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IndIvIdual HealIng – explains what a victim of family
violence should know, including: that abuse is not their
fault, there are people who care, abusive behaviour is
always wrong, it’s okay to ask for help and begin their
healing journey.
User’s Guide
This booklet explains the purpose and objectives of the
Healing Journey Toolkit and details how to use the toolkit
for crisis intervention, public education and awareness
and prevention.
Family Violence Resources and Networks
This booklet gives contact information for service providers in
each province and territory across Canada. Service providers
listed include: aboriginal transition houses and family violence
crisis lines, aboriginal legal aid services and legal clinics, legal
aid services, legal clinics and legal information sources, family
mediation services, native court-worker programs, provincial
agencies and government departments, and victim
assistance programs.
Safety Plans for Aboriginal Women and Children
This booklet gives important information for abused women
and children to help them develop safety plans. The safety
plans are presented using the medicine wheel teachings.
They deal with physical safety planning, as well as the
emotional, mental and spiritual aspects of being and keeping
safe. This resource outlines different things to consider,
ranging from safety during a violent incident, to safety when
preparing to leave or when staying in the home. There is also
information on safety with a protection order, safety on the
job and in public, safety and drug or alcohol consumption,
safety and emotional health, as well as safety on the internet,
and safety for children.
Who should use the Toolkit?
The Toolkit can be used by almost anyone. Service providers,
such as crisis workers, social workers, guidance counsellors,
police, health/mental health professionals and others who
come into contact with Aboriginal people experiencing
violence in their interpersonal relationships will find it a
valuable resource to promote healing. Much of the information
in the kit can be shared directly with individuals seeking help
with their own relationships.
What is in the Toolkit? Here is an overview of the contents of the Toolkit:
The Healing Journey Fact Sheets
The following five fact sheets can be used to create awareness.
RecognIzIng tHe HaRm of InteRpeRsonal
vIolence – defines family violence and explains why it is
not easy to leave abuse and how family violence harms the
community. The signs and symptoms of family violence are
explained using the medicine wheel approach.
undeRstandIng tHe Roots of vIolence – explains
some of the historical factors that have contributed to the
roots of violence in aboriginal communities. It provides
statistics on family violence in aboriginal communities and
different resources available.
communIty HealIng – provides suggestions for
community action to respond to family violence and ideas
of how to get started.
famIly HealIng – explains how abuse in an intimate
relationship can affect the whole extended family. Provides
things family members can do to help address relationship
violence and begin the path to healing for their family,
including: getting help, listening, and finding support.
What is the Healing Journey?
The “Healing Journey”
is a Toolkit and Website
(www.thehealingjourney.ca)
that offer culturally
sensitive resources about
family violence prevention
in Aboriginal communities.
These resources may
help people to recognize
the signs of abuse,
discuss the root causes,
and take action at the
individual, family and
community levels to end
interpersonal violence.
The Toolkit presents a holistic framework for violence
prevention. Using a medicine wheel approach, the
Toolkit fosters discussion on behaviours, feelings and
attitudes about family violence across all age groups
and stages of life. Increased public awareness is a first
step to healing. The kit also has resources for individuals
in crisis or for service providers who are trying to help
clients take the first steps on their journey to well-being.
Finally, the kit encourages the development of
prevention strategies.
The Toolkit does not have the “solutions” to family
violence; it simply offers some additional resources that
Aboriginal communities can use to promote community
discussions about respectful behaviour and attitudes
and supportive initiatives to address the multiple root
causes of family violence that meet the needs of all the
people affected by it.
A TOOLKIT ANd WebSITe
family violence preventionin Aboriginal communities
Starting Over: What You Should Know About Family Law Matters
This booklet provides an overview of the legal issues involved
when a couple is splitting up. This resource explains the
distinction between criminal law and family law matters
involved in splitting up, the legal consequences of separation,
custody and access, child support, spousal support and the
division of marital property.
How can I use the Toolkit?
