm hm nay.

Bn c bit iu g phn bit ngh sbc thy v ngi mi tp s khng? Tha, chi tit.Ai trong chng ta cng c th ht mt bn nhc ng nt, nghe trong cc tic sinh nht nh cng rt hay. S khc bit gia ta v cc ca shng u khng phi l nhng dngnhc, hay ngay c nt nhc, m l mt t luyn ly ch ny, mt t nhn mnh ch kia,


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mt t di hn ch n. Tt c nhng ci mt t lm cho ca shng u l ca shngu. Vit vn cng th, ai li vit khng c? Nhng ch ny thm mt du phNy, chkia bt mt du chm, ch n bt i ch mt t, lm cho li ca nh vn khc vi bilun ca hc tr. V sinh mi ai xanh vn c thi mt bi quyn thun thc m ngingoi thy khng khc v s, nhng nh ch ny mt t, mnh ch kia mt t, chm ch

n mt t, nhanh ch kia mt t, s cho cc v gia bit ai l s ph, ai l t. Trong ttc mi ngh thut, mi ngh nghip, mi k nng, s khc bit gia thy v tr lun lunnm trong cc iu nh b, ngoi ra th khng cn khc bit no khc.

Cho nn nu ta i nng lc lm c iu to tt, iu to tt khng bao giti,v thc ra khng c iu to tt, m ch c nhng iu nh cng li m thi. i dngkhng t n m c c, i dng ch l cc git nc t li m thnh. Th th, ci to ttca i ta, i dng ca i ta, tu m n, n t lc no? Dnhin l ai trongchng ta cng bit cu tr li, i dng ca ta n t nhng git nc, ca hm nay.

Git nc

Vy, nhng git nc hm nay l g? V ta ang lm g tch t chng?

Ngay u bi, ta ni ta mun lm i sng mnh c ngha hn v th gii tt phn? Th gii l mt t rt tru tng. Rt kh ta Thanh Ha v lm cho th gii Nam Phi tt p hn. Cho nn tt c nhng t tru tng ta ni n hng ngy, ta phibit c th ha chng. Hy i th gii thnh th gii ca ti. Th gii ca ti lchnh ti v nhng ngi ti thn quen v giao tip hng ngy. Ta ang lm g hng ngy lm th gii ca ta tt p hn? D qu, c mang nhng bng hoa nh cm cng khp

th gii ca ta hng ngy, th th gii ca ta s tt p hng ngy, phi khng? Rt gind!

Nhng nhng bng hoa nh l g? , hy c sng to ca bn t tm cu tr li.Sng to khng c gii hn, sng to l cnh hi u c th lao su vo lng bin hay vnqua cc tng tri. Nhng cha cn n sng to, ch cn mc t m l ai cng bitcu tr li: Nhng a hoa nh l nhng n ci vi ng ch qun phquen, nhng cigt u cho em b hng xm, nhng hi han u ngy vi vcon trong nh, nhng cu


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cm n vi c tnh tin trong tim tp ha, nhng l th cm n ch hai ba ch trong mtdin n trn mng, mt truyn vui k cho cc bn, mt bc nh d thng gi n bnb.

y thc s l nhng chuyn rt t nhin, rt nh, n ni nhiu ngi trong chng ta

qun bng i, hoc nu c nhth cng cho l chuyn khng ng k. , nu cho rngchng khng ng k v ta khng cn phi ch tm vo , tc l ta cha c c cinhn sc bn ca ngh sbc thy. M T-r-sa ni, Hy trung thnh vi nhng iu nhb, v l ni cha ng sc mnh ca bn.

By gimnh trnh by mt vi v d chng ta thy nh v ln. Nu sng no bncng lm mt vic rt nh l gi in thoi n nng v Chc em mt ngy tt p ricp my, vy th l chuyn nh hay chuyn ln? Nu bn cn cha bit cu tr li, thhi nng i. Nu ngy no trn ng i bn trng, i ngang qun c ph, bn cngmca, l u vo, vy tay cho ng bn l ch qun, ri i tip, th l chuyn nhhay ln i vi ng ta vy?

, mnh k cho cc bn nghe mt chuyn rt nh nh. Hn mt nm trc y, lc mmnh cn m nng (trc khi qua i). Ngy n mnh a m vo bnh vin, v mt lni thang my, trong ch c mnh v mt ngi n b khong hn 40. Ch ny angc tgiy g v khc. R rng l ch ta cng khng nhhoc khng bit l mnhang ng bn cnh. Mnh ngh, Chc l tgiy lin hn ung th hay AIDS cach hay ai trong nh, v mnh nghtip, Tht l ch ny ang au kh v cng, mnhphi lm ci g an i chy. Mnh i n khi thang my ngng v mca, mnht bn tay mnh rt nh trn cnh tay ca chy v ni: D l chuyn g , ch cng sOK. Thng cng ch. (Whatever that is, you will be OK. God is with you). ych l mt cu ni rt hng ngy M, ch c chm tay ngi l l khng nnnhng li

