WHAT WE CAN DO

TO DEAL WITH BULLYING

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BULLYING

• Bullying is a very big problem. Everyday 160,000 children miss school because they are scared of being bullied. According to the National Education Association, Bullying doesn’t only negatively impact its victims but also the bullies themselves.

• The 2010–2011 School Crime Supplement (National Center for Education Statistics and Bureau of Justice Statistics) indicates that, nationwide, 28% of students in grades 6–12 experienced bullying.

• The 2013 Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance System (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention) indicates that, nationwide, 20% of students in grades 9–12 experienced bullying.

Bullying

• In the 2012 New York Prevention Needs Assessment Survey, 75.2% of Hammondsport students in grades 6, 8, and 10 reported not being bullied in the previous year. 17.9% of students reported being picked on between 1 to 3 times.

• In the 2014 administration of the same survey, 59.4% of Hammondsport students reported not being bullied in the previous year. 27.7% of students reported being picked on between 1 to 3 times.

• The highest incidence of student reported bullying over the three survey administrations is in 8th grade. The group of students at that grade level does not appear to matter.

Types of Bullying

• Verbal Bullying

• Social Bullying

• Physical Bullying

• Cyber Bullying

BULLYING IS

• Fighting, threatening, name calling, teasing, OR excluding someone, REPEATEDLY AND OVER TIME.

• Using power such as size or popularity to get something.

• Excluding others from a group on purpose.

• Incidence where physical, social or emotional harm is inflicted upon a person.

• Bystander- A person who watches another person being mistreated but does nothing about it.

Roles Kids Play

• Those who bully.

• Those who are bullied.

• Those who assist.

• Those who reinforce.

• The By-Stander.

• Those who defend.

Children who bully may:

• Lack empathy and sympathy

• Value aggression

• Like to be in charge

• May be an arrogant winner and a sore loser

• Are impulsive

• Have a reason to bully (in his/her mind)

• Witness a role model who bullies others

Both Bullies and Victims are likely to:

• Be different than other kids- size, race, weakness

• Do poorly in school

• Want approval of others

• Have a low self-esteem or suffer from depression

• Smoke

• Drink alcohol

• Turn to violent behavior to protect themselves OR get revenge

• Will not tell

The Difference

• The difference between being bullied and being picked on…

Cyberbullying

Cyberbullying is bullying that takes place using electronic technology. Electronic technology includes devices and equipment such as cell phones, computers, and tablets as well as communication tools including social media sites, text messages, chat and websites.

Cyberbullying-Law Enforcement

• Law Enforcement- Threats of violence to self or others.

• Photos where someone expects privacy.

• Stalking and hate crimes.

Cyberbullying

• Cyberbullying can happen whenever and wherever children have access to technology and are not monitored.

• Cyberbullying messages and images can be posted anonymously and distributed quickly to a wide audience.

• Deleting inappropriate or harassing messages, texts, and pictures is difficult after they have been posted or sent.

Sites to Monitor and/or Avoid

• Facebook

• Kik

• Vine

• Tinder

• See: http://bullying.about.com.od/cyberbullying/fl/4-Apps-Used-for-Sexting-and-Cyberbullying-Parents-Should-Know-About.htm#

Warning Signs of Problems w/ Cyber

Usage• Changes in sleeping and eating patterns.

• Excessive and prolonged fatigue.

• Signs of agitation and distress while on an electronic device.

• Avoidance of friends and family.

• Obsessive use of a mobile device and unwillingness to be without the device.

Students should:

• Be respectful at all times.

• Be an up-stander.

• Listen to your friends and let an adult know if they report a problem.

• Tell the adult closest to you.

Milton and Friends

• https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WwD0Zgk8jGA

Parent Options

• Ensure your child is old enough to handle social media appropriately.

• Provide rules and a public place to use technology.

• Know what sites, technology and who your child is interacting with through social media.

• Maintain access to passwords and user names, and let your son/daughter know that you will monitor on-line activity.

• Tell them not to share anything that could hurt or embarrass themselves or others.

• Turn off the device.

Parents, here are some things you can do:

• Teach kids to solve problems without using violence.

• Give positive feedback when they behave well.

• Ask your children about their day and listen to them talk about school, social events, their classmates and any problems that they are having.

• Take bullying seriously.

• If you see bullying, stop it right away, even if the child doing the bullying is your child.

• Encourage your child to help others who need it.

• Model appropriate interactions with your children and with other adults. If your children see you hit, ridicule or gossip about someone else, they are more likely to do so themselves.

• Help your child develop a toolbox of coping skills.

Parents

• Take it seriously.

• Build empathy for others by talking about how it feels to be bullied.

• Communicate with your school to get help on how to work through the problem together.

• Ask yourself if there may be a root cause for the behavior.

Parents

• Ask questions too. The word bully is used frequently by adults and children. Sometimes it is bullying and sometimes it is a one time incident.

• Even if your child doesn’t turn to you for help, you can watch for warning signs that he or she is being bullied.

Withdrawal

Loss of friends

Drop in grades

Loss of interest in activities

Bruises

Need for extra money or supplies

How you can help

• Role play-Model- Practice.

• Talk to your child’s teacher about it instead of confronting the parents.

• Teach your child non-violent ways to deal with bullies. (walking away, talking it out, letting responsible adults know).

• Help your child act with self-confidence. Walking upright, looking people in the eye and speaking clearly.

• Involve your child in activities outside of school. This helps create friendships that can help your child.

School

• Assess bullying in our school.

• Develop policies, procedures and rules.

• Establish a school safety committee.

• Educate students and staff.

School

• BE VISIBLE!

• BE PROACTIVE!

• Build Relationships.

• Build a Safe School Environment.

Closing

Engage our parents and students.

Working together is the most effective method of solving problems such as bullying.