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Module 1Today Matters

DEVELOPING COURAGEOUS LEADERS

Willow Creek Association UK & Ireland in partnership with EQUIP and United Christian Broadcasters

2 Developing Courageous Leaders Module 1 | www.willowcreekevents.org.ukWCA Notes © Willow Creek Association | www.willowcreek.com EQUIP Notes © EQUIP Million Leaders Mandate Volume 2 | www.iequip.org

Welcome to the Developing Courageous Leaders (DCL) programme. This programme is designed to inspire and challenge you to grow in your leadership skills, bringing together the best of training materials from EQUIP and Willow Creek Association (WCA):

EQUIP Million Leaders Mandate (MLM) Training presentations and notes

WCA Conference presentations and process tools

WCA Audio Training and Messages Acknowledgements Special thanks go to the partnership of EQUIP and United Christian Broadcasters (UCB) for the provision of the first class MLM notes and video presentations. Together with the WCA material they blend into a powerful resource tool from the combined experiences of highly recognised Christian leaders. I encourage you be a part of the leadership process, to learn it, to live it and pass it on to others.

Graeme Paris Executive Director WCA UK & Ireland


About the Willow Creek Association The Willow Creek Association (WCA) exists to maximize the life‐transformation effectiveness of local churches. It does this by stirring up and calling out the core leadership of churches around the world, encouraging them to follow their “holy discontent” as they build life‐changing communities of faith. It then equips these leaders with next‐step solutions to impact spiritual transformation of their people, their communities, and the world. Over the past 18 years, the WCA has developed a respected history of excellence and innovation in serving local churches and their leaders. In that time, the WCA has inspired and trained more than one million church leaders and has created and distributed millions of church resources into tens of thousands of churches representing more than 90 denominations. Visit: www.willowcreek.org.uk | www.willowcreek.com

Acknowledgements

Special thanks to Tom Atema, EQUIP, and Bill Partington, United Christian Broadcasters, for their assistance and for the provision of the first class Million Leaders Mandate notes and video presentations. Visit: www.iequip.org | www.ucb.org.uk

Many thanks also to Chris Hollies of Leadership First, based in Belfast, for his passion regarding leadership, and the help he has provided to the team at WCA UK & Ireland in developing some of the process tools in this manual. Visit: www.leadershipfirst.co.uk


Module 1 Contents

Getting Started ....................................................................................................................................................... 5 Opening Thought and Prayer ................................................................................................................................. 7 Lesson 1: Today Can Be A Masterpiece......................................................................................................... 8 1.1 Full Devotion ................................................................................................................................................... 9 1.1 Focusing on Today ......................................................................................................................................... 12 1.1 How Does Today Impact Tomorrow’s Success? ............................................................................................ 13 1.1 Daniel: A Man Who Demonstrated That Today Matters .............................................................................. 15 1.1 Dangerous Leaders ........................................................................................................................................ 19 Lesson 2: Managing My Attitudes, Priorities and Health ............................................................................. 23 1.2 Disarming Grace ............................................................................................................................................ 24 1.2 Introductory Thoughts : The Work of the Lord and the Lord of the Work ................................................... 27 1.2 Our Attitudes: Today’s Attitude Gives Me Possibilities ................................................................................. 27 1.2 Our Priorities: Today’s Priorities Give Me Focus ........................................................................................... 30 1.2 Our Health: Today’s Health Gives Me Strength ............................................................................................ 33 1.2 Dead Leader Running .................................................................................................................................... 35 Lesson 3: Managing My Family, Thinking and Commitment ........................................................................ 40 1.3 A Beautiful Mind ........................................................................................................................................... 41 1.3 Our Family: My Family Today Gives Me Stability .......................................................................................... 43 1.3 Our Thinking: Today’s Thinking Gives Me an Advantage .............................................................................. 45 1.3 Our Commitment: Today’s Commitment Gives Me Tenacity ....................................................................... 48 1.3 Leadership Excellence ................................................................................................................................... 51 Lesson 4: Managing My Finances, Faith and Relationships ......................................................................... 55 1.4 Living as Children of God ................................................................................................................................ 56 1.4 Our Finances: My Finances Today Give Me Options ..................................................................................... 59 1.4 Our Faith: Today’s Faith Gives Me Peace ...................................................................................................... 62 1.4 Our Relationships: Today’s Relationships Give Me Fulfilment ...................................................................... 64 1.4 The Personal Life of a Leader ........................................................................................................................ 67 Lesson 5: Managing My Generosity, Values and Growth ............................................................................ 71 1.5 A Generous Heart .......................................................................................................................................... 72 1.5 Our Generosity: My Generosity Today Gives Me Significance ...................................................................... 75 1.5 Our Values: My Values Give Me Direction .................................................................................................... 78 1.5 Our Growth: My Growth Gives Me Potential ................................................................................................ 80 1.5 Leaders That Grow ........................................................................................................................................ 83 Lesson 6: Managing My Personal Growth ................................................................................................... 86 1.6 Yours is the Kingdom, the Power and the Glory ........................................................................................... 87 1.6 Three Myths about Personal Growth ............................................................................................................ 90 1.6 Managing the Discipline of Growth ............................................................................................................... 92 1.6 Passing the Leadership Test .......................................................................................................................... 95 Closing Thought and Prayer ............................................................................................................................... 102


Getting Started

About the Course The course is available ON DEMAND online, allowing you to study at your own pace. This course contains six lessons containing 15 hours of video and audio training. Notes are provided in this manual for you to follow along. Space is provided for you to make your own notes. Each lesson is made up of three sections:

Meditation – to prepare the student in heart, mind and soul (Willow Creek Messages)

Instruction – to train and equip the student (EQUIP Training)

Inspiration – to envision the student (Willow Creek Conferences)

Finding Your Way to the Course Online Access to the full course requires a WCA login. This is provided with your membership. If you are unsure of your login, please call WCA on 023 8071 0295 or send an email to [email protected] 1. The course is housed on the ‘Lead & Learn’ website.

http://www.willowcreekevents.org.uk/. 2. Login under ‘LOGIN STATUS’ at the top right of the page. 3. You will be automatically re‐directed to the DCL main page. 4. You can select the relevant module under the heading ‘ACCESS THE PROGRAMME

BELOW’ 5. Once inside your chosen module, select the lesson heading you require.


Symbols in the Manual In your manual there are symbols provided to facilitate your study:

PLAY MEDIA (VIDEO OR AUDIO)

Online video session – watch the relevant section.

This is provided to help you plan your study time. The time given is the minimum requirement for the video/audio. You should factor in extra time for personal/group study and reflection.

DISCUSSION

Discussion questions are provided to enable you to process what you have seen, read or heard. You will benefit by taking time to discuss these questions with others.

NOTES

Please take notes – this is your workbook and we believe you will benefit more by ‘personalising’ your development as a leader.

ASSESSMENT AND APPLICATION

The heart icon will be seen where time is provided for personal reflection and response.

Video =

20 minutes


Opening Thought and Prayer

The purpose of education is perhaps more about discovery than knowledge.

Lord, as I approach this material, Help me to see myself as you see me,

Not as I want to be seen.


Lesson 1: Today Can Be A Masterpiece



Meditation 1.1 Full Devotion Message by John Ortberg

PLAY AUDIO

We are spiritually thirsty people. Jesus came promising spiritual water. Yet, even though we know him and have been saved by him, many of us are still thirsty. We fall prey to many spiritual traps. Sometimes we try harder. Sometimes we pretend things are better than they are. We make rededications, or change churches, or seek spiritual highs. After a while, we may even give up hope. But if the Bible is true, and God has provided for our thirst, there has to be water somewhere. According to Jesus, a spiritual river, a fountain of endless refreshment, runs through life. We must find that flow and step into it. It is not something we can manufacture, but like ocean waves, God keeps sending us one opportunity after another.

NOTES

Audio = 47 minutes


NOTES



John uses the beautiful biblical image of living waters, flowing freely, in, through and out from the core of our being. Take a few moments to consider this image – that God’s Holy Spirit is perhaps like a river – flowing all of the time. John prayed at the end that we might ‘open ourselves to these rivers of living water’. What does that mean for you at this time in your life? Reflect as you consider how you can remain in the flow of God’s Holy Spirit – both aware and submitted. Give thanks to God for His living water and ask for His refreshing in your very core.


Instruction

“This is the day the Lord has made. Let us rejoice and be glad in it.” Psalm 118:24

1.1 Focusing on Today

PLAY VIDEO

People create success in their lives by focusing on today. It may sound trite, but today is the only time you have. It’s too late for yesterday. Yesterday ended last night. You can’t depend on tomorrow—you don’t know what tomorrow holds. That’s why today matters. “Now listen, you who say, ‘Tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.’ Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. Instead, we ought to say, ‘If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or do that.’ As it is, you boast and brag. All such boasting is evil. Anyone, then, who knows the good he ought to do and doesn’t do it, sins.” (James 4:13‐17) The Fact Is… • We exaggerate yesterday. • We overestimate tomorrow. • We underestimate today.