rt cn thit an iv vy mnh phi i ca mmi lm. Chy nhn mnh, v chtrong vng 2 giy ng h, khun mt chy bin i t cc kau kh sang mt nci (cn m nc mt) trn y bnh an hnh phc. Mnh cha bao githy c mtkhun mt bin i nhanh n nh th, k c trong xi-n. Tht l l lng! Khong nating sau, mnh li gp ch trong hnh lang bnh vin, ch mm ci gt u cho mnh vgng mt lc ny rt hn hoan. Cu chuyn ny dy cho mnh mt iu rt r: D mtc ch rt nh, rt d lm, i khi cng c th xa tan mt cn ging khng khip tronglng ai , ch trong mt tch tc.


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Ch l hoa c thi

V vy, nu bn ch suy nghmt t v nhng g bn c th dng nh nhng bng hoa nh mang cm y th gii ca bn hng ngy, bn c th lm cho th gii tt p hnhng ngy. V chng my chc nhng ngi trong th gii ca bn u s cng nhnrng bn l ngi trang tr ni tht cho th gii ring ca h hng ngy, v bn l mtphn ca th gii ring ca h. Nu trong th gii ca bn c 100 ngi, th bn lchuyn vin trang tr ni tht cho 101 th gii ring. Trong thi i @, nu bn nichuyn thng xuyn vi 2 nghn ngi trong cc din n, bn ang lm p cho 2K1th gii ring. Nu mt th gii ring c khong 100 ngi, hay 2K ngi, bn c nhn

ln tm s ngi. Hiu ng cp s nhn rt kinh khng.

Nhng hnh ng rt nh lm thng xuyn hng ngy, vi mt tm lng khim tn,gin d v u i, c nhng nh hng rt ln trong th gii ny. Mt ting khNy mngtay c th mang m ba rung ng n v lng th gii. Cu ny ca Pht gia rt susc. Hy xem mi th gii l mt tri tim con ngi. nh hng dy chuyn ca mt nci nh trong ngy, c th lan t tim ny sang tim kia, bit u c th ko di n vlng thi gian v v lng con tim. Cc bn c tm cu , ri chim nghim ntrong cuc sng, bn s thy mc su thm ca n.

ng nghn i dng. Ta khng th lm ra bin. i dng tn ti. Khng ai

iu khin c i dng. Nhng bn c th lm ra nhng git nc hng ngy toi dng. Ha sVan Gogh ni, Nhng iu vi to ra bi nhng iu nh b gomli. Napoleon Hill, tc gi quyn Think and grow rich (Suy nghv lm giu), cha ca truyn thng vn hc thnh cng c nhn ngy nay, ni, Nu bn khng lm cnhng vic vi, th lm nhng vic nh b mt cch vi. Tc l sao? Tc l gt umm ci cho ngi hng xm v tin rng, mt cch huyn diu no , n ci nh bca mnh vn c mt nng lng m thm rung ng n v lng th gii, v lng contim. Cui cng, mnh xin tng cc bn ba ch rt thnh hnh trn th gii ngy nay, t


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kinh t hc, n trit l, n tn gio, n tt c mi trng phi tm linh ln nh: Smallis beautifulnh th p.


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Tch cc hay tiu cc? Yu hay th ?Posted on Thng Ba 23, 2009 by tdhoanh

Cho cc bn,

Mt lm li ln v suy tng chng ta hay vp phi mi khi thy ai hng say lm vicg, l kt lun ngay, Anh y rt tch cc. Nhng, mt ngi rt hng say chm git, cng l tch cc sao ?

Th hn cng l ngn la am m thc Ny con ngi hng say hot ng trong vic trth v p , nh tnh yu thc Ny con ngi yu thng v xy dng. Lm li ln cachng ta l lm ln nng lc vi tch cc.

C tch cc ln tiu cc, c tnh yu ln th hn, u to ra nng lc. Cuc u tranh gianng lc tch cc v nng lc tiu cc l ci m, trong mi nn vn ho ca con ngi,chng ta gi l cuc u tranh gia thin v c, gia nh sng v bng ti. Nhng, bnng vi gitay sm Ti phe thin. (Bit ri kh lm ni mi ) Nu t cho im, th


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tt c th gii ch c mt phe thi, cc bn mi ngi chng ta u dng dc tuyn b,rt thnh tht, Ti ng nhin l thuc phe thin. Nhng rt tic, s tht l th gii cbit bao nhiu ngi gy bao au kh v phin no hng ngy. Mi ngi thuc vphe ta ht ri, phe ch u ra vy ka?

