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WHEN YOU’VE LOST THE CONTROL
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E-mail subject line: HELP! NO SERIOUSLY I’M DROWNING.
“How are you doing? I really need your help. I know you’ll
be choosing a winner soon for the organize your finances
competition, but would you be willing to help me along with
your winner? I am seriously drowning financially and I don’t
know what to do anymore. I am struggling between my
needs and my wants. I also have a lot of weddings this year.
I was hoping to have money saved up to move out. This
doesn’t seem realistic anymore. Any help or advice would
be awesome. I’ve tried the automated splitting, but I am
finding that I am dabbling between accounts to make ends
meet. I hope to hear from you soon.”
It was Friday, March 13. I was riding the train on my way
to work when I received the email above. At the time I
was offering an Organize Your Finances contest, where I
would choose one winner and work with them for free for 3
months to get their finances in order.
I love helping people, but I was afraid to work with some-
one one-on-one. I’d never coached anyone before. My men-
tor Derrick Duplessy was the one who suggested that I hold
this contest.
They always say that in order to grow, you have to do some-
thing that’s outside of your comfort zone. This is one of
those quotes that I’ve always agreed with. If I see this quote
on Instagram I’ll hit the like button and keep scrolling. It
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never occurred to me how true this quote was until I was
sitting across the conference table from my mentor.
Derrick: “What if you held a contest and choose a winner to
work with for three months to help them organize their fi-
nances?”
Me: “A contest? Wait no, I can’t work with someone one-on-
one. I’m not a financial advisor, I’m just a writer who helps
people with their finances. No, I only deal with my finances.
I can’t help someone else organize their finances.”
Derrick: “Yes you can, and you will. This will be good for
you. A little scary at first, but it will really teach you what
people are struggling with when it comes to their finances.”
I was upset leaving that meeting with my mentor. How
could he expect me to work one-on-one with someone? I
didn’t want to hold the contest. I was nervous. Isn’t there
another way to help people? What if I didn’t know how to
help them? What if they’re not in Boston?
Doubts quickly started to fill my head like a tall glass of wa-
ter. But Derrick was right. I had written a book that would
help people with their finances, but this contest would put
everything that I wrote in the book into practice. Or put my
money where my mouth is.
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Developing the ContestThe first week that passed, I procrastinated.
Thoughts of the contest would brush across my mind, but
my fear kept me stuck from really taking action. Finally I
decided to sit down and plan the contest. As I’m sure you’ve
probably heard a thousand times, the only way to get over
your fear is to do the exact thing that you’re afraid of doing.
Questions to AskFirst things first: I needed to come up with a list of ques-
tions to ask each candidate.
These needed to be questions that would help me gauge
what the person was really struggling with when it came to
their finances. I asked two questions:
1. What is your biggest financial obstacle?
2. What is your number one financial goal?
If I could go back, I would add a few more questions to the
list:
3. Why is money important to you?
4. One year from now I would feel better about my fi-
nances if...
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Question 1: What is your biggest financial obstacle?
It’s important to ask yourself what your biggest financial
obstacle is, because if you don’t identify a problem then it’s
going to be hard for you to make a change. You’ll keep mak-
ing the same money mistakes and wondering why you can’t
get ahead. Really sit there and think about it.
One of my biggest financial obstacles was wanting to look
as if I had money. I had to learn to be happy with having
money in my accounts and to accept that just because I
have money doesn’t mean I need to spend it on material
things.
We need to look at how you’ve previously been spending
your money and see if there are any areas that can be fixed.
My recommendation is for you to look at your past three
months of your credit card and bank account statements.
I know it may seem like a scary task, seeing how you’ve
spent your money, but it’s a very helpful exercise. When I
did this exact exercise, I was shocked to find that I’d spent
almost $600 on weave, wigs, haircuts, color, and hair prod-
ucts in the past 3 months. But I also saw that I did pretty
well when it came to groceries; I spent no more than $45.00
for food shopping each week. This amount was within my
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Contestants Starting Debt Chart
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budget.
Thinking you know where all your money is going and actu-
ally seeing where all your money is going are two very dif-
ferent things. I knew I spent a lot of money on my hair, but
I had no idea I spent that much. I also thought that I spent
more money on groceries, but it turns out I’d been pretty
good at staying within my budget.
Question 2: What is your number one financial goal? Notice that I’m asking you to figure out your number one fi-
nancial goal. Not your top two, not your top three, just one!