Video = 10 minutes


1.1 How Does Today Impact Tomorrow’s Success?

PLAY VIDEO

The way you choose to invest your time today directly affects your future. Consider this: you will become what you are becoming right now. If you take a faulty approach to today with a faulty view of success, you won’t capitalise on today’s potential. Let’s examine some common misconceptions regarding success. Common Misconceptions and Reactions: 1. We believe success is impossible—so we criticise it.

Often, people become disillusioned because they feel life should be easier than it is. This is a faulty assumption. Life is difficult. The moment success doesn’t come quickly, many become negative and say, “I didn’t want it anyway!” or “I knew I couldn’t achieve it from the beginning.”

2. We believe success is mystical—so we search for it.

Sometimes people approach success as if it were a magic formula. All they have to do is discover the formula, and they’ll arrive at their desired destination. To them, success is a mystery that requires a hunt.

3. We believe success comes from luck—so we hope for it.

Many times, we believe success comes from simply being in the right place at the right time. It isn’t talent or hard work, we say, it is an accident of chance. The truth is that luck alone won’t help us. It is a myth.

4. We believe success comes from productivity—so we work for it.

While hard work usually does accompany success, it is one‐dimensional. Many people who work hard don’t see success. Some work hard and neglect important relationships and other higher priorities.

5. We believe success comes from opportunity—so we wait for it.

Those who believe this have a motto: “If only…” If only my boss would give me a chance; if only my wife would… if only my church would… If all we do is wait for an opportunity, we won’t be ready when it comes.

6. We believe success comes from power—so we leverage resources.

Some people associate success with power. They pursue their goals at any expense. They push ahead and may even hurt others in the process, all in the name of succeeding. But force never produces long‐term fruit.

Video = 22 minutes


7. We believe success comes from connection—so we network for it.

These people believe success does not come from what you know but from who you know. They build relationships hoping to manipulate their way into fame or fortune, but connections alone won’t furnish success.

8. We believe success comes from recognition—so we strive for it.

Every profession has their own form of recognition. Some strive to be recognised by their peers; their motive is to be noticed and affirmed, but these are usually unhealthy motives that put us in a performance trap.

9. We believe success is an event—so we schedule it.

While events are important, they cannot provide success. Events are good for inspiration and challenge, but real sustainable change doesn’t happen in a moment. It comes from a growth process that follows an event. This is the Law of Process: Development doesn’t happen in a day, but is a daily process. Success comes from many private, unglamorous disciplined days.

Our Days Are Short There have been only two men in history for whom God allowed the “sun to stand still” so He could prolong their day. God prolonged the day for Joshua to win a battle (Joshua 10), and for King Hezekiah to fulfil his dream (Isaiah 8). Most of us don’t get this luxury. We must make the most of the days we have, focusing on today. Moses wrote: “Teach us to number our days…” (Psalm 90: 2). We all have been given a mission to fulfil with our lives. What are you doing about yours today?

DISCUSSION

• What has been your view of success in the past? • What are you pursuing right now that you believe will foster your success?


1.1 Daniel: A Man Who Demonstrated That Today Matters

“Daniel made up his mind…so he sought permission from the commander… And God granted favour to Daniel…”

Daniel 1:8‐9

PLAY VIDEO

Daniel was one of the greatest prophets of the Old Testament. He lived during the Babylonian captivity—one of the most difficult periods of Israel’s history. Somehow he knew success would come from choosing well early in life. He continued to live by those decisions when it wasn’t easy or glamorous. He began good habits as a young man and never turned back. Here are some of the lessons we learn from Daniel: 1. Effective people make right decisions early, and then manage them daily.

Daniel made up his mind he wouldn’t compromise his values even though the king offered him great food and comfort. He made some right choices early in his life and managed those decisions for the rest of his life.

2. Making right choices may go against the trends of popular culture.

Daniel took a stand in the face of what everyone else was doing. His decision seemed like it would put him at a disadvantage with his peers; however, he stuck with it, and his convictions were proven to be right.

3. The secret to your success is determined by your daily agenda.

Daniel began living by his values as a young man. He may have begun as a child. Every day he practiced certain decisions he made, such as praying three times a day. He continued doing this even when he did so in civil disobedience. He knew what he stood for and what he wouldn’t stand for.

4. When opportunity arises, it is too late to purpose for it.

Daniel didn’t wait until he had become a famous prophet to begin practicing important decisions. He was preparing for his future when no one was watching. Because his spiritual life was in great shape, he was ready when the king needed him to interpret a dream or provide some wisdom. He was open to scrutiny after just ten days in Babylon.

5. You never change your life until you change something you do daily.

You will become what you are becoming right now. Great accomplishments are the result of a daily routine that compounds over time. Life change happens when habits change, and habits change when you change what you do in your daily agenda.

Video = 16 minutes


6. Decisions help us start. Discipline helps us finish.

Daniel made right decisions early on, which helped him, begin in the right direction. However, it was his daily discipline that allowed him to follow through on those decisions. The decision is an event. The discipline is a process. Decisions help you to start well. Discipline helps you to finish well.

DISCUSSION

• Consider the life and leadership of Daniel. What impresses you most about him? • Which of the lessons above are most challenging to you?

Focus On These Twelve Big Decisions You begin to build a better life by determining to make good decisions, but that alone is not enough. You need to know WHAT decisions to make. We believe there are twelve important areas to focus on in your life: 1. Attitude: Choose and display the right attitudes daily. 2. Priorities: Determine and act on important priorities daily. 3. Health: Know and follow healthy guidelines daily. 4. Family: Communicate with and care for my family daily. 5. Thinking: Practice and develop good thinking daily. 6. Commitment: Make and keep proper commitments daily. 7. Finances: Earn and properly manage money daily. 8. Faith: Deepen and live out my faith daily. 9. Relationships: Initiate and invest in solid relationships daily. 10. Generosity: Plan for and model generosity daily. 11. Values: Embrace and practice good values daily. 12. Growth: Seek and experience improvements daily.


DISCUSSION

• In which of these twelve are you the strongest? • Where are you the weakest?

BIRTH ADULTHOOD (AGE)

This simple diagram reveals how success really happens from God’s point of view. As adults, it isn’t about good or bad circumstances around us. We cannot blame bad situations for our consistent failure to become who God wants us to become. As you can see, the left side of the diagram represents our early life. When we were born, the conditions and circumstances around us dictated what happened and when it happened. We were helpless as babies. However, as we grow into adulthood, the chief factor God holds us responsible for are our choices, not our circumstances. Making the Twelve Big Decisions a Reality in Your Life 1. Review the decisions and discover which ones you have already made. 2. Identify the decisions you still must make. 3. Choose one of those decisions and determine to make it this week. 4. Learn the disciplines that go with each decision. (We will do this together throughout

the course of this notebook.) 5. Repeat the process until you’ve mastered each of the daily dozen.

CHOICES

CONDITIONS



Assessment: Write out your top three strengths and weaknesses from the list of twelve decisions. Which are you doing well in and where do you need the most improvement? Application: Now focus on one of them and try the five steps previously listed about how to make them a reality in your life.


Inspiration

1.1 Dangerous Leaders Conference Session by Bill Hybels

PLAY VIDEO

Outline of Session • Defining dangerous • The five marks of a dangerous leader

1. Living in vital union with Jesus 2. Establishing performance standards 3. Elevating the performance and attitude of others 4. Fired up by setbacks 5. Remaining a threat in years to come

• Why some cease to be dangerous leaders

NOTES

Video = 48 minutes


NOTES


DISCUSSION

1. Personal reflection: Write down the key insight that you can personally take away. 2. Put into your own words: What do you think it means to be a dangerous leader, in a

positive sense?

3. Bill highlighted five characteristics of a dangerous leader. These are listed in the table below. Take a moment to review them and then put into your own words what their opposites might be – write these into the column provided.

Now allocate a percentage score to each ‘pairing’ showing to what extent you are ‘marked’ by the positive characteristic of being dangerous and to what extent are you more prone to be characterised by its opposite.

Five marks of a dangerous leader

+ % ‐% Their opposites

1. Living in vital union with Jesus

2. Establishing performance standards

3. Elevating the performance and standards of others

4. Fired up by setbacks

5. Remaining a threat in years to come


4. When you consider your responses to the above, which mark or characteristic do you believe you may need to focus on in regard to its development in your life as a leader / potential leader? What practical steps might you take to enable this to happen?

5. Bill mentioned four particular reasons as to why some leaders cease to be dangerous:

1. Seeking to please the crowd 2. Allured by competitiveness 3. Pride 4. Loss of nerve For each of these, can you think as to how you might avoid such pitfalls in your leadership?