Nu ta bit c l ta v minh, th ta u cn v minh na. Bn cht ca khng nhsng l lm cho chng ta khng thy c g, k c khng thy c chnh mnh. Vnho Alexander Solzhenitsyn ni, c chi ch c nhng ngi gian c u qu quytlm nhng vic gian c, v ta ch cn lt h ra khi m chng ta v tiu dit h. Ticthay, ln ranh phn chia thin c ct ngang mi tri tim con ngi, v ai l ngi sn sngtiu dit con tim ca chnh mnh? Ngi no v ti, hy nm vin u tin!

Bi v thin v c c sn trong tri tim con ngi, ng tng rng khi ta hng saylm g tc l ta ang tch cc. Tch cc l tnh yu. Th hn l tiu cc. Hng say hotng v th hn vn l tiu cc, d l hng say tiu cc. Hng say chi bi, hng say ph, hng say ch trch, hng say p ngi ta xung, l nhng hng say tiu cc, dxem ra rt nng, rt nhiu nng lc. Martin Luther King ni, Hn th khin i sng tlit, tnh yu gii phng. Hn th tung ri bi i sng, tnh yu em n hi ha. Hnth phen cuc i, tnh yu ri sng.

Nhng, nu ta khng l ngi hiu v lm chc con tim ca mnh, ta s khngphn bit c tnh yu v th hn trong tim. Nu c ngi cp ng ang cp mtthiu n, v ta ra tay ho hip nh hn cu nng, th trong lng ta ang c tnh yu

hay th hn? Nu ta v yu nhm nng dn b mt quan chc tham nhng c hip m tncng v quan bng mi cch, th l tnh yu hay th hn?

y l cu hi ht sc ch quan, v thc s l ch c mnh bn hiu c qu tim cabn. Khng ai c th tr li cho bn cbn ang v tnh yu hay th hn trong lng? Nubn khng chc, th mnh chia s vi bn mt phng cch nhn bit gin d. Nhng cchno i na th chnh xc ca n ty vo mt iu kin duy nhtta c tht s tht s


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tht s thnh tht thnh tht thnh tht vi chnh lng ta khng. Sai mt ly i mt dm.Ch cn ta c mt thong thiu thnh tht vi chnh mnh, mi o lng s sai i c dm.

Phng cch l: Hy lng nghe nhng cu chnh ta ni. Cc cu ni ca bn l niv ngi mnh yu, hay ni v ngi mnh ght? Ch b nh vy cc qu, em gip chmt tay hay Tn ny i gian i c, ti phi nh n mt trn mi c. Dnhin l

mt hai ln th khng th quyt on c, nhng nu bn ly tng s cu trong mtngy hay trong mt tun (k c nhng cu ni thm trong u) v so snh, bn s c khinim kh r rng l mnh v tnh yu (tch cc) hay v th hn (tiu cc). Nu bn tnh ra50/50, th bn ng ngay chnh gia. Ngi tch cc hng thy s c t s tnh yu/thhn bng 100/0.

Nu bn l ngi tch cc thc s, t s ca bn phi rt gn 100/0. V bn c th lmc iu , v Mahatma Gandhi ni, Hy ght ti li, nhng yu ngi lm li.

Chng ta li rt hay ght ngi lm li v yu lm li. Dnhin, khng l thnh th aicng lm li khi ny khi khc. Nhng ti thiu l ch trong tm tng, ta c ght ti liv yu ngi lm li khng?


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y l chuyn t nhin trong bn tnh con ngi, ch chng phi l g phi thng hockhng tng nh nhiu ngi lm tngb m ght nhng iu sai con ci lm, nhngvn lun thng yu con ci. l bn tnh con ngi t nhin. Rt nhiu ngi trongchng ta lc khi bn tnh yu thng ca mnh qu lu, cho nn thng hay th ghtngi mnh cho l lm li, trong khi mnh vn c yu lm li ai hng say u t

tham nhng trong khi mnh vn nhn tin hay chi tin di gm bn thng xuyn?Lord Bryon, thi snc Anh, ni, Th hn l in r ca con tim. Nh Pht ni sn hnl mt trong ba ctham, sn, silm cho ngi ta mt nh sng. Ngi thc s tchcc khng th c th hn; hnh ng tch cc khng tht trn cn bn th hn. ngvi nhn vo cc hnh ng nng bng ca mnh bn ngoi m tng rng mnh tch cc.Ngi tch cc, vi con tim trn y yu thng, i khi c th chuyn xoay th gii vich mt n ci v mt con tim thanh lng.


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Cho cc bn,

Ting Anh c t sense of belonging, dch ra ting Vit l cm gic thuc v, nh lAnh cm thy anh thuc v qu hng ny. Cm-gic-thuc-v l mt cm gic chquan, nhn t gc ca ngi ch cm gic. Nh vy ngha l, nu nng ni Em thuc


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v anh, th l cm-gic-thuc-v ca ngi ang yu. Nhng nu chng ni, Emthuc v anh, th khng phi l cm-gic-thuc-v, m l tuyn b quyn shu thi i khng long .

