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Facilitating an UnSelfie Parent Group

Teens today are 40 percent less empathetic than theywere 30 years agowith dangerousimplicationsforchildren.First,ithurtschildren’sacademicperformanceandleadstobullyingbehaviors.Also,itcorrelateswithmorecheatingandlessresilienceaswellashamperingtheirabilitytocollaborate, innovate, and problem-solve—all vital skills for the global economy. UnSelfie: WhyEmpatheticKidsSucceedinOurAll-About-Me-World,pinpointstheforcescausingtheEmpathyCrisisandsharesarevolutionary,researched-based,nine-stepparentingplanforreversingwhatDr.Borbacalls“the“SelfieSyndrome.”ThisguideisdesignedtohelpparentsdiscusshowtoapplythestrategiesinUnSelfietoraiseempathetic,courageous,caringchildrenwithskillstothriveina21stcentury,digital-drivenworld.

How to Start a Book Group for UnSelfie

• IdentifyparentsinterestedinformingabookclubtodiscussUnSelfie.• Eachmember shouldorderacopyofUnSelfie:WhyEmpatheticKidsSucceed inOurAll-AboutMe

WorldbyMicheleBorba(Touchstone,2016,ISBN:978-1501110030fromyourpreferredretailer.Itisavailableinhardbound,e-bookoraudioformat.

• Determinethespecificdays,times,placesandfrequencyforyourgroupmeeting.• Assignadiscussionleaderorrotatetheroleateachdiscussion.• Askparticipantstoreadthechapter-to-be-discussedpriortoeachmeeting.• Usethequestionsprovidedtofacilitatediscussions.Somegroupsaskeachparticipanttodevelopone

questionforeachmeeting.Thekeyistomakeyourmeetingsmeaningfulforparents

4 Ways to Divide UnSelfie Discussion Content and Meeting Frequency

There are several ways to divide your discussion content. Here are four possibilities, but choose thenumberoftotalbooksessionsbasedongroupconsensusandneeds.1. 9meetingsdiscussingonechapterpermonth.Mostbookclubsmeetonceamonthanddiscussa

differentchapter inUnSelfie.Sincethereareninechapters,themeetingswouldtakeninemonthstotal.

2. Traditionalbookclub-onemeetingtotal.Meet justonceanddiscuss issuesparticipantsfindmostrelevant.

3. Twochapterspermeeting; fourmeetings total. YoumightdivideUnSelfie into four sectionsanddiscusstwochaptersateachmeeting

4. ThreetotalsessionsdividedintohowtoDevelopEmpathy,PracticeEmpathyandLiveEmpathy:ThefirstmeetingwoulddiscussHowtoDevelopEmpathy(Chapters1,2,3,4);Sessiontwo:HowtoPracticeEmpathy(Chapters5,6,7);Sessionthree:HowtoLiveEmpathy(Chapters8,9).

NOTE:Pagenumbersinthee-bookformatmaydifferfromthisguidedesignedforthehardcopyofUnSelfie.How to Teach Kids the Empathy Skills and Habits in UnSelfie

Dozensofempathy-buildingskillsareprovidedinUnSelfieandboxedareasofeachchapterdiscussion.Parentsshouldchoosethosedeemedimportantfortheirchildren.Usethismodeltoteacheachskill.1. SHOW.Askillislearnedbestifyoushow(nottellorlecture)whatitlookslike.Somodelitforthe

child!Pointitoutincontext.Provideexamplessothechildcanseeitandcopyit.2. ROLEPLAY.Roleplaytheskillwiththechildsoheunderstandswhatitlookslikeinaction.3. PRACTICE.Skillsarelearnedbestthroughrepetitionandgenerallytakearound21daysofpracticeto

bemastered.Findvariouswaysforthechildpracticetheskill.4. REINFORCEORCORRECT.Correctanyerrorsincontextandpraiseyourchild’sskill-buildingefforts.5. STEPBACK.Onceyourchildhasmasteredtheskillandcanuseitwithoutyourguidance,teachthe

nextempathy-builderandthenthenextandthenext!


SUGGESTED QUESTIONS TO DISCUSS INTRODUCTION: The Hidden Advantage of Empathy

CorrespondstopagesxitoxxiinUnselfie

1. WhataboutUnSelfiepeakedyourinterest?Whatdoyouhopetogainfromthesediscussions?

2. Howwouldyouanswer:“Whatdochildrenreallyneedtobehappyandsuccessfulintoday’sworld?”(pgxiii).Doyoubelieveempathyis integral to children’s future successhappinessandwell-being?Despitescience,whydomanythinkempathytobeasoftskill?