Lesson 2: Managing My Attitudes, Priorities and Health



Meditation 1.2 Disarming Grace Message by John Ortberg

PLAY AUDIO

What’s the one thing that the church has to offer that the world cannot get anywhere else? It’s grace. The church can say to others with confidence, “You were lost, but now you’re found. You were guilty, but now you’ve been pardoned. You were dead, but now you’ve been made alive.” We must set aside political agendas, judgmentalism, and self‐righteousness and recognise our own shortcomings. When we see how Christ has redeemed us from our own sin, our hearts are renewed and a compassion for those who still need God’s grace overflows.

NOTES

Audio = 44 minutes


NOTES



“Grace always surrounds us”. What an incredible truth. The ultimate expression of grace is Jesus Christ nailed to the cross. John Ortberg encourages us to ‘live close to the cross, for if we were to do so, then how gracious would we be’.

Reflect for a few moments on the wonder of grace. Perhaps find a piece of worship music with which you are familiar that focuses on this word and listen quietly to it. Allow this word to sink into the core of your being.

John suggests writing the word GRACE on a piece of paper and placing it somewhere where you can see it on a regular basis. Why not use the letters G.R.A.C.E. as an acrostic and think of other words that help you further understand what grace means to you, e.g. Generous, Rich, Available, Crimson, Excellent.

Spend a few moments giving praise to God for His wonderful grace.


Instruction 1.2 Introductory Thoughts : The Work of the Lord and the

Lord of the Work

“They have made me caretaker of the vineyards, but I have not taken care of my own vineyard.”

Song of Solomon 1:6

Three of the most difficult areas to master are our own attitude, time and health. How do we steward these possessions? As leaders in ministry, we feel it is noble to spend our lives for the sake of others. And, it is noble. Unfortunately, we often do it at the expense of our own well‐being. This session will focus on leading yourself—how to rule your attitude, calendar and physical health. Let’s begin by examining our attitudes as leaders.

1.2 Our Attitudes: Today’s Attitude Gives Me Possibilities

PLAY VIDEO

My attitude today gives me possibilities. Is it possible for a leader to be successful without a good attitude? Yes, it is. However, their attitude will determine how much they will enjoy the success. Further, a poor or negative attitude can actually diminish the fruit we bear because it opposes an attitude of faith. Dr. Paul Y. Cho once studied pastors worldwide and discovered that the greatest leaders were also men of great faith. In Scripture, we see three attitudes that great leaders possessed consistently:

A Positive Attitude (Leaders believed God could use them to do anything.)

A Servant Attitude (Leaders generously served God and others.)

A Determined Attitude (Leaders worked persistently and would not quit.) Biblical Case Study: Paul’s Attitude (Philippians 1:12‐18) Paul wrote the book of Philippians from a Roman prison while chained to a palace guard, awaiting a trial from Caesar. Sitting in the prison, fully aware that his ministry might be shortened, Paul’s attitude was on display, loud and clear, before the Philippian church.

Video = 21 minutes


Paul’s Attitude… 1. Enabled him to see what others could not see (v.12‐18 ). 2. Enabled him to remain optimistic in the face of negativism (v.14‐17). 3. Enabled him to stay on mission regardless of the circumstances (v.18). Why Your Attitude Matters Today Your success in leadership isn’t only about your gifts, talents, intelligence, or budget. More than these, it is about the attitude you possess, year in and year out. Here is why your attitude matters to your leadership: 1. Your attitude at the beginning of a task affects its outcome.

Take responsibility for your attitude. Philippians 2:5 tells us to share the same attitude that Christ had when He came to earth. Christ’s attitude as He began His earthly ministry was essential, given all of the challenges He faced. A healthy attitude helps us as we begin and continue leading people and projects.

2. Your attitude toward others often determines their attitude toward you.

Place high value on people. Jesus did this. We must do this, as well, despite our opinions of people. Romans 12:10 teaches us to be devoted to each other, and outdo one another in showing honour. The New Testament actually tells us to treat others as more important than ourselves.

3. Your attitude can give you a winners perspective.

Decide to change your bad attitude areas. Proverbs 23:7 reminds us: “As a man thinks in his heart, so he is.” If we don’t change our bad attitudes, we will begin moving in the direction they lead us. Attitudes lead to action. One prominent doctor reminds us that each of us has a “Reticular Activating System” in our brains. Its primary function is to cause us to move in the direction of the dominant thought of the moment. What dominates your thought life?

4. Your attitude—not your achievements—provides you happiness.

Develop an appreciation for life. Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out. Be grateful for little things in your life. Read Psalm 139 several times, and rediscover the tremendous way God fashioned each person, even the smallest detail.

5. Your attitude is contagious.

Find something and someone positive in every situation. In Philippians 4:11, Paul wrote: “I have learned to be content in any and every situation.” He called this a secret. Very few people discover it. Mother Teresa was asked what requirement she had for her workers in Calcutta. She said they must be hard workers and possess a joyful attitude, regardless of the situation.



1. When you begin a new assignment or project, what is your usual attitude?

(Circle the number that most accurately reflects your attitude.)

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Excited ApatheticPositive NegativeI see it as a new opportunity. I see it as work

2. Why did you give yourself this score? What is your greatest challenge when it comes to

possessing a positive attitude?

DISCUSSION

• What are the primary factors that affect your attitude? • List the negative attitudes you have struggled with this last month. • What is the one discipline you must practice in order to maintain a positive attitude?


1.2 Our Priorities: Today’s Priorities Give Me Focus

PLAY VIDEO

Given the choice, would you rather save time or money? Most people focus on money. However, time may be more valuable than money. You can always get more money when it is lost, but you can never get more time. Consequently, effective leaders focus on establishing priorities in order to get the most out of their time. “Therefore be careful how you live, not as unwise but as wise, making the most of your time

because the days are evil.” Ephesians 5:16. It has been said, “Devoting a little of yourself to everything means committing a great deal of yourself to nothing.” We must learn to focus. The art of being wise is the art of knowing what to overlook. Truths we learn from the early church are crucial to maximise your priorities. Biblical Case Study: The Early Church (Acts 6:1‐4) In this text, the early Church was growing, and it began to experience conflict among the members for the first time. The apostles step forward and declare their priorities, sharing just how they planned to deal with the demands on them: 1. Time is our most precious commodity (v.1).

The needs of a growing population forced the apostles to declare their priorities. 2. We cannot change time, only our priorities (v.2).

They looked at their options to compare and contrast what they should do. 3. Leaders can do most things but not everything (v.2).

They used common sense and good judgment to discern their top priorities. 4. We choose our life by how we spend our time (v.3).

They laid out criteria for how they would delegate lower priorities. 5. Priorities help us to choose wisely (v.4).

They declared to everyone what their top two priorities were.

Video = 19 minutes


DISCUSSION

• How do you make decisions on your priorities right now? Making the Decision to Choose and Act on Our Top Priorities 1. Ask yourself three questions:

a. What is required of me? (What tasks must I assume in light of my work?) b. What gives me the greatest return? (What produces the most results?) c. What gives me the greatest reward? (What is most fulfilling to me?)

2. Remain and work in your areas of strength.

You can discover your strength areas by listening to the counsel of others, by experimenting with tasks and by watching what you continually are asked to do. William Gladstone said, “He is a wise man who wastes no energy on pursuits for which he is not fitted; and he is wiser still who from among the things he can do well, chooses and resolutely follows the best.”

3. Evaluate and follow your priorities daily.

According to a survey, only one third of workers plan their daily schedules, and only 9% actually follow through and complete what they planned. Too often, we do easy things first or quick things first or fun things first or loud things first, instead of first things first. This is the task of the leader.

4. Delegate whenever possible.

Leaders usually go through stages. They move from doing it all themselves, to dumping work on others, to eventually delegating appropriate work to gifted team members. By delegating well, leaders actually can develop those team members. This makes the leader even stronger. Peter Drucker gave this advice: “No leader has ever suffered because his subordinates were strong and effective.”

5. Invest in the right people daily.

Often, we find ourselves spending much of our time with problem people, instead of productive people who can advance the vision. Evaluate who you invest time in based on their value to the team, their strengths, their responsibility and their potential.


DISCUSSION

• What are your top priorities? • What present tasks should you delegate?


1.2 Our Health: Today’s Health Gives Me Strength

PLAY VIDEO

Leaders often neglect this issue because of their busy schedule. To spend time on our health, whether it is eating right or exercising or resting, seems so selfish. However, if our bodies cannot perform the leadership tasks we’ve been given, then our health suddenly becomes a high priority! Listen to God’s wisdom concerning our bodies:

“Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought with a price.

Therefore honour God with your body.” (I Corinthians 6:19‐20) Why is Your Health So Important to God? 1. Our bodies house the Holy Spirit (v. 9). 2. We do not belong to ourselves, but to Him (v. 9). 3. We’ve been bought with a huge price—the blood of Jesus (v. 20). 4. We were designed to honour Him in all we do (v. 20). Why Your Health Should Matter to You 1. Your health impacts you emotionally, intellectually and spiritually. 2. Health often determines quality as well as quantity of life. 3. It is easier to maintain health than to regain it. Making Decisions to Follow Healthy Guidelines 1. Eat healthy foods as often as you can. 2. Have a purpose worth living for—do work you enjoy. 3. Find your pace in life. 4. Get physical exercise regularly. 5. Accept your personal worth. 6. Laugh often. 7. Handle stress effectively—communicate well, delegate well, pray well. “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:6‐7)

Video = 11 minutes



Assessment: Where do you succeed at caring for yourself? Where do you fail? Application: List one action you can take with your attitude, priorities and health.