I want you to identify one financial goal because you are
powerful when you are focused.
I’ll talk more about my debt challenge a little later, but I’ll
share this now: Before the challenge my debt wasn’t moving
because I wasn’t really focused on paying it off. Sure, I told
myself that one of my goals was to pay it off, but I wasn’t
really dedicated to it.
I had about seven other money goals that I was trying to ac-
complish at once. My focus was split, so I was making very
minimal progress on all of it.
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Having too many money goals at once is like having a lim-
ited amount of water and trying to water ten plants. Why
not just focus all of your energy, love, and attention on one
plant, and let that one flourish before moving on to the
next one? I’d rather have one great plant than 10 struggling
ones.
So for example, take debts. While you’re focused on getting
rid of one specific debt, pay the minimum amount toward
the rest of your debt.
The Ideal Person Now who is the ideal person I would want to work with?
Since my blog is called Young Yet Wise (But I also appreci-
ate the older and wise), I chose to work with someone who
was between the ages of 18 and 32.
The income level I set was in the range of $25,000-$65,000.
I chose $25,000 as the starting range and I chose $65,000 as
the cut off range because
someone who makes more that should already have a good
idea of handling their finances.
I also wanted to work with a single person who didn’t have
any children.
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I really love children; however, for this contest it would be
easier for me if I just focused on one person. Once we start
adding partners and children, it’s a whole different ball
game.
I set up my questionnaire for the contest on a Google form.
The ResponseWithin a few hours of posting, more than 10 people entered
my contest. I was shocked. I know 10 people may not seem
like a lot of people to you, but to me it was plenty. One
thing that shocked me while reading through the contes-
tants’ answers was that most of the people who entered the
contest weren’t from my hometown of Boston.
The Contestants and Their StrugglesMost of the contestants were struggling with the same ob-
stacles: Paying off debt and spending money on things that
they want, not what they need. Let’s look at three of these
responses.
Contestant 1, age 21-24:
What is your biggest financial obstacle? My biggest obsta-
cle is my income to debt ratio and creating a budget I can
actually follow while also saving. Since I became fully aware
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of my financial status at the end of last year, I’ve been mak-
ing better decisions regarding money and I am currently in
the process of trying to raise my income.
What is your number one financial goal? I am determined
to pay off credit card debt ($8,500) by the end of this year
and let my credit score soar! My second goal is to save to
purchase property in the end of 2016, in addition to invest-
ing, and mapping out a plan to pay off grad school debt
($60,000) in 5 years MAX. I need financial freedom! One day
I would like to enjoy my entire pay.
Contestant 2, age 24- 28:
What is your biggest financial obstacle? My biggest obsta-
cle is dipping into my savings. I end up saving just a few
hundreds of dollars only to end up withdrawing for some-
thing I want, or something I think I need. I really want to
begin investing and watch my money grow. When I get my
paycheck, I tend to always pay the bills first and have noth-
ing for me. By the end of the month I feel like I am waiting
for the next check. What am I doing wrong? Why do I only
have enough for gas the last week of the month?
What is your number one financial goal? My number one
goal is to pay off my credit card debt. All of them!
My second goal would be to begin investing. I know money
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isn’t everything but knowing how to use it, where to put it
etc., can be powerful. I like seeing what you’ve learned and
being able to work with you one on one would be a great
experience and help me to get on track.
Contestant 3, age 21- 24:
What is your biggest financial obstacle? My biggest finan-
cial obstacle is sticking to a budget and paying down my
debt without having the feeling that I am missing out on
life. I have a problem setting realistic goals. I can cut back
on what I want but my plan usually requires cutting them
all the way out. I also want to start investing to create a
safety net since I am new in my nursing career. My parents
have no money for retirement and that is a huge fear of
mine, but I have no idea of the best course of action for me
specifically. I know now is the time to lay a strong founda-
tion, but I am unaware of how.
What is your number one financial goal? My first goal is
to pay off my credit card bill, which I am currently working
on. Second goal is saving for a new car and third becoming
a lifelong investor.
Reaching Out I emailed each contestant letting them know that I wanted
to do a Google Hangout with each of them in order to really
understand how I could help them organize their finances.
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At the end of the 20-minute session, I would give them a
spreadsheet to keep so they could see exactly where their
money was going. After I met with each person, I would
choose a winner. For the Google Hangout session, I would
need to know each person’s income, monthly living expens-
es, and debt.