3. Teenstodayare40percentlessempatheticthanthirtyyearsago.Haveyouseenachangeinyourchildorhisfriends’characterandbehaviorthatmightindicatetheSelfieSyndrome?(pgxiv).

4. UnSelfiedescribesseveralfactorsthatcontributetotheEmpathyDeficit.Whichculturalfactors/parentingstylesdoyouthinkaffectkids’empathycapacities?Whichfactorscanparentsreallycontrol?

5. Stepintotheshoesoftoday’skids:Whatinvisibleandvisiblemessageswouldyouseeaboutourourculture? Are they ones that would nurture an empathy and help to produce a generation of“Unselfies”oraremorelikelytoexacerbatetheSelfieSyndrome?

6. Whichofthenineessentialhabitsdoyoufeelaremostcrucialfortoday’s21stcenturykids?Whichhabitsareyouinstillinginyourchild?Whichmightyoubeoverlooking?(pgxix)

7. Howcouldparentsteachempathyhabitsinsuchawaythattheirchildrenmasterthemandnolongerneedourreminders?Howmightyounetworkwithotherparentstocultivatechildren’sempathy?

8. Whatskillswillourchildrenneedtosucceedintheglobaleconomywhenjobsoftomorrowdon’texisttoday?Whatshouldparentsbedoingtopreparekidsforaworldofrapidchange?

9. Howwouldyoudefinean“Unselfieworld?”Whatwouldanempatheticfamily,school,community,nationlookandsoundlike?Howdowecreateempathyinthoseteachableparent-childmoments?

10. Whatbehaviorswouldadultsdisplayinanempatheticculture?Whatoftenisyourchildseeingadultsmodelcourage,empathyandcompassion?Howoftendoesyourchildseeyoumodelempathy?

11. Whatisyourhopeincultivatingempathyinyourchildren?

PART I: DEVELOPINGEMPATHYChapter 1. Empathetic Children Can Recognize Feelings

1stEMPATHYHABIT:Teachingemotionalliteracytohelpchildrenrecognizeandunderstandthefeelingsandneedsofothers

Correspondstopages3to24inUnselfieEmotionalliteracyiswhatmotivatesachildtocare,anditallstartsbytuningintofeelings.Identifying,understanding,andexpressingemotionsaretheskillskidsneedtoactivateempathy.Itturnsoutthatkidsschooledinfeelingsaresmarter,nicer,happierandareresilientthanchildrenwhoarelessliterateintheirEmotionalABCs(page7),anditisateachablehabit.• CommonSenseMediafindsthattheaveragechildispluggedintodigitaldevicesaboutninehoursa

day.Whatimpactdoesadigitaldeviceshaveonkids’empathy?Howdoyouknowifyourfamilyis“toopluggedin?”

• Whatwayscanparentsreclaimconversationwithchildreninadigital-drivenworld?Pages18-20listswaystosetdigitallimits.Howareyousettinglimits?Howdowehelpchildrendevelophealthy


relationshipswithpeers,especiallywhenface-to-facecontactisbreakingdownandtheinternetismeaner?

• Onestudyfoundthat62percentofkidssaidtheirparentsweretoopluggedin(page10).Howwouldyourkidsdescribeyourdigitalhabits?Howcanparentssetabetterexamplefortheirkids?

• WhywasMaryGordon’sRootsofEmpathyapproach(page3)successfulinincreasingchildren’sempathy?Whatarereal,meaningfulwaystohelpyourchildexperienceempathy?

• Mothersaremorelikelytodiscussemotionswithdaughtersthansons.Whatimpactdoesithaveonboys?Doyounoticethetendencyinyourfriendsoryourself?Whatwillyoudotoreducethepink-blueemotiondivide?

• Tuningintofeelingsisanessentialpartofgoodparentingandlaysthegroundworkfordevelopingcloserelationshipswithourkids.Howcoulddevelopingempathyenhanceyourrelationshipwithyourchild?Howcanparentscultivatetheirempathysotheymodelempathytotheirchildren?

• Emotionalliteracyiscitedasakeytomotivatingkidstocare.Whatwayscanyoucanhelpyourdigitalnativeunderstandfeelingsandtuneintoothers(pg20-24)?