Sense of belonging rt cn thit cho hnh phc v t duy tch cc ca ta. Mt kho st

ca Reg Williams, gio s y t v tm l ti i hc Michigan (bang Michigan, M) chothy, cc bnh nhn bnh trm ut c sense of belonging cao mau lnh bnh hn cc bnhnhn c sense of belonging thp. Cc kho st khc cng cho thy c n l mt trongnhng nguyn nhn chnh ca bnh trm ut. V dnhin l ai trong chng ta cng bit ltr em khng c, hoc khng gn gi, ai trong gia nh thng d chn i, hn iv phm php.

Cc nhn xt ny lin h trc tip n vic thc hnh t duy tch cc. Tt c cc o giav chuyn gia v t duy tch cc u lp i lp li, ngy ny qua thng n, l ta phi yungi, yu loi vt, yu i, yu th gii. Nhng ci yu ny chnh l nhng cm-gic-thuc-v, cc bn .

Ti ch c th yu c trng ny nu ti cm thy ti thuc v trng nyy ltrng ca ti, y l cc thy c bn b ca ti. Nu ti cm thy ti lc chung trongtrng ny, y l nhng thng ngy chn nn v t ti, y l trng ca chng nv thy c ca chng n, chng n nhp g vi ti c, th tt nhin l ti khng th no

yu trng, tch cc v trng, v tch cc vi chnh mnh trong khun vin trng c.

Tng t nh vy, ta s khng th no tch cc c vi i trong khun vinca i,nu ta khng c cm gic l ta thuc v cuc i, nu ta cho rng ta b nm vo cuc iny nh mt nh t ln lnh lng, v mc ch.

Nhng lm th no ta c c cm gic thuc v cuc i?


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, cu hi ny trc tip lin hn cu hi cn bn nht ca tt c mi trit thuyt, mitn gio, mi truyn thng tm linh: Ta tu m n? n lm g? V ta si u?

Nhng cu hi ti hu , bn s phi t nghin cu tm cu tr li. Ti y chng ta chni n phng din thc hnh gip chng ta tng c cm-gic-thuc-v, v do ,

tng c t duy tch cc. D l truyn thng tm linh hay trit l no, gii thch nh thno, th trn phng din thc hnh, tt cu phi dng mt phng php gin d lquan tm, hay cn gi l . V ta thc tp tng bc mt, t trong nh ira ngoi, nh sau.

Nu ta mun c cm gic ta thuc v gia nh ca ta, cch duy nht l n gia nh,hay ni chnh xc hn l n mi ngi trong gia nhAi ang lm g? u,?Vui bun ra sao? Ta cn cho hi thng xuynnu i sm v khuya, chng thy aingoi tr ci gng ca mnh, th kh cho mnh c cm tng thuc v gia nh.

Bn ngoi gia nh, i vi bn b v ngi thn quen cng vy, n h mt t, hihan h v cng vic, gia nh, vui bun, kh khn, thay v gp nhau hng ngy lm vicvi nhau m trong 5 nm ch ni chuyn cng vic.

Bc cao hn ca l i vi ngi khng quen bit. Thng thng, ta khng baogi n ngi khng quen bit, cho nn ta c thi ngang qua hng nghn ngitrong mt ngy, nhng chng bao gi n ai. Vy th, nay ta thc tp nhn nhngngi ngoi ng k hn mt t (dnhin khng phi ch cc c mc mini, m l mingi ), nht l nhng ngi lao ng, nhng ngi bun thng bn bng, v thngh hn mt t v ta may mn hn. Nhn mi ngi chung quanh k hn mt t v thy tal anh ch em ca h v h l anh ch em ca ta. D l khng quen bit nhau, ta c thhiu c nhng kh khn, lo lng, vui bun ca h, v i sng ca h, trn cn bn,chng khc i sng ca ta bao nhiu.

Nhn nh nng, nhn hng cy , nhn hoa c k hn mt t, tn hng ci p thinnhin, v cm n cuc i cho ta bao nhiu ci p.

Nhn nhng con th ta gp, ch mo chim chc, v thn phc ci p v bn tnh tnhin trong trng ca chngt ra l chng khng ni div cm n cuc i cho th


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gii ny nhng ngi bn nh th.

Cui tun, a gia nh v vng qu i d ngoi, va thanh thn u c, va tnhng vp thin nhin, va thy t nc v cuc i p n th no.

Ni chung l ta chng cn phi lm g thm, ngoi tr thy cuc i trc mt vi baothn thin p v gn gi ca n. T ta s gn gi, yu thng v tch cc hn vicuc i. Bng khng, ta vn c th nhn cuc i hng ngy, nhng vn khng thycuc i, hoc ch thy vi hn hc v tuyt vngi, i v mc ch, v ngha l, vtnh yu! i l di tr xo quyt! i l sa mc la bng mnh mng!