You can use some or part of the information in the kit for:
cRIsIs InteRventIon – You can share the information
in the kit with individuals or families coping with abuse
and its side-affects. There is information on recognizing
abuse, safety planning for women and their children, and
resources for getting help in a crisis.
publIc educatIon and awaReness – You can use the
educational resources in the kit to create public education
and awareness of family violence issues. The Toolkit includes:
posters, bookmarks, fact sheets and a variety of resources
that you can use around the community. Creating awareness
of family violence issues and resources can happen at many
levels – social service agencies, band councils, workplaces,
schools and other places where people live, work and play.
pReventIon – You can use the Toolkit to encourage
people in your communities to find ways, traditional and
non-traditional, to support healing and new beginnings.
Prevention involves addressing physical safety, as well as
dealing with people’s emotional, mental and spiritual well-
being. Prevention includes helping people take the time to
reflect on how they act, think and feel about family violence
as individuals and as a community. It means fostering a
community climate of respect, caring, and healing, and
supporting or advocating for preventive services and
resources. This might include alcohol/drug rehabilitation
services, social and mental health services, counselling,
housing, and income generating opportunities.
Are there other Healing Journey resources available for me to use?
Yes. In addition to this pamphlet and the Toolkit, the following
resources are available to support your family violence
prevention efforts:
HealIng JouRney posteR
and bookmaRk
You can distribute these
products throughout
the community so that
people find out about the
website and can access the
resources directly.
an aboRIgInal youtH’s cRy
foR Help (youtH skIt)
You can use this skit to create public awareness about
dating violence among youth. This resource has a script
and directions for how to put on this interactive skit with
Aboriginal youth. The skit demonstrates one young
woman’s struggle with violence in a dating relationship, her
frustration as she looks for help from friends and family who
don’t understand, and finally, examples of positive support.
love sHouldn’t HuRt postcaRd
You can hand out this
postcard which has different
examples of how family
violence may affect friends
and family members, and
describes strategies that
anyone can use to help.
communIty development guIde
You or other interested community members can use
the contents of this handout to create a family violence
prevention group in your community. The exercise in the
booklet will help you identify potential support people
in your community, and help you to find the gaps in
resources.
someone Is HuRtIng my
mom: my safety plan
You can distribute or use this
pamphlet to help abused women
know the basic information and
planning steps when leaving an
abusive relationship.
safety plannIng foR
aboRIgInal cHIldRen
This pamphlet, written
specifically for children, will
help you to share appropriate
tips and information with
children living in violent
homes.
www.thehealingjourney.ca
Who created the Toolkit and the other resources?
The toolkit was a partnership between Gignoo Transition
House Inc., the only Aboriginal transition house in New
Brunswick, and Public Legal Education and Information
Service of New Brunswick, a non-profit organization offering
the public general information about the law. The resources
were developed with the guidance and assistance of an
advisory committee comprised largely of representatives
from various Maliseet and Mi’Kmaq organizations.
how can I get a copy of the toolkit or the other resources? To order a free copy of the toolkit and other resources contact:
public legal education and Information service of new brunswick
P.O. Box 6000
Fredericton, NB E3B 5H1
Telephone: (506) 453-5369
Fax: (506) 462-5193
gignoo transition House Inc.
P.O. Box 3385, Stn. B
Fredericton, NB E3A 5H2
Business Line: (506) 458-1236
Crisis Line: (800) 565-3878
Travel to our
website to
find resources
to help you
on your
own healing
journey
A joint initiative of
Gignoo Transition
House Inc. and Public
Legal Education and
Information Service of
New Brunswick
For more information,
contact us at
Family Violence Prevention
in Aboriginal Communities
ww
w.thehealing
journey.ca
www.thehealingjourney.ca
My Own Safety Plan
Fill in your information with a trusted adult.
Keep it with you to read when you need it.
When I get scared I can go to:
When I am feeling sad or afraid I can talk to:
The best ways to get out of my house are:
In an emergency I should:
My Important Phone Numbers:
My phone number:
The police/band constable:
A neighbour, friend or relative’s number:
To order free copies
of this pamphlet:
Public Legal Education and
Information Service of
New Brunswick
P.O. Box 6000
Fredericton, NB E3B 5H1
Telephone: (506) 453-5369
Fax: (506) 462-5193
Gignoo Transition
House Inc.