EMPATHYSKILLSTOBOOSTEMOTIONALLITERACY1. 4TRule:NoTexting,Tapping,TalkingonacellorTVviewingwhenothersarepresent(pg17):To

tuneintoemotionsandnotletdigitaldeviceshinderface-tofaceconnections.2. AlwaysLookattheColoroftheTalker’sEyes(pg17):Topickuponfacialexpressions,voicetone,

andemotionalcues.3. NametheFeeling,PoseQuestionsthatTuneInToFeelingsorMatchtheWordwiththeGesture

(pg17):Tobuildafeelingvocabularyandhelpchildrenrecognizefeelingsandneedsofothers.Chapter 2: Empathetic Kids Have Moral Identities

2ndEMPATHYHABIT:Developinganethicalcodesochildrenwilladoptcaringvaluesthatguidetheirintegrityandactivityempathytohelpothers

Correspondstopages25to46inUnselfie

• Howhaveculturalvalueschangedthatmightaffecttoday’schildren’scharacter?Whatfactorsareincreasingnarcissism?(pg28).Doyouseeariseinyouthentitlement?Ifso,why?

• Ourmessageshelp“depositprosocialimagesinourchildren’sidentitybankssotheycandefinethemselvesascaring,responsiblepeoplewhovalueothers’thoughtsandfeelings”(pg27).WhatkindsofdailyactionscanparentsdotonurturepositiveMoralIdentitiesintheirchildren?

• Whydo“two-thirdsofadolescentsranktheirownpersonalhappinessasmoreimportantthantheirgoodness?”(pg27).Whatareyoudoingtohelpyourchildrecognizethevalueofcaring?

• Howcanparentshelptheirchildrenfindtheir“respectfulvoice”(pg42)inadisrespectfulworld?• Howwepraisehelpskidsdefinethetypeofpeopletheybelievethemselvestobe.Wrongpraisecan

increasenarcissism.Howmightyouusethescience-backedstrategies(pg33)?• Howdoyouthinkyourchildwoulddescribeyourfamily’svalues?Whatdoyouhopeyourchild

wouldsay?Howcouldyouapplythestepsto“CreatingaCaringFamilyMantra”(pg38)?• Page42asks:“IfIweretheonlyexamplemychildhadtolearnMoralIdentity,whatdidshelearn

today?”Howcanparentstuneuptheirbehaviortoexemplifysocialresponsibilityandcaring?EMPATHYSKILLSTOBOOSTMORALIDENTITY1. HowtoREFUSETemptations(pg36-37):Tobuckpeerpressureandstickupforbeliefs.2. “Isthatme?”tests(pg43):Tosticktomoralidentityandconscienceintryingtimes.3. Self-Talk(pg43):Tocountertauntsandadheretopersonalcodeofethics.4. TheKINDRule(pg44):Toguideinnermoralcompassbothonlineandoff.


Chapter 3. Empathetic Kids Understand the Needs of Others

3rdEMPATHYHABIT:Instillingperspectivetakingsochildrencanstepintoothers’shoestounderstandanother’sfeelings,thoughtsandviews


• Doyouagree(pg49):'Children’sempathyissparkedbyactiveface-to-faceexperiences-notlectures'?Canyourecallateacher’slessonthathelpedyouunderstandanother’sperspective?Ifso,whywasitmemorable?Howcanyouprovidesuchauthenticexperiencesforyourchild?

• Page70states:“It’seasierforchildrentoempathizewithpeopletheyknow,oraresimilarto,sowidenyourchild’sperspectivebyexposinghimtopeopleofdifferentbackgrounds.”Howcouldyouwidenyourchildren’sSocialHubssotheyaremorelikelytoempathizewithpeoplewhoare“different”or“notlikethem?”Whatareyoudoingtobroadenyourchild’sempathyhorizons?

• Science finds thatdisciplinecanstretchor shrinkchildren’sperspective takingabilities (pg50-60).Whereonthe‘stretchorshrink’spectrumwouldyousayyourdisciplinepracticesfall?Whichpracticesdoyoubelieveparentsshouldusetonurtureempathy?Aretheydifferentfromhowyouwereraised?

• Whichage-by-agestrategywouldyouconsiderusingoradapting(pg65-70)toexpandyourchildren’perspectivetakingabilities?Whatotherstrategiesmightyouconsider?