Inspiration 1.2 Dead Leader Running Conference Session by Wayne Cordeiro

PLAY VIDEO

Outline of Session • Introductory comments

• We will teach what we know, but we will reproduce what we are

a. There must be a genuine integrity inside b. The future church depends on it c. It is vital for you to learn from the “storms” of your life

• Wayne’s story

a. Ministry symptoms b. Physical symptoms c. A doctor diagnosed him with a low serotonin level d. Wayne began to look at his life differently

• Principles for sustainable living

a. Know what fills and drains your tank b. Understand balance in life c. Lead out of rest d. Find a lightning rod e. Be disciplined in your daily devotions

• Closing Remarks

a. The goal is to run in a manner that protects the flame b. Running fast will not help c. Draw near to the throne of grace in order to reignite the flame d. Closing prayer

Video = 63 minutes


NOTES


DISCUSSION

1. Personal Reflection: Write down the key insight that you can personally take away. 2. Are you a “dead leader running?” Discuss with your team how you feel you relate—or

don’t relate—to what you’ve just heard. 3. Wayne Cordeiro explained how important it is for everyone to know what fills their

tanks and what drains their tanks. Use the chart below to begin to think about this in your own life.

Use the following questions as prompts: • What am I doing? • Where am I doing it? • Who am I with?

When you have finished, take a few moments to write what drains your tank.

Fills My Tank Drains My Tank


When you are finished, pick one thing you wrote down that fills your tank. Below, write down one or two action steps you need to take in order to be able to participate in that activity or relationship on a more frequent basis. My action step(s):

Go around the group and share the activity you picked, as well as the action step you wrote down. If you wish, partner with someone and commit to holding each other accountable to accomplishing your action step.

If you are married, have your spouse fill out a similar list and compare them. Exchange lists and use them to pray with and for each other over the next month.

4. Wayne Cordeiro also shared the “principle of the fulcrum.” What does your fulcrum look like?

In the space below, draw what you believe your life looks like now. For example, is your fulcrum right in the middle? Is it to one side or the other? Be sure to label your drawing. Now:

Next, draw what you want your life to look like. Make sure you label this drawing as well. What you want:

Finally, think about one or two steps you need to take to make your picture look more like the second one. Write your ideas below. My action step(s):

When everyone has finished drawing, go around the group and share your picture. Discuss:


5. Lastly, Wayne Cordeiro recommended everyone identify at least one “lightning rod” in his or her life. Below, make a list of the person or people who you trust to serve in that capacity for you.

My lightning rod(s):


Lesson 3: Managing My Family, Thinking and

Commitment



Meditation 1.3 A Beautiful Mind Message by John Ortberg

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What do our thoughts focus on? Are they riddled with anxiety, resentment, greed, and hatred; or are they filled with joy, peace, hope, maturity, and love? Romans 8:5 provides a series of observations concerning the ongoing struggle we have in our minds. We have a choice of what to focus our thoughts on – either life‐producing thoughts or death‐decaying thoughts. We need to understand that the ultimate freedom we have is the power to choose what we will allow our minds to dwell upon. We are not victims of our thoughts. Why not choose the life and peace that only Jesus can give us?

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Audio = 40 minutes



Read Romans 8:5‐8 John makes the point that the primary point of intersection between the Holy Spirit and ourselves is the ‘mind’. The mind is a ceaseless fountain or spring from which our lives flow. From this our character, nature and personality are formed. Be still and quiet before God. Ask Him by His Spirit to help you to take a few moments to consider your current state of mind. Is the stream flowing from it clear and life giving, or is it muddy, dry, toxic or bitter. Write down your thoughts and search for evidence as to the impact of your thoughts, ideas and perceptions, even over just the past week. In what ways have you been life‐giving in your actions resulting from your mind? In what ways have your motives been unclear and mixed? Has there been little life given at all to others? Has your mind been focused on negative aspects like despair, fear, pride, anger, or resentment toward others? In having done this as honestly as you can, why not ‘lean into community’? John suggests that we need community to help us discern which voices are worth listening to and which are not. Share with others the state of your mind and ask for their prayer and discernment, that you might set your mind on things above to an even greater extent and that your thoughts will produce love, truth, self‐control, joy, peace, confidence, courage, poise, maturity and competence in your ministry.


Instruction

“If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?” I Timothy 3:5

“Be diligent in these matters; give yourself wholly to them, so that everyone may see your progress. Watch your life and doctrine closely. Persevere in them, because if you do, you will

save both yourself and your hearers.” I Timothy 4:15‐16

Remember: Decisions help us start in the right direction. Discipline helps us finish. Three more areas we must master in our personal growth are the management of our family, our thoughts, and the commitments we make as leaders.

1.3 Our Family: My Family Today Gives Me Stability

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My family is my primary network for expressing grace and truth. Everyone needs family. Let’s begin our study by assessing how well we’ve managed and cared for our families: 1. What percentage of your waking hours do you give to your family? 2. Do you manage your ministry/career better or your family better? 3. If you listed one regret you have about how you’ve led your family, what would it be? More than any other single factor in a person’s formative years, family life forges character. As Perry F. Webb noted, “The home… is the lens through which we get our first look at marriage and all the civic duties; it is the clinic where, by conversation and attitude, impressions are created with respect to sobriety and reverence; it is the school where lessons of truth or falsehood, honesty or deceit are learned; it is the mould which ultimately determines the structure of society.” The Apostle Paul asks a sobering question in I Timothy 3:5: “If anyone does not know how to manage his own family, how can he take care of God’s church?” God intended for our spiritual leadership to begin in the home—then, expand from there. We’re not to form categories and separate our leadership in the home from our leadership in our careers. The home is the “laboratory” where we practice leadership first, and if it doesn’t work at home, we shouldn’t try to export it!

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Biblical Case Study: Lot (Genesis 13, 19) These two chapters reveal much about a man named Lot, Abraham’s nephew. Although he was a fine public servant, he failed at leading in his home. Note his fatal mistakes: 1. He placed emphasis on financial rather than spiritual prosperity (13:8‐11). 2. He assumed his family could live in Sodom and not be affected (13:12‐13). 3. He thought he could change society without taking a stand (19:1‐11). 4. He felt his family would accept his words instead of his lifestyle (19:12‐14). 5. He didn’t realize how much the world had ensnared them (19:12‐26). Lot Could Have Benefited From Making These Three Decisions: 1. Establish Family as a Priority. Where does your family fit in your list of priorities? 2. Develop a Problem‐Solving Strategy. How do you deal with adversity at home? 3. Establish a Strong Values Base. What are the values you will cultivate over the years? Managing the Disciplines of Family: If you desire to strengthen your family life, try practicing these disciplines: 1. Put your family on your calendar first. 2. Create and maintain family traditions. 3. Find ways to spend time together. 4. Keep your marriage healthy. 5. Express appreciation for each other. 6. Resolve conflict as quickly as possible.

DISCUSSION

Choose two actions from the list above and list or share how you’ll practice them.


1.3 Our Thinking: Today’s Thinking Gives Me an Advantage

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Developing my mind may be the one asset that sets me apart from others. One author said: “What is important are ideas. If you have ideas, you have the main asset you need, and there isn’t any limit to what you can do with your business and your life.” Effective leaders develop their minds. They become good thinkers over time, and they think differently than followers do. A clinical psychologist by the name of Dr. J. Robert Clinton said, “The primary difference between followers and leaders is perspective. The primary difference between leaders and effective leaders is better perspective.” It is a discipline, however, that very few people possess. Take a moment and assess your present thought life: 1. Do you set aside time for disciplined thinking about certain issues? 2. When do you take time to think? When is your best time? 3. What prevents you from the discipline of a strong and healthy thought life? Biblical Case Study: Solomon’s Priorities (I Kings 3:4‐15) Solomon had just assumed his reign over God’s people, following his father, King David. God told King Solomon He would give him whatever he asked. In that pivotal moment, Solomon had the good judgment to ask for wisdom instead of selfish gifts that most men want. He knew that his thinking would make or break his life and leadership. Solomon based his thinking on God’s perspective: 1. His agenda was not his own, but a grateful response to God’s goodness (v.6). 2. His incentive revolved around his God‐given leadership responsibility (v.7). 3. His request was for wisdom that would match his large task (v.8). 4. His perspective recognised that the people he led were not his people, but God’s

people (v.9). 5. His thinking was rewarded with more than he expected (v.10‐13).