Thc s, i l mt bc tranh huyn diuc th l thin ng, c th l ha ngc, cth l ng c xanh ti, c th l bin ct rc la, c th l nhng em b ci khckhch, c th l on qu d gm g i c th hin ra trc mt ta vi mun nghnhnh thi khc nhau. V ngi cm cy a thn c th h thin bin vn ha , chng aikhc hn l tm ta c.

Chc cc bn mt ngy vui.

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Cho cc bn,

Nhiu khi ni n t duy tch cc vi ai, ta c th nhn mt phn ng chng i, i khichng i rt d di, rng ta khng thc t, khng hiu nhng kh khn khn kh cacuc i, rng ta l thuyt, rng ta ngy th.

, nhng ngi phn ng nh th c hai vn : Th nht, h cha hiu t duy tch ccl g. Th hai, rt c th h l ngi tiu cc, v ch c th thy mi s, k c t duy tch

cc, qua lng knh tiu cc.

Nu gia ng c tng chn ngang, l kh khn, ai li khng thy? K c ngimng vo mt ci rm l bit ngay.

V tt c mi ngi u thy c thc t . Ngi tiu cc th thy tng qu ln,khng c cch no vt qua; thi th b cuc, i ng khc. Ngi tch cc th thytng rt ln, nhng d ln cch no th cng c cch di chuyn n sang mt tbngcch o ng v n by by n ln i, hoc o ng vng mnh i quanh tng. Ai cng thy thc t, ch l hai thc t khc nhau cho hai loi ngi khc nhaui din cng mt kh khn.

Nu ni v khn kh th ai b mt vic, khng c tin tr tin nh tin n, cng phi thyci kh. Ngi tiu cc th thy l bn cht ca cuc i, thy rng s mnh l scon rn, thy rng i ch l y a. Ngi tch cc th thy l chuyn bnh thng sng i th c khi c vic tt, c khi tht nghip, v tht nghip tng tin ch lmt th thch na mnh chin thng, b cng d di hn tm vic.

C ngi li cho rng i c vui bun yu gin. T duy tch cc tc l bp mo cuci, l lm cho cuc i mt ht thi v vi nhng b mt khc nhau ca n. ny nghe rart hay, nhng vn l lm ln v bn cht ca cuc i.

Tht tnhh n i bi lc dcy l bn cht ca cuc i hay l ci nhn ca tmta v cuc i vy? Nu hm nay tri ma, bn nhn ma v rt bun (v l do g , thi


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hng chng hn), th bn cht tri ma l bun hay sao? l ma bun hay bn bun?

Nu c ngi lm bn gin d v l do g , ni di v bn chng hn, th l v cuc

i c nhiu gin d, hay ch v bn cha iu khin c tm mnh n mc tuyt diu?C th ni bn cht ca cuc i l c ngi ni di chng bn, gin d hay khng l dobn, ch khng phi bn cht ca cuc i.

Nu b ngi yu b, ng nhin ai li khng bun? Ni l ngi tch cc khng bunkhi b ph tnh th ha ra l chng ta nh rb sao? Nhng ngi tiu cc, khi tht tnhth ung ru chi ngi v chi i. Ngi tch cc th Mi qu tim l mt cnh chimt do. Nng i ri, bun tht y, nhng tt hn l cu xin thng cho nng nhiubnh an v hnh phc, v nng vn l con ca thng d l i vi mnh hay vi thngct t no y.

C ngi li ni ngi t duy tch cc khng phn on, lc no cng thy mi s ltt, cho nn khng c kh nng thy ci xu ca s vt. y li cng l mt hiu lm lnv t duy tch cc. Nu mt quan chc tham nhng, lm sao l chuyn tt c. Thcra, chnh nhng ngi tiu cc mi ni tham nhng l chuyn dnhin, l chuynchp nhn c, l chuyn ca ngi hiu i.

Khng mt ngi tch cc no chp nhn tham nhng l OK di bt c l do v l lunno! V khc vi ngi tiu cc chp nhn ci xu nh l chuyn ng nhin ca cuci, ngi tch cc s tch cc tm ra cch chn ng ci xu cng nhiu cng tt. Thay vchp nhn thc t rng tham nhng l bn cht ca cuc i v, do , ng la vitham nhng, ngi tch cc s thy rng trn thc t tham nhng lng hnh v khng cnhiu ngi tch cc ng ln chng i tham nhng, t co tham nhng, lm nhngcng vic chn ng tham nhng.

