VIOLENCE & ABUSE

Days 1 & 2

VI·O·LENCE

A·BUSE

VI·O·LENCE

Behavior involving physical force intended to hurt, damage, or kill someone or something.

A·BUSEbad or improper treatment; maltr

eatment

On a clean sheet of paper please come up with your own personal definition for

Violence

Abuse

WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE?

VIOLENCE VS ABUSE

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Acts of violence or abuse against a person living in

one’s household, especially a member of one’s

immediate household

FAMILY ABUSE Family abuse is when a parent or caregiver

abuses, mistreats, or neglects you or other people in your family.

EMOTIONAL ABUSE  This kind of abuse, also known

as psychological abuse, is difficult to identify because it doesn't leave physical marks. Still, emotional abuse can be as painful as physical abuse. Here are some examples of emotional abuse

EXAMPLES OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE  Verbal abuse: name calling, insulting,

and criticizing to hurt feelings

Ridiculing

Humiliating in public (yelling at someone, pushing them around, or speaking down to them in front of others)

Telling someone they’re a bad person

Giving someone the “silent treatment”

EXAMPLES OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE Giving someone the “silent treatment”

Threatening to hurt someone or a person they care about (or threatening to harm a pet)

Threatening to leave a young person somewhere, or to leave the home and never return

Abusing someone else (sibling, parent, or pet) in front of a young person

Fighting in front of someone

PHYSICAL ABUSE often the most easily

recognized form of abuse. Physical abuse can be any kind of hitting, shaking, burning, pinching, biting, choking, throwing, beating, and other actions that cause physical injury, leave marks, or cause pain.

PHYSICAL ABUSE Hitting Slapping Biting Kicking Pulling hair Scratching Shaking Choking Arm twisting Using an object, such as a belt or bat, to

cause pain

VERBAL ABUSE Verbal abuse is the use of language to

manipulate, control, ridicule, insult, humiliate, belittle, and show disrespect and disdain to another, and is often a component of other types of abuse. 

VERBAL ABUSE Accusing / Blaming

Accusing and blaming another for ones own outbursts, expressions of anger, bad moods, mistakes, and failures. 

Covert / SubtleSeemingly sincere, expressed in a loving and concerned manner, but placing all blame and fault on the other person in an excusive or condescending manner. 

DenialThe inability to admit and take responsibility for ones actions and words concurrent with accusations and blame directed at the one abused. 

Judgemental CriticismCriticism that goes beyond neutral

HumiliationPublic or private intentional shaming and embarrassment of any kind. 

ManipulationAppealing to and/or using another's sense of responsibility or obligation to achieve a personal goal. 

Name Calling / Epithets

Ridicule

Teasing / Joking

SEXUAL ABUSE when an adult uses a

child or youth for sexual pleasure, or uses sexual acts as a way of demonstrating power or authority. Sexual abuse often involves some kind of physical contact, but it can also happen without touching. 

SEXUAL ABUSE Touching a young person’s genitals or making them touch

an adult’s genitals

Having sex or trying to have sex with a young person

Taking off a young person’s clothes or forcing them to watch them take off their clothes, especially in a sexual way

Making sexual comments about a young person’s body

Forcing a young person to watch others have sex

Making a young person watch porn or look at X-rated magazines

Taking pictures of a young person without clothes on

NEGLECT Sometimes parents don’t or are

unable to provide for their children’s basic needs. This is called neglect. Parents are legally required to provide:

Safe, warm, dry shelter and clean, weather-appropriate clothing

Nutritious food Adequate hygiene (soap,

shampoo, and a place to take showers or baths)

Supervision and guidance

NEGLECT Education (i.e. ensuring that you attend

school or receive home schooling) Emotional support (i.e talking to their

children, showing interest and affection) Medical care (i.e. basic preventative care like

going to the dentist or doctor on a regular basis, trips to the doctor when you’re sick, visits to the hospital in medical emergencies )

WANTS VS NEEDS

Parents are responsible for meeting their children’s needs – but not their wants. An example of aneed would be a warm coat in the wintertime. An example of a want would be a trendy winter coat. While parents are required to provide their child with warm winter clothing, they’re not required to provide them with the particular coat they want.

SHOULD PARENTS LOSE CUSTODY

http://www.ctvnews.ca/should-parents-lose-custody-of-severely-obese-kids-1.669804

Class disscussion

Initial thoughts and rea

TYPES OF ABUSE ROLE PLAYS Each group will have 5 minutes to come up with a role play that depicts the type of abuse they have been assigned to.

Please keep it clean everyone!

Group Discussion Do you feel like you are being abused? What's

the difference between abuse and discipline?

WHAT EFFECTS DOES ABUSE AND VIOLENCE HAVE?

WHAT IS THE CYCLE OF ABUSE?

People who are abused often keep their abuse a secret- why?