P.O. Box 3385, Stn. B
Fredericton, NB E3A 5H2
Business Line: (506) 458-1236
Crisis Line: (800) 565-3878
Someone is Hurting
my Mom
MySafety
Plan
www.thehealingjourney.ca
My Own Safety PlanFill in your information with a trusted adult. Keep it with you to read when you need it.
When I get scared I can go to:
When I am feeling sad or afraid I can talk to:
The best ways to get out of my house are:
In an emergency I should:
My Important Phone Numbers: My phone number:
The police/band constable:
A neighbour, friend or relative’s number:
To order free copies of this pamphlet: Public Legal Education and Information Service of New Brunswick
P.O. Box 6000 Fredericton, NB E3B 5H1 Telephone: (506) 453-5369 Fax: (506) 462-5193 [email protected]
Gignoo Transition House Inc.P.O. Box 3385, Stn. B Fredericton, NB E3A 5H2 Business Line: (506) 458-1236 Crisis Line: (800) 565-3878 [email protected]
Someone is Hurting my Mom
MySafety Plan
www.thehealingjourney.ca
My Own Safety PlanFill in your information with a trusted adult.
Keep it with you to read when you need it.
When I get scared I can go to:
When I am feeling sad or afraid I can talk to:
The best ways to get out of my house are:
In an emergency I should:
My Important Phone Numbers: My phone number:
The police/band constable:
A neighbour, friend or relative’s number:
To order free copies of this pamphlet: Public Legal Education and Information Service of New BrunswickP.O. Box 6000 Fredericton, NB E3B 5H1 Telephone: (506) 453-5369
Fax: (506) 462-5193 [email protected] Transition House Inc.
P.O. Box 3385, Stn. B Fredericton, NB E3A 5H2 Business Line: (506) 458-1236 Crisis Line: (800) 565-3878 [email protected]
Someone is Hurting my Mom
MySafety Plan
If you are walking, take a route where there are lots •of people.
Take different routes home.•
If you see your partner on the street, go to a public •place, e.g. store.
Buy a whistle or a personal alarm to call attention to •yourself and ask for help if you are being harassed.
Safety on the Internet The Internet, including MSN Messenger, chat rooms and
email, can put you at increased risk for harm if your abusive
partner is monitoring your activities. Be careful to change
your passwords and never leave your email open and
unattended. When you surf for information on the web,
Internet browsers record a history of recently visited web
sites for fast reloading on your next visit. Your safety could be
jeopardized if your abuser were to check this history.
There are some things you can do to hide your Internet use:
access the Internet from a friend’s house, your
workplace, a library or Internet cafe. (After using a
community computer, be sure to delete your “history”
or the addresses of the sites you visited).
take extra care to clear the computer’s memory of the
most recent pages you have accessed on the Internet.
This will empty your computer’s cache of the sites you
recently visited. (Note: If you do not know how to clear
your memory check the Help menu for terms like
“cache” “history” or “cookies”).
after you have cleared the cache, access some sites
on “safe” subjects so that it will have some items in it.
Check out the sites of newspapers or entertainment.
Safety for Your ChildrenIt is important to help children and youth learn ways to
protect themselves. You can use the pamphlet, Someone
is Hurting my Mom: My Safety Plan, to help you talk to your
children and create safety measures for your children. Some
of the safety measures you may reinforce include:
Have your child identify a safe room/place in the house, preferably with a lock on the door, and a phone.
Teach the child how to call for help. In a crisis, teach them to contact police or band constables and their emergency numbers, or to call 911.
Have a code word that means “get to safety and get help”.
Tell your children that they must leave the phone off the hook after they call 911 or the police. The police will call the number back if the child hangs up. This could create a dangerous situation for you and the child.
Help your child learn the street address and his or her full name.
Rehearse what they will say.
Teach the child about safe places to go such as a neighbour’s or a relative’s home.
Make sure your children know:
They are NOT responsible for the abuse. It is not their fault.
They should get to safety. They should never try to stop the abuse. The best way they can help you is to get out of the way!
More information on Safety PlansYou can gather more information on safety plans by
searching the internet.