Mt hiu lm thng thy khc l tch cc hay tiu cc l bn cht ca tng ngi.iu hon ton sai. Tch cc v tiu cc c sn trong mi ngi chng ta. Khi ta gind hay shi, th nng lc tiu cc s tri dy lm ta suy nghv hnh ng tiu cc. Khita bnh tnh, vui v v yu thng, nng lc tch cc chin thng v lm ta suy nghvhnh ng tch cc. Con ngi chng ta thng bnh tnh hay yu mn khi mi s chung


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quanh u tt, cho nn rt d tch cc khi ang c cng vic tt, tin tt v ngi yutt. Ch khi gp kh khn, th lo lng v bun gin mi c chi tri dy v to chicho nhng nng lc tiu cc chim hu con tim v khi c ca ta. Lc , chnh l lc taphi chin u vi chnh mnh, phi bit cch lm cho con tim ca mnh bnh tnh v yyu i trli cc nng lc tch cc trv, hu ta c th suy t v hnh ng trong

chiu hng tch cc.Tm li, t duy tch cc l cuc chin u trin min t thng v t ch. khngphi l bn cht thng trc ca con ngi, khng phi l mt chuyn du hnh ch cnng trong gi mt v khng sng gi. l nh sng ca ngn n trong tim, thngxuyn be da bi chnh nhng bo t trong tim.


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Cho cc bn,

Chng ta u bit t duy tch cc khng phi ch l mt cng thc l lun, nh l tamon lun trong lun l hc, m l mt thi sng, mt thi tch cc v chnh mnh,v con ngi, v cuc i. Nhng khi hc t duy tch cc th ta lun lun hc nh l hcmt cng thc suy nghhy nhn na ly nc nhy na ly, thay v cn na ly. Thth, phi chng t duy tch cc ch l mt k thut tm l t la di mnh (self-


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deceiving)? Tt c mi s, c nhn vi mu hng, thy th gii mu hng, thay v ccmu khc?

, y l mt cu hi rt kh tr li, nu chng ta ch tin vo, v sng bng, th gii tathy c bng mt, nghe c bng tai, v sc bng tay. Nu ta tin rng ta ch l kt

qu tnh cca phi hp sinh l gia b m, sng my mi nm trn i, ri cht, vht, th chc l khng th no ta c th t duy tch cc c trong cuc i y mi vn phc tp ny.

Theo mnh, l mt t duy cc k tiu cc v l nn tng ca mi hnh ng tiu cctrn i. Trong lch s th gii cn i, chng ta c th kn Stalin v Polpot nh l haitn tui ln i theo trng phi suy tng con ngi ch l nhng con vt dnh gitnhau v cn phi c trit tiu hay k lut st bng nhng hnh pht kinh khng.

Tuy nhin, khi kho st nhng v thy v t duy tch cc ca th giiGandhi, t LaiLt Ma, Norman Vincent Peale (ng t ca khoa hc t duy tch cc), Nelson Mandelath ta thy nhng ngi ny u c mt i sng tm linh rt mnh, v u nhn th giita sng nh l c xy trn mt nn tng tm linh vng chc, d nn tng l Thng

, hay ng Tri, hay the One.

V dnhin, kinh nghim sng ca ring ta ng vai tr quan trng hn tt c, trong victm hiu cn bn ca t duy tch cc. Lm th no bn c th tht s vui v vi mt ngiva mi gy tn thng cho bn, nn bn khng c lng tin vo nhn qu (ti b qua choanh ta, Tri s b qua cho ti), hay vo ng nht (anh ta v ti thc ra cng ch l mttrong lng nht ca v tr), hay vo Cha (Cha mun ti yu anh ta, d anh ta nixu ti)? Nu ta khng tin vo iu g su xa hn th gii vt l, th theo mnh cch hpl lun nht phn ng li hnh vi gy tn thng ca mt ngi l gy tn thng licho hn.

T duy tch cc dy chng ta suy t v hnh ng su xa hn l n ming tr ming. Tduy tch cc i hi chng ta tin vo mt tng lai sng sa, vo mt cng l v hnh,vo mt l l tch cc xuyn mi th gii hu hnh.


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Ti c th tch cc v yu mn anh ta d l anh y gy thng tch v thit hi cho ti,bi v thng sinh ra tt c chng ta trong hnh nh cao p ca ngi, v thng mun ti yu tt c mi ngi, k c k th.

Ti c th t bi h x vi tt c mi ngi, k c phng trm cp, v h vi ti c lin hcht ch vi nhau, v tt c chng ta u ch l nhng cn sng ph du ca mt i dngS Tht, v i dng cng chnh l Ci Tm nguyn thy ca mi ngi chngta v l bn tnh nguyn thy ca v tr.

Ti c th tha th v nhn i vi tt c mi ngi, k c nhng ngi xu xa gian c, vTri sinh ra tt c chng ta vi nhn chi stnh bn thin, v nu ti tha th v nhn ivi ngi, Tri s tha th v nhn i vi ti.

Mnh suy nghnhiu nm v vn ny, v trong truyn thng gio dc th tc

(secular education) trn th gii, chng ta khng mun ni g ngoi th gii vt l mtthy tai nghe. Nhng iu xa hn l mt thy tai nghe, nhng iu lin hn kinhnghim ni tm su xa khng minh chng c bng cc my o khoa hc, chng ta gtb ra khi hc ng. V vy, nhiu nm ni v t duy tch cc, mnh cng mun trnh,khng mun ni n chiu kch tm linh.