Not every person was able to meet during the scheduled
times, but for those who were able to meet after the Google
Hangout, I created a money chart for them so they could
visually see where their money was going.
Choosing a WinnerDeep breath. So after the long process, I finally chose a win-
ner. Her goals in the beginning were to pay off her credit
card debt, save up money to move out, and start investing.
After talking to her further, I mapped out a plan for the
next three months.
Set Up Your Financial GoalsI wanted her to just focus on getting rid of some of her
credit card debt, building up her emergency fund, gaining
discipline to not spend money on things that she doesn’t re-
ally need, and setting up a budget for the weddings that she
had to attend in the upcoming months.
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It was also important that she set up a separate account
where she could automate her savings.
Sometimes what we think our financial goals are and what
our financial goals should be are different. I wanted her to
really get a sense of how much debt she had, so I created a
visual debt so she could get a better picture. Once I showed
her the chart of all her debts, she was shocked.
Her response:
“Thanks for the chart. It’s a scary image, making me realize
I need to stand in my truth and be honest with myself and
take full responsibility for the financial mistakes I’ve made.
I look forward to talking with you tomorrow, and will make
my automatic deposits adjustments for my savings.”
Figure Out Your Exact Debt AmountIt’s extremely important to realize exactly how much debt
you have, so that you can figure out a plan to get rid of it.
Too often we don’t get it written down because we don’t
want to know the real number, but it’s the only way to make
progress.
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Q&A
I asked the winning contestant to
answer a few questions about the
contest. Her responses are below.
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DiscoveriesMy client didn’t realize how much of her money was going
toward food. Instead of spending money on food, I want-
ed her to spend that money toward her debt. For the first
month, the goal was to have her pay off her Victoria’s Secret
card, put $100 toward her Sprint bill, and put another $100
toward Bob’s. She also had a wedding coming up, so she put
some money aside to pay for a dress.
Putting the Plan to Work
Can you go over some of your financial goals at the be-
ginning?
At first I wanted to start investing, but after talking to Can-
dice, I realized I needed to lower eliminate my credit debt.
I needed money for emergencies – which always seems to
happen (for instance today I had to purchase a new tire for
my car) and finding ways to cut down my student loans.
Did your goals change toward the end?
Not really, just the focus. I still want to invest and I have
found other smaller tools to do so, like a 401k savings,
Acorns, and just learning about stocks. Though my money
isn’t going to investing at the moment, educating myself
now is a good start and can be done for free with the Inter-
net and the library – do people still use those? If not, they
are missing out big time; forget Amazon prime and free
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two-day delivery.
What is your major goal?
My major goal is to owe no one. I want to be debt-free. I’ve
seen my mother struggle for a long time and she has a hus-
tler’s spirit. Things always end up being ok in the end, but I
don’t want my future to be this way.
What was your biggest aha moment?
I’m not too sure that I had one. Perhaps I’m not sure what
type of aha moment you mean.
I know that having someone I needed to report to each
month to let them know my progress helped keep me ac-
countable. I didn’t want Candice to feel like she was wasting
her time with me. Time is precious and I wouldn’t want her
to dismiss me nor would I want to disappoint her.
Maybe an aha moment was when I recently read a post –
your 9-5 won’t help you become a millionaire. I know this,
but hearing it through your periscope videos and reading it
on your blog, something clicked.
For some time now I’ve been working on building my blog
in hopes to gain passive income through designing logos,
and hand lettered pieces over at www.doniastudio.co.
Another aha moment is that financial literacy isn’t taught to
everyone. I was born to immigrant parents. I didn’t learn to
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balance a checkbook until I started working at a bank. How
sad is that? These are the life skills that need to be taught
in elementary and high school. Students need to learn
ahead of time what they are getting themselves into, espe-
cially with the student loans. Let me not get started about
the education system, and how easy it is to get a credit card
or student loans.
So many people are struggling to make ends meet today.
Students are leaving college with $60,000 to $100,000 in
student loan debt with a job that pays $30,000 a year. With
rent, food, entertainment, transportation, and other neces-
sities, how would you ever pay $100,000 back?
My mom always told me to figure it out – and I realize she
just didn’t have the answers. I’m going to figure out how to
retire and not have to still work a job I’m not fond of.
Did you feel that meeting with me each month was
helpful?