For information on safety planning see the Healing Journey website at www.thehealingjourney.ca
Check out information about safety planning on Public Legal Education and Information Service of NB’s website – www.legal-info-legale.nb.ca
Check out Shelter Net’s Internet and Email Safety Tips at www.shelternet.ca/en/women/internet-safety/
To order free copies of this pamphlet:
You love them and want them to keep themselves safe.
There are people they can call in a crisis. Make sure they know the telephone numbers of these people and where to go in the house or if they leave the house.
Taking care of YOUBeing abused is exhausting and
emotionally draining. The process
of surviving requires courage
and incredible energy.
Reach out for help for
yourself and your children.
Consider contacting
agencies and services
such as the Health/
Wellness Centre, Mental
Health Centre, the Band
Office, family services,
family resource centres,
a transition house in your
area or local family violence
prevention organizations.
family violence preventionin aboriginal communitieswww.thehealingjourney.ca
Safety Planning for Aboriginal Women
Public Legal Education and Information Service of New Brunswick
P.O. Box 6000
Fredericton, NB E3B 5H1
Telephone: (506) 453-5369
Fax: (506) 462-5193
Gignoo Transition House Inc.
P.O. Box 3385, Stn. B
Fredericton, NB E3A 5H2
Business Line: (506) 458-1236
Crisis Line: (800) 565-3878
If you are walking, take a route where there are lots
•
of people.Take different routes home.
•
If you see your partner on the street, go to a public
•
place, e.g. store.Buy a whistle or a personal alarm to call attention to
•
yourself and ask for help if you are being harassed.Safety on the Internet The Internet, including MSN Messenger, chat rooms and
email, can put you at increased risk for harm if your abusive
partner is monitoring your activities. Be careful to change
your passwords and never leave your email open and
unattended. When you surf for information on the web,
Internet browsers record a history of recently visited web
sites for fast reloading on your next visit. Your safety could be
jeopardized if your abuser were to check this history. There are some things you can do to hide your Internet use:
access the Internet from a friend’s house, your
workplace, a library or Internet cafe. (After using a
community computer, be sure to delete your “history”
or the addresses of the sites you visited). take extra care to clear the computer’s memory of the
most recent pages you have accessed on the Internet.
This will empty your computer’s cache of the sites you
recently visited. (Note: If you do not know how to clear
your memory check the Help menu for terms like
“cache” “history” or “cookies”). after you have cleared the cache, access some sites
on “safe” subjects so that it will have some items in it.
Check out the sites of newspapers or entertainment.
Safety for Your ChildrenIt is important to help children and youth learn ways to
protect themselves. You can use the pamphlet, Someone
is Hurting my Mom: My Safety Plan, to help you talk to your
children and create safety measures for your children. Some
of the safety measures you may reinforce include: Have your child identify a safe room/place in
the house, preferably with a lock on the door,
and a phone. Teach the child how to call for help. In a crisis, teach
them to contact police or band constables and their
emergency numbers, or to call 911. Have a code word that means “get to safety and
get help”. Tell your children that they must leave the phone
off the hook after they call 911 or the police. The
police will call the number back if the child hangs
up. This could create a dangerous situation for
you and the child. Help your child learn the street address and his or
her full name. Rehearse what they will say. Teach the child about safe places to go such as a
neighbour’s or a relative’s home.Make sure your children know: They are NOT responsible for the abuse. It is not
their fault. They should get to safety. They should never try
to stop the abuse. The best way they can help you is
to get out of the way!
More information on Safety Plans
You can gather more information on safety plans by
searching the internet.
For information on safety planning see the Healing
Journey website at www.thehealingjourney.ca Check out information about safety planning on
Public Legal Education and Information Service of
NB’s website – www.legal-info-legale.nb.ca Check out Shelter Net’s Internet and Email Safety
Tips at www.shelternet.ca/en/women/internet-safety/
To order free copies of this pamphlet:
You love them and want them to keep themselves safe.
There are people they can call in a crisis. Make
sure they know the telephone numbers of these
people and where to go in the house or if they
leave the house.