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Different Kinds of Thinking (Based on John C. Maxwell’s book, Thinking for a Change) 1. Big Picture Thinking

The ability to think beyond yourself and your world in order to be more objective 2. Focused Thinking

The ability to think with clarity by removing distractions from your mind 3. Creative Thinking

The ability to break out of your “box” of limitations and explore totally new ideas 4. Realistic Thinking

The ability to build a solid foundation on facts in order to think with certainty 5. Strategic Thinking

The ability to implement plans that give direction and increase your potential 6. Possibility Thinking

The ability to unleash your enthusiasm and hope to find solutions for the impossible 7. Reflective Thinking

The ability to revisit the past in order to gain perspective and understanding for the future

8. Critical Thinking

The ability to reject the limitations of popular thought to gain uncommon results 9. Critical Thinking

The ability to include the ideas of others in order to gain compound results 10. Unselfish Thinking

The ability to consider others and their journey in order to achieve collaboration 11. Bottom‐Line Thinking

The ability to focus on maximum results to reap your thoughts’ fullest potential


DISCUSSION

• Which kind of thinking is your strongest?

• Which kind of thinking would you like to improve the most? Managing the Discipline of Thinking Here are some practical steps to take to begin the discipline of thinking. 1. Find a place to think. 2. Set aside time every day to think. 3. Find a process or system that works for you. 4. Capture your thoughts and record them. 5. Put your thoughts into actions quickly. 6. Try to improve your thinking every day.


1.3 Our Commitment: Today’s Commitment Gives Me Tenacity

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What were you born to do? What do you think your future holds? Do you believe you have a purpose or a destiny? If so, will you fulfil it? To become the person you have the potential to be, you will need great tenacity. That quality comes from commitment. Take a look at these truths concerning commitment: 1. Commitment can change your life.

Discussion: Think about a time in your life when you made a real commitment to do something differently. How did that change the course of your life?

2. Commitment helps you overcome many of life’s obstacles.

Discussion: What is a past adversity that you overcame by making a commitment?

3. Your commitment will be tested every day.

Discussion: Commitment is not a one‐time event. What is one decision you made that was tested? How did you do in daily committing yourself to keeping that decision?

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Biblical Case Study: Noah and the Flood (Genesis 6‐8) Noah might be the epitome of commitment. His classic story about building an ark to prepare for a flood required quite a step of determination. Consider the situation he found himself in, when he made his commitment to obey God: 1. Society was corrupt, so Noah had no outside friends to encourage his decision. 2. Noah was instructed to build an ark, something he’d never done before. 3. It had never before rained on earth, so the possibility of a flood seemed illogical. 4. With no evidence of water, he gathered every kind of animal to board the ark. 5. The ark took several decades to build, and Noah was likely ridiculed. So What Enabled Noah to Keep His Commitment? 1. Obedience to God 2. Protecting his family 3. A vision bigger than himself: future generations Managing the Discipline of Commitment Commitment comes with the territory of leadership. You cannot lead well without it. Once you count the cost of a decision and decide it is worth the price—stick with it. Consider these statements as you make commitments: 1. Expect commitment to be a struggle.

The greatest honours are reserved for those who endure the biggest struggles. Often, the higher the stakes, the higher the reward. Decide that the prize is worth the price. Every great committed leader in the Bible had to struggle.

2. Don’t rely on talent alone.

Your talent can blind you to the need for commitment. We often get lazy in our areas of talent because it comes easy to us. Apply discipline especially in your strength areas. Continue to develop your spiritual life and your skills.

3. Focus on choices, not conditions.

Be focused on your inward choice, not on outward circumstances. Conditions change and you cannot control them. Your choices are all you can control.

4. Be single‐minded.

Nothing enhances commitment like single‐minded effort that results in achievement. Remove distractions and options once you’ve decided what is right. “This one thing I do.”


5. Do what’s right even when you don’t feel like it.

Nothing is easier than saying words. Nothing is harder than living them day after day. Don’t let your fickle feelings prevent you from keeping a right commitment. Let the examples of Daniel, Joseph, and Moses encourage you to persevere.

6. Finish what you start. Don’t make excuses. When you start something—follow through until it is finished. Commitment enables you to finish even when things are inconvenient. Be grateful for Genesis (how it all began) and Revelation (how it all ends).


Assessment: How would others describe you when it comes to . . .

• Prioritising family? • Good thinking? • Keeping commitments?

Application: List one decision and action step you can take in each of these areas.


Inspiration 1.3 Leadership Excellence Conference Session by Bill Hybels

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Outline of Session • Excellence from God • The challenge of excellence in:

1. Commitment 2. Affections 3. Skills and abilities

• Talent matters

NOTES

Video = 47 minutes


NOTES


DISCUSSION

1. Personal reflection: Write down one key insight that you can personally take away. 2. Bill quoted from management guru, Peter Drucker, who said, “One of the most

important functions of leadership is to uphold standards of excellence, for without constant promptings excellent standards will always drift south.”

How do you respond to the concept of excellence, particularly in the local church?

3. Read Malachi 1. What are the key points in this passage in relation to giving of our very best? Bill stated that you need to decide what quality of lamb you are going to give to the God who has only ever given His best for you. Have you made that decision yet?

4. Bill explained three particular challenges which were personal to him in relation to the areas where he felt challenged to give back to God his very best. These are in the table below. To what extent are these challenges for you? For each area can you think of something you may need to do in response? Write it into the table below.

Bill’s three personal challenges

My response

1. Commitment

2. Affection

3. Skills and abilities


5. Bill explained that “Talent matters, even in the local church”. He also stated that warm

and willing hearts are not enough if the church is to reach her full redemptive potential. To what extent do you agree with this? What are the repercussions for your church?

6. What are you going to do with the rest of your life that will last on into eternity?

• Are you called to leave what you are currently doing to give your life to serving the

local church?

• Are you restless in your job and about where you are investing your time and energies?

• Are you to stay in your job, but to make adjustments to ensure that you are giving your absolute best to God?


Lesson 4: Managing My Finances, Faith and Relationships



Meditation 1.4 Living as Children of God Message by John Ortberg

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As Abba’s child you have a new identity, an unimaginable potential, and you are called to a total devotion to purity…

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NOTES



Read 1 John 2:28 – 3:9 Take a few moments to reflect on what it means for you to be Abba’s child. Write down your thoughts. John shared three truths connected to this:

You have a new identity rooted in the fact that you are Abba’s child, from which confidence and assurance come. How do you think of yourself – a sinner or a saint?

You have unimaginable potential, for what you will be has not yet been revealed. What are you doing to realise every ounce of that potential?

Your devotion to purity will identify you as Abba’s child. Have you declared war on sin in your life, out of a motive of hope?

Having thought about your response to these three questions, take time to pray to your heavenly Abba. Talk to Him as one of His children, because that is what you are. Tell Him what is on your heart. “Abba, Father, let me be yours and yours alone.”


Instruction

“In this case, moreover, it is required of stewards that they are found trustworthy.” I Corinthians 4:2

1.4 Our Finances: My Finances Today Give Me Options What are the two greatest sources of stress in most working people’s lives? According to research done by a respected corporation, they are issues related to time and money. Too often we spend time buying things we really don’t want with money we really don’t have to impress people we really don’t like! In this session we will examine three issues that are discussed more in the New Testament than any other subjects: money, faith and relationships.

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The Bible has more to say about money than almost any other subject. There are 500 verses on prayer and more than 2,000 on money and possessions. Jesus talked about money consistently, telling us it revealed where our heart really is. Sixteen out of thirty‐eight of His parables deal with money and possessions. Let’s begin our discussion by looking at three statements about our finances. Reflect and respond: 1. Money will not make you happy.

People earn more money now worldwide than ever before, but statistics reveal we are less happy now than even forty years ago. Most agree with the statement above, but we still don’t act like it.

Discussion: Why are people less happy now?

2. Debt will make you unhappy.

King Solomon wrote: “The rich rule over the poor and the borrower becomes the lender’s slave.” Discussion: How does debt contribute to your grief and unhappiness?

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3. Having a financial margin gives you options. The truth is that money is a test and a tool for us. It reveals our hearts, and it can give us choices to do more of what we want, if we possess it. Discussion: How has money been a test for you? How has it been a tool in your hands?

