What do you consider the following: Honest or Dishonest Telling a lie 1% 98% Situation: A guy tells his parents he is going to a specific friend’s home,

What do you consider the following:What do you consider the following:Honest or DishonestHonest or Dishonest

Telling a lie 1% 98%1% 98%

Situation: A guy tells his parents he is going to a specific friend’s home, but actually only stops at that friend’s house on the way to someone else’s home.

1 2 3 4 51 2 3 4 5

TotallyTotallyHonestHonest

Shady, Shady, but OKbut OK

TotallyTotallyDishoneDishone

stst

11%% 3 3%% 20 20%% 41 41% % 3535 % %


Spreading Gossip 5% 94%5% 94%

Situation: While talking with a friend on the phone a person tells that friend something that is confidential about another friend.

1 2 3 4 51 2 3 4 5




stst

33%% 4 4%% 11 11%% 25 25% % 5858 % %


Taking something that doesn’t belong to you

2% 97%2% 97%

Situation: A person receives back too much change after paying for lunch, and keeps it.

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stst

22%% 4 4%% 14 14%% 22 22% % 5959%%

Which is worse?

Cheating Stealing No Difference2% 36% 59%

Lying Tax Evasion No Difference

19% 23% 55%

Gossiping Shoplifting No Difference7% 46%

44%

The “Report Card on the Ethics of American Youth,” a study of the habits of 12, 474 students in grades 9-12, found:

% of students who admitted cheating on a test at least once

within the past year.

% that had lied to their parents in the last year.

% that had lied to their teachers.

% that said they would lie to get a job.

70%74%

92%93%

78%83%

28%37%

2000 2002

(Information obtained from the Josephson Institute of Ethics, www.josephsoninstitute.org)

However, given these responses, students ironically, overwhelmingly

(95%) indicated that they agreed with the following statement:

It is important to me that people

trust me.(Information obtained from the Josephson Institute of Ethics, www.josephsoninstitute.org)

Students Students dodo know whether an act is honest know whether an act is honest or dishonest.or dishonest.

Students will often respond according to Students will often respond according to their perceived best end.their perceived best end.

Students see degrees of honesty.Students see degrees of honesty.

Surveys Indicate:Surveys Indicate:

Students do know whether an act is honest Students do know whether an act is honest or dishonest.or dishonest.

Students will often respond according to Students will often respond according to their perceived best end.their perceived best end.

Students see degrees of honesty.Students see degrees of honesty.

Surveys Indicate:Surveys Indicate:

Students do not fully understand the Students do not fully understand the benefits of honesty and/or the consequences benefits of honesty and/or the consequences of dishonesty.of dishonesty.

Punitive costs of broken trust

Rebuilding TrustRebuilding Trust

Military Parents

Loss of specific privileges

Loss of good standing in the wing

Administrative sanctions

Loss of specific privileges

Loss of proper standing in the home

More notification required

Rehabilitative costs of broken trust


Military (Honor Probation) Parents

REFLECTIONNo early release from probation. No exceptions.

REFLECTIONNo early release from period of disciplinary action. No exceptions.




REHABILITATIONA presentation at the beginning and end of probation

Keeping a daily journal w/entries about honor, integrity, morals, & values

REHABILITATIONSecure a written commitment to telling the truth

Assign a book or chapter of book for reading on honesty/integrity




REHABILITATIONCounseling

Meet with a mentor

Complete a project, which educates the whole wing on honor and integrity

REHABILITATIONMeet together to pray

Meet with a mentor

Apologize to the whole family, asking for their forgiveness




RESTORATIONEvaluation & completion

RESTORATIONEvaluate and grant your trust. No matter what is done to earn back your trust, you, at some point, must grant it.

Keep the first commandment.Loving God is a passion that requires cultivation, discipline, and renewal.

Stay focused on a vision.A shared vision or mission keeps me

focused on what is important and that which ultimately bears lasting fruit in my

life.Live in community.

I need help for True North living. I will find a friend or friends who will keep me

accountable to stay on True North.

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What do you consider the following: Honest or Dishonest Telling a lie 1% 98% Situation: A guy tells his parents he is going to a specific friend’s home,