Taking care of YOUBeing abused is exhausting and emotionally draining. The process of surviving requires courage and incredible energy. Reach out for help for yourself and your children. Consider contacting agencies and services such as the Health/Wellness Centre, Mental Health Centre, the Band Office, family services, family resource centres, a transition house in your area or local family violence prevention organizations.
family violence preventionin aboriginal communities
www.thehealingjourney.ca
Safety Planning for Aboriginal Women
Public Legal Education and Information Service of New BrunswickP.O. Box 6000
Fredericton, NB E3B 5H1 Telephone: (506) 453-5369 Fax: (506) 462-5193 [email protected]
Gignoo Transition House Inc.P.O. Box 3385, Stn. B Fredericton, NB E3A 5H2 Business Line: (506) 458-1236 Crisis Line: (800) 565-3878 [email protected]
If you are walking, take a route where there are lots
•
of people.Take different routes home.
•
If you see your partner on the street, go to a public
•
place, e.g. store.Buy a whistle or a personal alarm to call attention to
•
yourself and ask for help if you are being harassed.
Safety on the Internet
The Internet, including MSN Messenger, chat rooms and
email, can put you at increased risk for harm if your abusive
partner is monitoring your activities. Be careful to change
your passwords and never leave your email open and
unattended. When you surf for information on the web,
Internet browsers record a history of recently visited web
sites for fast reloading on your next visit. Your safety could be
jeopardized if your abuser were to check this history.
There are some things you can do to hide your Internet use:
access the Internet from a friend’s house, your
workplace, a library or Internet cafe. (After using a
community computer, be sure to delete your “history”
or the addresses of the sites you visited).
take extra care to clear the computer’s memory of the
most recent pages you have accessed on the Internet.
This will empty your computer’s cache of the sites you
recently visited. (Note: If you do not know how to clear
your memory check the Help menu for terms like
“cache” “history” or “cookies”).
after you have cleared the cache, access some sites
on “safe” subjects so that it will have some items in it.
Check out the sites of newspapers or entertainment.
Safety for Your Children
It is important to help children and youth learn ways to
protect themselves. You can use the pamphlet, Someone
is Hurting my Mom: My Safety Plan, to help you talk to your
children and create safety measures for your children. Some
of the safety measures you may reinforce include:
Have your child identify a safe room/place in
the house, preferably with a lock on the door,
and a phone. Teach the child how to call for help. In a crisis, teach
them to contact police or band constables and their
emergency numbers, or to call 911.
Have a code word that means “get to safety and
get help”. Tell your children that they must leave the phone
off the hook after they call 911 or the police. The
police will call the number back if the child hangs
up. This could create a dangerous situation for
you and the child. Help your child learn the street address and his or
her full name. Rehearse what they will say.
Teach the child about safe places to go such as a
neighbour’s or a relative’s home.
Make sure your children know:
They are NOT responsible for the abuse. It is not
their fault. They should get to safety. They should never try
to stop the abuse. The best way they can help you is
to get out of the way!
More information on Safety Plans
You can gather more information on safety plans by
searching the internet. For information on safety planning see the Healing
Journey website at www.thehealingjourney.ca
Check out information about safety planning on
Public Legal Education and Information Service of
NB’s website – www.legal-info-legale.nb.ca
Check out Shelter Net’s Internet and Email Safety
Tips at www.shelternet.ca/en/women/internet-safety/To order free copies of this pamphlet:
You love them and want them to keep
themselves safe. There are people they can call in a crisis. Make
sure they know the telephone numbers of these
people and where to go in the house or if they
leave the house.
Taking care of YOUBeing abused is exhausting and
emotionally draining. The process
of surviving requires courage
and incredible energy. Reach out for help for
yourself and your children.
Consider contacting agencies and services
such as the Health/Wellness Centre, Mental Health Centre, the Band
Office, family services, family resource centres,
a transition house in your area or local family violence
prevention organizations.
family violence prevention
in aboriginal communities
www.thehealingjourney.ca
Safety Planning for Aboriginal Women
Public Legal Education
and Information Service
of New BrunswickP.O. Box 6000 Fredericton, NB E3B 5H1 Telephone: (506) 453-5369
Fax: (506) 462-5193 [email protected] Transition
House Inc.P.O. Box 3385, Stn. B
Fredericton, NB E3A 5H2 Business Line: (506) 458-1236
Crisis Line: (800) 565-3878 [email protected]
ISBN: 978-1-55471-772-9 June 2010