Biblical Case Study: Job (Job 1, 19:25‐27) Job was a wealthy man. He controlled a vast amount of money and possessions, including 7,000 sheep, 3,000 camels, 500 yoke of oxen, 500 female donkeys and a very large household. Job 1:3 describes him as the greatest man living in the East. He had it all. However, his life was tested to see what role his wealth played in his happiness. He seemed to lose almost everything, including his livestock, his children, his home, and his land. How did he respond to this loss? Examine Job 1:20: “Then Job arose, tore his robe, shaved his head; and he fell to the ground and worshiped.” It’s interesting. Job’s response to the loss of nearly all his material wealth was to worship. Somehow, Job knew the only way he could maintain good perspective in that horrible situation was to worship God, declaring His Lordship over his life. He knew that worship welcomed Kingdom power into his circumstances. Job had a very different view of his circumstances than his friends did. He saw what God saw. What enabled himto do so? 1. He renewed his perspective: He clung to the justice and character of God. 2. He let go of his past: He was willing to let go of what he had lost. 3. He remembered his purpose: He realised that he existed only to glorify God. Making the Decision to Manage Finances Well More than two hundred years ago, clergyman John Wesley lived by a financial principle that he summarised in three sentences. When he began his ministry he made 30 pounds. He lived on 28 pounds, and gave two to the church. Later, he made 60 pounds. He still lived on 28, and gave 32 to the church. Eventually, he made 120 pounds, and continued to live on 28 pounds. He was consistently giving 92 to the church. What was his little principle? 1. Earn all you can 2. Save all you can 3. Give all you can


Biblical Counsel on Finances: 1. Put the value of things into perspective. 2. Recognise your season of life. 3. Reduce your debt. 4. Put your financial plan in place and stick to it. 5. Don’t compare yourself to others. 6. Be grateful every day for God’s provision. 7. Give away as much as you can.

DISCUSSION

Review John Wesley’s philosophy on money: Earn all you can. Save all you can. Give all you can. • How do you apply these three principles in your life?

• Where do you need to improve?


1.4 Our Faith: Today’s Faith Gives Me Peace

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It is easy for us as Christian leaders to assume we’ve “arrived” when it comes to our faith. Our spiritual journey is now often focused on helping others to grow. While this is, indeed, true—we cannot stop growing in our own spiritual walk. You’ve heard it before: you cannot lead anyone beyond where you have travelled yourself. If you stop growing today, you’ll stop leading tomorrow. Our faith must continue to be stretched.

DISCUSSION

Name one area of your spiritual journey that you believe you have grown in over the last three years. Why do you think you have grown in this area?

Now, list one area where you believe you have declined; where you perhaps have fallen behind in your growth. Why do you think you have declined in this area?

Biblical Case Study: Jairus and the Woman with a Disease (Mark 5:21‐43) When we exercise our faith, it takes one of two forms: “trusting faith” or “claiming faith.” If we compared it to a sporting event, one type would be offense, the other, defence. 1. “Claiming faith” is like playing offense.

It is aggressive. It takes initiative and lays hold of what God has promised. It actively persists through prayer and obedience until it has the answer. Example: The Woman with a Disease (5:25‐34) The woman with an issue of blood exercised “claiming faith.” She pursued Jesus and reached out to touch Him. Her touch was different than everyone else’s touch. She drew on God’s power and Jesus knew it. Her radical faith made her whole (v. 34). Discussion: Can you name a recent time when you exercised “claiming faith?”

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2. “Trusting faith” is like playing defence.

It is calm and quiet, built on a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. It rests in the knowledge of God’s character in difficult times. Example: Jairus (5:21‐24, 35‐43) Jairus was a synagogue official. His daughter was sick and close to death at home. When Jesus was interrupted on His way to see her, Jairus was not alarmed. Calmly, he rested on his relationship with Jesus. He trusted even when he didn’t understand. Discussion: Can you name a recent time when you exercised “trusting faith?”

The Dynamics of Faith Faith is everywhere around us. All of us exercise it every day. For instance, you go to a doctor whose name you cannot pronounce. He gives you a prescription you cannot read. You take it to a pharmacist you have never seen. He gives you a medicine you do not understand…and yet you take it. Here are some truths about everyday faith: 1. Faith is received from God (Romans 12:3 and Ephesians 2:8).

We already have it. The important choice is where we place it. 2. Faith is developed through the Word of God (Romans 10:17).

As we consume God’s Word and exercise it, we build our faith muscle inside. 3. Faith is released through words and actions (Romans 10:9 and Mark 11:23).

Faith and confession always go together. Faith and action always go together. 4. Faith is tested in our day‐to‐day circumstances (James 1:2‐3).

Life will throw you difficult days that will test and exercise your faith.

DISCUSSION

• Where is the greatest test of faith in your leadership today?

• How would God have you respond to that test?


1.4 Our Relationships: Today’s Relationships Give Me Fulfilment

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Each of us has important relationships in our lives, but it is amazing how little time we put into deciding who will be involved in our key relationships. Most of us just let them happen. We leave our relationships to chance, demonstrating the little value we really place on them. Two relationship experts write: “Relationships help us to define who we are and what we become. Most of us can trace our successes to pivotal relationships.” 1. Life’s greatest experiences involve other people. 2. You’ll enjoy life more if you like people. 3. You’ll get further in life if people like you. 4. People are an organisation’s most valuable asset.

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Your Relationship Network Each of us has a relationship network. As we have already discussed, most leaders leave that network to chance. In the following diagram, you have the chance to write down the key people who make up your network. Be honest with yourself as you write in the names of those people who fit into your network. Note where your network is strong and where it is weak. Hero’s

People you admire and esteem

Accountability Partners People who help you keep

commitments

Mentors People who coach and guide you

Models People who do what you want to

do

Inner Circle Family and friends who share life.

Mentees People who you mentor and coach


Biblical Case Study: Abigail vs. Nabal (I Samuel 25:1‐42) Abigail is a favourite Bible character for many. She was winsome and charismatic. She handled relationships skilfully. Her husband, Nabal, stood in contrast. His relational skills were his downfall. David would have killed Nabal and everyone in his home if it weren’t for Abigail. Examine the contrast between the two in 1 Samuel 25. Relationship Lessons from Abigail: 1. Risky Initiative – Abigail took the first step with David to resolve a sticky situation. 2. Emotional Security – Abigail demonstrated inward security in her identity. 3. Genuine Humility ‐ Abigail submitted to David by falling at his feet. 4. Personal Responsibility – Abigail took responsibility to explain Nabal’s conduct. 5. Selfless Attitude – Abigail focused completely on David’s welfare and future success.

DISCUSSION

• What do you struggle with most when it comes to healthy relationships?


Assessment: On a scale of one to ten, (10 being very well) score yourself on how well you handle your money, faith and relationships. • Money: • Faith: • Relationships: Why did you give yourself this score?

Application: What is one step you could take to improve in each of these three areas? • Money: • Faith: • Relationships:


Inspiration

1.4 The Personal Life of a Leader Conference Session by Gordon MacDonald

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Outline of Session • The leader’s heart • Longevity in leadership:

1. Learn to repair the past 2. Learn to live intentionally 3. Cultivate a ‘street‐faith’ 4. Develop intimacy in personal community 5. Be aware of your own inner realities

NOTES

Video = 66 minutes


NOTES


DISCUSSION

1. Personal reflection: Write down one key insight that you can personally take away. 2. Gordon stated that, “We are usually attracted to leaders because of their competency.

We are usually disillusioned with leaders because of their character.” How do you respond to this statement? Do you agree or disagree?

3. Read 1 Timothy 4:12‐16. This passage is an encouragement to set an example for the believers in the manner in which a leader’s personal life is lived, day to day. Why do you think Paul emphasised these particular aspects?

4. Gordon explained that there are some key issues to pay attention to in our personal lives in order to reach the most effective years in life – the 60s and 70s. For each of these key issues that help facilitate longevity in effective leadership, record and list any practical ways in which you can apply these to your life.

The issues

My response

1. Learn to repair the past

2. Learn to live intentionally

3. Cultivate a ‘street‐faith’

4. Develop intimacy in personal community

5. Be aware of your own inner realities


5. Gordon quoted Dietrich Bonheoffer, who said, “Only through discipline may a man

learn to be free.” Self‐control and discipline are important in the following areas:

Physically (diet, exercise, rest),

Intellectually (growing in the mind, reading good literature, in the company of those who will stretch the mind),

Emotionally (under control, mature, reliable),

Relationally (faithful to commitments, dependable),

Ego (not looking for approval and applause),

Spiritually (time must be given daily to enter into the presence of God)

Practically in relation to skills and competencies (seek to improve skills).

When you consider each of these, is there one particular aspect for which you would like to improve your discipline? If so, then what might you consider doing?

6. Gordon mentioned eight indispensible friends. These are listed below. Place a tick in the box against those for which you believe you do have such a friend. If any boxes are left blank, consider who might be such a friend to fulfil that particular role currently missing in your life.

a. A coach to help you grow?

b. Someone who stretches your mind?

c. A person to listen to your dreams?

d. Someone who laughs with you?

e. A person who cries with you?

f. Someone who rebukes you?

g. A person who plays with you?

h. Someone who seeks faith with you?


Lesson 5: Managing My Generosity, Values

and Growth



Meditation 1.5 A Generous Heart Message by John Ortberg

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As children, one of the first words we learn is “mine.” Some of us use that word until the day we die. In stark contrast, David was one of those that often used the word, “yours.” He used the word directed to God–that everything David had, materially or otherwise, was really God’s. With that attitude, David is an inspiration to us. One with a generous heart focuses on the needs of others, rather than on his or her discontent. A generous person also looks for opportunities to give and increasingly experiences joy when he or she does so. We see that in various times in David’s life. It can be that way in our life.