EMPATHYSKILLSTOBOOSTPERSPECTIVETAKING.1. SOLER(pg61):Fivekeylisteningskillstoboostempathyandpayingattentiontotheother.2. LookandListenfortheEmotion(pg61):Playingdetectivetolookandlistenforthefeeling.3. PutYourselfinTheirShoes(pg62):Toimaginetheotherperson’sperspective4. DescribeTheirSide(pg62):Toparaphraseaspeaker’sperspectiveandincreaseempathy.5. “IWonder”(pg66):Tostretchperspectivetakingwhenencounteringsomeonenew.

Chapter 4. Empathetic Kids Have a Moral Imagination

4thEMPATHYHABIT:Instillingamoralimaginationsokidscanuseliterature,filmsandemotionally-chargedimagesasasourceofinspirationtofeelwithothers


• “Bookscanbeportalstounderstandingotherworldsandotherviewstohelpingourchildrenbemoreopentodifferencesandcultivatenewperspectives.”Whichbookswereyourchildhoodfavorites?Whichresonatewithyourchild?Wereyousurprised(pg78-80)onthepowerofliteraryfictiontoactivateempathy?Howcanyoufindbooksthatpullyourchild’sheartstrings?

• Posingtherightquestionscanhelpkidsvicariouslystepintosomeoneelse’splace.Whatstrategies(pg80)mighthelpyourchildseetheworldfromotherperspectives?

• Aroundeightiswhenkidsgenerallystopreadingforenjoyment,andalsowhenwetypicallystopreadingaloudtothem.Howcanyouusetheideas(page86-87)toinstillinyourchildagreaterloveofreading?

• Haveyouconsideredstartinga“Parent-ChildBookClub?”Ifso,howwouldyoustart?• Whichage-by-agestrategy(orothers)intriguedyourinterest(pg88-91)?

EMPATHYSKILLSTOBOOSTMORALIMAGINATION.1. Ask“WhatIf?”(pg84):Tothinkaboutacharacterfromthechild’sperspective.2. “HowWouldYouFeel?”(pg84):Tohelpreflectastowhetherthechildsharedsimilarexperience.3. Switch‘Me’to‘You’:(pg85):Toswitchfrom“me”thinkingto“we”thinking.


PART TWO: PRACTICING EMPATHY

Chapter 5. Empathetic Children Can Keep Their Cool

5thEMPATHYHABIT:Masteringself-regulationtohelpchildrenlearntomanagestrongemotionsandreducepersonaldistresssotheycanhelpothers


• Researchsaysthatself-controlisabetterpredictorofadultwealth,healthandhappinessthangradesorIQ?Doyouagree?Ifso,why?Aretoday’schildrenbeingraisedtohaveself-control?

• Areyounoticingachangeinchildren’s(andadults)abilitytoregulatetheirself-control?Ifso,whatdoyouattributetheincrease?Howwelldoyourchildrenmanagetheiremotions?

• Whatareyoudoingtohelpyourchildrenlearnhabitsofself-regulation?• UnSelfiedescribesapproachesthatnurturechildren’sself-regulation(likestress-management,yoga,

meditation,mindfulness).Didanyinterestyou?HaveyouconsideredaParent-ChildYogagroup?• Schoolsareembracingmindfulnesspractices(pg106-108).Wouldyouconsideradoptingthe

approachinyourhome?Howmightyoustart?Aretherewaysyoumightjoinotherparents(suchasinplaygroups,scouting,playdates)toteachself-regulationpracticestoyourchildrentogether?

• Whichage-by-agestrategy(pg106-116)wouldyouconsiderusingwithyourchildren?Whatotherself-regulationstrategieshaveyourtried?Howwouldyouknowiftheyworked?

EMPATHYSKILLSTOBOOSTSELF-REGULATION1. JustBreathe(pg110,113):Tolearnmindfulbreathingandincreaseself-regulationabilities.2. BellyBreathing(pg111):Tolearnbreathcontroltocreateaninstantrelaxationresponse.3. LearnaCoolDownStrategy(ImagineaCalmPlace,Self-Talk,or1+3+10)(pg113-114):Toadopt

aself-regulationhabitwhenstresskicksin.4. GratitudeBreathing(pg114-115):Tousemindfulbreathingtoincreasecompassionandgratitude.

