Work life harmony presentation for ny agriwomen slides

Work-Life Harmony

Presented by Dr. Chris AllenPsychologist and Executive Coach

Wednesday, November 7, 12

Overview of Today

Share a little bit about what we know from science about fulfillment, happiness and a life well-lived.

Discuss why work-life harmony is probably a more useful concept than work-life balance.

Do some exercises today to help you create more work-life harmony.

Think about work-life harmony in agribusinesses--what are the unique challenges?



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Harmony versus Balance


“You can have it all. You just can't have it all at one time.”

--Oprah Winfrey



!Surviving!and!Thriving!

5"Domains"!

Place"checkmark"in"box"that"most"closely"represents"your"reality."

CAREER! SOCIAL! FINANCIAL! PHYSICAL! COMMUNITY!

HIGHLY!SATISFIED!

SOMEWHAT!SATISFIED!

TOTALLY!DIS>SATISFIED!

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What is your personal style or temperament?

Introvert, Ambivert or Extravert?

Resilient versus Reactive?

Explorer versus Preserver?

Challenger, Negotiator, or Adapter?

Flexible, Balanced or Focused?


“Every individual nature has its own beauty.”--Ralph Waldo Emerson


Find your own sweet spot!


Well-being vs HappinessPERMA:•Positive Emotion

•Engagement (Flow)

•Relationships

•Meaning

•Accomplishment


Positive Emotion

•Book is Positivity (2009)by Barbara Fredrickson

•Website is www.positivityratio.com where you can track your “positivity index.”

•Broaden-and-build theory of positive emotion


http://www.positivty






•Positive Emotion Undoes Negative Emotion

•A meta-analysis of 300 studies of positivity with over 275,000 people found that people with greater levels of positivity lived longer, had better health, happier marriages, and made more money.


“NEWS AND GOODS”from Ann Webster, Ph.D

Benson Henry Institute for Mind Body Medicine

This is easy: do something new everyday and do something good for someone else!


•Dispute negative thinking. Seligman’s A-B-C-D-E model

•Letting go of rumination and practicing mindfulness

•Assess media diet

•Find substitutes for gossip and sarcasm


Engagement or Flow

Benefits of Meditation or Mindfulness Training

•Health benefits

•Changing the brain

•Increased well-being


A lesson from bingo.......


Positive Relationships

•Connections with other people remain central to fulfillment and life satisfaction.

•We don’t really know which comes first, being a happy person or having friends, but regardless, the data is very clear that happy people have strong social networks.


Meaning

•What are your values?

•Values provide a compass or a direction to guide us.

•Values help to shape our priorities, but differ from goals.

•Having a larger sense of purpose gives us meaning.



Take 5 minutes and list your life's priorities or everything in life that's important to you. Avoid using one word answers like "peace," "happiness", "love," "success", etc. at least for now. Be specific and detailed. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8.

What are your priorities?


Now from your list reduce each priority to one or two words.

Then rank order them in importance.

What is the relationship between your core values and your priorities?


•Set big goals but then break them down into smaller steps

•Get a buddy coach to help you keep on track

Accomplishment


Last but not least.....

Lose the guilt!!


Research shows that self-compassionassociated with more intrinsic motivation,learning and growth goals, curiosity andexploration, less fear of failure and greatersense of well-being.

Self-compassion helps us get to work-life harmony!!

Self-Compassion


If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.--Dalai Lama


Boundaries

•Saying “no”

•Structuring your environment

•Practicing “extreme self-care”


Boundaries•When do you say “no”?

•Is saying no hard for you?

•How do you decide when to say no?

•What are some tips for saying no?


•write them on this index card and put it in your wallet.

•pick one or two people to share your goals with.

List 3 small things you will do differently based upon this workshop


Thank you!!



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