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NOTES



As you consider the truth that everything you have is from God and that it is not ‘your stuff’ take a few moments to ‘count your blessings’ and write them down. Spend some time considering the list you have written and give thanks to God for His generosity toward you. John gave three illustrations that portray the marks of generosity from the life of David – a person who modelled what a generous heart looks like. For each illustration John outlined a characteristic of a generous heart. Have a look at the three characteristics listed below and select one. Read the accompanying Bible passage from the life of David and make a few notes as to what you notice about generosity. Then ask God to help you grow your heart in this characteristic of a generous heart. 1. A generous heart focuses on the needs of other people rather than your own sense of

discontent (1 Samuel 30:9‐25). 2. A generous heart looks for opportunities to give (2 Samuel 24:18‐25). 3. A generous heart increasingly experiences joy in giving (1 Chronicles 29:1‐16).


Instruction

“…For I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am. I know how to get along with humble means, and I also know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and suffering need. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”

Philippians 4:11‐13

1.5 Our Generosity: My Generosity Today Gives Me Significance

In our world today, so much emphasis is placed on living longer and cramming more into our lives. We seem to be interested more in quantity than quality. Jesus didn’t model that value. He taught us that it is not the duration of our lives that counts, but the donation! It isn’t about what we get out of it, but what we put into it. Consider these questions: When I die, what will I leave behind for others? Will I leave more than an inheritance…will I leave a legacy? In this session, we will focus on three additional important items to manage in our lives: our generosity, our values and our personal growth.

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If your income doubled overnight, how much money would you give away? How about if your net worth was suddenly more than you could count? What if you became the richest person in the world? Yes, those are just dreams, but God asks us a real stewardship question every day of our lives. Our response communicates how much He can trust us with more resources: What are we going to do with what we have? The question isn’t what we’ll do if we somehow obtain a lot of money someday. The issue is: what are we doing with our resources now?

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Case Study: The Rich Man (Luke 12:15‐21) In this famous story, Jesus introduces us to a rich man who illustrates what happens when our lives centre on ourselves instead of others. Note the truths in this passage: 1. He was faced with a decision on what to do with the surplus he had (v. 16‐17). 2. He chose to store up his surplus and consume it all himself (v. 18). 3. He was shocked when his life ended and God found him totally bankrupt (v. 19‐20). 4. He failed in life because he never developed a generous spirit (v. 21).

DISCUSSION

Why does accumulating more resources fail to lead to generosity?

Why Generosity Matters Today What about us as leaders? How should we approach giving? Why should we be generous? There are many reasons, but let’s look at three of them below: 1. Giving Turns Your Focus Outward.

Jesus said: “For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.” (Matthew 6:21). He didn’t say it was the other way around. He said to put your money somewhere, and your heart will follow. Giving turns your focus outward, instead of on yourself. Generosity is changing one’s focus from self to others.

2. Giving Adds Value to Others.

Anyone who is generous is valuable. Proverbs 11:24‐25 reminds us: “There is one who scatters, yet increases all the more, and there is one who withholds what is justly due, but it results only in want. The generous man will be prosperous, and he who waters will himself be watered.” When you add value to others, you do not take anything from yourself. In fact, the greater your giving, the greater you’re living.

3. Giving helps the Giver.

When you are generous to others, you cannot help but benefit yourself. It’s the way God set up His Kingdom. Jesus teaches us: “Give and it shall be given to you. Good measure pressed down shaken together and running over shall men give unto you.” (Luke 6:38)


DISCUSSION

What prevents you from being more generous? Making the Decision to Model Generosity Here are some tips to living a more generous life: 1. Don’t keep score. (Give others your resources without keeping track of your gift.) 2. Give others yourself, not just your money. (Offer your time and energy sacrificially.) 3. Don’t wait for prosperity to become generous. (Manage what you have now.) 4. Find reasons to give every day. (Look for excuses to give generously to others.) 5. Find people every day to whom you can add value. (Be proactive in looking for people

to invest in.) Follow these rules of adding value: 1. Value people: Treat everyone with respect. 2. Know what people value: Listen and understand them. 3. Make yourself more valuable: Grow in relevant ways. 4. Do things that God values: Since He loves unconditionally, so must we.

DISCUSSION

What is one step you should take today to model generosity?


1.5 Our Values: My Values Give Me Direction

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Over the last five years, global companies in the marketplace have faced lawsuits because of moral and financial crimes. In churches, ministers and priests have also faced criminal charges because of their failure to live a life of integrity. Professional athletes share the same story—somehow they believe they can do whatever they want off of the field. They feel exempt from the “rules” of society. What do all of these stories have in common? Values. Every story reflects the incredible damage that can be done when individuals lose direction as they forget to practice values. Values give us a moral compass. We need them to make good and wise decisions, especially when we face tempting circumstances. Biblical Case Study: David and Saul (1 Samuel 24:1‐22) In this story, David is a leader who lives by his values; he demonstrates that he’s a better man than King Saul. You remember the story… Saul has chosen to hunt for and kill David, because he feels threatened by David’s popularity and strength. When Saul enters a cave where David and his men are hiding, David has a perfect opportunity to kill his enemy and assume his promised role as king. But he doesn’t. Why? It’s all a matter of values. Saul’s values caused him.... David’ values caused him.... 1. To harm those who threaten him. 1. To harm no one. 2. To possess rage, jealousy and envy. 2. To be at peace with himself and God. 3. To be volatile in behaviour. 3. To be predictable and righteous. 4. To disobey God in the little things. 4. To obey God in the little things. 5. To lose integrity by covering his sin. 5. To keep his integrity by respecting Saul. Why Values Matter Today Here are three word pictures that describe why values are so valuable! 1. Values are your anchor. They can hold you in place during the storms of life when

everyone else is wavering. 2. Values are your faithful friend. They remind you of your intentions and hold you

accountable to do what’s right. 3. Values are your North Star. They guide you when your future is unfamiliar and

uncertain.

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DISCUSSION

• What is one of your top values that you try to live by? Where to Start with Values 1. Create a list of good values. List words that describe your core values. (No more than

six words) 2. Make a decision to embrace those values daily, regardless of your feelings. How will

you do this? 3. Tell your values to others. Who will you share them with? 4. Compare your values to your practices each day. Where are you strong? Where are

you weak? 5. Evaluate each day in light of your values. List the ways that you implemented your

core values.


1.5 Our Growth: My Growth Gives Me Potential

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This final issue may be the most important one. If you are still growing in any area, there is hope for you. The truth is—it’s not so much where you are, but what direction you are going that matters. Robert Louis Stevenson said, “To be what we are, and to become what we are capable of becoming, is the only end of life.” One Pulitzer Prize winning composer said it this way, “Hell begins on that day when God grants us a clear vision of all that we might have achieved, of all the gifts we wasted, of all that we might have done that we did not do.” A life that is positively changing is the proper measure as to whether information is making a difference in one’s life. Misconceptions About Growth 1. Growth is automatic: false. Many grow older without growing up or growing wiser. 2. Growth comes from information: false. Knowledge without application means little. 3. Growth comes with experience: false. Experience is only good if it improves us. 4. Growth is unnecessary for me: false. If you plan to lead, you must keep growing.

DISCUSSION

• What hinders you from continuing to grow personally? Biblical Case Study: The Apostle Paul (Philippians 3:12‐14) 1. He decided he wasn’t where he wanted to be.

Paul admitted he wasn’t perfect and that he still needed to grow as a person. “Not that I have already obtained it, or have already been made perfect…” (Philippians 3:12)

2. He discovered what he wanted.

Paul figured out exactly what it was that was worth working for and growing toward. “…but I press on in order that I may lay hold of that for which I also was laid hold of by Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 3:12)

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3. He determined what hindered him.

Paul uncovered exactly what it was that would prevent him from reaching his goal. “…forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead…” (Philippians 3:13)

4. He discovered how to get it.

Paul learned the steps he needed to take to gain the outcome he was pursuing. “…I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 3:14)

DISCUSSION

• Think about what would happen if you never grew intellectually, spiritually or

emotionally any more for the rest of your life. What would it cost you? Steps for Personal Growth Here are some practical steps to ensure personal growth in your life. 1. Make a plan to grow in some way every day. 2. Establish goals for growth in key areas of your life. 3. Put yourself in a growth environment. 4. Learn to enjoy the journey: learn all you can from each person, resource and

opportunity. 5. File what you learn in a place where you can find it when you need it. 6. Apply what you learn.



Assessment: In what area (generosity, values or growth) do you most need a plan? Application: What step will you take to grow in this area?


Inspiration

1.5 Leaders That Grow Conference Session by Rick Warren

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Outline of Session • The key to church growth • Seven common traps of leadership:

1. Leaders try to do it all 2. The leader stops growing 3. The leader stops caring 4. The leader loses touch with the people 5. The leader becomes complacent and ungrateful 6. The leader becomes arrogant 7. The leader gets distracted

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DISCUSSION

1. Personal reflection: Write down one key insight that you can personally take away. 2. Rick stated that, “One of the primary reasons churches stop growing or decline is that

leadership defaults.” How do you respond to this statement? Do you agree or disagree?