Chapter 6. Empathetic Children Practice Kindness

6thEMPATHYHABIT:Developingandexercisingcompassiontoincreasechildren’sconcernaboutthewelfareandfeelingsofothers


• DidHarvard’ssurvey(pg124)astothevaluesteensdeem“mostimportant”surpriseyou?Whatvalueswouldyourchildsaymatter?Doyouagreethat“achievementandsuccess”aretrumping“kindnessandcharacter”?(pg124)Howcanparentshelpkidsrealizethatkindnessmatters?

• Doyouagreethatkindnesscanbestretchedlikeamuscle?Whydomanyparentsthinkthatkindnessisafixedtrait?Howcanyouhelpyourchildpracticekindness(suchasonpg129-135)?

• JessicaandMarkinitiatedSecretKindnessBuddies(pg136)tofocusonkindnessandgiving.Arethereotherfamilyrituals(suchasthoseonpg135-139)youwouldliketotrywithyourkids?

• “Kidslearnkindnessbestthroughexample”(pg134).Ifyourchildhadonlyyourexampletowatch,wouldhecatchkindness?Howcanparentsbemoreintentionalaboutmodelingkindness?

• Wereyousurprisedbythefindingsonrandomactsofkindnessstudieswithchildren(pg127)?HowcouldyouapplySonjaLyubomirsky’sfindingswithyourfamily?(Afewideas:pg129-132).

• Whatbooksandfilmshelpkidsunderstandkindness?Howcouldparentsshareselectionsamongstsomorechildrencanbeexposedtotheirmessagesaboutkindness?

• IsstartingaKidKindClub(pg139)somethingyoumightconsider?Ifso,howmightyoubegin?


EMPATHYSKILLSTOCULTIVATEKINDNESS1. TheTwoKindRule(pg132):Tohelpchildrenpracticekindnessandexpandtheirkindnessmuscles.

Thisskillhasfivesteps;teacheachstepseparately).2. KindnessRituals(pg136-139).Topracticekindnessandhelpchildrenadoptacaringmindset.

Chapter 7. Empathetic Kids Think “Us” Not “Them”

7thEMPATHYHABIT:Cultivatingcollaborationtoactiveempathyandhelpchildrenworkwithotherstoachievesharedgoalsforthebenefitofall


• Howhasthedeclineofunstructuredplayaffectedchildhood?Howmuchfreetimedoesyourchildhavetolearncollaborativeskills?

• Howmightparentsjoinforcestousethecooperativegameideas(pg163),mixupthesocialscene(pg162)ormovienights(pg162)toboosttheirchildren’scooperativeskills?

• Howareyoustrengtheningyourchild’scollaborativeskills(likeplaygroups,teammembership,familymeetings)?Whatfamilyprojects(pg164)mighthelpyourfamilyworktogether?

• HowcouldyouusetheFamilyMeetings(pg154)topolishyourchild’ssocial-emotionalskills?• Howhasstiffcompetitionaffectedempathy(pg148)?Areyoumorelikelytopraise“thewin”or

yourchild’s“camaraderie”(pg162)?Howcanparentshelpkidsgraspthatteamworkcounts?• Weempathizewiththose“likeus.”Howcanyouexpandyourchild’sCircleofConcern(pg150)?• Whatcommunityresourcesmightyouusetoexposeyourchildtomorediversity?Howdowehelp

childrenunderstandracismandinjusticehappeningintheworld?

EMPATHYSKILLSTOBOOSTCOLLABORATION.1. Takea“STAND”toSolveProblems(pg155):Tolearntosolveproblemspeacefullyandconsider

otherpeople’sfeelingsandneeds.Eachofthefivestepsshouldbetaughtasaseparatehabit.2. TakeaRealityCheck(pg158):Tolearntolistenforcategoricalstatementsandhaltstereotypes.3. Encouragers(pg163):Tosupportothers,inspirecollaborationandbeateamplayer.4. FACTConversationStarters(pg161):Tostartdialogues,buildrelationshipsandfocusonothers.5. DisagreeingRespectfully(pg163):Tolearntodisagreerespectfullyandkeepcommunicationopen.6. DecisionMakersandDealBreakers(pg163):Toresolveconflictsandboostcooperation.

PART THREE - LIVING EMPATHY

Chapter 8. Empathetic Kids Stick Their Necks Out

8thEMPATHYHABIT:Promotingmoralcouragetoemboldenkidstospeakout,stepinandhelpothers


• Whichparentingstylescurtailorstrengthenchildren’smoralcourage?Howdoesover-rescuingorahelicopterstyleimpede?Whatisyourstyle?Ifyouareinarescuemode,howmightyoustepback?