Tuy nhin, kinh nghim ca chnh mnh, cng nh cc tho lun mnh c vi cc lnho kinh t chnh tr ca nhiu quc gia trn th gii, cho thy rt r l con ngi chngta khng th thc s t duy tch cc nu khng ng trn mt nn tng tm linh rt vng,


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c mt lng tin rt vng vo bn tnh thin m nguyn thy ca con ngi, v votnh yu bao la ca thng hay t bi h x ca bn lai din mc ca con ngi.

Chng ta c th ni lp nhp v vit lp nhp v t duy tch cc, c th nghe rt hay vrt xm t. Nhng khi phi i din vi nhng kh khn, nhng bt cng, nhng au

kh, nhng p lc qu sc chu ng ca con ngi, khi m ta ch l mt con th bdi c mt qu ni Thi Sn, lc tt c l lun v suy tng v t duy tch cc ukhng gip c g c. Lc ch c mt khim tn tht s v mt lng tin tht s, ni, Ly cha, cha l ng chn dt con, con khng h lo lng chi, hay Nam m A-di- Pht, con trong tay ngi, con khng shi chi. Ngun sui tm linh , chnhl ci ngun tht s ca t duy tch cc, ci ngun ca sc mnh ni tm v ch, c thcho con ngi tm thng ca ta lm c nhng chuyn phi thng.

Ngoi ra, tt c nhng k thut t duy tch cc khng t cn bn trn chiu su tm linh,c th cho ta tch cc c mt t, kh hn l tiu cc hon ton, nhng chn mt mchi ht no m thi. Khi khau trthnh qu ln, khi sc chu ng ca con ngi

kit, ch c sui ngun tm linh mi cho ta sc mnh mm ci bc vo l la,phi thng nh ngi i trn nc.

Ngay c trong i sng thng ngy, ch c sui ngun tm linh mi cho chng ta mt tduy tch cc du dng, khng v k, khng t trn danh li, khng bao gingng, thayv loi t duy tch cc ca ngi ho thng, ho danh, ho li. Loi t duy tch cc vk ny, mi nhn bn ngoi th nh l tch cc, v n lm cho ngi ta xng xo c v rttch cc, nhng n c mm hy dit t bn trong, v v k th ch c th tch cc cvi mt ngitiv tiu cc vi tt c nhng ai v tt c nhng g cn bnh xe ln cati.

Chc cc bn cui tun vui v thoi mi !Mn,

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Cho cc bn,

Cui bi ny mt link n video Ri xung ging. l chuyn v mt ch la ri

xung ging, v l cu chuyn cc ging s v t duy tch cc thng dng. i khi lnh th ny:

ng nng dn n c con la ri xung ging su, khng cch no cu ln c, v gingth cng c nt ht ri, thi th c chn con la di ging lun, mt cng hai chuyn.ng gi hng xm n gip lp ging. Nhiu ngi n ph, gip xc t xungging. Ban u ch la la rng thm thit v shi. Nhng ch mt lc sau l ch tangng la. Ch khm ph ra mi. Khi t xung lng, ch im nhin lc lngcho t ri xung , ri co gin chn, bc ln lp t mi . V c th, t lp cao dn,ch la ln cao dn. Khi ming ging b lp y l khi ch la thong th bc ra t do.

V cc ging s kt lun (nh trong video ta c y): Mi ngi rc rn vo bn mong chn sng bn. Nhng thay v lo lng ku la, bn ch cn lc cho rc rn ca h rixung, ri dm ln rc rn m ng. V chnh rc rn ca h s cho bn chi sngmnh sng hng.


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y qu l mt bi hc t duy tch cc rt hay, phi khng cc bn? Bin cc rc rnngi ta vo mnh thnh sc mnh ca mnh. ng l bi hc rt hay. Mi kh khn i lun lun l mt chi lm cho ta chu ng hn, bnh tnh hn, v sng sut hn, bin kh khn thnh chi.

Tuy nhin, bi ging ny c mt vn rt ln. Bn c tin l ng nng dn ny ku hngxm n chn sng con la ca ng ta khng? C ai trn i li bt nhn tht c, vdt, n c? Nu bn c con b ri xung ging, bn s lp ging tht hay sao?

Khng phi l ng nng dn ny dng phng php rt c truyn, l ly rc lp ginga con la ca ng ln sao?