3. Rick listed and explained seven common traps in leadership. These are shown below.

For each one the antidote is also provided. Consider which of these you might be prone to be ‘ensnared’ by in your leadership. Discuss this together with others in your group and consider how you might practically apply the antidote in your life to help you avoid any potential pitfalls.

The ‘Trap’

The Antidote

1. Leaders try to do it all

Learn to delegate

2. Leaders stop growing

Never stop learning

3. The leader stops caring

Maintain your spiritual passion

4. The leader loses touch with people

Always ask the people – get feedback

5. The leader becomes complacent and ungrateful

Maintain an attitude of gratitude

5. The leader becomes arrogant

Never stop depending upon God

6. The leader gets distracted

Be purpose driven – keep focused on what is right.


Lesson 6: Managing My Personal Growth



Meditation 1.6 Yours is the Kingdom, the Power and the Glory Message by John Ortberg

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Human beings are kingdom builders. We look for ways to control our agenda, money, comfort, lifestyle, career, and security in hopes of building our own self‐sustaining empire. Whether we are successful at creating this or not, the pursuit of such an earthly kingdom is endless and unsatisfying. Jesus teaches us to pray, “Your kingdom, Your power, Your glory,” at the end of the Lord’s Prayer. We were created to live under God’s power. If we invest our efforts into God’s kingdom instead of our own, only then will we receive the strength, wisdom, creativity, and comfort that is fulfilling and eternally significant. In what areas of your life are you building personal kingdoms?

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NOTES



Yours is the Kingdom...

Surrender to His Kingdom – John challenged us to give up the folly of pursuing our own agenda. Where perhaps do you need to do this in your own life? Make notes of anything that God brings to mind and surrender them to Him.

... the power...

Ask for His power – Where could you use some of God’s power right now? Are you facing a challenge, a need regarding a relationship, a burden or fear? Don’t try and carry this alone, ask for His power now.

... and the glory.

Glorify His name – proclaim His goodness and greatness, this is the most important thing you can do all week. Take some time to do this now. Right down some key thoughts you have about Him and carry these with you throughout the day and review them as you progress through your day, giving Him the glory.


Instruction

“…For I have learned to be content in whatever circumstances I am. I know how to get along with humble means, and I also know how to live in prosperity; in any and every circumstance I have learned the secret of being filled and going hungry, both of having abundance and

suffering need. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:11‐13

1.6 Three Myths about Personal Growth

Leadership authors Warren Bennis and Bert Nanis affirm: “It is the capacity to grow and develop and improve their skills that distinguish leaders from followers.” If you are going to be an effective leader, you must first determine to lead yourself. If you are to lead yourself, you must continue to grow. Maintenance is not leadership. Growth and improvement is what leadership is about. All organisations or ministries that continue to grow have at least one quality in common: a leader who is growing personally.

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1. Growth is automatic. If we aren’t intentional, we won’t grow. 2. Growth comes from information. Information is useless if unused. 3. Growth comes from experience. Experience is good only if it is reflected on and one

learns from one’s mistakes and successes. Dr. John C. Maxwell’s Definition of Success: John Maxwell has identified personal growth as one of the three major keys to success. Success is...

knowing my purpose in life

growing to my maximum potential

sowing seeds that benefit others Managing My Personal Growth “But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ”. (2 Peter 3:18) As a leader, continually growing ourselves is a key element if we desire to grow our organisation. Managing our personal growth allows room for growth in our organisation.

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Four Reasons Personal Growth Matters: 1. Gifting without growth leads to ineffectiveness.

Talent is not enough! Example: King Saul was one of the world’s most talented individuals. However, insecurity and fear prevented him from maximising his potential.

2. Growth prevents personal and professional stagnation. Have you ever felt stuck in your life/career?

3. Your personal growth impacts your organisations growth. What is limiting your organisation’s growth? The Law of the Lid – Leadership ability determines a person’s level of effectiveness. (John C. Maxwell)

4. Only through continuous improvement can you reach your potential. If you don’t try to improve yourself, you may stay in one place forever.

DISCUSSION

In the past, how has your level of commitment to personal growth positively or negatively impacted your organisation?

Steps Toward Reaching Your Potential: 1. Make a commitment to change. Don’t just accept change, seek it! 2. Set growth goals. Start focusing on growing your area of greatest strength. 3. Learn to enjoy the journey. If you are going to spend a good part of your life doing

something, you need to learn to like it! 4. Put yourself in a growth environment. Position yourself in a “pro‐growth” positive

environment.


1.6 Managing the Discipline of Growth

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1. Set a goal to grow every day.

“And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favour with God and men.” (Luke 2:52) Improve a little every day, and over the long haul you will make great progress.

2. Have a time and place to grow.

Even in prison the apostle Paul wanted to create an environment to grow by asking that the Word of God and other books would be brought to him while he was there (2 Timothy 4:11‐13).

3. Some practical suggestions:

Listen to audio lessons.

Read two books per month.

Meet People: set up one key meeting with someone you can learn from each month.

4. Save what you learn. (Ecclesiastes 12:9‐11)

Capture it

Label it

File it where you can find it again 5. Apply what you learn.

“Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like a man who looks at his face in a mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. But the man who looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues to do this, not forgetting what he has heard, but doing it – he will be blessed in what he does.” (James 1:22‐25)

Review notes

Review quotes

Share with others

Live it in front of others

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The Power of the Process 1. We overestimate the event and we underestimate the process.

Very often, we hide behind excuses for not growing. We claim we cannot do great things because we’re just common, ordinary leaders. “But these are gifted people,” you may say. Being gifted has very little to do with it. Maybe you and I haven’t been given those bursts of genius, those flashes of inspiration, or the blessing of exceptional talent. Yet we believe that our journey of growth, our creativity along the way, consists of small, deliberate, sometimes unnoticed steps. Amy Carmichael once penned these thoughts:

“Sometimes when we read the words of those who have been more than conquerors, we feel almost despondent. I feel I shall never be like that. But they won through step by step, by little bits of will, little denials of self, little inward victories by faithfulness in very little things of our lives.”

They became what they are. No one sees these little hidden steps. They only see the accomplishment, but even so, those small steps were what got them there. We will become what we are becoming today.

2. Right decisions applied daily compound success.

As we choose the right decisions each day, they affect our lives in a multiplied way over time.

DISCUSSION

How does the compounding power of right decisions influence…

o Your family?

o Your church?

o Your business?

It’s what you learn after you know it all that counts.



Assessment: • In which of the twelve big decisions do you most need to grow? • What commitments have you made in the past that you’ve neglected? Application: • Which of the twelve big decisions will be your growth areas this year? • What will be your growth goals this year? • Who will be your mentors this year?


Inspiration 1.6 Passing the Leadership Test Conference Session by Bill Hybels

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Outline of Session

Jesus: The best leader in human history

Five Tests for a Potential Leader (Luke 5) 1. The “Bias Toward Action” Test (Luke 5:3) 2. The “Can You Follow Direction?” Test (Luke 5:4) 3. The “Who Deserves the Credit?” Test (Luke 5:8) 4. The “Grander Vision” Test (Luke 5:10) 5. The “Will You Leave It?” Test (Luke 5:11)

Commit to using these tests to assess your own leadership

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DISCUSSION

1. Personal Reflection: Write down the key insight from this session that you can

personally take away. 2. In the chart below:

Write down the names of some potential leaders you’d like to develop.

Next, indicate which tests you think they have passed by writing a “P” in the appropriate box, and which tests you do not think they have passed by writing an “X”.

If you’re unable to assess them in a particular test, write down how you plan to give them the test and by when. If you think they have failed a test, decide your course of action (e.g. Test them again, have an honest conversation with them about that area, take them off the list).

Name of Potential Leaders

“Bias Toward Action” Test

“Can You Follow Directions?” Test

“Who Deserves the Credit?” Test

“Grander Vision” Test

“Will You Leave It?” Test







3. After everyone is finished filling out the chart, have each person either:

explain which test they intend to give to a potential leader, how they plan to give the test, and by when; or

name a potential leader they believe has passed all the tests. 4. Select one person from the team. Then have each team member affirm him or her by

sharing which test(s) they have seen that person pass well. Repeat this exercise for the rest of the team.

5. Optional: Individually assess the current key leaders in your ministry. Determine which

test areas are their strengths and which ones may need improvement.

Names of Current Leaders


“Can You Follow Direction?” Test










6. Review the notes and discussions from this session, and as a team, write down your

team’s top one or two takeaways. Next, record what action step(s) should be taken as a result, as well as who will be responsible and the due date.


Closing Thought and Prayer

Leadership has to be as much about grace as it does about skill.

Lord, AS I am UNDERSTANDING more and more that I am a sinner saved by YOUR ALL‐SUFFICIENT grace,

MAY IT BE THAT YOUR GRACE IS THE SUFFICIENCY for my leadership.

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