Absolutely, I was nervous and scared when we were com-
ing to an end. While I know what to do, having someone to
check in on me, see where my money is going, and give me
tips on what to improve helps. I still feel the need at times
to check in by letting Candice know what’s going on with
my finances.
While money isn’t everything, I just don’t like the feeling of
owing anyone. It’s like someone waving this dark cloud over
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me. Throughout out the entire process Candice was very en-
couraging which was also helpful.
What have you changed about your finances since the
contest?
Delaying my wants
Delaying my wants is another big thing. We live in such an
instant gratification world. Whatever happened to focus-
ing on what we need? I can’t remember the last time I pur-
chased a pair of shoes (other than the wedding). Last week-
end I purchased a pair of jeans, because I needed them. As
in, I only had one other pair and nothing else.
My boyfriend and I have found other ways to go on less ex-
pensive dates and I am on a frugality challenge. I just need-
ed to cut back and invest in other places like my savings
and my health.
One of the biggest changes was paying Amex twice a month.
I can avoid the accumulated interest which at times is any-
where between $15-25 depending on the balance.
I’ve knocked so much more down toward my credit cards.
Now, I no longer have an outstanding bill with Sprint.
I realized that there are so many things we can do for free
and still enjoy ourselves. Because of this, I cut back on eat-
ing out.
My biggest take-away
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If I don’t have the cash to purchase what I want, then I don’t
need it. Credit cards are a tool, and they are great when
you know how to use them. You can get that 50% off with
out the interest rates, by charging the card and paying it
the same time you charged it. If you don’t have the money,
don’t spend it.
Lastly, let your friends know your situation. Maybe they are
in a better financial place, and they can help you out.
My interest has peaked with financial literacy, business, and
understanding of how this all works. Thanks for the book
recommendations and thanks for taking the time to work
with me.
My goal for 2016 is to live off of one paycheck out of the
month and put the rest in savings. I will keep you posted on
how that goes.
One Year Later
A year after the contest, I got an update from the winner.
Here’s what she wrote:
Hey Candice!
I have some updates for you:
I’ve paid off my American Express, Victoria’s Secret, Bobs
Furniture, and one Sallie Mae loan.
( I didn’t owe her too much!)
I didn’t have anything in collections.
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I continue to contribute to my 401k and increased it by one
percent.
And by November I’ll have 12k in savings.
Remember your ROTH IRA tree that I downloaded from
your website? Yea I pretty much will have two of them filled
out. Thanks for that.
I do need to start with stocks – I’m still a bit afraid to dip
into that. Planning to begin investing in stocks in January.
I have to tally up my student loan debt balance (making a
few payments this week).
Key Take-Aways
Well, there you have it, folks: A full testimony. These are the
biggest money mistakes that were keeping my client living
paycheck to paycheck. She was fed up and decided some-
thing had to change: Her mindset and her habits. She had to
decide that her goals were more important than her instant
gratifications.
Are the goals you say you want to achieve really the
goals that matter at the moment?
The contestant had a ton of goals they wanted to achieve
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she wanted to move out, start investing, and pay off her
credit card debt. However, she also had a few weddings
coming up that she needed to save for.
I know sometimes every goal you have may seem super ur-
gent, but the truth is you are more powerful when you’re
focused on few goals at a time (and by “a few,” I really mean
one). While you are focused on your major goal, you should
still be putting money aside in your savings and investing
accounts. In her situation, debt was a major obstacle she
had to overcome, but she also had to take a good look at
her current money habits.
Looking at Where You Currently Stand When you looked over your previous 3 months of bank and
credit card statements, what did you find? Where were you
leaking the most money? Is there any way you can pull back
and use that money towards your debt?
Once you get the ball rolling and get serious about your
money, it becomes fun. You get addicted to seeing prog-
ress and want to keep going until you reach your goal. Who
would’ve thought the person who emailed me telling me
they were drowning would have paid off American Express,
Victoria’s Secret, Bobs Furniture, one Sallie Mae loan, her
bill in collections, and saved up almost $12,000 in savings
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and is continuing to put money towards her 401K? If it is
possible for her to make so much progress in one year, it is
definitely possible for you. The question really boils down
to this: How much do you want it?
Can’t get enough? For more thoughts on this chapter be
sure to check out the video I created for you. You can see it
here.
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ework
When you looked over your previous 3 months of bank
and credit card statements, was there anything you were
surprised to see?
Are the goals you say you want to achieve really the
goals that matter at the moment?