Mt hnh ng nhn i cu con vt ca mnh li c nhiu ging s t duy tch ccngy nay bin n thnh hnh ng c tnh tn st ! Ti sao vy? R rng l khi bin nhni thnh git chc, cc v thy tch cc ny rt tiu cc trong suy t. Nhng, ti sao?Mi ngi hng xm n cu con vt, th li i thnh mi ngi xm li chn sng

n. Ti sao c s thay i gian c vy?Tha, l v cc ging s ny tin l ngy nay con ngi chng ta qu tiu cc v qunghi k ln nhau, cho nn bi ging phi c ging trn lun ctt c mi ngiquanh ta u rt gian c, ch lun xm li rc rn ln u ta chn sng ta thi. liu m mnh gi l trng phi t duy tch cc v k trong bi Nn tng ca t duytch cc. Trng phi ny c ci nhn tiu cc v tt c mi ngi trn th gii v ch tchcc vi mt mnh ta thi. Vy th, l tch cc hay tiu cc vy cc bn? Ch lm theoton cng tr, nu ta tch cc v ch mt ngi v tiu cc v 6, 7 t ngi khc trn thgii, th ta tch cc hay tiu cc vy? Vn ny chng ta cp n trong bi Yungi, tin ngi, cc bn c thc li.

y l vn rt ln trong th gii ngy nay. Chng ta qu tiu cc v nghi k ln nhauqu sc, n ni cc v thy v t duy tch cc cng khng nhn ra l mnh tiu cc.

Cu chuyn la ri xung ging ny l mt cu chuyn rt tch cc, cc bn a. Tt c mingi, t ng chn cc hng xm, rt yu mn ch la. V c xm xm li xc t lpging cu la.


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Nhng d l mi ngi c yu mn, th nhng xung t t trn xung cng nht nhlm cho la phi ngt thho sc sa v bi. La bt buc phi chu kh mt lc.

Chuyn i l th. Ngu nh la n ni phi ri xung h, th phi tr gi cho ci khkho ca mnh. Mi ngi chung quanh s gip mnh, nhng trong khi h gip, mnh vn

ngt thho sc sa. Ci ngu no cng phi c tr gi bng au kh. C hng xm ngip, hay Cha Pht c gip, th bn vn phi tr gi cho li lm ca mnh. l lutnhn qu t nhin ca i sng. lm th phi chiu trch nhim, phi tr gi cho hnhng ca mnh. ng chy trn trch nhim. ng chy trn tr gi. ch l cngbng, v ra ti.

Nhng khng sao, ch mt lc thi, ri bn li ln, v bn c nhiu ngi gip bn vCha Pht cng gip bn, nu bn g ca Cha Pht v g ca mi ngi.


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Cho cc bn,

Synergy l Nng lc cng hng, nng lc to ra do lm vic ha hp vi nhau.

Synergy c gc ch Hy Lp l lm vic vi nhau. Nng lc cng hng ni n mthin tng quan trng: Nng lc to ra do mt nhm ngi lm vic chung vi nhau thcao hn l tng s nng lc ca tt c cc c nhn trong nhm cng li. V du: Mt ngilm ring r c th cy xong 1 hecta t mt ngy, nhng nu 20 ngi lm chung vinhau th c th lm xong 25 hecta mt ngy. S gia tng nng sut 5 hecta l hu qu cacng hng.

Cng hng l t ca m hc. Khi mt m thanh vi mt tn s no gp mt vt no c th dao ng cng mt tn s, nh ting ca dy n gp thng n, cng hng sxy ra v tng cng m thanh rt nhiu. T vt l n quan h con ngi, hot ngchung vi nhau cng tn s s lm cho cng ca nng sut gia tng vt bc. V

vy, trong qun l, t synergy c nhc nhn hu nh hng ngy.Trong qun l th chng ta c th hiu synergy rt dnu mt i bng thn thit nhau,mi ngi ai cng lm ng phn s mnh, chia s vi ng i, hiu nhau rt nhanh,khng ghen t nhau, cng mt lng quyt thng, th i bng c synergy rt cao v rthay thng. Tuy nhin, nu i bng hay ci v nhau, ganh t nhau, mt ngi ni 10 thngi cc ngi kia hiu c c 5, i bng nh vy thiu synergy v s kh thng.

To ra c synergy hay khng, phn ln l do ngi lnh o. Khi tuyn cu th mivo i bng, k thut chi bng ch l mt phn, tm tnh ngi cu th c ph hp vitm tnh ca cc cu th khc trong i, v tinh thn teamwork (tinh thn ng i) cangi cao khng, mi l yu t quyt nh. Vic tuyn ng ngi l quyt nh rtquan trng ca lnh o. Mt con su lm ru ni canh. Mt cu th khng c tinh thnng i lm hng ci bng.

V trong tin trnh qun l i bng, dnhin l lnh o phi t ln mc hng u vicduy tr v pht trin thit thn v tinh thn ng i. Nu c thit thn v tinh thn ngi cao, t nhin cc k nng lm vic ng i s c, nh k nng truyn thngni


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vi nhau, ra hiu cho nhau, v thu hiu nhau; k nng phi hp trn sn c; k nngchuyn ng ton i ng chin thut v chin lc trn sn c.

l qun l; kh nhng vn cn d, bi v ngi lnh o c mt i v k lut ca i lm vic. Ci kh l trong nhng sinh hot x hi, khi chng ta ai cng l ph thng

dn nhng li quan tm n vic thnh p

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