Why is so difficult to say no?

•Pressure – feel like a chicken - Labeling

•Some things seem like attractive alternatives – desserts, skipping school..

•Justification – you feel you have to have a good reason.

•Assertiveness - people are afraid to speak up for themselves

•Fear of standing out from the crowd

•Don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings

•I want to be liked

Why is it so difficult to say no?

Play now Pay

later

Pay now Play

later

If you don’t say no now….

you won’t be able to say yes later.

C – Calm - Clear – Consistent

P – Proud - Posture – Pupils

R – Repeat – Repeat - Retreat

This baby can say no.

This cat can say no.

Anyone can so no once….but can you keep that going?

We must practice this skill!

Not interested

I’m good, thanks!

I don’t have time for that

I thought you were smarter than that

You go ahead, let me know how it goes

I’m afraid I’m not the right person for it.

Now is not a good time

I have an appointment

I have a family thing

I’m having a blood transfusion

01101110 01101111

No

I’m focusing on other things right now

Nope

Absolutely not.

Nah

No Thanks

I don’t have room for that in my life

I don’t do that

Turn and walk away

I don’t have room for that in my schedule

Thanks for thinking of me, but I can’t.

I’m not able

I have to wash my hair

I have to wash my hare

I have to wash my hare

Yeah Right!

Heck no.

Not possible

Sorry, no can do.

Ew.

Apologies, but I can’t make it.

I need some alone time right now.

That’s a bad idea

I’d rather stick needles in my eyes…or your eyes

That might be the worst idea I’ve ever heard

Seriously?

Not gonna happen

I can’t do that

Really?

I’m allergic, that could kill me

Finger Wave

Head Shake

Stink Face

Pretend to answer your phone – and say “I have to take this.”

Then walk away.

No and neither should you

I have to call my Aunt

I have to call my Ant

NONONONONONONONONO

I have to floss my cat.

my crayons all melted together.

naw

No comment

Speak to my assistant

nah

I would rather…

Clothes Pin Picture

1. Take the clothes pin

2. Hold it in your non-dominant hand

3. Hold it with your thumb and middle finger

4. Squeeze the clothes pin together as fast as you can for 1 minute