• ThestoryofRockyLyon(pg178)describeshowaparenthelpedherchildfindhisinnerhero.Howareyouhelpingyourchilddevelopmoralcourage?Whatelsemightyoudo(pg180)?

• Whichofthefivereasonscurtailsyourchildandpeersfromhelpingbulliedpeers(pg172)?What


canparentsdosokidsfeelmorecomfortablecomingtoyouorotheradultsforhelp?• Whatfamilycourageritualcouldyouusetoempoweryourchildtofacesetbacks(pg189)?• Howcanparentshelpchildrenbemorelikelytostepintohelporcomfortothers?• KidsneedheroestoinspiretheirMoralCourage.Whoareyourchild’sheroes?• Whichbooksorfilmscouldhelpkidslearntosticktheirnecksoutforothers(pg188)?Areyou

interestedinstartingabookclub(pg188)withyourchild’sfriendsandparents?• Whichmoralcouragebuildersmightyouuse(pg183-189)withyourchild?Howcouldparentsjoin

forcestohelpchildrenlearnUpstanderstrategies?

EMPATHYSKILLSTOBOOSTMORALCOURAGE1. STANDUPforOthers(pg181-182):Tomobilizemoralcourageandstepintoreducebullying.Each

strategiesshouldbetaughtasaseparatehabit.2. PositiveSelfTalk(pg183):Tooverridethefearresponseandbuildmoralcourage.3. MentalRehearsal(pg183):Tousevisualizationinreviewinganactivitysoreducestress.4. ChunkIt(pg183):Tosetgoalsinextremelyshortchunkstoreducestress.5. 2-3-4BreathingorDragonBreaths(pg184):Togetoxygentothebrainforinstantrelaxation.6. UseYourHEART:Tohelpthosewhoaredistressed.Eachstrategyshouldbetaughtashabit.7. S.O.S.SafetySmarts(pg187):Toavertdangeranddecideifit’ssafertostepinorwisertogethelp.

Chapter 9. Empathetic Kids Want to Make a Difference

9thEMPATHYHABIT:CultivatingaltruisticleadershipabilitiestomotivatechildrentomakeadifferenceforothersandbecomeChangemakers


• Doyoubelievethatempathyissomethingkidsarebornwithoratraitthatcanbedeveloped?HowcouldthatanswerhaveasurprisingimpactonwhetherchildrenbecomeChangemakers?(pg201).

• Doesyourchild(oryou)believethatempathyissomethingyou’rebornwithorsomethingthatcanbedeveloped?Howcanyouusethesteps(pg201-202)toteachyourchildthatempathystretches?

• Doyouagreethatfame-driven“heroes,”amaterialisticworld,andanover-helpingparentingstylecanlimitachild’saltruisticpotential(pg195-198)?Whatelsecanshortchangealtruisticurges?

• HowmightyouusethePerlyn’ssixsteps(p205)tohelpyourchildbecomeaChangemaker?• Whatcommunityresourcesmightoffermeaningfulserviceopportunitiesforyourchild?• Howmightyouusetheeightstrategies(pg208-211)tohelpyourchilddevelopaltruisticleadership?• Howcouldyoustretchyourchild’scomfortzonetoinclude“different”experiences(pg212)?• Howcanparentsworktogethertoraisekidswhowanttobettertheworld?

EMPATHYSKILLSTOBOOSTALTRUSITICLEADERSHIP.1. FACE(pg203):Toshowconcernandclosetheempathygap.Eachskillshouldbetaughtseparately.2. ABCsofStressManagement(pg211):Tocopewithemotionaldistressandfighttheempathygap.3. StartWithOne(pg208):Tobuildself-efficacyandrealize“Icanmakeadifference.”

MICHELE BORBA, Ed.D., is an internationally renowned educational psychologist and an expert in parenting,bullying, and character development. She is an award-winning author of 22 books including Unselfie: WhyEmpatheticKidsSucceedinOurAll-About-MeWorldtranslatedinto14languages.SheisaregularNBCcontributorwhohasappearedover140timesonTodayandhasbeenfeaturedonDateline,TheView,Dr.Phil,NBCNightlyNews,Fox&Friends,Dr.Oz,andTheEarlyShow,amongothers.FollowheronTwitter@micheleborba

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